What do I do when my husbands family hates me. They’ve never approved of me, and recently, things escalated so much that one of them called me a bitch. I’m thinking of divorce at this point, and even though I love my husband and he’s willing to x them from our lives. I don’t want to continue to blame for him not wanting to spend time with them. We have kids, work lives, and they don’t understand why we can just drop everything for them, so they think it’s my fault.
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Just avoid the shit out of them . You married him not them .
Stand by your husband. If he’s willing to X them out for the sake of y’all’s family that says something. Stand by your husband. They’ll come around or y’all will live y’all’s lives without them.
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If he is willing to cut his family off, dont leave his side.
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My husbands family don’t really care for me either that much I’ve been threatened my his aunt before his mom has called me a twat I didn’t let it bother me one bit bc I knew that’s what they wanted stand beside your husband if he is willing to x with out. Don’t give them what they want.
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Why would you divorce your husband? This is silly. People no matter their relation to you will always have an issue or disapprove. Live your life and forget about them. Love them from a distance and disregard their ignorance. My mother in law hates me and my kids…which are her grandkids 
but my husband has cut them off because they are violent people. I stand by my husband and YOU should stand by yours
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Girl y’all chose each other. You cant choose the family your born into. Ijs
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Is there anyway you can just separate yourself from them rather then divorce being he answer? I mean why associate yourself with people who make you feel awful and don’t like you? My partners family doesn’t like me either and I don’t let it effect my life. I just don’t have anything to do with them… if you can do the same and not go to family gatherings etc (but send your kids with your husband if he so chooses to go) you’ll honestly be happier I think. Just my opinion… and it worked for me 
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Definitely stay. His family should be supportive of his love for you. If they’re not, then they don’t sound like real family.
The family you come from is important, but the family you create is priority. If he’s willing to cut ties with his family, that shows that he is willing to make it work for you and your kids. Never put the key to your happiness in someone else’s pocket. Cut em off and live the life you want with your husband and babies.
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You’re going to divorce your husband because someone in his family called you a bitch? Your husband needs to tell his family to respect you or leave you alone.
It’s not what people call you, it’s what you answer to. Don’t let that bs ruin your marriage babe. If you feel like confronting them, confront them. If you feel like avoiding them, avoid them, but don’t let them destroy you. You need to talk to your husband. If things are that bad then it’s his job to do something about it, and I know if my family treated my husband that way they would be answering to me for it. I know it’s easier said than done, but try not to let it bother you. After all, other people’s opinions of us is none of our business. 
Fuck them. You’re in a relationship with him not them. They need to understand that he wants to be with you and is happy. If they really cared about him they would be happy for him and suck it up.
Who cares what they think as long as your husband is sticking by you. Divorce because his family doesn’t like you is crazy and really its a nonissue. Unless hes defending them or making you look bad i wouldnt take it out on him and your kids with divorce.
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Been there as well. Carry on with your lives together 
If you’re thinking about divorce over something so petty, then honestly your husband deserves better. My husbands family hated me the first 9 years of our marriage and they don’t even know me! NEVER would I divorce the man I love because of something so petty!
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I wouldn’t get divorced over that but that’s how I feel
I wouldn’t let them not liking you bother u heck I know most my husband family don’t like me just put up with me should I say n I don’t care I don’t let it get to me
The family you create is more important than the family you come from, honestly you married him not his family I would just limit the time spent with them and focus on your relationship because nothing else is important
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If your husband is willing to cut off his family for you then he is no longer in the FOG. Follow his lead.
Let his family blame you. As long as he stands up to them and tells them that this is his decision and not yours. They won’t believe it but at least he will have told them.
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If he’s willing to x them for your marriage then try that first before calling it quits. Especially if he loves you enough to do that.
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I feel you should stick by your husband. He should be #1, and in time work on the relationship with his family. You may never be Best friends but work at it
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So my mother in law hated me HATED ME, like she would tell my husband lies to try and get us to break up, I always brushed it off it took 3 years and the birth of our daughter for her to realize I was here to stay. She passed away right before our daughter turned 1. We’ve been married for 15 years
Move further away and blame the drifting part on the distance. If he is sticking to your side then he loves you and shouldnt get divorced just because his family doesnt like you. That’s their bad not yours.
Stick by your Husband, you made a vow! Stick to it , especially since he is willing to cut ties…
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If you really want for him to cut ties with his family over someone calling you a bitch then you should leave him. That is your children’s family too. Work it out.
Tell them it’s Mrs Bitch with a capital B. Jk.
I think it’s ridiculous to jump straight to divorce because his family doesn’t like you. Let them paint their own picture of you because in the end, they’re the ones that will look like the fools. Your husband is willing to cut out them because they’re toxic to the family he created with you. Stand by your husband.
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Been in this exact situation!
STAND BY YOUR MAN! They are the ones with the issue, not you or your husband so why should you both and your kids all go through a divorce just to please them? Whether you get a divorce or not it won’t make a difference as to how they treat you, you are still connected to them via your children. Don’t be miserable and doubt your husband and family you’ve made with him, be committed and just keep loving your little fambam mama 
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Ignore them. Your husbands family is you and the children you share.
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Relax. Enjoy your little family and avoid them. Ignore them, as best you can.
My in laws were the same. They got in the way of EVERYTHING bc they couldn’t mind their own fucking business. It was so annoying.
My husband is the only one who goes around them. My son & I do not due to several attempts to ruin my marriage, my relationship, & my wedding. I’m over them. 
I hate to make my husband pick but it’s me or them. You can go solo but don’t involve me.
I wouldn’t divorce him because of his family. If u 2 really love each other I’d make it work!
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They aren’t married to you he is. Don’t divorce him.
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Are you looking for a reason to leave??? An I ask because In Laws are HARD to get along with sometimes, sometimes they dislike you just because your hair color hell but that’s life. But one thing I do know is it is never a forever thing. Yea they dislike you now an call you childish names such as bitch now but 80% of the time they come around. Not only that but alot of the time if in-laws don’t like you at first or the first few years for that matter they come around an when that happens people start the best relationships with their in-laws. But to want a divorce from your husband because of situations out of his control is not the answer, for you him or the kids. If you want a reason then ok I get it but if you love him an want YOUR little family to work SUCK IT UP BUTTERCUP, kill them with kindness to the point they can’t help put love you just as much as your husband
Haha my husbands family hates me too. My husband’s aunt always tells him (within earshot) that he should “divorce that bitch and take the kids” I told him he can go spend time with them but me nor our kids would ever go around them
Wait… You’re moving towards divorce even if he’s willing to keep them out? Sounds like other issues to me.
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My boyfriend’s family doesn’t like me either. I keep my distance and remind them I am the mother, not them and I am also not a child. I try with them but I’m not about to take any shit either.
Depends on why they dislike you. No offense but I’m sure there are two sides to every story. I personally would never ask my spouse to x their own family. If my spouse asked me, it’d be a big no. I may come off cruel but this is coming from someone who has an ironically similar situation lol but we are considered the “family” she runs around saying same as you, but in reality none of us had any problems with her at all until she continuously ran her mouth about almost all of us. She spoke badly about all of us and this came from her own kids mouths as well as her husband’s mouth. So she created the problems herself yet plays victim. So playing devil’s advocate here from the other side. If you’ve never spoken ill of his family, maybe you should sit down like adults and all have a family discussion. There may be issues you are not even aware of.
You didn’t marry his family. And it sounds like your husband is on your side. Stay strong and don’t let them control your happiness. Hold your head high…and smile at them.
Why would u divorce your husband for that…not to be mean but that sounds stupid…just dont have anything to do with his family if there that bad.
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Who cares if they hate you? You didn’t marry them. Move on.
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I had the same just ignore them let it go over your head good luck xx
Cut the toxic people from your lives, not your husband you love. Divorce is serious & life changing, especially when it involves kids, so should be the last resort for serious issues only.
Kill them with Kindnesses!
Stand by your man his family is you and your children everyone else is separate
My husband would tell me that he didn’t say that, nor wants it, and that he was not his family. But I do get wanting to leave because of it.
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Seriously people are so quick to divorce over petty stuff. You made vows. Quit worrying if your liked.
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Dont leave your husband because his family sucks. Love your own little family and dont worry about them. If they want anything to do with him or his kids then they will come around.
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You married him not his family! You and your husband are raising your own family now and thats all that matters!
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Stick by him build your life together let no one cause you to leave the man you love you married him not them while it may hurt pray about it God is the best listener .
You married ur husband not them…they can kick rocks…you only need HIS approval
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If hubby doesn’t care and is supportive of you, who cares if they hate you? You didn’t marry them.
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Cut them out your life … Just cut them off… I had too… I dont interfere him with his visits with fam or my own son visiting with fam … But i stay far the hell away … Its worked for me pretty well untill recently tho 
Boundries gotta be set … You have the right to cut people out your life that disrupt your peace 
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Are they lazy and don’t work? Kind of sounds like it
Don’t divorce him if he’s standing up for you!! He can go see them, doesn’t mean YOU have to. I haven’t seen my in-laws for almost 2 years because of the things they have said about me. My husband puts a stop to it and sticks up for me/us. I would never tell him to not see his family, but he understands that I REFUSE to be around them.
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If he wants you
On your side
NO DEVORCE
LET HIM HANDLE IT
AND LIVE YOUR LIFE.
FUCK THEM
I am very sorry that this is happening. I completely understand how you feel. I have had problems with mine too, to the point that I have thrown them out of my house and my husband did not defend me. I have told them exactly what I want thought about it. Don’t let them ruin your relationship with your husband. If your husband wants to cut them out of your lives, then he is choosing you.
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Dont divorce. Just cut that family member off. My husbands “cousin” called me a bitch… I cussed that ho bag out and havent spoke to her or clapped eyes on her since, nor has she seen or will ever get to see my children again. 
Please follow through with your divorce idea
You husband deserves so much better than you if he’s willing to cut out his family and support you and it’s still not enough
Give him a chance to find true happiness
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Honey YOUR MARRIAGE IS YOUR MARRIAGE! Don’t throw away your family because of what his relatives think! Girl tell all of em kiss your ass and love up on your husband and children !
It doesn’t make sense to leave your husband who is apparently on your side just because of his family. Look before you leap
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Fuck em. My in-laws all hate me FUCK THEM! I do not care. I’m not in a relationship with them. They don’t have to be in my life. I repeat.
FUUUUUUUUUUCK THEEEEMMMM
I would not leave your husband on their behalf, that is exactly what they want.
My mil hates me, has admitted to purposely trying to break us up. So we quit going to her house, and have decided holidays will be more enjoyable at home. It helps that she is fairly dislikable all on her own and her and my SO already butt heads so he isn’t upset about distancing himself.
The only exception is we still let her have our son over about once a month, cz he lives her. And we will continue to as long as her negativity doesn’t impact him.
If u have a loving husband and he is on your side, why would even consider leaving?? For one, that’s giving them what they want. And for two, that’s not fair to him. If your willing to throw it away that easily then u all shouldn’t be together!
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You didn’t marry your husband’s family, you married your husband. Cut them out of your lives if they’re that bad and let him visit his family alone if needed. There’s no reason to divorce your husband over it, especially if he’s on your side.
My husband’s family hates me, too. It’s a lot more common than you think unfortunately. My mother in law told me from the very beginning that no matter what I do, she’ll never like me and that I’ll never be good enough for her son. She even tried to talk my husband out of marrying me the morning of our wedding. The only difference is my husband doesn’t ever really stand up for me 
But if your husband is standing up for you, I wouldn’t worry too much about it.
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My husband brothers wife doesnt like me with a passion. We have no relationship. My husband is tired of her bs. He loves his brother but said it’s time for them to go their separate ways. My husband MADE that choice. I did not.
The family you come from is important but the family you created is priority
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Yea know what it’s like. It is best to either not have them in your life or to be the bigger person and forgive and move on.
It is good hubby has your back that makes a huge difference. I wouldn’t get divorced over his family they are probably hoping that happens not to mention he has your back meaning he knows how wrong they are being.
The only line I draw and never ever accept is if my children are ever treated wrong or different that I will never ever accept or allow to slide. I most certainly will also speak up about it. Stand your ground. It hurts me so much when kids get hurt I just can’t ever wrap my head around it when adults do wrong by kids. Well hoping for yours and your husband’s sake that things get better for you!
If the husband chooses to x them out and you are choosing divorce you are using this as an excuse to get out of the marriage, Family has drama and if he is willing to do that it should be received with a hug and appreciation and expand the love and be grateful. Wow can’t believe this just breathe you are over reacting just breathe and look around family kids love they are choosing you and you are making a bad choice going down that route. You wanna show them love triumphs it all not quit and bring down darkness upon your family
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stand by your husband if he is willing to protect you from their abuse!! Not many people will do what he is willing to do. Do not allow his family to ruin your marriage. In the end, it’s their fault if he removes them from your lives since they want to be a-holes.
Go on and be happy with the man you married and don’t worry about anyone else
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Sounds like you are looking for an excuse to leave your husband
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If someone in your family isn’t calling you a bitch are you really family? 
lol
I think that you shud just x them from your life, an it’s TRUE you didnt marry them.
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Are you stupid? CUT THEM OFF. HE IS YOUR HUSBAND AND HE IS WILLING! Y’ALL HAVE CHILDREN TOGETHER. I can’t think of a more idiotic reason to get a divorce. And SO WHAT if one called you a bitch, fuck em! 
Dont divorce your husband if he’s standing up for you and you love him. Tell him that he and your kids can visit them whenever. Just tell him you don’t want to go around them anymore. They’re toxic to you and you shouldn’t have to deal with it. But dont do something you’ll regret. That’s just letting his family win.
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If he is willing to stay then you should too. Don’t let them destroy your relationship with each other. Just cut them out of your life
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That’s exactly what they want. Don’t divorce him. Especially if he’s standing beside you through all of this!!
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Mmmm no, I think it’s crazy to leave him just because his family doesn’t like you. Sounds to me like he needs to stand up for you not just be on your side. If he doesn’t talk you up, or stand up for you to his family then sure leave him.
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Tell them to kiss your ass. It’s their loss
You didn’t marry them people. You married him. I’m sure he knows how they can be…so I wouldn’t leave him. My husbands family is the same way so I speak from experience.
Um your husband is on your side… why would you leave him?
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I’ve been with my husband for 18 years and my in laws hate me. It’s a good thing I don’t sleep with them at night.
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Why the hell would you divorce your husband WHO YOU LOVE because they are assholes? Your husband is willing to remove them then let him.
My dad let his family talk so much shit about my mom. Caused my mom to have depression and anxiety. He ended up trying to divorce her BECAUSE OF THEIR TOXICITY. Do not do that to your children or yourself. If he loves and cares for you he needs to buck the hell up. I don’t mean to sound harsh but this hit a big nerve. If he’s cool with them being jerks I get the divorce
It’s TRUE that you didn’t marry his family. But they sure can cause a lot of trouble. I would never have believed how some families think that he still is a little boy. Get so far Away from them that they have to travel at least three hours to get to where you live. Tell them to mind their own dam business. If that doesn’t word just mop the floor with a few of them. I guarentee they will leave you all alone. Your husband needs to man up and have a talk with them.
Prove your better then they say! It’s the best revenge! Proving you love him and build him up. In a few years they will realize they pushed him away when trying to get rid of you. They want you to leave. If you do because of them they win. My in laws were the same. After a few years my man became my husband (they were so against it we had married secretly for a whole year.) He is doing much better and so am I since we got together. After so many years they couldn’t deny I was a great person to his life. Now they love me except my sister in law 
she hates me because I was his high sweetheart and he should have grown up and left me already is what they tell me. Some people will never like you. You just got to be the better person. But don’t leave him because of it!! That will only prove it in their eyes they were right about you.
Since your husband is willing to get them out of your lives, that’s what you should do.
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Why would you get a divorce bc someone else’s has a problem with you? If he’s willing to “X” them out for you and you’re still considering divorce that in itself is enough for me to believe you actually want a divorce and are making his family your excuses.
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Maybe you should divorce him, he doesn’t deserve someone like you that is willing to throw him away just like an old toy you are done playing with.
He is willing to do anything for you and his family he created but what are ypu willing to do? Throw everything away just cause 
?
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Why would you divorce your husband for something he can’t control???
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My hubbys family dont like me either…hes good without them and we rarely go see them his mom only likes me cuz the baby but I dont care she calls me his girlfriend instead of his wife…his kids hate me and we don’t care
If your husband is choosing you and it’s his family that is the problem, not him, why would you let them destroy your marriage. They sound selfish and toxic, leaving him wouldn’t solve anything but it would satisfy them and enable them to behave this way. Perhaps if you both distance yourselves from them they’ll change for the better in order not to lose you. I doubt it, but maybe. If not, then good riddance, you’ll be happy together without their drama and stress.
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Forget about his family and worry about yours. The one you and him created TOGETHER. You don’t sleep with them, so don’t worry about them liking you. They don’t have to. If he chooses to not have a relationship with his family that’s his problem. I for one haven’t spoken to my sister in law since 2016, have had a few serious fallouts with my MIL and get the feeling my BIL tolerates me but isnt a fan. I have always worked it out with my MIL. We are in a really good place now, but that took time, forgiveness and work on both our parts. So someone called you a bitch. People say things when they are pissed. God, I’ve been called so much worse by people, lol. His entire family could line up and call me a bitch and I still wouldn’t divorce him, lol. What do I care what they think? He’s the one who has to love me.
Screw them. My husbands family dont like me but I dont care lol. Literally dont give a shit at all. We stopped associating with most of them because they wouldn’t chill and stop blaming me. So yeah. Stop talking to them. They may learn their lesson
My ex in laws did that 2 me. I could not have cared less!! If that’s all they got 2 do with their lives it’s just sad. My ex always encouraged this behavior from them n sermed 2 enjoy it. He’s perverted in more ways than one.
If your going to divorce your husband over this when he willing to x them out then theirs more to you wanting a divorce, its none of my business but makes no sense to leave him when hes choosing you over them.
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My husbands family hates me (they used to love me but I like my personal space and they just talked negatively of that/me being a home body) so I just slowly stopped having any positive feelings towards them. My husband noticing that they attacked my lifestyle decided he really didn’t want the woman he loves to have to face that- and he cut them from his life. He said it’s not like they were around much for his childhood so he doesn’t really miss them. If your husband is willing to cut them out of his life for the family you have built together then you love him more for that sacrifice not divorce him. Kind of concerning that divorce was your first go to…
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If he’s supportive of cutting the toxicity why divorce? Been there done that and my husband cut them off. They hated me because I am not a tow the line kind of girl. Cut them out first before you end your marriage. Give that a chance
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Sooo your husband and kids suffer because of his family. Fuck that…
He is choosing you and your kids. Let him.
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