You husband sounds like an over grown bully which makes him a POS
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Bitch byeeeeeā¦ sorry but I was that step kid. Dont do that to your son
Your husband is a shithead
As a mom your job its to protect your kids from physically and mentally abuse. Talk to your husband and if things dont change than you need to make the decision of been a mom 1st .
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Iād leave itās unacceptable
Tell him things need to change if not I would leave him not saying you have to but I would not allow my kid to get treated differently you are his voice
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I was in a marriage for 35 years and I left my husband 3 times because he did the same thing to my son. I hope your husband can change. Mine never did and my son suffered dearly for it. I wish I never went back to him the first time.
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Nope. Heād act right or get smacked right quick with divorce papers over my kids.
Have you told him your son is noticing the difference also? I would let him know that itās more than he realizes. Honestly he may not think heās doing anything wrong. Does he spend and time alone with your son? Thereās a lot ways that can fix this problem.
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Youāre a packaged deal so if he canāt treat your son equally then itās time to leave unless heās willing to change.
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This is emotional abuse. You need to leave him. Maybe counseling will help of he cooperates. Iād get your son in counseling either way.
Maybe family counseling or parenting classes. Itās not fair to your son.
Thatās sad.if he canāt love him and show it.he needs counseling all kids need love and attention. Kids come first.he should feel like dad to him if heās raised him.
Itās emotional abuse to you and your sonā¦he needs a cold shoulder when he fusses over your daughterā¦but you need to give your son what he gives your daughterā¦itās very much punishment for not being his child. If he canāt do that for you. Think hard about the upcoming future and how your son is being affected
Really, you are on a website, asking this question, I would have in the first place never gotten involved with someone, two I would have taken both my son, and daughter out of there, in a heart beat, why would you even questioning this, what a snowflake!
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Tell him that crap stops now,or he needs to go
Your son gonna hate him. Mine is 45 still hates him.
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I would not tolerate this at all! My son is not my husbands and he would never do this. Kids get treated equal no matter what.
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Oh wow. 
No no no. I would definitely leave.
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You donāt need a man like thatā¦period.
Thatās really sadā¦ I donāt see how he can switch up like thatā¦ your son was a baby when you got together, how can he not be attached to your son. Idk, he needs to change or itāll affect your whole family. Thatās really mean of him to do this.
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How dare you stay in a situation like this and allow your son to be treated differently by this man.
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That is awfulā¦ Everything should be equal for both children. Heās your son. You donāt need a manās permission. Be your sonās voice. Poor boy. 
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Iām grown and still see favoritism played with family members. People getting more then others during holidays, birthdays not being celebrated the same etc. I wonāt go into detail but the shit affects children more the parents know. My SO treats must daughter just like he does our son. She adores him, they play video games together and watch tv and she makes him art work. Your husband needs to see what heās doing is causing harm and itās not fair to be that way. Children didnāt ask for this life, we have to make it the best we can for them. You need to lay it down that if he canāt see what heās doing and fix it then yāall will leave? Maybe you and the kids go stay at your parents for a couple days or something.
- Address your feelings, the favoritism towards your daughter, and the lack of love and attention towards your son in private when the kids are not there/ or are asleep.
- You should put your son in therapy to talk about his feelings to a neutral party where he can talk freely about how this is affecting him.
- The way he treats you and your son is emotional abuse & you need to protect your kids regardless of your marriage and
- Do what is best for your kids and you!
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I would record him doing something like you say he is. Play it back for him. If he still denies it, suggest therapy/counseling to get the to the root of the issue. He is this boys dad (at least your boy sees it this way). I have step parents and I think of them as my āaddedā parents, not my step parents! Your husband definitely has some resentment and it needs to be handled before he ruins yāalls relationship as well. He might have already ruined it with your son.
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Honestly my husband is like that with our kids . He puts his daughter on a pedestal and gives her everything she wants and wonāt discipline her(1 cuz sheās a girl 
and 2 because of guilt ) sheās not my bio but I treat the kids as equals(honestly I might be the only one who does). Our son who is 3 he gets treated like your son does every time his sister is here 
. I tell him this but he tells me Iām crazy and sheās a girl and should be treated different 
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Thats so sadā¦i feel for your son . If it were me I would tell that you are a package deal . I couldnt stand by and just let this go onā¦im sorry your in this predicament
U need to discuss this with a therapist if you want to work through it. Both kids need to be treated the same. If he canāt do it then leave him.
That is so heartbreaking. You need to set down and make him see he is hurting him and itās not ok. If he refuses to change, I would leave. No way would I allow someone to treat my kids differently.
Simple. Leave. No child should be treated like that. And if they are but you dont do anything, that is just as bad.
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Warn him that if he canāt treat both kids the same (as they deserve). That you will leave because itās hurting your son.
Therapy is very necessary if you do wish to work it out! Best of luck 
If your child is feeling unwanted and unloved then LEAVE. Period. Its not fair. Im sure he looks at this man as a father and it is NOT fair. Cut your losses girl
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Sorryā¦ Your son comes firstā¦ poor little guy . He needs all your love . RUN , now, fast
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Your child comes before any man, if you know heās treating him differently get out. Your son deserves better. Itās better for him to have one parent that loves him unconditionally than 2 and feel unwanted.
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He needs to treat them the same, hes all your son knows he doesnt know anything else treat them both the same or get out, dont rude his life.
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I couldnāt be with anyone who made my kids doubt themselves. He is creating a complex and your son will always wonder why he wasnāt good enough or why his mom stayed with a man who could treat him unfair. You are his mother, he should be your priority - leave him.
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Go have the kid tell him I bet that breaks his heart
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A lot of men treat sons differently than daughters ā¦ itās not ok but itās common . Boys are less spoiled and cuddled by their fathers than the daughter is . Thatās how it was when I was growing up too ā¦ sometimes itās hard to break a cycle
Is there even a question in our minds when we finally leap with faith. Get out woman, help you and yours . This breaks my heart.
Poor little man 
I would have a very serious conversation with himā¦things need to change or you have to do whatās best for your kidsā¦
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I raised a son I was not his real mother but I loved him like my own so u have to do something cause your son is the one who will b marked by this when he is older
I would not be with someone that treated my son that way. His behavior towards your son says so much about his character. Itās time to protect your children. Leave.
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That horribleā¦ So unfair to that boy. 
Your husband is doing serious damage to your sonā¦
Unfortunately if he isnāt willing to admit thereās an issue and work to fix it, leaving is the best thing for your children! Thats not a healthy situation for either of your kids or you!
I lived this toxic childhood. Wish my mother had the sense and was selfless enough to walk away but nope like alot of women garbage men come b4 their kids then they wanna talk about āsorryā years later when the damage is done and the man is long gone anyway smh
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WTH? No you arenāt over reacting! He sounds like a real POS doing significant damage mentally to your son!
The more youāre exposing him to this vile creature the more youāre damaging your son! Emotional abuse and neglect from a parent whether biological or adopted has lasting damage. Please put your son first literally even if it means separating for a while with this cretin. Heās a grown man and should know better! Stop making excuses people!
Poor kid. That makes me SO sad.
id flipā¦ you dont play favorites with my kidsā¦ your sons noticing it it will effect his mentalityā¦ if it were me id video tape for 2 weeksā¦ clip it together sit down have a talk when he denies it show him the proof if he refuses to change id leave with my kidsā¦
Itās difficult for a step dad to love someone elseās kid not all men are like that. I think he planned it all to win you for himself. Seen it and hated it. I would stand my son regardless or leave him. My theory is, you can replace your partner but never your children in this matter
Sounds like u need a divorce attorney. Why the fuck is this even a question? Thatās your child!!
Wow. You need to leave before your son resents you forever!
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