Put your kids first, if they are not happy then leave, I can guarantee your younger ones will end up miserable too and that’s no way to live
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Leave. He got into a r/ship with you AND your kids. Not just you. If he cant be kind to all of you then why even stay with him. Verbal abuse (cause this is what it either sounds like or is leading up to) in worst case scenarios lead up to physical abuse. And you wont be raising twins alone. Im sure your older two would love to help with the babies. I know i was always excited for a new sister or brother to help with. Give him an option. Either except all of us or none of us. I would never let any man (baby daddy or not) put my kids down, doesnt matter who their father is. Im a action then questions sorta girl so if i heard someone putting my kids down verbally, id put them in their plave and have either no contact or very minimal contact with said person
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Any good man would uplift any child regardless of who their “father” was… not put them down…what an ass that’s crossing the line.
The fact that your posts says your kids feel unwelcome… should’ve left him the first time it happened regardless of the pregnancy.
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Leave him, your kids come first, and the older two are old enough to help you with the babies. But get away from him before it damages your relationship with your kids.
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He sounds like he’ll end up being abusive towards you. Only an abusive person treats kids this way AND he is a bigot. When the babies arrive he’s going to get worse because there will be more stress. RUN very fast
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How did he treat the kids before you fell pregnant? It’s hard to believe he literally just turned on them when you got pregnant? Like all of a sudden? Nah you knew who he was. And you’re using the twins as an excuse to stay 
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Sorry to hear about your situation . I would try counseling or having your pastor talk to him. If things don’t improve have your ducks in a row before you leave. Examples job, child care for the twins and the backing of your family and the older children.
Whatever happened to birth control. You are not married to this man and obviously didn’t know him very well. You should have thought real hard about whether this relationship would last before you got pregnant. You Will be able to raise these kids. Take him to court for support
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Your kids should feel comfortable in their own home…
I thought I had a great guy…always attentive…buying me gifts or sending flowers because I had cramps…then I got pregnant couple months before our wedding…from the moment I said I do he became controlling… needless to say I became single mom…
I get your scared and it hard financially but way better than your children who suffered because of one man now have to suffer because of another.
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I’m sorry your going through this is there any chance you two can repair things? Maybe tell him how you feel and seek counselling together otherwise as hard as it is you will have to end things. You have already been abused enough you can’t stand by and let him do it to your children.
Im sorry but your kids will end up resenting you for life and those comments are very very damaging, and could lead them to mental issues and depression abd eventually to drugs and alcohol or giving into peer pressure because they hate their home life.
I understand being pregnant and thinking of your twin babies…but those kids were here first and are JUST as important. That guy needs kicked to the curb. He does NOT accept your children…and NO man in their right mind treats a child poorly because they don’t like who fathered them. That guy is class A loser…dont care if he is a millionaire. He is a Shit human being that has to go!!
Regaurdless he will still be responsible for child support of your babies and if you like he can still be a father to them and see them…but you have to think about your older kids and do what’s best for them before this destroys them. They will end up respecting you SO much more in the end if you choose them over him, which all mothers should do in shitty situations.
The fact that you’re even trying to say “but he treats me nicely” says alot. What about your other kids?? He obviously was doing it before you fell pregnant but all you seen was a “nice guy” and over looked everything. And why can’t your older kids hold the babies? It’s their siblings also. How do you not mind that? It sounds like you’re both using excuses
Your kids should come first and the older ones could help you, you’re not going to be alone. You have 4 blessings to look after. Leave the guy. It’s just going to get worse.
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So sorry your going through this maybe look at support networks for you and kids make up a plan b sadly men like this never will change it’s time to focus on yourself and kids have a chat with midwife as they support you as well
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Ppl outside the relationship see things that we dont. If hes mean to yourother 2 hes not very nice . I wouldnt put up with it…
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Also Who in TF DOES he think he is sayin he dont want your kids holding their siblings when they are born!!!
He sounds cruel and abusive!
I seriously foresee this whole situation getting WAY worse! Just get rid of him. Dont let your kids be mistreated…because in the end that is your fault for allowing it!!
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Leave him now your kids come first
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I ended my relationship when that happened to me ex was not only making comments but was jealous of the time I spent with them
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So he is racially abusing your kids and alienating them from you. Don’t give him the chance to raise 2 babies full of hate.
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Leave him. He sounds like a narcissist. It will only get worse.
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Girl put your kids first. Period.
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Take the trash out, momma. Verbal abuse is still abuse and sticks with you longer than any bruise will.
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My advice to you is if you care about the relationship you have with your children then dump your racist asshole boyfriend. I’m sorry but your children need to come first.
My mom’s husband treated me this way and I will never forgive her for choosing that over me.
Why r u with him, he is mean and and abusive. Kick him to the curb
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Your kids got to come first he can pay child support and there is all kinds of help out there use is
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Bye bye, your kids come first and if they feel unwelcomed get rid of him before you regret that you didn’t
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Drop the trash. Now.
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I agree with Amanda. You have to accept us as a package or take a hike. He may like HIS kids but either you are ALL family or not. My husband and I had children from another marriage. Even tho they didn’t live with us, I considered them family and included them on trips and birthdays. He respected mine as well.
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No ifs or buts no way josey
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Dude your current bf is a racist, nothing more nothing less! He tolerated your kids as he had none of his own. Now he has his own he doesn’t need to tolerate yours. Your kids (ALL of them) should come first
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See ya bye I dealt with that for 18 yrs with my ex I had a daughter from a previous marriage and he was good to her till I got pregnant with his first child and he then changed towards my daughter and when his second son came we had 2 boys together he really changed towards her and it gave her major and issues like ptsd and depression and anxiety really bad don’t put your kids threw that here is no excuse I wish I would of left sooner plz plz leave
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They accept your kids to get you in their grasp then the sh%,t flies. No question your kids come first just like I did. Run fast the other way. They don’t change
Hold on… You made babies with a man that “makes comments about your kids race” ?! Never ever…and they can’t hold the babies? RACIST ASS!! GET RID IF HIM…NEVER CHOOSE A MAN OVER YOUR CHILDREN…HOLY SHIT. Not to be mean but come on now…
Who is more important kids or boyfriend. Problem solved
Um dude would’ve been goooooone like the wind first ride comment to my kids
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kick that overgrown immature adult child to the curb, stand by your kids 100 0/0 always 
I couldn’t imagine my kids ever feeling down because of some piece of shit loser. That’s so sad. I hate him and feel sad for your kids.
Leave him and charge him child support up the ass babe fuck him
Get out its NOT gonna get any easyer he is doing it now he will keep doing it …
Your kids are innocent n shouldnt have too put up with his crap n if they dont want too go too there fathers dont make them go there old enough too have there own mind in what they want in life
Your kids should always no matter what come first and foremost in your life. If your older ones don’t feel comfortable around him anymore then there is more to the story and for him not wanting them to hold their siblings is total BS - when he got with you he took on the total package and if he can’t step up he needs to step on out until becomes a true man by which he is not showing to be one right at the moment. If he knows what you went thru and your kids and he truly cared about you going forward he would have never made the statement about your oldest reminding him of your ex - your child didn’t do anything wrong and didn’t choose his dad so the twins daddy needs to grow up, shut up and be a dad to all of them equally or get out of your life. Being abused mentally is worse to me than physical but they both leave scars that take years to heal if they ever do…love your kids above and beyond how much you love hiim or yourself - If there is a will there is always always a way. Praying for you all and praying you all walk away before this gets any worse.
Relatively kind to you… and don’t dislike your kids…
to hell with standards I guess. Cmon mama, do better.
If he’s mean to your kids LEAVE.
If you stay, you can expect all sorts of mental problems from your children and you can take all the blame for it.
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You said you would feel better leaving him. Leave him your two other may help you out with the babies for a while until they go to college.
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Some of the questions on here have me mind blown. 
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Um, no. Mistreat my baby and see what you get. Your kids need to come first, boot his ass to the curb
Wtf? Y u even asking? Your kids are first! Just imagine the emotional scarring from your racist boyfriend!!!
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And how your older ones feel knowing he doesn’t want them handling his children?? Come on lady!
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Oh. My. God.
Leave.
When it comes to your kids… DON’T PLAY. leave
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Did not read after the headline, leave him. Dick comes and goes but you’re the world for your babies and you need to make sure it’s a damn good one. Don’t be a stupid bitch.
I can’t believe you even have to ask for advice…smh
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Its is your duty to PROTECT those kids!!! Leave him, get child support, tie your tubes cause u ain’t need no more babies, fix your life and your relationship with your older kids and then let love find you. I’m being as real as anyone wish to be and it may be harsh to some but this is reality…wake up before it’s too late
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Nope nope and nope! You need to leave giving your children a healthy household or you are just as bad.
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Do what you got to do get away, the 1st comment should of been enough. Hes a dick.
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Why would you allow your children to feel that way to keep a man?!???!! I don’t care if you are pregnant with quadruplets, you are their mother. To let them feel little or let a man make comments about your children’s race. You should be ashamed of yourself for allowing this.
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Na… the first time his ass already be gone. Woman the f up and stick up for your kids…ffs it’s YOUR fault who their dad is, not theirs…I have NO patience for this bs.
Should have left after the first rude comment. No one should be allowed to be nasty toward your kids.
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It only gets worse…you know your children come first… be their mama first…any rude comments stain a child’s heart and soul…Leave
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Leave him ur kids should come first no matter what
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Your kids are not at fault they don’t deserve to desrespected you picked their father now your mate
If he makes snide remarks about your older children to the point where they feel uncomfortable to be around him then he dislikes them. He’s tormenting them because of the color of their skin and said he doesn’t want them holding their younger siblings. No relationship is worth losing your children over. Dump his nasty ass.
Leave him you have to put your kids first if a man would make rude comments to my kids he wouldnt have no teeth literally stand up for your kids and to make the remark that he dont want them to hold the babies ahhhh he be seeing a side of me he wouldnt like
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Listen to your kids girl and leave him! The fact he makes racist remarks to them and puts doen their father is a red flag he is a racist! Will never accept your other children and if you stay with him you will lose them, so whats more important to you? You kids feeling safe and happy? Or the man?
It’s never easy to leave but their is support you need to choose
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Get him out of their lifes. Now. If he doesn’t treat them right why are you even with him?
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Not even a QUESTION. Your kids come FIRST. Leave.
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Think of your children and leave …
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Put your children first before you or any other
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Sometimes kids with other guys Right listen to them
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I don’t even know what exactly you want us to tell you. You’re gonna create a gap between you and the kids and at some point your children are gonna have to recover from this abuse.
Are you getting tired of being a protective parent? Do you want your kids to recover from an abusive childhood?
Stop being selfish and put your children first.
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If you stay, you’re going to be in a timebomb situation. Your kids should come first by all means. He should never, if he cares you; never insult your kids like that. Not that race matters, but if they are of mixed race, their going to have it difficult anyway because of the cruel world we live in. He if anyone should show them Love and acceptance. For him to be biased against your kids should show you what has to be done. To leave him will be hard, but that will show your kids that no matter what, they are worth the hard decisions; and no matter what or who, they have the God given right to be respected no matter race, Creed, sexual preference or religion. This starts with you Mom, if you don’t fight for them now, when if ever will you start. Just my thoughts on the situation.
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If he was a true man…he wouldn’t have a problem with ur kids,but NOW he has his own twins…it’s are nothing to him…leave that man…he will make ur kids doubt themselfs,hate you for staying with him,if ur asking girl u know the answer…really leave with ALL your kids…ur red flag went up when u said it gets under my skin…listen to that voice…leave
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You should never let him do that. That is bullshit. Why would you allow someone to treat your children like that? Do not put him above your children and allow him to disrespect them and be racist to them. Don’t you love your children? If this comment pisses you off then do something to change your situation.
He doesn’t deserve to you live now
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Wtf is SERIOUSLY wrong with you? You’re clearly not putting your kids first so I don’t care what anyone on here says, you’re a shitty person. I’ll be damned if anyone ever made my children feel insecure or not welcome around me. I’d show my kids they were first by leaving the trash behind. So you have babies with him? Big deal, that doesn’t mean you’re bound together in a relationship for life. You both sound like garbage
He’s just as bad as your ex for alienating your children based off of something that is out of their hands. It’s just excuses. Your kids emotional state is at fault here. Once the babies come things will get worse most likely. Your children will be divided. They will feel like you chose the new babies over them ect ect. It just doesn’t sound good. I’m sorry. Be firm. Let him know why you are leaving him . There is just no excuse to hurt your kids like this.
A mother should NEVER put a dick before her kids. Your raised 2 kids now you’ll raise 4.
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I would kick him out now he is not worth it
Oh no… this makes me sick just reading it 
those poor children. If you consider yourself a mother than leave. I was in an abusive relationship for 4 years and when I mean abusive I mean he beat me everyday, he would take off work just to stay home and hit me all day. Nothing was ever clean enough, I was never thin enough, never pretty enough. Fast forward 5 years and im married with another baby girl with my husband we have a beautiful home, and he loves me and my two children unconditionally. He bends over backwards to make sure they have everything they want and need in life. He never talks down to them, and if he ever did I would leave. Because no matter how much I love him, he knows my children come first. Best of luck to you mama. I hope he changes or you can find the strength to leave, take my advice. Someone will love you and all 4 of your little ones. I promise
Is this a real question? Ur asking if u should leave someone who racially abused your children? U need to get outta that relationship
Get out now … your older children need you now more than ever because if u are saying your abuse finally stopped…, well theirs has not… you have got to leave this guy and love and protect you children who are already scared and still being scared…
he might not want you to go and make it seem like it’s your fault or You did something wrong but don’t listen to those abusive words…
He’s actually crazy and an abuser
just in a different way than the other guy… apparently
Make a plan , protect your kids and don’t tell him what u r doing and get a lawyer and go. I say get a lawyer to protect yourself and your children’s rights. Plus it’s a good thing if you file first.
You just can’t stay with him.
He may promise to change but he won’t … maybe for a minute but it will be back to the same behavior.
He’s actually shown you who he really is.
If you don’t go… it’s on you…
You would be one of those women everyone can’t stand … a woman that’s puts a man (dick) before innocent children…
You can do this!!!
Be the woman you know you can be!!! Strong and a loving protective mommy:two_hearts:
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Leave sooner than later!!! He’s not going to stop, he will get violent with your other children. There is a man out there for you it’s just not him.
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Get out! Do not think about how you will make it. You will find a way. Mothers instinct and gut. Go with it. Do not put your older kids through this they do not deserve this. You as their mother are their protector. This man your with sounds like trash. This makes me so upset!!! Your poor kids probably feel like they are walking on eggshells in their own home. You realized this on your own so Im sure you know what you need to do.
LEAVE THE TOXIC PRICK. you can sue his ads for child support. Your kids should always come first.
leave your kids are your first priority
So , your choosing a man over your children? A racist man over your children a man who never liked your children in the first place so he never liked or loved you becuase your kids are a extension of you.Please you are as abusive as him to allow him to do it do harm to your child to say you have a man becuase you dont want to start over. Hell your a women. We are built stronger than you think, get over yourself and leave before continuing allowing more harm done to your kids than you have already done.smdh.
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I’m an Advocate for Domestic Violence and you’re in it way up the wazoo! You need to leave him immediately; he has deep resentment for your X , & some of that is ok that he doesn’t like what he did to you ; but the problem is he is at odds with the older ones for it and that erases everything! This isn’t to be taken lightly and it only gets worse ; I’ve been there it’s an insecurity of himself & that only leads to more of the same! I’m just wondering why you didn’t use birth control? I’m not sorry for asking cos children take a lot of money to raise and you are already suffering and now this guy has issues!! You must get away from him immediately Please listen I didn’t and it cost me physical and mental pain for the rest of my life and he was the father of my child sooo yes I do know!
Leave him your children deserve better u left there father for a reason and they lived that with you now your doing it again to them by staying with someone that looks down on them you need to get your priorities straight and give your children a peaceful life It’s ridiculous you would even question this you got pregnant by a racist jerk that is not there fault they should never have to feel uncomfortable in there own home
Don’t ask a question you already know the answer to. Unless you’re looking for someone to justify you making the wrong decision for your own selfish reasons. It’s more than obvious you should leave him. He can pay support and visit his own kids. But don’t put the older kids through another abusive father figure/male in your life.
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kick him to the curb honey your kids are part of the package deal
Just leave him
Right now.
The right man doesn’t make you choose.
Run …the other way. Leave right now. It may same like its going to get better but it wont.
I’ve seen this time and time again the wedge! Trust your instincts, you have it for a reason! He will never change even if he promises to, sorry but I think you know it too - good luck
Dump the guy! He is treating your children badly like their father did… he is no better!
It is NOT up to him to punish YOUR KIDS for THEIR FATHER’S BEHAVIORS and he is no better of a man for doing so. As terrifying snd scary as it is going it alone you have to realize that losing your relationship with your kids would be much worse. Not to mention what you tolerate is what they deem acceptable in relationships most of the time. Would you want your child in a relationship like that? If you have a daughter, would you want her to bravely pull herself out of one abusive relationship to become trapped in a relationship not much better. Would you want to see your grand children thrown aside if the new man treated them like anything other than family?Your new guy doesnt have to hit you to be a problem.He is a jerk and he needs to change or see himself to the door
Honestly this seems like a pretty straightforward thing, you either leave him, or basically tell him to gtf over himself because even though your older children are a product of a bad relationship, they are still your children, and you will not have ANY of you children in another toxic environment.
RUN, don’t walk! Not sure I would give him much warning when you leave. He sounds questionable to confront. The next guy you date, be more picky! Don’t just date or befriend any guy. You and the kids deserve a good Godly man . There are not many of these, but it better to be alone than with someone who is not right.