I let my mom stay with us after she got out of prison. I set rules in my home and for my children and she didn’t follow a one. She was so messy and nasty. She never helped me clean or cook. She only fed my son sugar while I specifically told her not to. She sat on her phone all day when she was supposed to babysit my son while I worked. I was 8 months pregnant working full time on my feet all day and had to come home and cook and clean and bathe and feed my son while she got rent free, we bought her everything. I finally gave her a date to get out. She tried to cry and guilt trip me but I stood my ground. She went off with some guy. My dad actually helped her get a place to rent and she got a job. I then allowed her to visit my children until she started dating a drunk and now she drinks all the time even at work and gets high even though she’s on probation. I cut all ties with her. My children will always come first and I will not have them grow up around what I did.
It sounds like she did it to be hateful and mean to her, not pull a funny prank. I don’t think it’d be wrong to kick her out if she’s done nothing but cause problems when you’ve offered her a place to stay. I’d have a serious talk and tell her if she doesn’t stop doing things like this you’ll have to kick her out. If it continues then kick her out.
Seems like a cruel thing to have done to your daughter. I have 2 granddaughters ages 9 and 10 and would never do anything that could cause them to cry. That to me is not a joke. I wouldn’t want it done to me.
Damn yall are savage!! Kicking mom out because of a damn prank.
Now, if OP had asked mom to not do shit like that and it continued, then maybe…and just because she has a history of drug use doesnt mean she’s using again.
Ok
So what if they were playing around? It’s cold water, not boiling.
The drug issue is another problem
Uhhhhh was it a prank? I mean… no wonder she didn’t find it funny
It’s cold water 
my dads done that to us kids when we little playing around.
She’s a grown woman and can fend for herself that’s you’re daughter she has problems…
Look into some homes that help people like her bit your children must come first and foremost
My baby dad did this to me but as a prank, however, sounds like you’re saying this is not the only issue…I’d ask her why. But regardless sounds like she is a toxic person and should really live somewhere else. Tell her to go to board of social services.
If you suspect that her drug problem has returned you need to tell her to pack her stuff. She shouldn’t be doing that in your house around your kids.
Nope it’s not wrong your mom should have some respect for you and your daughters space the shower is a private place and your daughter should be able to feel that way I lived with this and it was awful for all of us please don’t let it happen to your family no matter who it is Please hear me PLEASE!!!
Maybe your mom was just playing or maybe mom is having episodes of mental illness. Are you the only child she has or can she go live with someone else? I don’t agree kicking an elderly person on the streets. Get a lock for the bedroom and bathroom…
Id put her ass out 
thats ABUSE.
I’d kick her ass out. I booted my egg donor out of me and my kids lives, because she’s a drama loving, toxic bitch that has only caused pain and heartache. Your daughter doesn’t deserve to be treated like that.
This is how it starts. It will get worse. Protect your daughter. Kick her out. Your daughter is now going to be scared every time she showers. You want more of that?
I do that to my fiancé all the time when he gets on my nerves and make a joke out it. I doubt she was trying to harm your child, let alone your daughter seems very over dramatic saying the cold water “burned her skin” like c’mon 
My husband has done that to me as well as our 3 kids and personally yes it was cold but it was also funny. Sounds like she was trying to be funny and your daughter as well as yourself needs to loosen up
Yeah she’s got to go. That’s your daughter’s home…her safe place.
Kick her out! Kick her out! Kick her out. If she has drug problems, she needs to get herself together. Love your mom but your responsibility is with your child. The one that actually can’t defend herself. She needs to get out! Like yesterday.
I love my mom bt if she ever did anything to my daughters she would be out on her ass. But my mom would never hurt my girls
Um, no adult should intrude on a kid’s shower.
I’d boot her ass on out …don’t mess with my kids mom or not …bye bye
Kids should always come first.
Your child’s wellbeing comes first. Nothing against addiction I know it’s a disease but the only way to help is to wait for them to realize they need help. She needs to hit rock bottom and maybe getting kicked out will be her rock bottom.
depends… what were her intentions? was it just for a laugh or was it just to be cruel? if you’re worried about your childs safety you should tho… xx
KEY POINTS:
-DAUGHTER CRIED
-IT CAUSED HER PAIN AND EMOTIONAL STRESS
-GRANDMOTHER SAID SHE DESERVED IT (THREATENING)
-SHE HAS CAUSES PROBLEMS SINCE SHW MOVED IN.
this CLEARLY isnt a prank. This is blatant physical and emotional abuse. It will ONLY GET WORSE. OP kick her out!
Sounds like their is more to this story then what is currently being said.
That’s crossing the line. She has to go. Nowwwwww
I feel like if it was a prank or to be funny she would of explained or it would of been obvious to you! This is coming from an ex-drug addict… drugs are not our problem, drugs are how we try to cope with our problem! In my opinion addicts all have serious underlying issues some worse than others. In my addiction and even throughout my same periods of sobriety I couldn’t be around people that truly cared for me because I was a selfish self absorbed person that didn’t care who I hurt and didn’t care to try to see how I was hurting anyone. It took years to see truly what my problems were be able to admit it to myself or others and then really find a way to be done with all the destructive b.s. I was doing, get sober, and get a healthy mind!! Please protect your child and yourself first always!!
Seriously people? I do this to my husband as a joke. My dad and mom used to do this to me. Or turn the hot water off if I was taking too long of a shower. It was probably meant as a joke.
Just talk to the grandmother and say that’s not okay.
Both my parents, and my husbands parents did this to us in the past. We both found it horrible and would never do it to our children. That being said, it was a common “prank” among that generation. Cold water can’t burn skin, but the contrast in temperatures is shocking. It’s not abusive, but it is not acceptable either.
I would give her a warning, let her know that it’s not acceptable, and let her know that the consequences of not following house rules are that she will have to find her own place.
All I can suggest is family counseling.
kids first!! Moms are supposed to have their affairs together and not ur place t ok take care of her to begin with!
Quit whining and throw her out!
I’ve never heard of cold water burning someone lol… Unpleasant sure, but seems like everyone needs to loosen up
Nope. Your mom is grown and your daughter is not. You need to protect her and get your mom gone.
The second she became toxic to your child is when she should be asked to leave. We as mothers put up with so much shit to be loved, accepted & to have people we call our family. We can take a lot of bullshit. But that stops the minute it pours over onto our children. I don’t have my mother around for the simple fact I warned her, do whatever to me, but the minute your actions towards my children turn negative, you’re gone. If she’s doing this bullshit to your children, make her leave. THEY come first. Period.
facebook should not be used for family therapy
You protect your baby!!!
Kick her out! That behavior is inexcusable!!!
Nope, I wouldn’t allow it. Bye!
Bye Mom! Toxic is toxic and your daughter is a child! This grown ass woman should know better!
I wish there was more backstory for most of these questions. Its hard to give an educated opinion based on just snippets. and also, people get too riled up
Ur daughter comes before ur mom period your home is ur daughters safe place shed already be out of my house
Me and my family surprise each other all the time bye pouring cold water on each other when one of us is in the shower 💁 as fun!
I’m girl yes your mom is a grown ass woman who’s picking on a 10 year old CHILD. She needs to kick rocks
Absolutely children first! That is a grown ass lady acting worse than a child! She needs to get her shit together and be an adult! I’m sorry she’s put you all in this situation.
My fiance did this as a joke one night. My grandfather did this to my sister and I as kids. It’s a joke. Not a dick. You don’t have to take it so hard
Your daughter comes first. She shouldn’t have to deal with any of this. Your mom probably has mental health issues. Too many people killing kids to even chance it.
My mom was in and out of my life for various reasons. I told her the day I had my first child that she would get ONE chance with her. I told her if you ever walk out on my kids, you won’t get a second chance. Nope. She walked out on all of us and it’s been almost 10 years since she’s seen my kids. Don’t put up with her shit regardless if she’s your mother. You are their mother and you have to do what’s best & right for them! Good luck!
Saying she deserved it, makes it seem like it was not a prank. And if she’s done nothing but cause problems with your daughter probably best to kick her out, your daughter deserves to feel safe in her home not on edge wondering what cruel joke her grandma is going to play on her next 
If your mom is causing issues and stress in your home then it’s time for her to go bye bye. But I mean the cold glass of water prank in the shower is kinda funny.
Kevin be a trueblood
She needs to go!! Your kids come first before ANYONE!!!
Your kids come first!
CPS considers that abuse.
I would see her intentions on why she did it. Honestly my husband has done this to me as a prank or flushed the toilet and it gets way to cold or way to hot, but it didn’t burn it’s just a unpleasant sensation
And rude.
If it was a joke I wouldn’t kick her out I’d explain to the child but if it was out of pure meanest then maybe. Just my opinion.
Your child comes first I know she is your mom but if she causing so much problems its dragging you and your daughter down
Of course your kid being comfortable is a priority but that really did sound like a joke. I’ve dumped ice water on many ppl in the shower.
If it was a prank that’s one thing. But this sounds malicious. I kicked my egg donor out because she talked shit about my kids. My kids come first. Sorry not sorry!
Your daughter comes first. Tell her if she doest srop shes out the door
Put you’re little girl first! Get rid off you’re mum. There was no need for that. You need too protect you’re baby girl! If not sit you’re mum down and ask her why she did it and ask for a full explanation off why she would do that to you’re child! That is bang out off order if you ask me xx
My boyfriend does this to my son as a joke. It made my son really mad the last time. Once it wasn’t funny anymore and upset him, he apologized. Saying she deserved it and what not, she seems toxic to your child who depends on you to take care of things like this. It’s your child’s home. Her safe haven. I know it’s hard bc it’s your mother, but do what you know is best
Baby, GET HER OUT NOW!!! You’re main priority is the Safety and security of YOUR child ,Not you’re mother, sweetgirl. Trust me PLZ ,if shes an ADDICT you CANT HELP HER , But you ARE required by the blood of motherhood to SAVE YOURS. in my prayers tonight. Crosby TX
Anyone who bullies or abuses your children should not be allowed to live there. It doesn’t matter their relationship. Your child is counting on you to protect her.
Omg wow kick her out. She is a grown ass woman she should have never done that, put your child first Bc if it hurt your child she needs to leave… and her making a childish ass remark like ‘she deserved it’ nah no child deserves something like that especially if it hurts them.
My mother is not in my life for the simple fact ik she would do something like this, always do what you think is best for you and your baby no matter if ppl get mad or not protect your baby at all costs
Its wrong but im really curious to see why she did it
If kick her out it would be justified.
My 7 year old does this to me everytime I’m in the shower, I do it back. We think its funny. Next time shes in the shower, have the kid do it to her. They’ll either make a game out of it, or mother wont do it again more than likely.
Yeah…I’d kick her out fast. My kids come before any others
I wouldn’t kick her out but I would make sure she knew not to do it again
Your child(ren) come first. Your Mom is acting like a jealous child. She needs to go, since you can’t exactly ground her & I’m willing to bet you’ve told her to leave your daughter alone more than once. Bye, bye, Mother/G-ma!
First find out why she said your daughter deserved it? Did she do it to grandma
Kick the bitch out mother or not she’s bullying your baby and no way do you or your daughter need to put up with it
Maybe she dosent know how to socialize very well. 
Wait… so it was not a harmless prank… bbbbuuuut said she did it because your daughter deserved it? Nah… that woman does not have your daughter’s best interest. I’d kick her out if she’s crazy like that.
Of you have sensory issues cold water does feel like it is burning! Your child should come first!! Kick your Mom out!!
Ooh … tough call . Definitely talk to your mom … Don’t leave her Alone with your daughter … she be most important person … That’s a red flag for me .!!
Cold water would never burn skin. She probably did it as a joke. Doesn’t sound that serious.
Really? It’s cold water. I do it to my kids too…it’s hilarious but they also do it to me…
And also if it was a prank she would have said it was a prank not " she deserved it"
I’d definitely kick her out. Don’t let her take out her narcissistic abuse on your daughter because that’s exactly what she’s doing and it is DAMAGING.
I’d throw a big ass bowl of ice water on her when she’s sleeping.
Don’t give her the chance to hurt her again, put her out but don’t tell her that your daughter is the reason she needs to go, that envy can fester with time
Yes, make her leave!! Kick her ass out!!
Find her another place to live, it will only get worse
I do this to my kids and husband all the time 
I’d just have her sit down with the child and explain that it was a joke. Then the next time she is in the shower let the kid throw ice water on her
First of all, cold water doesn’t burn skin. But I get it. It was uncomfortable. Second of all, your mom sounds like she has the mental capacity of a child, no doubt from drug abuse. Third, I would absolutely kick my mom out if she made any of my family uncomfortable. I can relate to this a lot, not with my child but from my own childhood. Don’t make your child suffer. She is your responsibility. Your mother is not.
LMAO. I would not kick her out. But maybe tell your kid it was what most humans call a prank… And let it go:musical_note:. 
Kick her out! That’s child abuse and your daughter doesn’t deserve that! I washed my hands of my ex-mother in law because of abusive situations. Do not put up with that
I know she’s your mom , but, if she’s mentally , or emotionally bullying your daughter , that is big ok. . Your daughter is your daughter , you’re her number 1 protector . I say peace out mom, you don’t get to abuse my child in any form .
Let your daughter ( supervised) throw ice water on her in the shower, watch your mom’s reaction. Tell her it was prank. You’re gonna kick her out after that.
I’ve had that happen as a prank and just laughed it off as a kid but I guess everyone is different.
Cold water doesnt burn well you better remember who brought you in this world im very sure she could take you out that lady will never have a thing to do with you or kid again just think about that be ready for life with no help
It was ice water this time, but you never know if it could be hot/boiling water next time or something else that can really hurt her…might sound extreme but with those with a history like you say she has they sometimes don’t have the best judgment/decision making.
I wouldnt kick my mom out over this…it would need to be more serious for me. We do this in our family as a joke and no ones ever been burned by cold water in our house
Some of y’all, I have no words. Torture, child abuse, creepy, child molester? Lol
Lort, I would hate to know what y’all think about the pranks in our house.
I’ve thrown cold water on my husband in the shower and daughter in the tub multiple times. It’s funny, definitely not torture nor abuse. My daughter is 7.5 and if she started crying about it I’d laugh at her ass and tell her to shut up. But she wouldn’t cry because she’s not a baby and doesn’t cry over jokes.
Now the drug issue is a whole nother thing, no addict would ever be living under my roof. Clean, sober, using don’t care not happening nope.
I’m going to assume this is an over exaggeration, especially since you claimed she got burned by cold water. It’s a common and harmless prank to do to people. Idk this needs more context
I definitely would kick someone out for drug abuse but a joke no lol