I need some serious advice. I don’t ever reach out to anyone… I’m just so stressed out and tired of it. I haven’t spoken to my mother in almost a year because of her being a drug addict, toxic, and in a relationship with a sex offender. She literally lives across the world from me but decided today was the day to call me private over 100 times while I was at work until I answered. Now she’s sending me old pictures of my ex-boyfriend and me, which doesn’t matter because I’ve been married for four years, acting as if she’s going to post it online or holding it over my head. I have no idea what to do anymore. I called the cops in her area to tell her to leave me alone. I don’t know what to do anymore.
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Block her, and change ur settings so u cannot rec blocked/private calls
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Block her on everything her number on Facebook block calls from private numbers.
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Block her…my moms blocked for the same reason.
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Block private calls or get a different phone number. Sounds like the only way to not be bothered by her by phone.
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Block her from everything.
Change your number.
Make a new Facebook under a new email with a different name/nickname.
Inform your husband of what the psycho is doing.
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Change social media names to a nickname (if she makes another account it will make it harder for her to find your profile) and block her account. Block her on all social platforms and mobile number. If you have to, go to the extreme of changing your number. And if any of your family still talk to her, put them on restricted viewing through social media and tell them that if they give your new number to her, you will take legal action against them (they are enabling her to abuse and blackmail you and law enforcement very much don’t like blackmail little own harassment.)
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Sounds like she may still be using drugs
No one should ever block your Mother or disrespect her in any way.
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You can help by taking her and advicing her to seek help is not about cutting people out. She is your mum and bought you to the world
You have no idea what this mum has done so you can’t say that Linda Bradley sometimes a parent does things that you can never forgive them for it’s awful to say but it’s true
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I am sorry but I think she needs help my Mother would never have done that to me.
Restraining order and block her.
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Why haven’t you blocked her yet? Seems like that would have been your first step.
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Change your number and have it unlisted.
Try to take away whatever “reward” she gets from this bad behavior. Tell her she can do what she decides, because you are not responsible for her actions. Focus on yourself and your family. SET BOUNDARIES and keep her at a distance!
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Block her from your phone if you need to. Block her on your social media. Then just let it go. You can’t control her or what she does, so don’t wear yourself out trying. It sounds like you’re good with your life as it is, so just be done. Hugs to you.
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Tell her not to contact you and block her. If she uses a different number, block it.
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Is she serious about posting them or is she trying to bribe you for money? You say she is a drug addict, so it wouldn’t surprise me if that’s what it is for. I would ignore her, block and continue with your life, unless you think the photos ccould do some harm?
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If she can’t push her threats then she can’t collect ransom. Whatever she may publish, it won’t reflect that badly onto you. Not allowing her abuse is a kind act. Do whatever it takes to ride it out without engaging in the drama.
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My mom is toxic too .I blocked her and changed my number
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Print the phone records. Block her call and file for a restraining order. Sounds like she has some serious mental Issues not being controlled. You can’t do anything but ignore her
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I would simple tell her leave me alone and stop calling and stop sending you pictures or call the cops or something and keep on blocking her numbers. If you don’t want her in you’re life make a point to her that you don’t want her in you’re life.
If you feel uncomfortable talking to your Mother then block her, get a PPO if you can or simply tell her to leave you alone. As far as sending pics, tell her to quit sending them because you are married and there is no reason why she should be sending them to you. I had a situation like this except with another family member that had photos of my 1st marriage. I told them to just go ahead and burn the pics
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Try to ignore her change your number. If your happily married and your that far away from her block the negativity out completely and don’t feel bad for it. Stay happy with your new husband and leave that behind. You already said the pictures don’t matter so she can’t hold anything over you. If she gives you anymore hassle ring the police again but I would block her on everything if you can x
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I would just ignore her. I mean they are old photos that was over four years ago. I wouldn’t let her hold any power over you. Explain to your husband what shes doing and make a game plan. All she wants is a reaction
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I would lwt your mother know until she can your changing your number so that she can’t harass you anymore, that you would contact her every once in awhile to check up on her or mail her letters, maybe then she would straighten her life up if she wants to be the mother she should be.
Tell you husband about the situation and let him talk to her.
Let her,it is not a disgtace if you had a b/f in the past.It only means you are capable of giving love!Tel your hubby and block her,good luck
Have a talk with your Husband tell him what your mom threatened to do .Then tell your mom to get lost .Change your phone number
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Change your number or block hers.
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Block her number and then change your number and block her from social media and if your friends n family give her the new number … time to block them for not respecting your wishes.
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Get your number changed
Block her number on your phone. Block her on all social media platforms and concentrate on your life 
simply don’t make it possible for her to contact you in any way.
Don’t answer her calls and block her.
The end.
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Change your phone number
Get a no communication order on her if she communicates with u no matter what form it is and u call the cops and u have that order on her she will be arrested i did this with my ex and it worked…
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Change your number if it is that stressful or block her number
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I say looking for a reaction, ignore her and don’t feed into the insanity
Block her number and move on.
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File restraining orders in both your state and your moms if possible
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Get a new number and email. Blocking a number allows them to still leave an voice mail.
Its easy you block her number and you go in your phone and change the settings under calls and press it and it will automatically block unknown or blocked calls
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Good for you! It takes a lot of strength to cut off a toxic relationship… I’m proud of you!! Keep up the good work 
It sounds like you’re doing everything you should… as for her contacting you at work… see if your IT dept can help… hang in there… it gets better xoxoxo
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After my “mother” called my boyfriend and our daughter a racial slur I had to change my number, move, and block my “mother” on every platform possible. Every now and then she will still make fake accounts just to tell me that I am a piece of shit, a bitch, and threatens to take me to court to see my kids. I stopped giving her the attention she so desperately was seeking. Let her do what she wants. In the end the people who’s opinion actually matters will already know the situation at hand. Don’t stress! Cutting off my birth mother was the best decision that I ever made! Good luck and find comfort in the family that you have created:heart:
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Talk to your husband n show him so if anything happens he already know don’t be a fool to your past because you don’t live there anymore 
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Change ur phone number
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Block her from calling you. send her a letter stating what her behavior has done and what you expect from her and make it clear if she can not do as requested you will have to totally block her out of your life as well any grandchildren you may have because you nor they need to be exposed to her toxic behavior that occurs while she is on drugs.
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Leave it alone, let your boss and husband know now and be done with the situation. You can’t change her but you can control how you react. Don’t let her control or shake your inner peace. It’s not worth it
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End communication like you already have. Seems like she may be on drugs again. She needs help and its not your problem you are her child. As for the photos who gives a shit your married and moved on your husband knows he wasn’t to first man to date you. So thats what matters worst case change your number and name on Facebook. And if she calls your job have them say you don’t work their. Anyone else tell them the situation and have them call your cell or test you and your job as an emergency and stste who it is and from where. Sadly mom or not shes toxic right now and probably will always be. Love dont hate but love from afar.
I agree block her and if fb friend block her there as well…let your husband know as well so he doesnt get surprised of the photos
Block her on your phone and from social media. Don’t answer the phone from numbers that you don’t recognize and don’t accept anyone’s friend request that you don’t know. Especially with her living so far away, this one’s easy.
just let her post em lol why would that matter? just laugh. youre obviously happy with your current SO, and it would in no way effect your new relationship! she can just make a fool out of herself and you can ignore her calls. she will eventually stop i hope
If I were you I’d just ignore her. I’ve had people try to guilt me with photos and my past and sometimes it’s just easier to not acknowledge them at all. They wanna feel like they have power over you. Take that away and they have nothing 
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Find an Al- anon group and follow what they tell you
They know that song!.
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Block her number tell her u moved and give a fake address that way u won’t get anything from her anymore
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Change your phone numbers
You can download an app to block blocked calls if your phone will not let you. Ignore her. Misery loves company and is always looking for a host. Don’t let her get you down.
Block her, she may be your mother, but she is toxic and you are allowed to protect yourself.
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My mother is similar, minus the drugs. Down to being married to a sex offender, which is also yet another reason we do not speak and she does not see my daughter. I haven’t seen it spoken to her in over a year. She posts things on her Facebook about how I hate her and she has no idea why, blah blah blah. Poor me stuff. I don’t see any of it, because I have her blocked, as well as a few other family members who followed suit as she did. My grandmother just tells me everything, lol. My mother does the same thing, she shared a christmas picture of myself and my ex, while I was married to my husband.
People like this are out to cause turmoil in your life. The toxicity isn’t worth any of the stress and emotional hardship that reflects on you. Cut your ties, yet again. Unfortunately that might mean blocking out family who has anything to do with her. Which hurts. Myself, I don’t even get to see or have relationships with my niece and nephews because of my mother, but it’s also healthier for my own child. Honestly, the best things for us as sane healthy individuals, are the hardest things for us to do. I would also have a discussion with your husband, just to warm him if he doesn’t already understand the situation.
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She’s a special kind of crazy. Take the advise from others here block her on everything.
You don’t have to do any of that blocking or filing stuff. I ALWAYS make the people threatening me live up to their promise. First I straight up tell everyone it affects by coming clean with them. Then I go to the threat, in your case if you don’t know how to reach them, a public social media post works. Ask them if that’s all they got because if it is, they got nothing. Never let anyone gain power over you. Sending good vibes and 
your way.
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I agree with Janet Brossart, YOU take her power over you away. Do not allow her to fck with you! 
Her.
I have a very manipulative mother who now lives with me due to her dementia but that doesn’t mean that I put up with any of her bullsht. It’s your life, live it accordingly! 
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Block her number no need for the cops to be involved but remember when she is in the dirt that you will regret not talking. I mean I understand that if she is toxic but have you tried to mend the relationship
Try to block her or change your phone number. An injunction can be taken against her. Apply to a court .
Don’t respond. Just block. You can block private calls from cell phones as well!
I would completely ignore it… once you’re happy all that matters with your current life and new hubby
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So sorry to hear 
… stay strong