If I had to pay my man to clean up the house , he would pay every time I spread my legs…
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Oh ima pay him, with his own money. 
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You should be honest with him and tell him that you’d be paying him to clean up after himself. Men are dense and sometimes they need a hard reality check. It’s not to be mean it’s just honest. My hubby always prefers honesty. Tell him you’d prefer the maid and figure out a compromise.
I’d be telling him he can do it for free or you’re getting a cleaning person.
Those are the only choices, but he can make the choice
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If you two decide on a housekeep get a reputable company that has insurance or a really close friend that you trust and still there could be some concerns. Pray about it and talk with your husband.
No. It’s his home too. Why should you pay him ? If you are cleaning up after him , I would go ‘ on strike’ for a couple of days and let him see who is making the
mess. 
My husband and I clean together after work, make dinner etc together so nobody feels like someone else is doing more.
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There’s the door, don’t forget your shoes
Tell him to grow tf up and be an adult.
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Ask him if you get paid for all the house work you do?
When I was in school and working with two kids, I couldn’t stay on top of my house so once a month I’d have someone come by and do a deep clean. I would handle the dishes and in between cleaning when I could. Needless to say it was hard, so yea I get it. Get the cleaner, don’t even tell him 
Ive had a housekeeper before him. Once we got married, he said he’d be the housekeeper to save money. She was off one week. He was always too tired. I brought her back and gave her a raise. He doesn’t like it but I’m used to living a certain way. I can afford it. So, it is what it is.
Stop doing what you do n let him see what needs to be done daily
I would say clean my house In ur birthday suit and I will pay accordingly
Well I hope he is taking the piss! Is your husband whatever happened to share share! Personally if you have to pay him to clean what does that say what kind of husband he is 
Sure but before you pay him the first time, hand him your bill for all of the times you have cleaned. His response should have been, I’m not comfortable with a stranger in the house. Let’s tag team it and tackle it together and then he should stand behind it and follow through. Taking care of a home is like having another job. Obviously since people do it for a living. I say hire help, he will either get used to it or he won’t.
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Just hire someone. You can be home when they clean to make sure they don’t take anything. But if you hire through a company they probably won’t steal anything. I wouldn’t just hire someone off Facebook though
I’m sorry what . U pay him to clean the house in which you both reside . What is this world coming too .
Tell him to trial it for two weeks and if he slips up you hire someone.
I wanna know what kind of drugs your husband is on, to think he deserves to be paid to clean his own house, and where I can get some!?
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He said that out loud?! Did you laugh?! I would have 
bless his heart
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No way !! He lives there!!
Stop cleaning after him. Hopefully he’s smart enough to know he’s a huge part of why you want someone to clean ect. He’ll know how much you are doing just for him alone. Good luck!!!
Tell him to get wrecked. He shouldn’t be paid to clean a space he uses as well.
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Tell him it’s his job to clean up after himself already! Tell him to start paying you to clean up after him and your child , going rate is about 25 / 30 dollars an hour… if that doesn’t work go on strike
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Tell him no way you will pay him….he lives there too! Do what you gotta do!!
Shouldn’t have to pay him to do something that he should be helping to do already.
I would tell him to clean up after himself , and I’ll clean up after myself. at the end of the month, Whoever doesn’t clean up after them self pays for the house cleaner! 
The reason we pay “strangers” is because they have nothing to do with the dirt or mess in our houses- we do…
that’s why if he cleans it, and he should because he contributes to it, he shouldn’t be paid.
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Hahaaaa. No sir. You can be a big boy and clean up after your own self. If you would do this in the first place we wouldn’t need said cleaner. I’m not your mother, but if you need one please go back home.
Tell him to fill out an application but let him know that his references aren’t good and that more qualified people are being considered for the job since he got jokes.
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Wow! Ummm I’d be getting a new man
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“Pay Me to clean up after myself” is a new low i didn’t realize a m🤡n could go but here we are. Tell him to either clean up after himself like the adult that he is (because there’s absolutely no reason for you to do it by yourself) or get over the idea of having someone else do it because those are the only two options. It can’t just not get cleaned, he literally needs to pick one. But you don’t just get paid for doing what you’re supposed to be doing already.
Hire one anyway. He doesn’t need paid to pick up his own mess. Ask him what his going rate is, and multiply it by how many children you have and tell him that’s your going rate, multiply it by how many weeks old your children are and then give him the total of your owed back pay
Hell no
Beat him at his own game
Tell him he needs to pay you to do the shopping and care for the kids (if you have any)
I worked 40 to 60.hours a week with a husband and a child when my child.was in grade school and I never had a cleaning lady. It’s easy to keep.clean if you do.it as you go
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My husband has made the comments multiple times about getting someone once or twice a month to help around the house. But if he ever “pay me instead”, I’m laying out some divorce papers. He should be helping clean without expecting a pay cut from his own wife out of their own house, what the heck?
Do not pay him to clean his own house 
he should have basic respect for you and the house hold to keep it clean on his own… that’s a part of being a big boy…if he’s old enough to have a family he can help out…
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Explain to him that he is not a child and will not receive an allowance for cleaning up after himself and performing tasks around the house like a big boy!
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No. You both work & need to divide things up 50/50. Has he lost his mind?
Couples really need to work together no matter what the split is 50/50 10/100 hubby and I have been 12 years 4 beautiful children and honestly I do a majority of cleaning. If he doesn’t like how I’ve cleaned something or I slack off and it starts getting out of hand it forces him to clean. Don’t waste your money on a cleaning lady. Life is messy and so are our houses 
mines clean for the moment but we.just got up so I’ll give it an hour
It won’t work out. If you somehow managed to get him to clean the house, you would have to give him the money and the entire thing will be awkward. Getting to that point will be hard. Your relationship may end up suffering. Tell him you would rather someone else do it or plan a day that you both do it. I’ve been in a situation similar and it was a disaster. (My husband will probably see this 
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Tell him since you have to start paying him to clean, you’ll send him your bill for all the cleaning you have been doing.
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Tell em to pull his weight and clean up after himself. Do it get a cleaning lady 
He is a 
….pay him lmaooooooo
Simple: tell him if he won’t do it, a maid will but you will be there
he would only clean the house he lives in if YOU paid him ?! Lazy. He should be picking up after himself DAILY and deep cleaning once a week on his own the entire house. Just like you should be cleaning up daily and deep cleaning once a week.
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Go on strike.
Stop cleaning.
I mean obviously clean bottles and things for the kiddo. But other than that, let shit pile up.
Let things get messy.
And tell him you’re on strike.
I think it’s weird that you would pay him to clean his own house. Does he pay you for doing it? I’d tell him you are up for a one month trial run. Treat him like an employee. Deduct pay if he is late or doesn’t do an adequate job. 
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That’s the dumbest thing I have ever heard. You both are adults and he should cleaning up just as much as you are. Honestly tell him to man up and clean up his house no need to pay someone. This sounds more like an honest conversation with yourself about setting boundaries and talking to your husband about being a grown man and cleaning up after himself.
Tell him ok… I’ll pay with inkind I let you retire at 65 while I never do… fair deal buddy !
First off, why would any one pay their significant other to clean their own house? Isn’t that their responsibility anyways?
Just hire some one. He’s never going to help.
So he doesn’t respect your efforts. That said, agree to pay him. Get a cleaning task list and schedule from a cleaning company. He’s not use to it. When he gets an idea as to what is required, he’ll think bringing someone is a good idea.
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Do absolutely nothing of his…tell him that is selfish and ridiculous. You are not his Mother…n if he wants a life like that find someone else !!!
Sounds like you need a marriage counselor not a house keeper.
I think he is nuts. Tell him if he gets paid then he owes you back pay for all the time you cleaned. If he wants to save money he needs to help out period. If not then get a cleaning lady
I wish a mother fucker would tell me to pay him to help take care of OUR responsibilities.
I’m sorry…… WHAT??? This guy is smokinnn something! Okay, so, tell him he needs to pay you for childcare and pay you for cooking AND cleaning, WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE?!? I mean I’m assuming he does live there and eat there too?! He’s funny though.
I would choose violence
Pay him?? Maybe if he said let’s save that money I’ll help you more. No way
Some cleaners will and can provide police checks
The whole nine yards really
Your husband has a point with letting strangers in, fair enough …but theres also nanny cams and police record checks.
What leads folks to get to this ? Where did the communication cease ? How did folks become afraid to let their partners know exactly what they’d like out of this said partnership?
Get a cleaning person with good recommendations. You know he won’t clean like you would want. Tell him to help every day a little. No payment but a kiss.
“ he told me he would deep clean once a week IF I PAID HIM”
Boy is completely out of mind. It is his house too, he doesn’t have to get paid to clean it. The fucking nerve of some men.
You don’t get paid to do it so he shouldn’t get paid to do it. Marriage is a partner deal
No… cause this is stuff he should be doing already. Hiring someone to clean up after him is part of the solution. Now if he wants to not have someone else in his house. Then he needs to be more of a responsible adult. Help clean up and stop being a lazy slob.
Stop cleaning up after him. He’s a grown adult you are not his mother 
Its his house too why would you pay him to clean it 
Why not write up a cleaning chart for what you both do and on what dates, if then he dont stick to his part then get a cleaner but if he wants paying then you also need paying and if thats the case get yourself a seperate account and build up your cleaning money for you and just you
It should be a 50/50 thing if you both work full time
This one’s easy…
Honey… if you don’t want a cleaning lady that we will both be paying for then I suggest you pick up after yourself and quit being a child, I’m not your mother.
Sounds likes my husband who wants me to pay him to watch our child… um no way not doing it.
What a turn off. Throw the whole dude away with the trash.
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Tell him to pay you to clean!
Everyone living in a home should help clean. Even the youngest ones can learn to help. Teach them to empty room trash cans into a bigger one. Pick up their toys. Separate their own laundry, pull up their covers. Put things in their spot. Things will be more organized, less cluttered and more easy to clean around. If someone goes for groceries, someone should help bring them in and put them away.
If someone cooks, someone else clears the table, rinses dishes and puts them in DW. If clothes are piling up in the laundry basket, start a load, transfer to the dryer. Anyone can pick up small rugs, pull out table chairs, and bar stools, close doors for Robot sweeper. If everyone, or partners help each other, everything stays nicer, cleaner and it feels good. If you, the primary cleaner has to go away for awhile or can not lift, twist, partner will see fast enough what you have been doing. Maybe you need a simple surgery and will have to do nothing for two weeks. Two issues taken care of in the same two weeks! Good luck!
Um. That’s funny. Does he pay you everyday when you clean??? No, right? So yeah he’s crazy lmao. I would seriously laugh in his face for saying that. Pay him to clean his own house? Haha. Tell him the thing is we wouldn’t need a cleaning lady if you just picked up after yourself to begin with. And if you both work he’s crazy if he thinks it’s ok for you to clean for free everyday and he deserves to get paid for q day of cleaning. He sounds ridiculous.
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Replace the whole man child.
Hire the cleaning service.
I would tell him where to go in other words go f himself
I am a professional cleaner. I’m sure your husband will not do the job of a trained professional.
I would suggest that he clean it how he would normally.
Two weeks later, hire a professional and then compare jobs.
I would tell him if he wants to do it, he will only get paid if he can do it like the professional does.
If your maid did a half assed job, you wouldn’t pay them and they’d be fired. Lol
I would hire someone to clean just make sure he or she has their police check. I’m a cleaner and I’ve been police checked. You shouldn’t have to pay for your hubby to help clean men seem to make the most dirty rooms. I hope you get an honest one.
Does he have gold blocks and jewelry laying around that he’s so concerned about being robed by a cleaning lady???
Think i would tell him, you paid his @$$ when you birth his child. Help or get to stepping
Stop cleaning up after him.
Call his mama.
Mama needs a break as well. Or since he wants paid to clean his own mess. Give him.a bill for you cleaning. It’s not your job because your a sahm.
Is he going to pay you for cleaning and childcare and cooking? If not, then he can eff right off with that BS. He can pull his own weight, you’re not his mother or his maid.
Or he could just clean his own damn house? Like its his money hes paying himself?
Tf lol
Tell him to pay himself lol
If he doesnt pay you, why should he get paid for it?
Lol
He had some nerve to ask his wife to pay him to clean up the house both share. What kind of 
is that. He doesn’t sound all that great
Real simple, tell him to get off butt and do his share in taking care household chores. Marriage is partnership; a two way street. Sign husband Glen Marty
Sounds to me like he’s a lazy b*****!!
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No he would clean for free.
Tell him to get up off his A$$ And deep clean the home he lives in…
Or he can start paying YOU for cleaning up after him. You can go on strike for a week to illustrate what You already do…
Paid to clean your own house? Lmao
A grown ass man is asking you to pay him to clean up after himself? Omfg 
what the actual eff…
Did you tell him to get…oops there might be children reading but I’m sure you know the rest
Your husband is wildin for that. If he doesn’t want you to hire a cleaning service to take a bit of the load off your plate, he should contribute to the house load a bit more without any expectations. Maybe you should ask him to pay you for the efforts you put into your home. He sounds extremely immature girl.
I wouldn’t pay him. He needs to learn to do his equal share and pick up after himself. It would give a time line to clean up his act and splurge a bit more on your selves or him for doing it. If he prove incapable and you can afford it get the cleaning lady then do so and point out your reason why.
Wow. Imagine paying a partner to clean up. Why is that even a question? Why are you even with him? Get rid of him and choose your men better… stop dating little boys.
Stop cleaning up after him, clean up after you and your child. This includes dishes and clothes.
So you gotta do this for more than a week and he will get the point. Especially when he has no clothes.
This worked for me but may not work for you.
Yeah. That’s a great idea get a cleaning lady. You both work. And a baby to care for.No dramas
Tell him okay you’ll pay him but in return he has to pay you hello
Not sure I understand. If you pay your bills using your combined income, you would not be paying him. Need more info to respond to your question.
Hahahaha. Hell no I wouldn’t pay him to clean his own house
You shouldn’t have to pay someone to clean up after him just don’t clean his stuff
Is he paying you for all of that you do? I do agree with him not trusting people coming to clean ,
but he should it said , don’t worry I will help you clean the house. He dirty as much as you do and the baby, so he needs to help you clean.