BTW, you are a superhero for protecting your child and who knows how many others from a pedophile. You rock!
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Do what you have to do to protect your daughter. You need to be finished with them all and get on with you and your daughters lives.
Forget all of them! I say move if you can and start a new life somewhere else! Blood is not always thicker than water!
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You are not wrong. And it’s a sad state of affairs that your mum has gone down that path. Mums are meant to stand by you. Now it’s you protecting your own. Stay strong for yourself and baby.
Good luck. I don’t think your doing anything wrong. Just because your family is blood dosen’t mean you have to be in touch with them.
Protect yourself and that baby! You’re not in the wrong at all. They are.
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PROTECT YOU CHILD like you should have been protected!!!
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Your family is full of bitches! Sorry to put it that way.! But it’s TRUE
If you need someone to talk to you can message me. I cut off my ENTIRE family because they threatened my kids. I would rather have my sanity and know my kids are safe than a family.
Is this the first time she has done this?
It doesn’t sound like they are supportive of you at all & are toxic to your well being & happiness so is it really a loss to have them out of your life? If you can’t trust your own mother and she is siding against you then she’s not being a mother at all…if she telling people you love who hv been kind & supportive of you lies then try to tell them the truth… if they are still kind & supportive & believe you then keep them in your life… if not you are much better off without them… sometimes people who are not your blood are much better family than the ones you were born with… put yourself & your baby first and be strong… good for you for standing up for yourself and holding abusers responsible… otherwise they continue to abuse & victimize others… GOD IS YOUR REAL FATHER… he chose you… created you… loves you & will never turn his back on you or let you down…
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Your mother has guilt and doesn’t want to admit that she wasn’t their for you.Just worry about you and your child which is more important than anything else It’s their loss hold your head up high and venture on with life (hugs)
Go for it ,
I’d loved to send my Step Dad to prison for life.
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Nope. It sucks. It hurts. But DO NOT back down. Abuse is abuse and it is WRONG. You don’t have to put up with your abuser just to please other people.
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You have done absolutely the right thing! Don’t ever doubt yourself again! You are protecting your daughter from suffering as you did at this monsters hands! Walk away lady. You deserve better than this and they have made their choices clear. You do not need these people in your life, trust me. You will be better off in the long run and so will your daughter because you will be away from the toxic people and your daughter will be safe from a predator. I’m a single mum of 2 little girls and yes it’s hard when you haven’t got family backup but you know what? It’s harder dealing with all that stress all the time and the toxicity they will bring to your life will make it so hard for you to enjoy being a mother! I’ve been there! And I walked away when my daughter was 2, 3 years later I had another little girl and I finally discovered what it should be like when you have a baby! All the joy that comes with it and the bonding etc. It’s amazing. I never had that with my eldest because these people took that away from me. Their behaviour toward me made me so poorly! They’re not worth it! Walk away. Move away if you can. Change your phone number. Ignore them in the street. If they harass you go to the police and tell them this. Have a good life with your baby! Enjoy it as much as you can! It’s not always easy but you get through because you have to 
From someone who didn’t push it 45 years ago don’t back down. You have a new family. You’re daughter. Stand up for her and yourself. If people want to take the side of an abuser they don’t belong in your life. Unfortunately I didn’t do the right thing and the consequences are worse because it eats you alive protect yourself and your baby
Sadly, sexual assault tends to bring out really fucked up traits in already fucked up ppl. I’m so sorry you’re going through this but YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY DOING THE RIGHT THING and if your family isn’t going to support you there is plenty of other support out there for you if you want it! Don’t let this deter you, they are wrong, you’re right! Idk why our society leans towards protecting these sick fucks but I’ve seen it time and time again and I’ve had my own battles. Just this fall our daughters rape case was dropped in Cleveland and although they’ll never admit this, it’s mostly due to the rapist having police relation in our area. My husband and i have done everything and anything we could trying to get anyone to listen but sadly, there’s not a whole lot more we can do that we haven’t already tried. But we take comfort in the fact that we NEVER doubted our daughter and we fought with everything we had! And if no one else has said this I AM SO PROUD OF YOU FOR COMING FORWARD AND TELLING YOUR STORY:revolving_hearts:
You may not realize this yet but there’s a lot of power in that and even the court process. Even if you don’t win, even if you lose those relationships. And honestly I would say good riddance, I’m sure it doesn’t feel good right now but obviously they aren’t the best ppl so be glad you figured that out young and you didn’t waste 30+ years on ppl that don’t truly care about you and what’s best for you. And if they did this to you what would they do to your daughter? So this is a win, it just feels shitty right now. Try some support groups, I personally am not the biggest fan but also try rape crisis and even a personal counselor and/or case manager can be a great asset to your life in times like these! Counseling honestly changed our lives for the better! If you ever need to talk or vent please feel free to PM me!
Protect your baby and yourself… your family will realise sometime later that you were right. Stepfather will slip up sometime in conversation with one of them so be strong you will survive .
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Wow!!! You are not wrong at ALL! Your family sounds like terrible people. I am so sorry you’re dealing with that. Major shout out to you for protecting your daughter from that monster. It sounds like once your daughter is born your family would have no issue having your stepdad around her and who knows what the p.o.s would do. I’m sure it’s hard but you should be done with them! The fact that they would shame you, the victim… is disgusting!!! With “family” like that who needs enemies. You have to protect your baby at all costs don’t let them convince you otherwise. My heart goes out to you. Stay strong and remember you did and are doing the right thing. 
There crazy some people lack logic and understanding
Toxic people in your family have shown hou what they are… lile trash took itself out… move on… save yourself and your little one…
Just make sure you don’t let them into your child’s life when they apologize and want to take part. They can’t be trusted at all, and should have had your back. You’re not wrong!!! Sometimes it’s hard but you have to do what is good for you!
Your family sound toxic
If you’re mother is still married to him, when she reacts like this. It’s like being violated all over again.
Stay strong to your words. Protect your child. Seek counseling and therapy for healing. Get vindication through the court system.
Remember this you cant choose your family. But you can choose your friends, and make them your new family.
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Well done! Stand up for yourself and your baby! You won’t lose anything…you just relieved yourself from toxic family.
You are not wrong at all he needs to be punished and tore being a good mom
Your mom is an uncaring, despicable excuse for a parent. Unfortunately, sometimes you just have to walk away from her and all who are on “her side!” With a family like that I’d be petrified to allow my kids even in the same space with them! It hurts I know. I speak from experience! I had to walk away from them. I’m so sorry for you. For allowing that to happen to you she should also be punished. Jail time is what she needs
You do what you need to. to keep your child safe. I would press charges let the out come fall where it may. Your not wrong
You are not wrong!! Mom married a man that sexually abused my sister, then tried to get to me. I had to fight him from coming in my door. I told my Mom I was turning him in and she said they would deny it. Without them I had nothing. He was going to kill my brother had a knife to his throat fortunately my EX came in and my brother was able to escape. You do what is right even if your Mom doesn’t like it. You are the one violated!!
Take him to court or for ever hold that in you and keep your daughter away from Lal that crazy family better for you move away make a new life …if you know people far away go …
Incest survivor here. I highly advise before you are let down any further to leave them behind and begin your new life with that beautiful baby somewhere else. People rather deny ugly truth than heal and love. It’s “eisier” to believe it’s a lie and be in denial. Also the court is so flawed. After my children were born I tried to reopen a case that had physical evidence. But because the altercation after many years and he did not “rape me recently” the judge told me there will be no case. Run while you can and start over. Your family I’m sorry to say isn’t what you thought they were. When you’re getting more love and empathy from strangers that’s when you stop listening to advice and whip out a ven diagram. Prayers for you, your baby, and your healing. If you need someone who “gets it” feel free to inbox me any time.
Love and light to you 
You dont have to be with toxic people. Stay away. Keep a boundary
Hang in there and stay far away from your family! Your mother may have birthed you but I’m my opinion she is not a mother if she’s not 100% on your side in this! Be tough and leave them. You are better than them, so very clearly. And you will do just fine without them. Tough but very worth it in the end I believe! Head up dear
You absolutely are not wrong. You need to protect your daughter at any cost. And if it means losing your family and them not sticking by you as a mother should. Then you need to learn to stand on your two feet and and live life without them. They honestly don’t have your best interest or your child’s best interest at heart.
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Continue to protect yourself and your child! You mother will pay the price one day for not sticking up for you against your step father! If he’s done it once, he’ll do it again! Don’t let your precious child be the victim like you once were. You don’t need people like that around you and your baby. Be strong and surround yourself with loving friends. This is NOT your loss…this will be THEIR loss!!!
Your daughter is the most important thing in your life. Your job as a mother is to protect her, something your mom didn’t do for you. Stay strong, you are making the right decision.
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Sometimes you must move on without your family. Don’t allow any one to coerce you into staying in a toxic relationship just because they are “family.” Sometimes you must forge ahead alone. You will become stronger than you ever thought possible. Being a Mother is the hardest, most rewarding jobs you can do. Glad to see you don’t take it lightly.
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Your doing the absolute right thing. In order for you to live with yourself as well as protect your children . Sometimes you have to remove toxic people from your life even family it’s what’s best for you. Just pray for those people God sees all. God bless you everything is as it should be as long as you trust your gut and God .
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That is not a mother or a family . If he hurt you he can hurt your daughter , her granddaughter … If she were a mother then she would had been ready to hurt anything that hurt her children . Not protect it . I encourage you to go with your heart and protect your daughter . 
prayers for your both .
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Blessings to you and your daughter and you will find people to be your new family members better than your B𝐥𝐨𝐨d family and you will have the strength to go on with your life because of your beautiful girl! Much love peace to you both
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God removes people from our lives for a reason, they will come to regret their decision, even if they don’t, you have spared you and your daughter heartache down the road…God Bless you.
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Dont ever be afraid to do what’s best for you and your daughter!!
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“Delivered us from evil” sorry it hurts and it’s not fair to you . Sounds like denial on your siblings and the others . You are doing the right thing .
You have to protect your daughter no matter if your family is by your side or not shame on them for letting you go thro this on your own but your 100% doing the right thing. Xx
You are allowed to decide to remove yourself from any and all TOXIC relationships in and out of your family. You’re a adult and responsible for what and who you subject yourself and your child to.
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No your not wrong your mom is. I am leaving it at that. Cause I know my mouth and what I really want to say .
Walk away. They sound like hell and purely toxic. I’m adopted. I assure you, you don’t need to allow blood to bind u. Build a family network all your own😉
I’ve lost my family because I won’t put up with their drama and I refuse for them to treat me, my children and my fiance like dirt. My family left me on the streets after they begged me move to Florida from Chicago Illinois… We love it here. My fiance got an extremely good job, I’m working and we are getting ready to move out of the motel… It’s amazing because 6 months ago we were sleeping in the car…
I don’t know if I can forgive them… They crushed me so bad I’m in tears just typing this.
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No dearest ur.not… your doin the rite thing… you hav to lpok aftr n protect urself n ur child. Its plain to see they never protected u or u wouldnt be in thw position ur in… if they cant stand wit you than let them go…ik its gona be hard…but its not gona.be the hardest thing youll hav to do.atick to your guns dearest an protect u n ur unborn lil one… if u need to vent im here
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Protect yourself and your daughter at all cost
Your Mother should have kept them confidential. She betrayed you and took sides not protecting you. If they choose to block you and alienate you, you stick to your guns and take him to court. He needs to be responsible for his actions and you need to protect your child. Find a support group who will become your family. Also a therapist to help you. I would not trust your mother ever again.
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You need to protect your daughter, and yourself, 
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Do what is best for you and your child.
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Your decision to move forward is the way to go, keep going n don’t look back. Most important people in you life now is your daughter and yourself. God has your back and always have Faith!!! Good luck.
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Stick with your decision and do what’s best for your daughter.
Nothing wrong with u or with wanting to protect ur child. Dont let them guilt u into anything. stand ur ground for ur child, justice for u as well.
Do what is right
That time was you
But maybe doing the same to another child
And for sure
Will do it again and again
If you don’t stop him
When the family see the true colors
They will come around
Don’t worry
You will be better going ahead and doing the right thing
There’s always someone mad when you do the right thing when it involves family .
You need to protect that child if you walk away that is thier lose
You go to court see him pay do right for yourself and daughter been there
You do what’s best for you and your child. They obviously condone his perverted behavior and that outs your child at risk.
You have to follow your heart and do what’s best for you and your daughter without your family if that’s what it takes
hang in there you are doing the right thing, no one has the right to touch a child and your family should be with you all the way, but they are not, but you are stronger than you think, head high you to court and if you have to move to make a new life for you and your daughter so be it you will have piece, trust yourself
you do what is best for your daughter. Toxic family is dangerous.
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I’m sorry for all your problems, do what YOU think,
What a mother, that is not a mother, Karma will visit her .
You are doing the right thing
Sometimes family will do you worse than folks out in the street will. They side with the abuser. If he abused you then there is another he abused as well. I got a feeling that person will speak up. Pray for them and walk away. Forge a new life without them. Don’t kiss their butts to get along with them and don’t you dare back down.
No! If YOU were abused you are not wrong. There is something wrong with your family. 
so heartbreaking they dont believe you. And disgusting of your step father to abuse you. I would definitely look into therapy help you heal from this and excuse my words but fuck your “family” that’s not how family treats each other
My mom and siblings did some awful things to me and others over the years. My whole family has been divided by my mom’s evilness. I will call her but will never trust her with any personal information about me or my family because she can’t be trusted. I will never write her a letter again because she will publish it to others. She is now 85 and has been creating havoc in lives since she was young. She’s a master manipulator. Trust your instincts and protect yourself and those you love. Call if allowed but keep it on the surface. I love my mom but know she can’t be trusted. I have to forgive daily for my wellbeing. When the environment is so toxic it is best to guard your heart and love from a distance. It isn’t your fault whatever happened to you as a child. It is the fault of your parents for not protecting you. Do what they didn’t do for you for your family. Pray for their souls and for God’s perfect will in their lives and yours. Moving on from them is to love God and yourself and your family. To honor parents who are toxic is to leave them in their place for God to deal with them. Walking away is hard and rough. We don’t have to be blood relatives to create family and support groups for ourselves.
Then don’t tell her private stuff!!
You are not wrong.Family will hurt you more than anyone. Stay away and focus on ur child and unborn child. If ur mother has the nerve to say and do things that hurt you what kind of mom is she.
Your not wrong protect yourself and child
You are doing the right thing. You have to do what is best for you and your baby. Karma is a bitch