I say don’t sweat the small stuff… you won’t be there forever. Just brush their teeth an extra time or two a day.
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Sorry you don’t like what she does in her house then leave. But trying to tell her what to do in her house is wrong
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Special occasions my kids have pop or up there nannas and grampys. Your under her roof maybe try and ask her to cut down on giving the kids pop till the weekend just till you move out
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Yes you are living in her house but they are your children so she needs to respect your wishes. Explain that it is ok once in a while for special occasions but you do not wish for your children to ignore you as their parent and also you do not want them to develop unhealthy eating patterns. You and your partner are responsible for their health care and the resulting costs, not nana. This is slowly undermining your authority with your children.
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I don’t allow my daughter pop either! She only drinks unsweetened tea, flavored water or milk one in a blue moon a juice. It’s definitely a important that your mother listens to you bc to much pip can cause your child to pee the bed.
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I’m not a parent who minds my kids having soda at home or grandparents giving them extra stuff I wouldn’t normally BUT 3-4 sodas a day is way too much even for an adult. Maybe talk to her about sparkling flavored water or sparkling juice. My son thinks they are soda.
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You could actually look into renting an Airbnb short term.
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It’s only for a few months, choose your battles, just make sure you brush their teeth real good and get some water into them during the day, I understand your frustration tho, soda is so bad, causes so many issues, and has no positives, would she be open to finding a similar drink, bit with less sugar or something?
Show your kids Google images of toothless grins that should work. And next time she does it take the drink and the bottle and pour them both down the sink and tell her that’s enough, or every time she gives one of your kids a soda take them both to the bathroom and tell your mother to supervise while said child brushes their teeth, every. Damn. Time. Should stop eventually.
I would tell her she can have the dental bill to pay worst thing on kids teeth
Lol soda does more than ruin teeth it’s very unhealthy and I wouldn’t appreciate my mother giving my children 3-4 sodas a day. However milk and juice aren’t any better so if you give your kids that then I don’t see why your complaining about the soda. My kids get water or seltzer. Outside the house they can have whatever they want because it’s not very often
Throw them all out lol
Tell her to respect your boundaries or she won’t see your kids when you.move out. Take the soda out of your kids’ hands and pour it down the drain. Don’t let your mother watch your children if she can’t respect boundaries. You are the mother, she doesn’t get to make the rules.
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Idk…so many people just laugh it off and say that’s Grandma’s for you. SMH…I had this same problem with my bio mom about smoking around the kids, giving them things that are bad for them. (Raw cake batter,mashed potatoes at three weeks old…) Idk I ended up cutting her out of our lives for other reasons but with her it was a constant battle of grandma wanting to undermine mom
Hun i say just let grandma be grandma
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So , you are a mom & adult. You have rules for your kids, but your mother does how she feels & you can’t tell her ?? . Put the big girl panties on & tell your mother. If my daughter or daughter-in - law, told me not to do this or that & I wanted to see my grandkids, you bet your ass I would listen. Because I want to see my grandkids as much as I can !! End of story 
I would tell the kids that if I catch them with a soda, they are in trouble. Ask for juice, milk or water. They have to learn how to say no.
I allow my kids cokes(Dr pepper, coca cola, Pepsi) during supper. But they have to share. I prefer Sprite for them. They’re allowed a few a day(sharing). Dentist told me juice is as bad on your teeth as coke, anything is except water…
Omg, google what coke and other sodas, but especially coke, does to clean stuff and so what it’s doing to your internal organs!!! She is abusing your kids and arrogantly refusing to stop it. I would be absolutely furious!! Coke is highly addictive!! I would seriously not leave her alone with them and when she gives them soda, go get it directly out of their hands and tip it down the sink!! She might stop once she sees all her soda get wasted. And google how bad juice is for kids and adults too. It’s just as bad. Highly concentrated in sugar.
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Ur mom is total wrong how can someone offer grandkid soda instead of water sometimes i also feel quite helpless because my mother gave my son all the time mobile and he is 2.9 but doesnt know many things plus he doesnt speak a single word so now m trying to spend all time with my son and plus i request my mom not to give him mobile so we both are managing many things together like we give him mobile for 30 min and then he just plays with his toys fridge magnet abcd letter 123 he is improving but still doesnt speak a word just babling i know m writting very lengthy comment but sis i totally understand ur concern u r totally right and not overreacting ur mom is wrong now request her not to give anything withput ur permission specially sweets sodas
It’s frustrating I know because I’ve had to live with my parents for a small bit after having a child, but it’s their house. At the end of the day you can’t stay in someone else’s home and nitpick about what they can and can’t do. If you want that ability then you need to leave, but even then grandparents are going to be grandparents and they are very set in their ways.
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What’s wrong with you people, just cause she’s the grandma doesn’t give her the right to dis-respect the wishes of the mom…carbonated soda are the worst you can drink for little kidneys growing still…water is the best you can give them…respect the moms wishes…n teach the kids to say no thank you also…speaking as a great grandmother that’s raised a bunch of kids…
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Just talk to your mom (NOT in front of your kids) & tell her she needs to respect your rules as their mom. I have 4 grown sons, & my mom whom I miss everyday always had cookies for them. Guess what, they’re all fine. So maybe ask her to keep a box of carpri suns in her room just for the kids. That way she’s giving them a treat, making her happy & your kids are happy getting a little treat from grandma. And btw, to all the moms wanting to bash grandma, punish her by not letting her see her grandbabies after you move out…SHAME ON YOU!! Keep in mind, many of you were raised by your moms, many of you ARE moms, & many will one day be grandmas. Google the word “EMPATHY” Good luck to you 
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Umm…yeah. Grandparents are famous for cake for breakfast; cookies for lunch. It’s just their way of spoiling the grandbabies! In the grand scheme of things; is it really that bad every so often??
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A lot of over reacting angry people here again. Yes grandma is wrong and yes it’s your decision about their eating habits. Just pour it out. I know the damage soda can do as a regular beverage but if any gets past you forget about it. It’s not going to do any lasting damage for that short period of time except that you must make them understand nothing about your rules have changed but that you will allow grandma to have a little fun spoiling them but not too much. It’s all in your delivery-not to her but to them. Make sure they drink water and if you see her giving it to them toss it. I wouldn’t even speak on it since you already gave the request. You have chosen to live under her roof so you have to deal with it until you move. In your own home you give them what you want but in my opinion juice is just as bad if it’s not basically watered down considering the massive amount of sugar in most of them. Good luck but don’t stress. They just need balance.
I had to stand my ground and say I know you’re grandma but I’m mom. Please do not give my daughter (mine was coffee). I don’t want her to have it and it’s pretty close to disrespectful for you to do that just because I’m not here. That’s teaching her it’s okay to do so if I’m not around.
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Living under grandmas roof…gotta learn to deal with it or get out. Lol. I learned this the hard way. Nothing you can really do.
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Whenever you see your mom give your kids “soda” go right behind her, take the soda away from your kids…tell your kids “no no sweetie, I’ve told your grandma many times not to give you soda” replace with desired drink and pour the soda down the drain (infront of child and grandma)
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I told my mom if she’s going to give my kids any soda to make sure it’s Sprite. I live off Dr pepper and I do not allow my kids to drink it. I don’t even buy juice because they don’t drink it for one and it messes their tummy up. So they drink milk, tea, koolaid, and water. My son knows he isn’t allowed to have my Dr pepper but I will give him some from time to time. And he will some times try to throw a fit to get some and I refuse to cave in. It’s not good at all for their teeth. Not good for mine either lol but hey that’s me not them. She should respect your wishes.
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I went through this damaging l same thing with my mom. Different times and couldn’t understand. I wish you good luck cause I couldn’t get mine to stop. Once he got a little older though she started seeing it differently. I think they think we don’t know better or some thing. Now she’ll tell him nope I’m not going against your mom.
Replace the soda in the fridge with what you want them to have. How old are your children? Teach the children to say no thank you to the soda and tell them why. The carbonation and caffeine is bad for them and the soda will make them have bad teeth. Tell them their teeth will get dull and yellow. Be sure to keep substitutes on hand. Let them feel like they are making the choice and how to make a good one. That too much cola or dark drinks like dr. Pepper too contribute to sickness eventually.
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I do the same with my kids drinks that you do. Her giving them three to four a day is insane, even by adult standards! I would sit down with her and show her the added calories, sugar, and crap she is giving growing children daily. That she is hurting them by doing this and if she cares about them, and you, she will respect what you have asked. If she keeps doing it, I would correct her (not the children) every single time. Call her out on her junk instead of making the kids feel like they are in the middle or that you are the bad guy.
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Chillax and let them enjoy this time with the grandparents. They won’t be around forever and a little sugar won’t kill them either. It’s a grandparent’s job to spoil them while they can.
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My mom tries to give my daughter soda to and she knows how I feel about it if my daughter has a soda that my mother gave her I take it away and say she can have something else that she may not have soda that if she continues to ask for it or accept it she’ll keep getting in trouble so she doesn’t ask anybody for it anymore or accept it
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U r not over reacting. But grandparents can overstep and not respect ur wishes. With u living there ,it makes it even harder. If u are adamant about it then I would take the soda from child everytime and pour it out. Replace it with what u want them to drink. It will probably start a war with ur mom and kids. If u are getting settlement pretty soon than i would consider letting it be until u move and then retrain ur children. Either way it’s going to be stressful
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So you don’t give your kids 100% juice because it hurts their stomach but kool-aid does not. Then you are upset about the sugar content of coke? 12 ounces of coke has 39 grams of sugar and and 12 ounces of kool-aid has 38 grams. I’m not saying that your kids should have coke at all, but if you are ok with kool-aid over 100% juice then you can’t really be upset over coke.
I agree, depending on the age of your children teach them to say no that they need to follow what you say as their mother.
Talk to your mom again and if she can’t respect you as a mother then maybe it’s time to limit time with grandma. Have someone else babysit them at their house while you are at work or not at home to supervise.
Sadly parents don’t understand that their grandchild are NOT their kids and they have to respect their actual parent.
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I would (and actually HAVE) take the sodas away from the child and say “no, my kids, my rules. They’ve had enough” Maybe allow one soda a day, AFTER they’ve had water\milk. But no, I don’t think it’s unreasonable to set boundaries for your own child. My children are, and always have had the rule of one soda a day. Now, as teens, they follow this rule without me having to “monitor” them… You can be respectful and have a back bone, just use tact…
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Tell your kids they are not allowed to accept soda, then tell your mom your kids will not be drinking soda, then get them altogether and say no soda. Explain to them that its not a healthy choice, and its worse for kids especially with teeth coming in and going out, its bad for kidneys, etc. Tell your mom you appreciate all the things she has done to help you out with your situation, however, there needs to be some boundaries when it comes to your kids with what they can eat and what they cant. Your kids should know right from wrong so when mommy says no, then you shouldnt see a can of soda in their hands. I dont let my kids drink soda either so I feel you on the matter.
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I have the same problem. My moms consistently giving my son candy. Hes seven now and I literally just gave up arguing about it. Luckily we dont live with her. But honestly she most likely wont stop so I would just stop stressing it and wait till you move to redirect your kids on what you want them to drink. I too only let my son drink soda when we’re out or at parties. He only drinks milk and water at home.
If you see her give it to your kids take it away tell her you and your husband don’t want them to have it! You need to tell her that she needs to respect you and your husband. You two are the parents she is the grandma. Although you live with her she still needs to respect your’ wishes on how you raise your kids.
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Most fruit juice is just as sugary as sodas. But I understand your frustration. If your Mother refuses to respect your wishes and your children refuse to obey you, sorry to say your stuck with the situation until you can get in your own home.
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Just simply take it away. If she offers it to them or hands them a soda, just say no they’ve had enough today already and physically take it away. I have a 10 year old son who would drink soda all day long if it were up to him. I allow him 1 a day, if that. Maybe you can buy them drinks that are for them specifically like a box of Capri-sun and tell your mother that when they are thirsty, give them this.
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Way to nit picky. Let the kids enjoy grandparents times gees
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Maybe you could ask her to limit it to one per day? It’s hard in your situation but if you can’t get her to stop then maybe you could limit how much they get. Tell her they are your children and she should respect that. When you move then they will only have it when you want them to.
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Your mom can pay for their dental work, yes?
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Tell her to stop and tell your children not to drink it. They can say No thank you
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Please approach your Mom with some new ideas that she may agree to give instead, something the kids like, and have it always on hand. Even if it has sugar in it at least no caffeine and hopefully less than cola, also no artificial sweeteners… I have been addicted to cola for years, it is full of caffeine and I am very over weight, it is comparable to giving them a cigarette which i am sure she would never consider doing. When I say addicted to colas I mean it is not at all simple to stop, nothing tastes as good after you are hooked, It is not a joke. Maybe make a deal for one soft drink a week…Also if the children are already hooked they may get headaches mid day the first days after not getting it.
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Just let her know absolutely No soda drinks are acceptable!!
Not only is she disrespectful to you but only thinking of herself…
I wouldn’t allow her to be around your children if she didn’t listen to you,
They are your children and it’s your work that goes!!!
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I dont think any1 likes there kids to drink to much soda but to much juice isnt good either, the sugar level is just as bad. U should sit ur mom down and just explain it to her in a descent manner. All grandmothers loves to spoil the grandchildren but shouldnt also disrespect ur wishes. All the best
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Honestly unless it’s an every single day thing. It’s a grandma ting it’s not hurting the kids. If it’s every day put your foot down
Sorry for now just go with it you will be out before you know it and can stop your kids from drinking sodas later when you are in your own home you are the mom and what you say goes just tell them to enjoy but when you leave there it all stops
Not okay at all?
What’s the deal? She wants something ‘cool’ to offer them? Can see if she wants to offer seltzer water instead.
Sounds like mom and grandma need to work together and come up with a compromise.
Kids shouldn’t be drinking anything but water and milk. Period.
Every time you see a kid with one take it away an give them water am dump the soda
Take the sodas from them in front of her. She will see that you’re serious. I dont want my unborn boy having sodas so I understand completely.
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Let kids enjoy grandparents gees
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Oh heck no! Ur not overreacting… I would just call her out n throw the soda out everytime she gives them one. Make sure she sees u throw it and if the kids say anything u say no I’m ur mom and I said no and that’s it! If shes not going to listen take matters into ur own hands.
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Nana gave them a caffeine addiction…good job grams 
As for you mama, you either no longer leave them alone with her or start grabbing them sodas out of their hand and dumping them when she does give them one.
I’m 37 and trying to quit my intake of that garbage while also having a rough go at it.
Good luck!
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If she can’t be trusted, she isn’t left alone with the kids 
Who knows what else she’s doing that isn’t allowed.
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I understand your concern. I would suggest getting a short term apartment until you close on new house
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Just tell her no. Period. You’re the Mom. Stand your ground.
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Let it go. That should not be your biggest worry right now.
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Flat out tell her to stop.
Tell your girls they have to say no
Moms should respect moms.
Tell her add with water so is not that strong
The REAL problem here isn’t the soda, it’s the fact that your mother continues to undermine you. And she thinks so little of doing so that she doesn’t even try to hide it.
While her reasons for giving them soda are probably simple (perhaps it’s a comfort thing for her so she thinks it may be for them as well) along with the fact that she genuinely may just think you’re being silly because she doesn’t see the harm in drinking it, etc. Her doing so is ANYTHING but “simple.”
Think of the mixed messages your kids are receiving; two responsible adults (both of whom the adore) are battling over whether or not they drink soda. You hand them water, she hands them pop, you dump the pop out, and an hour later she’s giving them another one. They probably don’t know WHAT to do, it’s a lose-lose situation for them.
I would tell your mom that it’s less about the pop than it is about the two of you being a united front when it comes to your children and her grandchildren.
This little game of “he-said, she-said” doesn’t sound very fun for the little ones who are being forced to play.
Stand your ground. Your the parent not her
I didn’t even read pass her saying my gives her kids soda and she don’t want her to. Y’all must have talked back to yall mom growing up. Leave y’all mama alone. She only gets to be a grandma once.
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Set firm boundaries. My mom hated it when I put my foot down on shit, but she loves the kids more than she hates me doing that, so she’s learning to work with my rules. I understand Mamaw might do things a little differently than me so I try to compromise and let some things go, but things that really matter to me I will set boundaries on.
I hate posts like these. Put your foot down. You are the parent. Not her. She gives them soda, take it away.
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Me, personally… Would dump all the shit out everytime I see one. Everytime she brings some in the house, they will be gone within an hour and I would jus act like I dont kno where they went.
I assuming you’re not buying the soda. As soon as you see it in the house, or it all down the drain. No master if it’s open or unopened. ALL OFF IT. Your mother will soon get tired of her money going down the drain.
Just ask her not to tell her the drinks you allow them us grandmas are a pain in the ass lol
My dad is the same way with the grandkids he said if we don’t want them to have it take they asses home:joy:
I would tell her if you dont stop y ou just want watch them anymore
Pour that shit out every time. You’ll wear Mama out.
Sounds like you need to find another place to live temporarily if you’re so upset about what she gives your children to drink.
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I have found that grandparents make terrible parents lol.
Extremely disrespectful, think they know everything because they’ve already been through this, and that they have the right to act this way in front of your children.
I thought it was just my parents, or maybe just because I was a very young mother, but I have since learned it isn’t, and it’s almost all grandparents.
It’s even more frustrating because I don’t want to disrespect my parents or my elders, but have told people, including my own parents, they were disrespecting me as a parent and needed to stop it now! It’s sad cause there are certain things I would like advice on but I’m afraid if I give an inch they will take a mile.
For my personal experience I gave up on the grandparents, they were a lost cause lol. I went straight to the source; my child.
If told my son NO soda at dinner or NO candy at grandma’s or that one brownie was more than enough, instead of expecting my parent to listen to me, I expected my child to listen to me and had much better results.
After few times of seeing my child get disciplined because they chose to follow directions other than mine, their grandparents backed off too.
Remember; you can’t teach an old dog new tricks, but your kids are puppies and they can learn.
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Oh, she sounds a LOT like a typical Mexican parent unfortunately. Coke is such a go to, especially in Mexico, I see it every time I visit and ask for water, I myself was raised on it. It wasn’t until I was in my late teens that I realized it wasn’t common in other households. I stopped drinking it regularly and nowadays it’s a treat when we go out BECAUSE it’s so bad. Now that I have children I have NEVER given them soda, especially not coke. I caught my mom giving my 1st kid some when she wasn’t even 1. I was furious because I always keep their sippy cups filled and ready with either diluted juice or milk, there was no excuse. She tried to play stupid and even tried to say that my MIL did it too, which is a lie. Now I have 2 kids and if I’m not watching her like a hawk she WILL give them soda, and if course it’s coke because that’s all she drinks. It’s a constant argument because they’re 3 1/2 and 1 1/2 and she refuses to accept that not only is it bad for them but very wrong to ignore my wishes as to my children’s health and nutrition. She plays stupid every time as if she didn’t know and even tries to say that I must give it to them otherwise they wouldn’t drink it. It’s infuriating and I hate when people say it’s not that serious or a little won’t hurt. That’s NOT the point. I don’t care if it’s known thay grandparents spoil their grandkids and give them cake and ice cream for meal it’s not only wrong to ignore a parent but it’s horrible to completely disregard the health and upbringing of the children they claim to love. As a parent we know how frustrating and infuriating it is for a grandparent to take away our authority because as our parents they feel entitled and people need to stop enabling it and dismissing it as if it wasn’t a big deal. It IS. Especially because it is BAD for them. My mom says I’m bitter and cruel because I refuse to let my children have junk food but that’s far from true. My kids eat healthy and they get treats every once in a while. But I will not let them eat junk instead of meals to prove something to someone toxic. Especially when that person is morbidly obese and has immense health problems because of her unhealthy lifestyle of eating junk AND never exercising. Because my mom is narcissistic and I have learned to stand up for myself it’s easier to confront her, I’m not sure how your relationship is for you but despite your mother helping you and being amazing otherwise this is very wrong of her and you need to address it more aggressively if being patient has done nothing to resolve the problem.
Again, ignore anyone who enables behavior that you do not approve of, if it matters to YOU, if it’s a problem for YOU that’s all that matters. Who cares if everyone else says it’s not a big deal to them or that’s just what they do, it’s not acceptable and it needs to stop.
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Grandma sounds like a bitch!
Tell your mom to fuck off.