You’re not wrong, it’s not about her it’s about you and what you’re comfortable with. I gave birth on my own because I get too annoyed at everyone and just wanna focus when I’m in labour so that’s what I did. I don’t even know if anyone was mad because I simply don’t care, it’s not about what everyone else wants or expects.
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Tell your midwife /obstetrician your feelings and then tell mum that she won’t be allowed in.
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Ugh. Grrr. This bothers me so much. No, you are not wrong. Your husband Belongs in there, Not her. I have this exact relationship with my mother. Tell her NO and do not feel bad about it. Just be at peace. You are an adult too and it’s OK to make your own choices just like she gets to.
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Coming from someone that was in the same situation…… stick to your guns. My mom is very much the same. I had an at home birth and delivery. My mother was very much not a fan and wasn’t present per my choice. It was the best choice per my situation and the family dynamic. It’s your personal time and space. Do what will be least stressful and make you the most happy. It’s no longer you but you and your child. Your child could feel the effects of your environment.
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Tell her that this is a special time you want to spend with your husband, the baby’s father and also that they only allowed one birthing partner because of Covid. She is welcome to see the baby once he or she is born and she will be the first one to meet the baby then.
Stick to NO!! Your ungrateful Mom sounds like she needs a broom…
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Is an unmotherly BRAT!! That’s a time for just u and ur husband.
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I would tell her that you’re an adult and you said no and that is it. She can either act like an adult and accept that or she can move on out of you’re life. You’re not going to be treated that way and bullied by her any longer.
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Youre not wrong for this. Stand your ground and enjoy that intimate moment for you and your partner. It isnt for anyone else to share unless you decide to. Also she sounds like she’s throwing a tantrum, do not tolerate that and let her stress you out it’s an important time for you to nurture your mental well being.
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No. You are not wrong.
Stand your ground.
Have her on FaceTime if anything.
Set your boundaries and stick to them. Ive dealt with this same issue with control and manipulation, don’t give in. When you give in, they know they can overstep your boundaries and get away with it. Which isn’t fair to you or your peace. This is your child, your delivery, you are not selfish or wrong for wanting only your husband in the room. If she thinks otherwise that’s on her, bottom line is on the day you deliver, only your husband will be in the room and she will either have to accept it or don’t. You’re grown… you don’t have to take that kind of stuff from her.
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My family always does dad in the room. B4 covid you could have an extra person. My mom didnt argue with my sisters either time when they wanted to stay. My mom and I dont get along but she knows my fear of needles so she stayed thru all of my ivs despite the fact she wasn’t going to be in the room during labor.
Did you want her in the room when the baby was conceived?
Did she want to be in the room when it was conceived?
It should be a ‘no’, to both, in which case, she has no right or expectation to be in the room when you deliver. Those rooms are small. Doctors need space, especially if, Goddess forbid, there’s a hiccup. Your husband, the man who helped make the baby (literally) should be extended that privilege, and she should be thrilled he wants to be involved.
It’s a “her problem”, not a “you problem”, and she needs to be told (firmly, but politely) that she needs to stop acting like a toddler (who didn’t get the green and blue truck for his birthday because you got him the blue and green), and back off.
She can hold him if, and when, you’re ready for visitors. The process should be a bonding experience for you, Hubby and baby at first - grands will hafta wait.
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You have a right to have whomever you want in the delivery room.
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I don’t have the greatest relationship with my mum but she was with me when my son was born
Do not feel bad. Your husband made the baby with u so only right he’s there at the birth. Your choice matters. She can just wait her turn to meet baby or take her negative attitude elsewhere. U got this.
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Your husband should be the one in there she didn’t help make the baby fck her and don’t feel bad…SHE should feel bad shame on her
Dad should be there before grandma
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No you are not wrong. If she’s not supportive why woukd you?
Let her pout…
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Stick to your own wishes
She needs to repect you and your husbend period. On your wishes .
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When did giving birth become a spectator sport?
You have every right to designate who you wish to be in the room at such a vulnerable moment. As for her whining, if you can’t turn a deaf ear, maybe it’s time to decrease contact with her?
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It is not her kid so not her choice. Plus your husband should definitely get to watch the birth of his child. Period
As someone who has been through this exactly. Go with what you want. My mil and my s/o was supposed to be in the room with my first child. My mom guilted her into changing so she could be in there and I had no idea since i was in and out of it and by the time i noticed i had just had my son and she took 1 picture and left to the waiting room. It was verh uncomfortable for me and was not happy at how she was.
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This is your special time, just blame it on the pandemic not allowing more than one 
it’s not like you’re going to kick the person out that help you create this beautiful blessing. I would feel the same 
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The last thing you need when you are giving birth is someone who stresses you out. You are not obligated to allow her in the room because she is your mother. It sounds like you’ve expressed that you don’t want her there but she continues to push. She is not respecting your boundaries. You shouldn’t have to do this but, maybe tell her due to Covid they aren’t letting anyone else in 
It’s a special moment for u and ur husband and new baby she should not been in there unless you WANT her in there…I alone let me husband in there with me and our baby
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She should respect your wishes and allow it just to be you and your husband. If she was at my hospital, my nurses would have kicked her out. My nurses told me that it’s mama and baby first. They told me it’s my hospital room and I had the right to keep whoever in there. And your nurses are going to say the same thing. If your mom’s not careful, the nurses will have her banned from the hospital completely. And then it will be your mom’s fault on her own.
Dad before your mom. I’m a grandma 5 times an only was in for 2 because my daughter wanted me there. Things were different in 95 an 99.
No. That just proves she shouldn’t be there. Don’t let her take away YOUR decision.
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Your comfort should be 1st priority you will be doing all the work.that being said as a mom and a grandma i can see why your mom wants to be there for you and baby she wants to support you although she sounds over bearing there are alot worse things than a mother wanting to support her child grown or not.
You can always get the nurse to have your back and be the bad guy. They can tell her to stay out and she doesn’t need to know.
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No you are not wrong.
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it is your day and personal event
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YOU’RE body, YOU’RE life, YOU’RE choice nobody else’s 
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“No, Mom, you cannot be there. My husband will be with me. There will be no further discussion of this. Try it, and I will hang up the phone. Do you understand?” And when she starts in again. “No, Mom. Goodbye.”
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YOU get to decide who YOU want in that room. Period! I had my daughters dad in the room and no one else and informed them that I would NOT feel guilty over who I allow to spend that moment with.
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It is your choice as to who you let be in there with you!! I was lucky enough to be present with my daughter in law but they allowed me, her mom, and my son to be in there. However she had to be taken to the OR to be delivered c-section because my granddaughter decided to hide behind her pelvis and was refusing to come out…lol Then it was just dad (my son). But it is up to you!! Mom will get over it!!
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You and your husband made the baby together he should be the one that is there with you not your mom.
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She’s being a big brat, no you are not wrong, limited access to you and your family until she accepts boundaries and treats you with respect , if not, cut her off until she shows change behavior
I’d tell her tough sh*t. When I had my kids I told the nurses when I wanted visitors and who to allow in to see me.
Your choice, not hers!
no you are not wrong. she is acting like a spoil brat
No I did not what my mom be there at all
She’s wrong! You n your husband need to do this!!
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Your husband should be there first, now if you didn’t have husband it might be ok if thats what you wanted and if you didnt that would be ok too its your choice , don’t let her bully you.
Tell your nurses to tell her due to Covid precautions only the parents can be in there🙌🏽 if you wanna skip the stress of yelling anyway. The nurses will take the blow for you. We had visitors when I wasn’t ready after having my first (my husband was very excited and I thought I wouldn’t care) my nurse could tell I was overwhelmed and nicely made it obvious that the visitors had to leave, and they did.
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it is your birth not hers. You have a right at who is there with you. Getting stressed like this is not good for you or the baby. She is being a control freak. This is your choice and if you said NO then stick with it and tell your doctor what is going on and let him or her tell your mom to stop.
It is your right to have who you want with you during birthing,Ithink it should be your husband/.
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Your mom needs to not only not be in the delivery room but I would limit how often someone like that is around my child once born. She sounds a few fruit loops short of a full bowl.
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Stick to your guns…don’t let her bully you
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With Covid, I thought only 1 person is allowed. The husband should be in there, it is his child coming into the world
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You should just tell your mom if she doesn’t stop then she can’t even see the baby. It should be just you and your husband.
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Stick to your guns! SHE is being the immature brat!
She needs to grow her old self up, your husband should be there if that’s what you and him want. Your mom needs to sit her but down and learn her place. She sounds toxic.
Girl, no you are not in the wrong. It should always just be the wife and husband. This is you’re child, not hers. And don’t allow her to make you feel like shit. When you feel a way, you’re child feels the same. Of she can’t respect you’re wishes, then she shouldn’t be allowed around you or child til she can mind. I know that my seem hard. But, in the end it will be worth it all. Right now, everything just needs to be about mom, baby, and dad.
Your choice don’t let her pressure you shes being ridiculous
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Your husband is the one that belongs in there not your mother it’s yours and your husband’s child is coming not your mother’s
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Stand your ground, she is totally wrong to do this to you, this is your time and she should not intrude!!!
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From a Husbands Point Of view, You need to tell her you are the Mom. (Unless you live in her house or she Supports you) Your Kid! Your wishes will be obeyed or she won’t have contact. From Food to Spankings your kid!
Your not wrong and she is being a brat
Nope your body your body your Labour x
Mama’s in charge…mom to be, that is.
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Absloutely not!! This is a time for you and your Hubby. DO NOT ALLOW YOUR MOM OR ANY ONE ELSE BE A BULLY TO YOU!
Your Mom needs to learn to have RESPECT FOR YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND! Stick with your choice, tell your Dr whats going on, do not let her disrupt this Special Day, and if she continued, have her escorted out of your room
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This is supposed to be one of the most amazing days of your life. It’s not about her and she needs to understand that. It’s your choice who you want in the room! I’m so sorry you’re going through this. 
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Make sure you tell the hospital attendant what you decide. They can help too
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I didn’t want anyone in the room with me apart from my husband. It is such a intimate, personal and private moment in your life. You are raw and vulnerable. I understand how you feel. I know my mother would have loved to be there but she respected my wishes. In the end I had an emergency cesarean so no one but hubby was allowed anyway. But I dont think you should feel bad for having that very special moment between you and your husband.
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If she’s acting like this before the event, imagine what her being in the room could be like. You are 100% in charge of who is or isn’t in the room with you.
Shame on your mom…she is bullying you…you and your husband are entitled to this precious moment…
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You have every right to have who you want in the room. Or don’t want in the room. And if that means your mom has to wait in the waiting room. Or at home. So be it. The birth of a child is a special thing and should be for the parents. I had kinda the same with my mom. She was there in the room for my first. But with my second and third I told everyone I just wanted it to be me and hubby. My mom was very upset with me… but I told her I needed her to take care of my other kid(s)while I was busy giving birth. So I knew they were okay. Stand your ground. Don’t back down. If she gets upset oh well. She is an adult and needs to act like it.
Congratulations on your bundle of joy by the way.
I had both my husband and my mother in the delivery room giving birth both times. And I’m glad she was there because she died 7 months after my second child was born.
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No it’s a special time for you and your husband
She’s throwing a tantrum. Don’t feed into it
No you are not wrong. Stick to your guns no matter how much she yells or complains. This is supposed to be a very intimate time for you and your husband. Sounds like your mom is a narcissist and will belittle you at every turn to give her, her way
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Back in the day it was the mother and father to be. Not sure when things got crazy and the world decided it was no longer an intimate event.
Stick to your guns!!
You don’t need to put up with the bullying. Stay strong and make the decision thag your heart tells you
It’s your choice. But be thankful you still have your mom! You might think differently about having her in there, when it’s too late. Idk.
It’s your baby, your labor and delivery, YOUR special moment. It’s up to you and ONLY you who is allowed in the room. She doesn’t like it? SUCKS. If she’s going to keep acting like this then don’t even tell her when you’re going into labor. Text/call her after you’ve had the baby. You don’t need all this stress while you’re pregnant and you certainly don’t need it when you’re having the baby. You and the babies health is #1 right now. Focus on you your baby and your husband 
As the patient, tell your medical team. – doctor, midwife, nurse, doula – that your mother is not to be allowed in your room or delivery theater. It is your body and this is a time for you and your husband to bond with your baby. It appears that your mother wants to be in charge. This is not fair to you, your husband, or your new infant. You can also ask your doctor to help intervene – your health is vital not your mother’s ego!!!
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Your mom sounds entitled. You are not wrong after all you and your husband made this child together and regardless you 2 will share the joy and love of raising the child together
No your not wrong!! This is a time for you and your husband, nothing wrong with that!! Stick to your guns!!
It is your decision not hers.
I sorry you are going through such a thing. Your mother is taking a beautiful time in your life and making it about her, which I suspect she has done for most of her life. Set boundaries. Tell her flat out, “I made my decision, you will not be in the room and I’m not discussing it any further.” Repeat it until she gets the message. Don’t feel bad about it. Live your life.