My mother in law loves to have us once every week Saturday or Sunday either lunch or dinner, at first I was okay with it, but I gotten tired and felt pressured. Now I stayed home whilst my husband and son went to his parents. It’s just an hour or two, I don’t mind. I get to have my me time and I get to do household chores and my in laws understand that. I come with my boys sometimes and we have no issues because of this. They are old. I want us especially my son and husband get to spend time with them. No one knows until when.
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We used to go every Sunday and eat dinner at my Dad’s. Then Covid hit. Switched ti working Weekends. I miss those Sundays. Especially when Dad makes chicken and dumplings or chilli.
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They can’t expect you to visit every weekend. They can ask, and schedule a dinner but it cannot be a weekly routine. That is absurd.
My son has family in town where we live that he has seen maybe 2 times he don’t know them an my grandma lives out of state maybe that one weekend a month would good for you and your husband so you to can have alone time maybe sleep in go out for dinner drinks clean house be lazy as hell but I do understand not wanting them over every weekend so do one a month they come for dinner an take the kids for the night or weekend
We go to the in laws every Sunday unless he works. Our girls spend the night 2 weekends of the month at least because of my husbands and his dads schedule. Sometimes i stay home while he takes the girls so i can have me time or get something done i need to do. I would give anything to live close enough to my family to have that same thing.
There is nothing wrong with declining respectfully here and there. It doesn’t mean you dislike them or what not. Some people just feel more comfortable and less anxiety around others. I am the same way and there is not a single thing wrong with it. You don’t have to be rude or upset just tel them no sometimes. And that is normal.
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