So my son started kindergarten this year… academically he is doing great. Communication, not so much. He does not talk to his teachers when asked questions. When I have discussed this with him at home he tells me it’s because he’s nervous and he’s shy and doesn’t want everyone looking at him… (member of the shy and nervous club here, too)
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If he just started, and wasn’t in prek, you’ll have to give it time. What he is showing you is he doesn’t immediately trust everyone and is stand offish with new people. That’s not a bad thing. He waits, observes, and decides to let people in. Harness this and make sure the teacher understands that if academically he is good and he’s only not wanting to answer on the spot questions with an audience of the whole class, then he’s doing just fine and we stand by his judgement until he’s ready to be open with who he let’s in 
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Ok, but what can random people do? Talk to your child’s pediatrician and get a referral for a therapist to help him with his issue, talk to the school so he can also see the therapist there.
He is normal momma. 
That said, if you want to help him, have him read to you, out loud. You sir, he stands up and works on his words. Also, work on his confidence. Usually called “Big Boy” tasks. Helping his self esteem is important. Wether it be building Legos, a puzzle, art, anything that allows him to semi work alone and trust himself. As he does these things, on his own, he’ll get there. Talk to his teacher about ways to help him understand that it’s to be wrong and make mistakes. He’s still an amazing kid.
You’d be amazed what self esteem can do for kids. 
From a kindergarten aides perspective: Talk to the school counselor, see what advice they have. Communicate with the teacher, see how he does one on one with them. And give it time. Once he gets comfortable I promise he will open up.
It’s hard but try to work on your own nervousness ( at least infront of him ) he learns it from you give it time and he will adjust
This was my daughter last year. Her teacher didn’t think she knew anything because she would just stare at her when they would do their testing 
As long as you work with him at home and know that he knows his stuff it’ll be fine. She’s getting better this year with talking to her teacher.
That’s fine. It’s school it doesn’t matter. As long as he’s social and outgoing away from the school environment it’s fine. Let him know the teacher works for you and for him and he doesn’t have to answer to them and that you’ll back him and no “punishments” will stand there come from school because it doesn’t matter.
Give him time. He will get better.
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