For a start your daughter don’t need to no grown up stuff like that that is between you and her father he can still be a good dad l would leave it won’t work if he not into you try and stay mates and move on
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Take his ass to court and have full custody and child support. He lied and mislead you.
Exactly as Patti Majors has written Brilliant advice
Walk away or jump in the sheets Sista! You have a bond it’s your call.
He needs time to work on him. As this could be dangerous for you, I would ask him what he wants. See what he says. Would you be willing to let him explore? if not, then let him go. But explain to him that he needs to be part of his child’s life. As much as you are hurting, for him to be coming forward with something like this has to be life changing for him and must make him feel smaller as a person (As he knows how much he is hurting you and perhaps others) I would try to be the bigger person and say, you need to go explore, but at the same time, say I won’t be waiting around for you and expect you to keep being a daddy to our child. This is so heartbreaking for you. I feel so badly for you. However, in one way, it is good you know now, and can let him move on, and can perhaps find someone more suitable for you. (though I am sure that is the furthest from your mind right now)
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For your children’s sake be a friend, let him know you are still they for him, and your still want him to be in your kids’ lives. Remind him he is their dad and still had dad responsibilities. Also if he thinks he may be gay he probably is, my best friend tried a marriage thinking he might prefer men, the marriage did not last because they decided they were both gay. Yes it is hard and hurts in time you will find the right guy.
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After the hurt is not as bad you’re just going to accept it. There’s honestly really nothing you can do, it is what it is. Was it wrong for him to not be honest in the beginning? Oh yes. But you have two beautiful kids to coparent and get through it. Who knows. Maybe you could even be friends down there road. Get everything set up in court and then do you. You’ll find love again. 
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I’m not trying to sound mean here, not at all, but maybe also give consideration to this being a soft pass off; ending an rship with a pregnant partner isn’t possible sometimes - so this is an excuse/way out - nothing against you, sometimes ppl just fall out of love, they say the words long after it’s happened bc you’re a great person (I’m sure) who doesn’t deserve this and he knows that! Just saying. I’ve seen that happen too much to discredit its possibility. Just remember - what is for you - is , what isn’t for you / isn’t. Let it go… don’t force anything… if he wants to, he will. This really sucks for you and I’m sorry it’s happening.
First things first go get tested then after that busy yourself with caring for your daughter your unborn baby and yourself. If he wants to be with men let him you’ll find mr. right when the time comes it’s going to hurt for a while but it in end you’ll feel a lot better. At least he came and told you instead of cheating on you so you got to give him credit for that.
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I would accept the fact that I would be raising two kids alone…
Tell him to hit the road Jack. Get DNA samples,. Get a lawyer. Make sure the undecided dude supports his children.
Meanwhile he can, and always be their Dad. If he chooy.
Well this relationship is over for you. Find some comfort in that he felt safe and comfortable enough with you to be able to find himself properly. Some men go their whole lives hiding it from everyone it can be exhausting. You were his safe haven and probably still are. He loved you enough to tell you, not lie and do men behind your back
Nope, screw him. If he got you pregnant twice with those feelings of knowing he isn’t fully with you he has no consideration for you or those children. I understand he needs to find himself but leaving you high and dry with your child while you’re pregnant with his second should be your answer.
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Support his decision and keep the kids in the dark. If they ask say that mommy and daddy are better as friends. Let the children know that you and him still love them. You need to be United as parents and co parent with a healthy relationship.
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Man that is tough good luck darling
Heal yourself first. But be supportive if you can.
Let him work on himself. You work on you which also means moving on.
Get checked w your PCP for STDs ASAP - protect yourself for yourself and for your girls!! Good luck - let him go. Easy for me to say I know but he needs to be who he is and this is clearly about him and has very little to do w you girl, you’re so hot you made him struggle with his own biology and draw to men. Hugs sweetie…
He’s still a father whether he’s straight, gay or bi. I get that he needs to figure out if he’s gay or bi, but he has no right to turn his back on his children! If he can’t be there for them then he has to go.
Let him find out who he is and what he wants
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File for full custody he is a liar he blindsided you
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