I’m currently seven months pregnant. I told my mom things I’d thought she’d keep confidential like the abuse of my step dad and me wanting to take him to criminal court. She and my Older half brother told me they wanted nothing to do with me. She’s even went as far as telling my step grandpa whom I share a close bond with that I didn’t care if he died or that I was breaking his heart. She even told my grandma who thinks I’m too soft and that I need to work things out with my stepdad because I’m ruining lives and already gave my mother bail money. I only brought things to light to protect my child and so that they’d know I wouldn’t be around my stepdad and they picked his side by blocking me and blowing up on me saying there done with me, and I know things are only going to get worse once it’s taken to court but are I in the wrong? Losing my whole family and I’m trying my best for my daughter? What more can I do? I’m really at a loss.
You do it. Your family chose the wrong side. They will realize it when it is to late
Cut all those sick fucks off.
If your family is more concerned with protecting your abuser, you dont need them anyways.
The fact that your mother immediately defended your step father speaks volumes about her. Do what you know is right… the family will find out soon enough.
As a survivor I will say this. Your family is wrong. They want you to bend and break because of this perfect familial image. They will attempt to make your life hard. They will use your baby as a pawn to manipulate. They will lie to the bitter end. Protect yourself and stay far away from them. Don’t focus on " fixing" the severed ties. Your family is victim shaming and that says you don’t need to be near them
You are not in the wrong. Protect your daughter.
Your mother should have protected you, do not be like her.
I’m sorry for what you have been through, and I know going to court will be tough.
Remember that you are a strong woman no matter what you have been through. If something happened to your daughter you would regret not shedding light on your stepdad.
Good luck!
To me that’s not a true mother. I would cut ties with them. You don’t need anymore stress on you. I my self my mother did same to me and more. Its been 6 great years for my daughter and my self. She lost out. I could careless what happens to her. There will be no tears in my eyes if she was to die. She and rest are dead to me. Hang in there momma your stronger than you think.
You are doing the right thing for you and your family
You need to do what is best for you. Make sure the family you are close with have your side of the story so they can make their own decision on what they want to do. You need to protect your child and do what you feel is best to ensure that happens.
Stay strong and confident in your decision.
Fuck them 
you don’t want your child around someone who abused you and that’s that. Don’t let them gaslight you. If they’re more concerned with protecting and defending your abuser, you don’t need them in your life anymore. Go minimum contact or no contact with them even.
You’re doing the right thing! Ignorance is bliss, unfortunately, your family wants to pretend you’re in the wrong instead of having to deal with things the right way.
You’re protecting your daughter, something that should’ve happened for you as a child, and even now, but isn’t.
I’d be getting rid of the toxicity from them, and cleansing them all from my life.
To me that’s not a family. They chose the wrong side and your better off with out then if their going to pick your abused over you
They didn’t protect you, but it’s clear you’re strong enough to protect your own daughter! Keep pushing and nail his butt!!!
Youre better off without any of them. If they will take the side of someone who hurt you they arent worth your time. Make a new family. Family isn’t always blood or legal labels. I’m so sorry for what you went through and that you have a shitty family
Protect your mental and physical health. Toxic family does not need to remain in your life. Write to the ones you love of your truth, and leave it at that (make sure your letters cant be used in court against you somehow). Abuse does not have to be tolerated, and the fact that your mother was in jail speaks volumes about how her thoughts and opinions dont qualify as healthy. Make these changes now, so your child(ren) dont have to go through this when they’re older.
Ps. You will find and choose your new healthy friends and family.
…did you really think your mom was going to keep her mouth shut ,you are talking about the man she is married too an loves of course she is going to back ,/protect him I’m sorry but if she didn’t protect you from the abuse what makes you think she would take your side now…you should of just cut all them toxic people from your life s long time ago …
Cling to your daughter and know you did the right thing.
Not going to explain on here, but having been in a similar situation, your family doesn’t sound like they believe you or ever will. And honestly it is likely better that you cut them off and not have them in your child’s life if they’re going to choose to believe the person who assaulted you instead of you. I wouldn’t trust any of them with my child if they won’t believe you. I had a really hard time with this myself. My family still does not believe me but the man who did it has passed away so I no longer have to worry about him hurting anyone else thankfully so I dropped it and just try to work thru things with my therapist to help me heal.
Look out for you and your baby. Screw everyone else who chose the abuser. They will see him for who he is eventually but you stand strong and don’t give in when they come crawling back
Your family is toxic, as bad as it hurts, stay away from them. If you stay away long enough you can heal from their abuse!
No matter whose wrong or right in this situation you are still going to grieve your family relationships. I would suggest going to a therapist to learn ways to cope. I have no mother or father or any in law help. I barely have any family at all and I survive with 5 children. I will always survive. There are times I stumble, but I am strong. Just as you are strong. Take them out of your life. You have this! Good luck!
You are doing the right thing. You do not need them in your life if they do not stand by you. Keep doing what is best for you and your daughter
You are not wrong for doing what is right. Protecting your self and child. If they all want to lose out on having family in their life it’s on them not you.
Screw them
They are nothing but enablers
Your family is toxic do what you need to do to keep your child safe
I don’t have a relationship with my parents and all of my extended family act like I’m the problem. No. I am going to protect my kids and if they want to continue to enable, then they will not be in my life either.
Sounds like a fucked up mother
Nope. Take his ass to court
Blood doesn’t make a family. Loyalty does. Leave them all in the past and move forward
Well that’s awful victim blaming ugh some people I swear. Dont let this break you keep going on and protect your baby. Personally it’s great the trash took themselves out.
Your mother is no mother and she definetly would not be around my child ever! Stay strong… go after that piece of scumbag sh*t so he can’t hurt another person again. You do not need those kind of people in your life and around a child!
Wow whats wrong with your family? This makes me sick…ur mother needs to grow up and be a mother…
Once things come to light and its in the court… A few superior ppl will let them know what he did is wrong. Do what you have to!!!
I’m confused about what you’re asking? Girl, are you seriously questioning if you did the right thing? You’re protecting your child. There’s nothing else that matters.
I cut my mom out who was very abusive right before I got pregnant. She is a total narcissist and a bully. A lot of my family gave me a hard time about cutting her off because it was easier to neglect what I had gone through than be on her bad side. The. My mom was diagnosed with cancer and I still keep no contact because I have tried for almost 30 years to have a relationship with her for her to always treat me awful. So when she got sick I was turned into the bad guy for it. But the thing is I know what is good for me and my family and not having her anywhere near us is what’s beat for us. Eventually I changed my number and only gave it to the positive people in my life. It’s the best thing I ever did for myself.
Protect your daughter- and realize you can never trust your mother again. Sounds like you’re better off without them
You don’t want your daughter around someone like that anyway. You’re doing the right thing
My mom was in love with my stepdad but the moment she found out that he was abusing me, he went straight to jail and my grandma paid the prisoners money and they beat him almost to death. That was in the 60’s. Your mom sucks
Walk away. Cut your losses. Anyone who puts your abuser above you doesn’t matter and is an enabler
No, you’re not in the wrong sweetie! You have to stand up for your self and protect your baby girl. If they want to take his side, you don’t want them around you or your baby anyway. They are deff toxic. Stick to taking him to court. Aside from protecting your baby and standing up for your self, your potentially stopping him from doing it to some one else! Do what is best for you! If they can’t support that, then they aren’t your “family” anyway!
You are not wrong at all! You do what you need to do to help yourself heal and you keep your children away from them all! Very very toxic! You may feel lonely at first but you will be so much healthier in the long run!
You’re doing the right thing. See the court case though as well… Keep your head up! Keep moving forward.
F that. You are a victim and not responsible for any of this. Your family sounds toxic and I would get away from them and keep your kids away from them too.
You are definitely doing the correct thing, don’t let anything stop you from getting justice for what he did to you. You deserve people that will protect, trust and always believe you. Be brave and strong. 
Doing the right thing by coming forward if they are victim blaming you don’t have to bring your daughter into a “family” with those morals especially that sides with an abuser.
That sucks when a mother chooses a man over her child.
You do what YOU need to do to keep YOU BOTH safe ! It’s a shame people try to hush hush abuse of any kind.
Your child will be your number one priority. You need to protect at all costs. I’ve removed all toxic people from my life and those that have harmed me. My life and my children’s lives were better because of that. If that man did anything at all to you… stay far away. Continue with the court case. My heart breaks for you.
I had a hell of a childhood. I received no support and was accused of fabricating the events. Mind you, one aunt married to a pimp who was grooming the girls in the family into prostitution. That entire side of the family had major issues with drugs, alcohol, thievery, and prostitution. I didn’t. I am completely estranged from all family members.
Do your very best to be strong. If you can, speak to the prosecutor about the events to see if you can legally move forward. Document as much as you can and seek out a counselor. Don’t do this alone. I am alone and didn’t have the savvy to get help.
You are going to have doubt about so much until you get the help you need. I wouldn’t allow my children around my family. They acted like they didn’t know what was going on in order to keep the secret. They didnt want the scandal so they turned their backs on me. They will do everything to make you doubt about your feelings.
Good luck!
Protecting your child always comes first. If they can’t support that, they’re not much of a family in the first place. Do what u need to for your child and move on.
You are PROTECTING your child!!! Walk away
Restraining orders and don’t allow them in your life either
Leave anyone toxic. For you for your baby
No matter what it’s not your fault! It’s his! Protect your child and don’t let him get away with it! Pm me if you need too talk…
Protecting your child is what matters. I don’t speak to anyone in my family and I haven’t for years because they are horrible people. I won’t lie, there are times it sucks not having a family to turn to when times are tough, but my life is better and happier with them out of it. PROTECT YOUR CHILD!!!
Just walk away. Family isn’t always blood. I have had to make my own family from friends and they are so much better for my mental health. Seriously, I’ve heard the don’t say anything you will ruin lives line. Do what is best for you and your daughter.
You have to do what’s best for you and your child. If you don’t want your child around your stepdad (which I don’t think you should) then that’s your choice.
This happens more often than not. They are protecting a pedo to save inconvenience for themselves selfish is what they are. You be strong continue to be selfless and keep the court stuff going. Maybe wait until you are strong enough to handle it. But make a police report now. I’m sorry for you losing everyone but soon you will have a little princess to love. You are the victim so don’t ever feel you are the bad guy
You’re in the right protect your child first and foremost the important one.
You may want to think about joining narcissist groups here on fb. They are really good
Just because people are family doesn’t mean you need to let their toxicity into your life
Congratulations! You are being a true mom to your daughter. You have to protect her. Let your toxic people go!! You will feel lifted.
You and your daughter come first in this situation. Keep her as far away as possible.
You will have your own family soon.
What you can do in my honest opinion is teach your daughter this is unacceptable to be treated in such a manor by removing yourself from the situation
I’m so sorry they’re protecting your abuser over you. Please know you’re doing all the right things and you’ve done nothing wrong. You’re protecting your child and that’s number one!
That’s them protecting the perpetrator! F that do what YOU have to do to heal! That’s your story!
I’m so sorry this happened to you personally I’d cut ties especially with mom. Blood does not make you family. Hopefully you can mend bond with others if not PLEASE don’t cave bc you have to do this to keep your child safe. God bless you and your baby
Stop asking random strangers for advice
The family you come from is important but the family YOU create should always be your number 1 priority.
You are ABSOLUTELY doing the right thing! Do not doubt yourself, and continue protecting your child. At all costs.
If they treat you like this then they are not your family. Nothing wrong in making your own family and saying fuck them.
You have every right to expect them to stand by YOU and help you protect your child. You are doing the right thing. The man needs to face consequences for his CRIME and you need to do what you can to ore e t him from being free to do it again…because he will.
Someone should have protected you like your protecting your baby. I’m sorry no one did. Doing what’s best for you WON’T always be the popular thought. Be strong 
enough to put an end to this and start a new trend, your family ideas, morals and values!! May God bless 
You need to think of yourself and your daughter! Get away from the people that hurt you so they can’t hurt your daughter !
I’ve had a very similar event happen in my life when I had my son a year and a half ago. If you happen to read this among the other comments, feel free to message me and I’ll tell you my story and maybe you’ll feel good to hear you’re not alone
Something similar happened to me. I haven’t talked to my brother since that day. I was bullied into not doing anything. It hurts & that’s what they want. You’re supposed to suffer the abuse quietly so it doesn’t affect them. Screw that! Press charges, get your closure. They wouldn’t protect you when the abuse was happening & won’t stand by you now. Keep your daughter away from them. They will abuse her. Cut them off.
Sounds narcissistic to me
You protect your child first and foremost if your family decides to stand by him and not you and your child then you don’t need any of them around anyway. You do what you have to do to keep your child safe no matter what anyone else says or thinks. Your child and their safety is your number one priority.
You are strong. You can do this. That monster should face every criminal charge they can throw at him, and more.
As for the family, you can start over and make new connections in life. People who will love you, they way you deserve to be loved.
It’s hard. Cut your mother the fuck off. She’s not to be around your child ever. Ever. Take him to court as soon as you can. You protect your child at all costs. Your mother is toxic as fuck and I’m sorry.
Your daughter is your family. They sound like jerks and you both dont need them.
You do what is best for your baby and you they don’t like it to bad their loss
Protect your daughter. And yourself. The people who matted will be there for you the ones who don’t will fall away.
You are doing the right thing my love. Stay strong and basically f*** that weird ass family. Your daughter and you deserve so much better. Xx
As someone that was sexually abused by my older BROTHER… my mom caught him and did nothing about it. I was FOUR! I’ve had so many issues growing up. My mom died in 2012… the first two years were rough but after so much counseling, I realized … it’s ok to feel glad she is not here anymore. Parents are suppose to protect their children. Period. While I’m sure you are devastated, maybe get counseling and work on you! You are pregnant and need to try to be less stressed love! NONE of my mothers side of my family talks to me. Because I spoke up about my sexual abuse and how she swept in under the rug. They said “I tarnished her name” F that noise, my mental health comes first. I have 4 children and I do not have time to deal with it. You will feel free. I’m here to chat and listen… whenever. I’ve been in your exact position. Minus the court part. Trust your instincts, stand up for what you believe is to be the right thing to do… and don’t look back, even if you are standing there alone. You have your baby. good luck momma:heart:
This is why my children don’t know my bio dad and his dad. You are not in the wrong. You have to protect your children no matter what. My favorite bible verse is “I can do all things thru Christ, who strengthens me”. It has kept me going thru many hard times. Prayers for courage and strength.
Toxic is toxic family or not. Do what’s best for you and your baby.
Don’t sweat it… if your mom picks a man over you then she’s not worth it
He ruined it for himself when he abused you
Is the baby his? Just remember this person is sick and you are not the only one he has done this to and you won’t be the last. Please tell your story to the police. You’re mother doesn’t deserve you anyway. Hold your head up none of this is your fault. It doesn’t make you a bad person it makes you a survivor and a warrior.
It sounds like you’re a lot better off without them. It’s gonna suck a lot, but let them leave, it’ll be good for you and your daughter in the long run from the way it sounds
You have to protect your child period. If you lose them they weren’t really family in the first place. Most families protect the suspect rather than the victim/victims. Just because they are blood doesn’t mean they are loyal.
Your moms disgusting. 
You’re doing the right thing and theyre just showing their true colors.
Your doing the right thing . Shame on them for not taking your side .Im so sorry . Dont back down ,Your kids dont need that monster around them .Your a good Mom !
Are you pregnant by your step father, Is this why you are wanting to take him to criminal court?
Yikes! Make your own family. I had a loving but VERY small family. I grew up with many aunts and uncles who were no actual relation, and neighbors who were like extra grandparents. I also have many non-biological sisters and brothers. I’ve even managed to “adopt” my girlfriend’s adorable grandchildren.
My kids grew up the same way. My daughter actually thought she had three moms at one point in her early childhood! Family is a circle of friends who love you. Leave those toxic, unlovable folks behind and create your own family. You don’t owe your biological relatives anything except pity.
Best of luck stay strong
You are right . I’m proud of you .
Shame on your family .