Hello…I need some advice from other mamas out there. We just sold our house and are living with my parents until we go to settlement on our new house in a few months. It’s been a few weeks, and things have been going pretty well other than the fact that my mother refuses to stop giving my daughter soda no matter how many times I tell her I don’t want them having it all the time. I’m not crazy about what my girls eat and drink. If we go out to dinner, they’re allowed to order a sprite, but at home, I like to try to stick to juice, milk, and water. It’s so bad that she now has them drinking 3 or 4 Coke’s a day. I love my mom, she’s a wonderful mother and grandmother, and I so appreciate everything she has done for us and continues to do for us, but my children are now starting to refuse to drink anything other than soda. She will literally see them with water and say, “don’t you want a soda instead?” I have asked her continuously to stop doing this, and every time she says okay but then continues to do it. We have no other option but to live here until we go to settlement, so it’s not a simple as just leaving. Am I overreacting? I don’t feel like I am, but I could be wrong. If I’m not, what do you all recommend I do? Thanks!
Soda is the worst thing you can give a kid to drink. I’m with you on this. I would move ASAP if you can or take all the soda in the house and dump it down the sink. I mean, I would dump it lol
Put your foot down. Yell I don’t care those are your kids and she needs to respect you
Defiently not over reacting. If she gives them a soda take it off then. She will soon stop doing it. Those are your kids not hers
I’d dump all the soda in the house 
if you’re repeatedly telling hee
3 to 4 sodas a day is a lot, even for an adult in my opinion. You need to put your foot down. There’s nothing wrong with the occasional soda but they are drinking a lot!
Spray her with a spray bottle when she does it.
When she gives it to her pour it out. Maybe she will get the hint and stop doing it then. If you aren’t here it will be hard to know if or when she does it. If you are seeing her do it then definitely put a stop to it. Your child your choice.
How old are your kids ? You should be able to tell your kids not to drink it even if she offers .
Deff put your foot down. My sons grandparents were doing it and it was staining his teeth. The dentist bitched at me over it so I bitched to them. Ever since I said how the dentist is charting the problem they stopped giving him it
As someone who drinks soda regularly, I’d nip it in the ass really fast. Take it from them and explain you said no. You are mom, she is not. I wish I didn’t start drinking soda because it has become a daily thing and it does impact your body pretty rough.
What mom says, goes. Not what grandma says.
I’d just pour it all down the sink until she got the picture
Take it and dump it when she gives it to them. Intercept it everytime and don’t back down. When she says wouldn’t you rather have pop . Step up and say no . Don’t give the kids a chance to answer .
I would literally bin it every time I see them with it.
Wish my mom was still alive. Pick your battles, you’re not gonna live with her forever. 
#unpopularopinion🤷
Just tell her don’t give it to them your the mother stand up for your self
I only let my LO drink lemonade or Fanta occasionally. Other than that she also has water, milk or juice. There is no need to give them soda it’s to sugary and can send them hyper. I don’t think your over re acting I tell my parents she isn’t allowed it and they agree. I never had it often as a child and rarely drink it either. Xx
Can you just say no? I mean they are your kids. Any time she asks or suggests just simply say no and do not let them have it. I don’t see how it’s gotten to 3-4 a day. That’s outrageous
Soda is one of the worst things you can get kids hooked on tell her to knock it off or she won’t be able to watch them try to spend more time away from the house and away from her or keep kids in your room if you see them with a soda go and dump it out. Hopefully she will get tired of arguing with you and wasting soda and stop.
Did she force feed you soda growing up too lol…
I understand your concern. I would suggest you move to an apartment until you close on new house
Juice can be just as bad depending on how much is given as well with milk. Why not sugar and caffeine free soda. Compromise. I didnt allow sodas now my kids drink ungodly amounts now that they are teens and are never home oh and energy drinks
In my own experience, you can’t really stop it lol. I’m the exact same way. Like literally to a T. My oldest daughter can have a root beer or a sprite or like an orange or grape pop when we go out to eat and maybe once every couple weeks I let her pick out a caffeine free Shasta at the store. Otherwise no pop. My mom however let’s her have pop. Not ever like a lot, but more than id like. After so many times of trying to make her stop, I finally just gave up and met her in the middle. She can have pop when she’s with my mom but never more than like half a cup full a day. 3-4 cans of pop a day for a child is horrible tho. Maybe you can talk to your mom and tell her your reasoning for not wanting them to have it and then meet her in the middle like I did. Say, 1 pop a day and no more. Spread it out thru out the day.
Put your foot down. She doesn’t pay the dentist! Say no to soda! My kids get a soda maybe once a month!
I would tell her and the kids that soda is not ok, even bring up the studies about how horrible it is. Then pour it all down the sink. Then if she buys more, keep dumping it out. You are the mom and you make the rules. If she wants soda she can drink it when your kids are not around.
Maybe get the mini can of caffeine free pop so if they have pop there it’s a small amount and caffeine free. Or give more options then just juice water and milk.
Honestly at first i said…
She gma lol…you’re going to get your voice hoarse trying to tell them what they’re allowed to do. Dude…your kids TEETH. It will affect the adult teeth coming in.
But 3 sodas day…for a kid? Good God. Obesity, mental stability( caffeine intake too high for size)
Girl you best stomp that foot harder
Get rid of one of them. Soda or your mom. Sounds like she don’t care what u say.
How old are they? My daughter is 3 and she refuses to drink pop because she knows she’s not allowed to have it unless mommy lets her have a sip on very very very rare occasions. Tell them they aren’t allowed to have it, YOURE the mom you make the rules
Make her watch a documentary on exactly why soda is so fucking terrible, especially for children. Then ask her if she’s still okay with literally poisoning your kids. Maybe that’ll get the point across.
well I think they are your kids, your rules and you should have boundaries, time to speak with her, let her know that these are your kids and you do not want them having soda - period and ot please respect your parenting wishes …
Hide the sofa do no o r finds it
Oh my…now maybe a small once a day… But 3 or 4… Damn that makes my insides hurt… Start playing videos on how bad sodas are… I am a grandmom and that is one thing my kids and grandkids are not allowed to have… Every now and again it is ok… But everyday it is horrible…
I would tell your mother in front of the children I have told you I do not want my kids drinking pop all the time now if necessary if you don’t stop we just might have to move to a hotel until the house Settles I am adamant I do not want you giving my kids pop these are my kids I wish you would respect my wishes.
Take it away from them. Start pouring it out every time you see them have it. If she hands them another one, pour it out. If you want to be that strict on it, which is completely fine by the way, then stick to it. Don’t give in when she hands them one. If she’s the one buying it, she’ll get upset at how much you throw it out when they receive it. 
even if she is helping you out, she should still respect your wishes on your own kids.
I’d get up and take it away and give them water. Tell her if she continues to waste her own money, that’s fine but you’ll pour out each and every one
Compromise with flavored sparkling water instead.
I’m anti-soda for my boys, but my dad and I compromised with the water. My oldest loves the Trader Joe’s brand that’s lime flavored.
3 or 4 sodas is literally 100s of grams of sugar a day. … Put your foot down girl. your mom or not she needs to respect your rules with your children.
If she isn’t going to listen to you. And moving out isn’t an option. I would be chucking out all soda drinks, when she gets more… pour them out ect.
My kids do not get soft drink ever!! Maybe at a birthday party and only a small cup!
I don’t think your over reacting at all!!
My kids get like a soda a week and it’s always caffeine free. My oldest didn’t get soda when he wanted till he was old enough to buy it lol
I would tell her one soda a day that’s it. Maybe get some caffeine free soda
I feel like you had to know before you all moved in that she allows the kids to drink soda and get away with a lot more than you as the parent does! I would have highly taken that into consideration before moving in with her bc now your kinda stuck, do you have somewhere else to go!?! If not I’d say suck it up and your kids are going to be wild and off schedule when you do move into your new place and it’ll take a while to get them back on your schedule!!
Grandma’s… Can’t live with them, can’t live without them…they come in handy😉
You’re in a shit spot. Not much you can do. If you make to big of a stink it could damage your relationship with her or even your current housing stability.
Talk to her, maybe compromise like not at meals and never after 5pm.
Smaller cans and maybe just make a cap on number of cokes can have.
This is her way of “spoiling” the kids it’s definitely less harmful than other ways like tons of candy or ignoring bigger rules. Sometimes have to give a little and compromise. Sit kiddos down with you all so they see you both discussing and ageeeing to it. They may be too young to understand all of it but never too early to demonstrate those skills and seeing mommy at work!
Counter her. Any time you see them with soda say “that’s not good for you. I want you to be healthy. Drink this instead.” Dump the soda down the drain. If she gets mad tell her you don’t want soda to become a habit. You want your kids to be healthy. They’ll fight it. Grandma will sneak it. But stay firm. Taste everything they drink. A lot of soda comes clear now. Eventually shell get sick of the waste & stop. Or when you get your new house she can be out of their lives.
My kids at home cannot even drink a whole soda… If they do get one it usually stays in the fridge and never gets finished… The dentist helped also… He explained how horrible soda is on the teeth and when my oldest son had his teeth worked this last visit the dentist could tell he had been drinking more sodas and had cavities… It hurt getting them filled… My son stopped drinking them at school and work and went to water… He doesn’t do pain well at all…
Start doing things she asks you not to 
Pour all the soda out as you catch the kids with one. Broke my husband’s family.
Buy the mini sodas like the sprites. And let them have one every other day for dinner , but tell them no other kind of juices for that day. It must be water.
You are definitely not overreacting. Just Google the effect soda has on children and thousands of articles pop up (obesity, diabetes, aggression, bad behavior, poor eating habits etc) show your mom these, if she still doesn’t listen, throw out all the sodas. Your children’s health is more important than her feelings or opinion. You are their mother, not her. You make the rules.
The disrespect is crazy on this thread! “Hide the soda”? “Pour it all out until she listens?” TUH. She’s a grown woman staying at her mother’s house. If this is that big of an issue for her, she can either try new ways of communicating or pay to stay at a hotel. Growing up, we ALWAYS got goodies at grandma’s house. This sounds like a temporary situation anyways.
That’s SOOOO much soda for anyone ESPECIALLY a child. Keep telling her to stop and to respect YOU as their mother! Honestly though I couldn’t handle that I’d be finding another place to stay!
Dump them! Stand up for how you feel. It’s not healthy
Give them sparkling water.
If you cant get your mom to stop then go to a motel .
Soda isn’t the best for their teeth by all means. My mom done it,but she listens now. I put my foot down. She only gets 8oz of soda a day and she gets her teeth brushed 3 times a day. You’re the mother though, it’s your child. She’ll most likely use the excuse well I’m her grandmother, tell her “yes,you are but I’m her mother and she needs to learn to obey what I say.” If you don’t put your foot down your daughter won’t listen to you. An in my case I knew we wasn’t going to get anywhere because when I wasn’t around she still got it so I said only a certain amount and it’s been obeyed. She listens to me and grandparents still get to spoil her with sugar.
Who give kids 3 to 4 cans of coke? What’s wrong with her? Shit I would take the can away from my kids and pour it out in front of her. She doesnt want to listen sounds like her personal problem. When my kids were younger I didn’t allow them to drink soda. Water, juice, punch and milk when family came over they all knew no kids drank soda in my house even if thier parents said yes. I’d turn around and stay no not in this house. Till this day my kids dont drink soda. Even when out they’ll stick with water or tea.
Honestly you’re screwed I went through the same stuff and I had to deal with my mother contradicting everything I told my spawn and I was screwed until I got away from her and my spine and I haven’t lived with her for several years and I’m still dealing with the damage that was done when we lived with her
My mother or mother in law cant do that due to two of my kids have type 1 diabetes their blood sugars will go through the roof. Luckily my mother always got diet even before I had kids and my mother in law sticks with flavored sparkling water but all my family knows what they have to avoid so it makes it simple but if they dont have anything I always buy juices and stuff they need. Grandmas can be annoying at times but hey my kiddos absolutely adore them.
Here’s what I would say. “mom don’t you know how unhealthy soda is? It’s mostly sugar, which is bad enough, but there are also acids and other ingredients that are very, very bad for all of us but especially the kids. Why would you want my kids to drink that instead of water? Please respect my wishes on this one, I love you.”
I buy chocolate yahoo and Capri suns and water and make it available. The kids chose that over soda every time
Adults shouldn’t be drinking 3 or 4 cokes a day let alone a child!! I would pour every single one out.
Its 2020 your mom and the whole damn world knows drinking soda every day is the worst thing for your health. Tell your kids they aren’t allowed to have it and if she gives it to them anyways take the cup and dump it out. If your mom doesn’t get the memo throw all the bottles away. Maybe she’ll realize to stop giving them it when it’s all going to waste the fact that shes telling them to drink soda instead of water is disturbing
Throw the soda out when she gives them to your kids. That’s so fucking disrespectful of her.
It’s not good for them to have that many. We had to do the same with family and even now that they are teens they get UTI bad if they have too many. It took my daughter going to hospital to get it thru to them. Stand your ground. And yes if she continues pour it out. Your kids whether it’s her house or not.
I just have to say I grew up only drinking soda, for the most part. It’s a terrible habit! It absolutely ruined my teeth! And it’s very hard to learn to want water over soda. I wouldn’t think your over reacting. I wont be letting my kid have soda young. He will as he gets older I’m sure but not as a kid. Anytime the kids have one I would take it and dump it. Informing the kid of your rules. And informing your mother everytime as well. You are their mom. What you say goes no matter what. No matter who’s house it is.
I don’t allow my kids to have soda not even when we go out or parties , nothing . My parents and everyone else respects my decision. You should have a talk with her about it . That’s Disrespectful her going around you like that . I understand one here and there to "spoil " them but not all the time.
Give them a drink before she does if she enquires wouldn’t you rather have Sosa then have your sat infront of the children too she and they must learn the horrors if sod over your chosen drink do it often/ all the time they each will learn happy Mum/ happy ho e xx
Continue to tell her no, and if she keeps doing it and you see your kids with it just take it off them and tip it down the sink
Well since she continues to not respect ur request for your kids then start dumping the poo down the sink until she realizes u mean business🤷♀️
If you can’t train Grandma you will have to train the kids. Tell them that if you catch them drinking it they will lose a privilege of some sort and then follow through with it.
Keep telling her and take the soda from them. They are your children.
Ask her to by them Būbly or Lacroix… it’s flavored but still water…plus it’s carbonated like soda
She doesn’t respect you. Tell her that if she continues you’ll start throwing out every soda you see in the house.
Soda isn’t really good for there tummy or teeth… I have 4 kids 18,16,8 and 2… My kids I have never had a problem with obeying me and I never put my kids in a situation where my parents contradict my self as I 100 trust my parents as they did a great job raising my brother and I so my kids all grew up… Grandmas house Grandmas rules… My House My Rules… even with my enlaws it’s the same… so my kids where never in a conflicted environment. I have no issues with my teenagers they are great and give us no problems and my younger kids the same. And they all follow the different rules at different houses with no problems or issues.
See them with it pour it out. Not hard to do. When you get back on your own and they dont want to drink anything else then let them go without until they decide they really want to drink lol. This is not hard.
At that point everytime soda was purchased and brought into the home I would pour every single one out i know it’s a hard situation but once she literally sees all her money going down the drain hopefully she will at least get the hint
Tell her you will send her the dentist bills and expect her to pay for any cavity fill/tooth extraction that may be necessary given that much acid and sugar on their teeth. And that she is setting them up for obesity issue by normalizing that much pop intake a day. 3 to 4 a day!?!?! Thats insane!
Take the soda from your kids. Tell them that you’re the boss and not their grandmother.
With your mom, stop “telling” her and raise your voice and YELL!
Sometimes you’re only heard when you’re yelling.
My Dad did that and got upset with me every time I said something !
If you have to stay there, i suggest maybe staying out of the house all day, as much as possible, up until bedtime routine? I personally would just refuse them anyway, toss em out ass soon as she hands it to them.
Keep giving it to them one after the other until they get bloated and throw up
I have said no on over rules mama. Your kids your rules.
No. I would explain to her that they are your kids and you have the only say. Explain that pop is terrible for a child’s body, development and teeth. Tell her it can cause serious health problems as well and obesity. Be the “mean” mom if you have to and stay on her ass about it and take it from your kids when you see they been given pop. I would be all over my parents or anyone if they gave my kids pop. And something caffeinated? No. Kids do not need caffeine. It is addicting and can cause so many complications in the long run. Especially if abused.
I’d pour every single soda down the sink. Evverytime she gives them one, say loud enough for her to hesr this “mommy said no soda” firmly. And then pour it out. I’d have a discussion with her about her going behind your back and disrespecting your rules. Get a poster board and write down your family rulles for your children. Chorse, homework, playtime, etc but also include no soda and put it where EVERYONE can see it
Tell her no it is not an option. Or I’d get petty and take all pop out of the house because no means no.
Honest soda isn’t good in your tummy special to young kids tell them not to take it they will be sick
She can respect your rules or not see the kids.
I have similar issues with my mother and tbh you can only ask her for so long. Her behavior will teach your children that they do not need to listen to you and cause more stress than nessacary. Even if you live with your mom, she doesnt need to be able to influence them in that way. With my mother, whom we live with, the time my daughter spends alone with her is very limited. This way I can better filter what is said and done around my daughter.
If she flat out refuses to listen then when she buys more Soda, either throw it out or hide it and when she says something say okay and then continue to do it until she stops
As a Grandma I know it is easy to spoil your grandchildren. I however do believe that their parents rules apply. I may not always agree but my grandchildren will never know. I think that consistency is best for children. Have a talk to your Mom and tell her you do not want to confuse your children and the rule is no soda. Perhaps you can tell her that once a week they may have some soda perhaps on a Saturday or Sunday and only one glass. Also explain to her that when you move to your own home in a few months that you don’t want the children to have to readjust to rules that should never have changed. Good luck
Back off and let her enjoy being a grandma! You control your house and give her the respect to control hers!!
Tell your kids not to drink the coke… Take it away and dump it down the drain
Wait until one gets a cavity and blame the pop (sorry from Ohio here) and maybe it’ll turn them off to it. Wish I have better advice but sounds like grandma is gonna do what grandma wants to do 
When she gives them soda walk over take it and dump it right in front of her and give them water problem solved and look at her and say your want to waste your money well down the drain it goes
You cant control your mother. You can only control your own kids. Tell them they can have x amount a week and that’s it. If you catch them drinking it outside of that they are punished. She will quickly see you arent playing and so will they. Until then you will just be talking to talk.
Sit the whole family down, gently say that everyone needs to give their full attention and listen to what you’re going to say. Then say to the kids that the new rule is that pop is only allowed on special occasions (dining out). Look at gma and say no more pop for the kids in this house. Look at kids and say that you will take it away. Then explain why pop is poor for health.
If you cant respect my wishes you cant see my children, period.
My children are autistic and I “try” not to give them excessively sugary stuff🙄 …but Coke is the one thing they aren’t aloud to have. I think she’s being unreasonable
Let her know if she cant respect your rules then when you move out you wont be able to let them come over because you cant trust her with them. Your kids your rules. She can come see them at your house.