Jealousy and control. She needs to knock it off!
Set your own boundaries for happiness.
He isn’t doing anything wrong .she just wants to keep in touch.
Tell her straight up…get over it. And then ignore her.
You don’t have to read every text and email, at least not immediately
Sounds like this needs to go to court. Have the judge tell her to back off when you have the kid. Sounds like to me she’s trying to annoy you to the point you have enough and leave him. Try talking to her but if it doesn’t work. Go to court.
BF needs to set boundaries. Step Mom needs to step back. Not your battle. Stop reacting and the problems will dissipate. The childs needs are foremost. The parents issues don’t matter in the big picture.
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Maybe the dad needs to match Mom’s interest. When child is with Mom dad needs to text and email many times a day. I am sure dad would like to be more involved in the childs daily life as much as the mom seems to be. Stay above board and cordial but over the top interested.
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She is very concerned of the well being of her child
Talk to a lawyer and get it set on paper that there will be specific reasons for communicating.
That ex needs to go enjoy her life!She knows what she is doing!The child is making new memories w his father and step mom.Move on already!Stop using this child to interact and INTERFERE!
Set a time - this is our week with ——-. We have a few activities planned - xxxxxxx. He will be calling on xx day at xx time. If there is an emergency we will reach out, otherwise, enjoy your you time
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Don’t answer her text or emails and just turn off the phone until you get home and then allow the boy to call afterwards. I wouldn’t let her continue this all the time. Set your standards! You are a part of the boys life weather she likes it or not. And she is trying to make it unbearable for you to enjoy your time with him. Allow him to call her at a certain time everyday and leave it at that.
Tell her that she is more than welcome to face time every night after dinner and bath so child can fill her in on all activities. And she can talk to him longer because he wont be distracted by having fun. My ex was called by his ex daily. She taught his daughter to call me the Bitch. Not because I was involved in the break up/ 2 yrs latter we met. But because of jealousy. It makes it hard on the kids.
Let her know your not out to steal her child and you won’t ever encourage any thing that would jeopardize their relationship between them maybe shebwull calm down she fears you thats the problem
I would answer her one time and one time only. She wouldn’t be making my life miserable!
Lawyer and quit messing with her games. The more you give in the more control she has. I’m not sure what state you’re in but it is not an obligation that he speak to her. Keeping the peace is not always what’s best
Look you tell her this is the time you can call and make it maybe in the evening before bed so the child can tell her everything he did that day. You set up a time and that’s it. Unless it’s an emergency. He is the dad he needs to step up and set some guidelines. It’s not hard. Quit letting her run your time with the child.
Yea, stay out of it and let them figure out what needs to be done about it. You will end up the heavy one for getting involved, that or walk away from it.this
When involved with something text her and let her no u will be unavailable for a range of time and then ignore her. She has issues!
That’s why I’d never had married a guy with kids and an ex. Too much baggage and drama.
Alexis Alyce is this your post bc this sounds like exactly what you deal with ??
Save all text and emails and take her to family court to get her out of your hair
It didn’t sound like the child was unhappy and the mom needs to back off and not call, FaceTime, tell the ex husband she want the new wife not in the same room when she calls. She’s being ridiculous.
Sounds like she is building a case to take him
Had an experience like this. Something never felt right. 7 yrs they were married. Once they divorced and my kid felt safe I found out about the constant verbal abuse. My kid has not one “good” memory of the women. My ex rarely was around my kid was always with this women. I felt off because she was being abused.
Don’t answer her calls unless it’s convenient for you. Don’t respond. That’s a her problem, I think I would just simply say look this is enough if we have any problems we will let you know otherwise if we’re busy I’m not going to answer. Just remember, cell phones are for our convenience, not other people’s.
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First off, what is your relationship with the mother? Is it on good terms? The problem is it’s not “our time”! It’s time the kid is spending with the dad. As long as you know your place and that you are not the mother, then there should be no problems. As a mother, I’m going to want to see my child everyday as well, but email and call after call…no! I would be pissed honestly if I heard my ex husband’s new female saying “our time” with him/her. No bueno!
This is why I’m glad my son is older and has his own phone cuz nobody is gonna limit my communication with my child or his with me except my child telling me he’s doin something when I call.
But he calls me whenever he wants as well when he is at his dad’s. And I told his dad he can call
And talk to
Him whenever he wants even before my son had his own phone he was able
To call me or call
My son on his tablet when he had messenger for kids. There are ways around it if you don’t want her talking to the father as much. But honestly I’m not letting anyone tell me when I can and can’t talk to my child that I gave birth to not even his dad
She seem very jealous and insecure. I’d be putting my foot down and ignore her calls also advise the custody lawyer
Your husband needs to set some boundaries with this woman, and then enforce them. I’ve been dealing with my husband’s horrible ex-wife for 15 years, and he let her run the show until I pointed it out to him. Fortunately the children are adults now, and it is a bit better now.
He needs to have a talk with her & explain it is his time with their child. If she doesn’t stop then leave the phone in the car or ignore the call!!
Mom needs counseling, not reassurance. She’s obviously using the child as a means of communicating with the father on an intimate level and overlaying it as “Parental Concern”. This woman knows her child is in good hands. She’s just not over the relationship with the father. Some people are too nice! She shouldn’t have access to him OR the child during their parenting time, especially if there are no issues with the child during their time together. Boundaries should have been established a loooonnng time ago. Now, you have to wean her off the BS. Smh 
Sounds like the ex needs a BF. Then maybe she will leave you alone. Went through this kind of BS 
dating a divoree. She went even as far as every time a trip was planned she would make some excuse to ruin the trip. Always something. Once she got a BF she laid off.
Unfortunately at this point I’d attempt to get an attorney and a court involved. I’d be more concerned about things she’s telling the child when y’all aren’t around.
Other than her scheduled FaceTime with her child. Don’t respond to her at all. Stop giving her the attention she’s wanting by being a drama queen while the child is with you.
Yeah
Sounds like a parenting. Plan. . in order stats how often kid can call
And your time your time.once a day seems fair to not take away from fad time.if that don’t work restraining Order
She was just trying to inject her presence and put a wedge between her ex-husband and the new woman
First off … stop referring to the Mother as the “BM”. Disrespectful.
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Schedule with her specific time and let her know you won’t be available at other times and then don’t respond until the scheduled time.
Like " we will face time you at 7:00 pm, we won’t be available before that."
Try dealing it with it when the ex is in her 50s and the youngest kid is in their mid-20s🙄
What is the child’s mother afraid of???
He needs to tell her I love him too and this is OUR time together, stop the emails and hovering!
You control the situation. So control it and stop whining. 
First, pray for her. 2nd. Avoid her.
Send her to grief counseling.
Try going without the phone for a few hours.
Pray stay positive and love the heck out that baby
Stop answering the phone!
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Do it on your time, turn your phones off !
Time! It’ll die down
Your hub will benefit from getting the book “say goodbye to crazy” which covers all this and more the author is Shrink4Men
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Don’t answer any communication
Turn off all phones and computers and have fun
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Dont live the life to make BM happy
Girl this is yalls life and time with kid
Get a lawyer take ALL the BS text and emails to court
PUT A STOP TO HER BS
DONT LIVE YOUR LIFE ROUND HER OR TO PLEASE HER
BE HAPPY DONT WALK ON EGG SHELLS
2 text a day.1 face time.
Set bounderies…
Stop answering the phone
And don’t reply to emails
When your busy turn your phones off
turn off your phones
Turn off your phone!
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Turn the phone off. Simple.
Ignore her texts etc
Do NOT reply unless it is a reasonable and convenient time
Stepmothers unite!!!
Ignore ignore ignore
Does Dad FaceTime with his child everyday his child is with Mom? Hmmmm
Call in the morning to say hello and at least an hour before bed. That way the child can tell her all about the day.
My son’s situation with distance has court ordered contact times via FaceTime / or phone.
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I think YOU need to perhaps have a heart to heart talk with her. Sounds to me, that she may be feeling insecure. Maybe she is worried that her son will forget about her, that he may like you more, or that he is having so much fun, that he won’t want to come home. I would start the conversation by complimenting her on what a great mom she is, to raise such a wonderful little boy. Try to make her understand, that is not your intention to replace her at all, but that you love him, and want to make sure that he is comfortable, and well cared for during his stays. Ask her for some advice or input, (even if you don’t need it), because this will show her that you respect her role as his mother. I think the better she feels about you, and your intentions, the better the situation will become. The trust obviously isn’t there yet.
I was once the same situation as you I finally told my man that he has court issued visitation that he does not have to do as the bm says it wasn’t stated in his court order so he needed to be nice about it and tell her that it was his time with his child and she needed to respect it as well as he did when she had the child but it took going back to court for her that my man did not have to FaceTime her or anything bc it was his visitation week but the judge had to enforce it for us good luck praying things get better