Most people don’t get along with their in laws just get just to it.
He’s choosing you and you wanna leave? Tf
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You have children that are their relatives…you will never ever get rid of them.
My advice: stay with your husband and ignore your inlaws attitude toward you.
I wouldnt give them satisfaction to know they bother you.
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If you divorce your husband because of his family then they win!! The best revenge keep living a happy life with your husband.
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God
Spouse
Children
Family
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Get them out if your lives. You’re married to him, not to them. Don’t complicate. Simple as that 
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My husband’s family hates me I just don’t have anything to do with them anymore he still goes and sees them and talks to them I just don’t go along
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Just let him cut them off. Won’t be your fault at all. Maybe they’ll have some sense knocked into their thick skulls
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Tell them to suck one and move on
I left my marriage after 22 Years and 3 children. My in-laws were a huge part of that. I will never forgive them for their continual rudenessand selfishness. I wish my former husband every happiness with his parents. They truly deserve each other. If your husband supports you, stand by him.
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If you divorce him when he’s saying & doing right by you & will stand by you, then do you even love this man? Because you should be willing to stand by him. Reverse the roles in your head, would you want him to divorce you?
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Why would u break up a happy family to make his family happy.Stay with the man that loves you he picks you n ur family over his.Keep this man n be thankfulnu have a good man.Not that many in this world would do this.
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I’d never ask my husband to choose me or his family cause they hate me as well. so the fact he chooses you and your children that’s really a powerful heartfelt sentiment why divorce this guy with a backbone? And honestly if bitch is the worst thing they say count yourself lucky. My husbands step mother called me fat while pregnant ,has made up lies of me cheating, spyed on me over the years it’s gotten progressively worse I cut ties off with them my husband has not and takes our children to their house which causes fights .so if he is willing to cut them off and admit they are horrible then its really weird you would divorce him .
If your husband has a spine and is using it, then that’s the only battle that really matters. You two should be a team about this x
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Your hubby is choosing you and you still want to divorce him? I think there is more to this 
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He’s choosing you and you wanna divorce him? Tf is wrong with you? I could see if he didn’t have your back…but he does… but you obviously don’t have his
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I been married for 26 yrs and guess what my in laws have never liked me but that’s ok I have 2 beautiful children a truly amazing grandson and they messed out on it all
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Isnt worth sacrificing losing your family just to appease his. Then, they pretty much win! If he is willing to wash his hands w them to salvage his family…u and the kids, then it shows how much he really loves u and the family he created w u. When we are kids, then our parents mattered cuz we are their family…when u have kids of your own, then that family you both created is all that matters. Anything outside of it is just noise. Leaving him on account of them is not a reason to end the marriage because, he is choosing YOU and his kids! He has his priorities straight. I’m sure u do too, but his family is NOT your priority…its not even his anymore. Keep your family together if you truly love him! My mom couldnt stand my then boyfriend for awhile…when we got married and had a child of our own, she then put shit aside. She knew my children n husband come 1st now. She of course is my mom and she made me the woman I am today, but she understands family is #1! So she was able to let go and accepts my husband n shows him respect as the son in law he is to her! I never would have thought to leave (at that point) my potential future to appease my mom and sacrifice my own happiness to satisfy her. Either they learn to accept u or let your husband tell them what its g2be if they dont do as such. That would not be your fault. He is a grown man n knows what he wants. U g2figure out if u truly want the same w him…if u let him go cuz of them, then the answer is clear
U fight for yours! That’s what your husband is doing for u
Even if you divorce him they are still the kid’s family. He and kid’s can still spend time with family without you around. Don’t let family ruin your marriage when he is doing what he can to help. I don’t understand why divorce would even be thought of when he’s picking your side. Sounds like there’s alot more.
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This sounds like it could have been written by me. Story of my life. Don’t think divorce, if you have a husband that’s willing to have a spine and be on your side, don’t let them win. Its stressful and it sucks, but treasure your family and your husband. Don’t let his family make you be the bad person, they’re the ones missing out and being jerks. Its a shitty feeling knowing there will never be a relationship with them, but the bigger picture is that you have a loving husband. This is what I tell myself basically everyday 
They win if you leave you have kids to him he can go visit them without you and the kids thats right no kids if they cant respect the mother of his children well they dont get to see them if you love hubby stay and dont worry about them
Ugh I HATE in-laws, fuck em you married him not them, if hes willing to cancel them out let him you’ve already won
That’s adorable. If the worst thing any of my in laws called me was a bitch I’d be fine. Who gives a fuck what they think. Ignore them. Trust me there’s so much worse out there
Take your husband and leave them in your dust!
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Stand by your husband !! And kick their asses to the curb all that matters is your kids an him nothing els does who cares if they don’t like you all that matters is your husband an kids !!
If you divorce they win
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You would put his family whom dosen’t like you OVER your OWN Children…?? How much sense does that make ??? Your Children deserve a HAPPY Home & two Parents that love them…
Why do they deserve to have to go through this , only to make miserable people happy??? They ( his family) choose who they married and are with!! DO YOU THINK ANYONE ELSE GOT TO CHOOSE THEIR ( his family) PARTNER who choose the husbandand wife’s they are with??? Did you or your husband choose their life long partners…I don’t think so… 
. This is dumb!!! CUT them out of yalls lives. Good grief they are TOXIC MANIPULATORS … BYE !!! Because Your husband , Yourself and Your Children COME FIRST!!! And that’s what is Important NOT SOMEONE ELSE’S ISSUES… … WHO IS GOING TO LOVE AND CARE AND RAISE YOUR CHILDREN BETTER THAN THE TWO OF YOU TOGETHER?? NOBODY THATS WHO…
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You still want a divorce and he’s not the issue… think about that.
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I say if they don’t like me oh well bye bye 
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Why do you even care? They don’t pay your bills, put food on the table or take care of your kids so why does their opinion or approval even matter? He chose you over his family so just move on. Honestly tho I think the family is just an excuse to divorce him and there is more to the story because it makes absolutely no sense when he chose you over them
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My parents hate my husband so much I had to completely cut them out of my life. (My mom is a narcissist and can’t cope with someone in my life besides her and her rules). It would break my heart to pieces if my husband would chose to leave me after I stood up to my folks for him. Is there some other reason why you want a divorce? Because if he is standing up to his folks for you then you should know that is one of the hardest and most heart breaking things you could do for a person. He is fighting for you. Fight for him. Good men aren’t found on every corner girl. You’ll regret this one day.
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Take a step back from seeing them. Have a talk with hubby about respect from that side. He should be standing up to them when they make comments like that!
If he’s willing to cut them out for you then why in the world would you want to divorce him. It’s not his fault so don’t blame him when he is standing by you. You don’t through away a marriage because your spouse supports you.
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My husband family have never really respected me as my husband’s wife or mother of his children but IDK at the end of the day we are his family and that bond is ticker than anything else I say ignore them God forbid something happens to one of them and one day you will be the one helping them
If I divorced my husband every time one of my inlaws called me a bitch we would have been divorced the first day. Hell we wouldn’t have even gotten married
So your husband is willing to cut them out of your lives and you still have a problem? Sounds like you’re the one still creating drama and your children will be the ones suffering as a result.
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Never get a divorce!That’s a sign saying that you lost the battle and they won it.It’s best to cut them off and enjoy your life as a happy family.Plus,he supports you as his wife
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You’re husband is willing to cut out his family for you because they don’t like you and disrespected you? So he supports you and is being a good husband and you wanna divorce him??? So let’s talk about the real issue here. You wanna divorce your husband.
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He need to grow some balls and man up to his family that you guys come first 
Your married. Your his world. Bye bye family that isn’t supportive.
Something is not right here, what’s the real problem?
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Its sad that you would even think of divorce just because his family doesn’t like you. They called you a bitch? Is that the best they have? Thats a weak ass insult. Stop giving a shit about people liking you. So what if they dont like you? Screw them. You need to cut negative people out your life, starting with the in laws
Sounds like mine used to be…they wrecked our marriage as my ex wouldnt stand up for me…from expierence you wont ever win them over
I understand not wanting to be to blame for everything. But girl, if he is willing to cut them out of his life in order to be with you, you have a good man and those hard to come by. I know you will feel guilty about it, or do already. But honey, he’s a grown man and he knows what makes him happy. From what you wrote, that’s you and your children. Embrace it, love him more for it. Then block them all off social media, phones and email and MOVE!!! Fresh start for the whole family. Unless you have other reasons you aren’t saying for divorce, hang in there! 
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YOU ARE ALL NOW A FAMILY UNIT WHETHER (meaning u, your husband and kids ) that is what matters. While I believe its important for grandparents to be involved and apart of their grandkids lives, I do not think it’s worth the turmoil it may result in due to the parents. Either look past it and dont let it bother u or take time off as your husband seems to be okay with that too. But it seems like at this point, you’re more upset that they dont like u or u dont understand why rather than looking for an actual reasonable solution. I’ve been there. I get it. But it takes time. It really does. 10 yrs later, I have a very different relationship with my in laws that I did 3 yrs in.
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I’ve experience this before and I’ve came to the point that I really don’t care anymore and I’ve never prevented him or my kids from being in his family lives but i decided 2 years ago to just let it be I don’t visit or call no get together I’m officially done. As long as you guys are happy fuck em and move on. They never liked the idea that he put us first and because I’m happy they can’t stand it
Divorce because he is standing by you? Willing to give up his family for you and children? What did you say before you were called a bitch? No you can’t drop everything to go see them. But do they come see the family? Do you just want a divorce and looking for excuse? This isn’t one! You have a wonderful devoted husband.
Sounds like you don’t want to be with your husband regardless. If he’s offered to put you first then you’re blessed with a good guy who clearly loves you. I’d understand if he made no move to stick up for you. If you don’t want to be with him that’s a seperate issue. Don’t make it about his family
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Your husband is a good man for standing up for you!! Don’t divorce him!! My husband has cut people out for me too. It’s worth it to find a good man!
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Live your own lives.do u really need them ???
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It’ll piss them off more knowing you don’t care if you have THEIR approval. Don’t end your marriage over them. Live happily with YOUR husband and children.
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If he is willing to cut them out of your lives, do it. It’s never going to change and your family is too important to get a divorce. He’s supportive which is so important. Why should he suffer for his family?
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Stay with husband. Drop family
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No man should let his family bully you
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he/they shouldn’t but they do, Mary Cothran.
Do you love your husband then nothing should stand in your way pray for them please let them u LoveYour husband take care god is withu
My husbands dad and i absolutely hate eachother. Hes very toxic always telling my husband lies about me when he barely knows me .
He came to my house and i asked him to leave at 7 a.m and he got pissed and called the law on me. So i told him if he didnt leave i would shoot him. Weve had our ups and downs. Hes always saying hes having a heartattack to my husband which i dont find funny bc when i first met him my father died from a heartattack so he uses that as excuse to have me try to talk to him ( the pitty game).
I completely ignore him. I told my hubby he can go see him or whatever but he will never be allowed back on my property or near me or my future family. And my husband is really understanding with it
But on the other hand me and his mom get along so well i look up to her as a mom since mine isnt in my life.
She accepted me.
Your Husbands Family need to move on with their own lives…Don’t let it come between you and your Husband…Ask yourself, Is he a good man, provider, husband Father??? Let him and the Children visit them, as for you stay away from them…your Husband should be defending you and the Children, I know it’s hard, I went through the same thing for years, never let your guard down, always be straight up and forward with them, I never stopped my Husband or the kids from seeing his side of the Family…They have to understand you have a Family together, can’t just drop everything at a whim, and run…My Husbands Family came round after while,I am no Longer the outsider, now I’m an insider, I wasn’t going anywhere, We’ve been Married for 36 years…Good Luck, Don’t let them WIN, keep your Family going stronger then ever…
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Baby girl I understand your frustration and hurt. All you can do is be the best you possible and set boundaries. I have lived this situation and it literally broke my heart that some members of my husband family didn’t like, I mean legitimately hated me for no reason whatsoever. I wanted to love them because he does so much. I wanted to be accepted by them because they are apart of him, and I love all of him good bad and in between. And like your husband my husband also took a stand beside me ready to leave until they could get it together. I could not allow that, I made a choice to draw the line which meant simply stating “ I love my husband and because of that my love extends to you with limitations I will not be disrespected, understand that whatever role he previously has in your life I still support however dynamics have changed. Therefore our family and it’s priorities comes first, understand that as an adult male he makes the choice of how and when to interact with y’all and support what decision that is as long is it not malicious. I do not like obviously you don’t like me that is fine but again you will respect me and our union.” Do not lose out of your marriage and love based upon someone’s else ignorance most likely they see something in you that they wished they possessed.
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F ! Same exact thing with us. And I never gave them a reason to hate me they just do! Because they want him with his ex who they call sister n Law and do for her kids as well its beyond bullshit I try to ignore it
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My family hated my husband, my kids dad, mainly because he wasn’t white, he was Lumbee Indian, I loved him he was a great dad, his family was nice to me always, I use have to beg him to come to my parents home, for all the holidays! I just never could understand how folks can act this way!! They love my daughters , but not their father!!
Have you tried talking to them? If that is unsatisfactory just don’t go around them. If your husband is willing to stay away too then they might get the message.
Are these questions legit? COMMON SENSE PEOPLE… Use it! If something doesn’t feel good, DON’T DO IT!! If the husband won’t stand up and say you’re a United Front, Fuck em’ all!!
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What happen to helping people. Yes it’s a holiday page but dam y’all. If you don’t like someone asking for help then go. Y’all must not know how that crap feels. Smh
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Why divorce then? If they don’t like you and can’t accept the fact that your husband has a life that does not revolve around them then that’s their problem. As long as your husband is on your side and is making you and your marriage a priority I don’t get why you would want a divorce. There are many people that don’t like me from my hubby’s family, why? I don’t know and don’t care. Same goes with my side. You see sometimes people just don’t want to see you happy, or don’t want to let go or whatever else. You guys have to choose whether you want to live under the approval of others or if you want to make a life of your own. Even if that means leaving certain people behind. Me and my husband did, as a matter of fact, we sold our house, packed up kids and our things and moved 4 hours away. Guess what? No more people in our business, no stress and peace.
Is your hubby actually aware of their behaviour? They will ultimately be the ones missing out.
I just didn’t go anymore, I let him and the kids when they wanted to, but I didnt go. Not worth the drama
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If this Holiday page is going to become a help me column then I’m out!!!
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You married him not his family 
You married your husband NOT the whole family.
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I thought this was a Holiday Page ???
Noone moderates it ???
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You deal with your family and let him deal with his.
My husband’s family didn’t like me so I didn’t go around them much but he could go when he wanted to
You need not to let it bother you be love you and you have a life
My ex let the in laws win
Been there. I’d Get blamed for things I wasn’t are of. I don’t bother anymore
You’d be an idiot if u got divorced!! I know ur a woman but u gotta grow a pair!!
You are strong, and able to overcome this bullshit they’re doing to you! They’re wrong and u gotta live ur best live!!!
It’s they’re choice, and not because of u.
Yea, divorce him because he said he had your back. You sound like you’re 12 years old FFS. I say divorce him, break up your kids home life all because someone called you a bitch 