Either ask them to put the dog somewhere if they can in another room while your there or see if they will go to your house instead. But dont expect them to get rid of their pet
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No offence,We love dogs, but since start our dogs are tide up outside, so to prevent the dog from bitting my kids, dogs are still dogs even thou they not agressive, they are still animals, our priority is family first, for me when the dog already bitten someone he will do it again because he or she has already taste a blood of human, believe me,
Understand your frustration. Here is my opinion…
The dog is their child and they love it.
However…the dog does not like children, or at least your son. He is now been hurt and is afraid. You could make a case of it and get the dog out down, but the damage is already done.
Give your folks an ultimatum. When you come to visit, the dog is either locked in another room or in a kennel/crate until you leave. Otherwise you will not visit.
They are welcome at your home but no dog. Or you have a crate or room to pick him in (and I mean with a key as I know old folks - they will go to check and it will be in the main room).
Its the childs age and size if the dog is not used to young children on a daily when the child is pressnt the dog can feel threatened and thats what leads to biting not an excuse if you visit parents should put dog in crate or other room
Dogs look at children as litter mates. The dog will chastise ( bite) the child when they feel the child has done something he/she doesn’t like. For example looking into a dog’s eyes is considered a threat to a dog. Many children including my son lives to look into their eyes. Teach your children dog body language to help mitigate any misunderstanding. That should help some.
In your place, I might not demand the dog be put down or otherwise disposed of, but I certainly WOULD demand that the dog be locked up in a room or kennel for the entire duration of any visits my child would make to their house. I would have NO problem telling them that if they are not willing to keep the dog confined and away from their grandchild, then he will not be visiting at their home, period.
Ok I have to say I have been there my daughter was 4 and her uncles dog nipped her in the lip. I found out that if a child is eye level with the dog the dog might feel threatened and try and act out. Funny thing is from that day forward the dog and my daughter where in separatable where one went the other went. He ended up being her dog before it was all over. He passed away in her arms so before you judge the dog or the child talk to someone like the vets office.
They could put up the dog when you visit. Your son should be their number one concern. But a lot of people love their pets so much they think of them just like their children. You all should be able to sit down and come to an agreement if they can not then decisions would have to be seriously decided.
Seems like you are there quite a lot. Maybe reduce the time visiting them & they come to you. And when you are there they need to put up the dog or you dont visit, plain & simple. My parents had dogs & If one of them bit the grands they would’ve been gone, period. Sounds like they dont think much of their grandkids.
The fur baby should be separated from the children when you’re there. It’s easy actually. Maybe the dog just doesn’t tolerate smaller children.
I would not go there again until the dog is locked up and they pay all medical expenses and apologize profusely.
This is a dangerous dog. If you go over he needs to be put in a room with a door shut. If it was me I would take this as a clear message that the dog is more important than you are. stop going there.
Even though your child may respect the dog in so many ways the dog showed that type of behavior for a reason. If the dog is not wanting to play and child kept bugging the dog or even petting the dog when it wanted to be left alone it’s not the dogs fault if so. I have 3 children 3 and under and 4 dogs in my home if my dog becomes annoyed with the children they will let them know and usually they will stop messing with the dog but one of my children just thinks the dog is being funny and the dog will get snappy not enough to hurt my child but enough to let him know she means business. I know children will play with animals nicely but sometimes animals do not want to be played with just like humans as a human I don’t want to be touched every few minutes so I might get snappy! I would not make my parents or anyone else get rid of their beloved pets over being moody as you said the dog is loves people he knows so he’s not generally aggressive towards people the doggy probably just wasn’t in a good mood and was being bothered sorry your child got bit but maybe teach your child not to keep touching the dog and never get close enough to any animal where the animal has any way of getting to the child’s face.
The dog should at least be kept in a locked cage while children are visiting. If the can’t agree with that, my children would not be visiting them.
I agree 1000% with Nellie Smith. I denitely would never allow the dog to be re introduced period!!! your child will end up more traumatized than ever. If Grandparents aren’t onboard with that then need to seek help, because child saftey 1st at all cost. Good Luck
Why would they not understand that it has caused fear in the child. Just don’t let the dog and child be together it’s not that hard. I put my cats away if people visit and don’t like them.
If they can’t keep the dog up while your son is there you should go over. The dog is dangerous. It is not the dog’s fault, he needs training.
Have your Mom come your house instead of going over there. NEVER trust the dog not to bite.
You are your child’s first and strongest advocate. You have to set the rule when it comes to your child. If arrangements cannot be made to keep the dog separated safely when you visit, then you have no choice but to not visit until things change - as hard as that is.
Hard to believe grandparents would not volunteer to put the dog in a crate or another room when kids are around I would be devastated if my dog bit anyone much less a grandchild
They should crate the dog in another room while you are there visiting. If not, maybe you should insist on visits at your house without their 4 legged companion along. Hope it works out. Separation is the only answer.
Sometimes dogs are afraid of anything or anyone that moves fast. I know it sounds weird but sometimes they don’t like someone s smell. I might try introducing again with the dog on a leash for a while and in the meantime put the dog someplace else while you are there.
I had a chihuahua. I loved him to pieces. He did not like kids. I had my grandson over and held him while I let my dog sniff him, the dog tried to bite his foot. The dog was put away and stayed in the other room anytime my grandson was over.
If I was the grandmother and my dog bit my grandchild in the face I would assure them that the dog would never be around the children again. Would be crated or separated the entire time the children were there. If they needed to spend the night or a weekend I would try to board the dog. If all of that is inconvenient and the child hadn’t teased the dog I would consider rehoming or euthanasia.
I have a Rottweiler a pitbull and a shepherd mix I also have 13 grandchildren ranging in ages from not yet born 2 to 16. Our pets are taught to walk away from the children if they do not want to be around them. Very well disciplined dogs. But the very young children who like to pull fur folk eyes and you yank onears do cause my dogs to give a warning growl and then we separate them from the animals the younger ones are not allowed near the animals. Dogs will nip at their own pups on the nose to correct them
I cannot imagine putting anything g before the safety of my children or grandchildren
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I would never keep a dog that was aggressive to any of my family.
Do not return to their house until they get rid of the dog. If they choose the dog over their grandchildren you have a much bigger problem than their dog.
My mom’s dog did this. With my son. My son did nothing wrong. The dog was very aggressive. She was living with me. I told her the dog goes or they both go. She chose to move out. See you. (She teased the dog over food and made him aggressive)
As a grandmother, I would have to get rid of the dog no matter how painful or my grandchildren could not come over…sad choice but necessary
When our German Shapard bit my daughter on he face, we put the dog down. I couldn’t run the risk of him biting again, nor could I, in good conscious rehome him to someone else, just in case he did it again.
It’s your parents house and the dogs house. If you come over you can expect them to keep the dog in another room away from the child, but not to get rid of it. Maybe the child did something when you weren’t looking or the dog has had a bad experience with kids…
Dogs do what dogs do. It’s the human’s fault when a dog does wrong. If you were to sue a person because of what happened you would win. The grandmother should tie the dog or put him somewhere where he will not be seen by your son. She can do this during your visit. If she refuses then she does not get to see her grandson. It’s her home and she can do what she wants. It’s your son and you can do what is best for him. Sending blessings to you and your son.
Invite the grandparents to your house, without the dog! If he bit your son, he will do it again, at which time, they will have to find it another home, that doesn’t have children.
I had the same problem and to protect my grand I muzzled my dog. Then I found out the grand was part of the cause. She was accidentally pulling or rubbing hard. Disciplined the grand to know that when the dog growled, he had had enough fun and she was to back off or she lost a toy for a week and sat in time out. Eventually, it worked out. She 12 now and the relationship is better. But some dogs do not like small kids, cuz little one who do not know better,unknowingly hurt them. We all must be the reposnible ones for the dog.
I wonder how many people would feel the same way if their child was bitten. It would not be pretty if it was my child. That child will have scars for life inside and outside.
I am a real dog lover, but the dog needs to be euthanized before someone else is bitten more seriously!
Same happened to my grandson at another gparents house. Plain and simple dog was put down. Especially If this has happened before. And the hospital has to file animal bite. Police may take it out of their hands and out the dog down anyways. My child would not go bad peroid as long as the dog is there
I rescued a German shepard !! All the kids were introduced I told all of them to please don’t go around him unless I’m with you . Needless to say the youngest one snuck up on him and the dog bit him . It’s wasn’t a bad bite he didn’t need to go to the drs it’s healing very well . He did have a phone appointment with dr he took antibiotics I paid for them then paid for him to go have his favorite meal with his mom with a creme after . Yes they should be held accountable !! Stitches yikes my daughter in law sued her parents when their dog bite my granddaughter in the face and there was a account made in her name . If my dog would of bit my grandson where he needed stitches I would of thought twice about what needed to happen with the dog . And it also needs to be reported I believe second time they will put the dog down . I wouldn’t go back until they did something with the dog knowing this isn’t the first time he has bit someone .
Not trying to be offensive, but in my family if a dog goes at a child, especially more than once, and draws blood when the child has done nothing wrong they get put tf down
My gpa had dogs like that. He wasn’t willing to lock them up when we visited. So we stopped visiting. He came to visit us without the dogs. I had a dog that was a fear biter. Any time we had company I locked her in a kennel behind a gate. It’s just basic animal care. Kids have to be protected. I would not put my child in danger even to keep human relationships. If they don’t care enough to lock up the dog and keep thier grandchild safe they don’t deserve to have a home visit. Maybe they can go visit you without the dog. Or meet at a park without the dog
This dog has bit before now a child their grand child … dog has to go !!! I have dogs if they were to bite one of mine the dog would be gone …PERIOD!!!
Put it this way " mom I know u love your dog and your grandson. But something has to be done to insure my son’s safty. I dont want to be worrying everytime my son is there. It would be ashamed if he couldn’t visit anymore. Can we discuss options?"
Wasn’t animal control contacted from the hospital. U can also report the dog. Next time he might not be so lucky.
Maybe they could kennel the dog while you are there, or put it in a room and close the door
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I would not take my kids there unless the dog is locked up or gone. Welcome your parents to come to your house instead.
A child terrified should not be forced to be in contact with the dog. Do not let this separate your child from Grandparents there are several mentioned solutions. Report this dog before someone else is seriously hurt or killed. Grandparents grandchildren are to be protected. Do your duty and take care of dog and child desperation. Now.
I would stop going over there until the dog was put away. This is going to cause the child to be very afraid of dogs. My aunts dog bit my son. He was terrified of dogs after that.
So… You’re going to wait till your child gets scarred permanently or loses an eye?? Ah, that’s a big NO! Lock the dog up while you’re there or don’t go. Simple!
Separate the dog in a different room, crate it, or don’t go there. Child’s safety comes first.
As a grandparent she should put her grandson safety first,put the dog in a separate room when you are there.If she is not putting the safety and feelings of her grandson first, I would explain to her that she needs to come to your house to visit then.
If she wont put her grandchild above her dog then shes not a very good grandma. Putting the dog outside or in another room isnt going to work 100%. I say she can meet you somewhere or come to your house if shes not willing to work with you.
If a dog bites one person, he could very well bite someone else. And if it’s a stranger, that will be a very expensive lesson.I would never subject anyone to be near a dog that bites
First off …its not your home to tell your parents what they should do with their lives. Secondly, if you choose to go there then with your child knowing that there is a issue with the child and dog…that’s your fault and putting your child in danger. Have a talk with them and maybe ask if they can put the dog up for you to enjoy your visit with your child:thinking:maybe compromise is in order?
Absolutely they should be more concerned with your son than a dog, I don’t care how much they love it or how much part of the family it is. They either keep it completely away like locked in another room or the garage when you visit or if that’s inhumane to anyone, then they should just re-home it. What if next time it’s worse? You never know with animals. Protect your son at all costs!
As a grandparent to small children and a pet owner, the children come first at all times no questions. My dogs aren’t being given a chance to bite. They are either put outside or in another room as soon as the babies arrive. To me it’s common sense?!
As a grandmother, my grandchildren will always be more important than a dog. Find a good home for the dog!!
Poor boy. No child should ever have to be around an aggressive animal. Keep your son away from that dog. He got bit once and once is more than enough. If your mom is more concerned with the dog than your grandson, then you need to insure his safety. If that comes down to staying away, that’s the grandmother’s choice. If your son is afraid, why subject him to more terror. Not all dogs are comfortable around children. And dogs can surely sense tension and fear. It’s just not worth the risk. Good luck.
Yea you are wrong, that would be like if your child was mean to the dog but you never do anything, dogs dont just snap there has to be a reason, maybe hes to loud around the animal, or to hyper without “disrespecting” it
I would like to hear both sides of the story. My son got bitten once, trying to tie a jump rope around a small dog we had. I got rid of the dog only because, I was afraid my son would hurt him. Child also got spanked for not respecting the boundaries for the dog.
My mom’s dog is a very anxious puppy. Once she knows you she good but my son is a very unknown object because he’s not an adult who does things with a purpose. So she is very anxious when he’s around. This is the first time he’s meet her and she growled and nipped a bit at him because she got stuck in a room with him and had no where to run. I lost it of course but my mom said it was not out of aggression it was out of fear and I believe her. She says if it happens again she’ll be gone and I hate that because she such a sweet girl but I understand. But in your situation my mom would have probably killed her dog if that happened. She will and would always choose her grandkids and kids over her dogs. If they won’t get ride of the dog the dog needs to be put away while your son is there. Your child is beyond scared and needs to feel comfortable inside his grandparents house that’s not fair that he has to over come his fear because they don’t want to get rid of a in my opinion bad dog
There is much more info needed, like how it happened etc etc.y moms dog bit my cousin in the face years ago. We did not put the dog down and they were reintroduced. My cousins was trying to ride him like a horse and the dog bit him. We knew better, I had just told him to leave the dog alone, that he was going to get in trouble and bam bit in the face. He had stitches and told the Dr he was going to do it again. He ended up getting the bite scar plus a whoopin…
I am surprised the hospital didn’t report this incident!! I know people that were forced to put the dog down for biting or lose their home owners insurance! Or even just had to put them down!!
your parents need to be held accountable not the dog. they should lock the dog up in a separate room or crate when your son is there. if they don’t lock pup up then don’t visit. have your parents come to your house if they want to see your child. also get your son some therapy to help him get over his fear.
I think the dog knows the boy is scared of him. They can smell his fear. Either put the dog up or come to your house to visit with the grandchildren. I would rather see my grandchildren and do what mother requested. Next time it could be a lot worse.
Did the dog hunt the kid dwn …frm the injury the kid had to be dwn in the dogs face…yea, i wud expect thm to help wi the dr bills but u just need to keep the kid away frm the dog whn yall are there OR get them to come to your house for visits…then you wudnt hv to worry.
If you let your child near that dog again it is your fault. Talk to her and make sure she looks at that little grandson"s face that was hurt. The dog must just not be child friendly.
It’s their dog and their house. You shouldn’t expect them to get rid of the pet but it’s reasonable to ask them to secure the animal away from your son when he is there but again if they don’t want to then simpler don’t go over and they can visit your son elsewhere. Your child should be exposed to animals despite this occurring so that he realizes this was an isolated occurrence.
I wouldn’t “require” them to give the dog away or get rid of it. I would require them to put the dog away while I was there with my child. Introducing a child back to a dog that has bitten them isn’t a good idea because the dog will know the child is afraid.
Keep the dog away from the child. Ask your mom to keep him outside or in a separate room when you’re there. If they won’t do it, explain that the child is s ared, and you won’t be bringing him over if the dog can’t be kept away. Some dogs just don’t do well with kids.
My husband was attacked by his sister’s dog and was almost killed by it…his shoulder and arms were brutality torn up…his brother in law kicked the dog to get it off of him and was attacked as well, stitches were needed for him…this dog had bitten everyone in that house and my sister in law defended it Everytime…the police were called and couldn’t do anything about it because it’s a family matter…so my father in law shot the dog and it was killed…
Legally you are supposed to notify the human society if a dog bites and breaks the skin
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Dogs can be nervous around kids because kids are quick ,dart about and loud. It probably became agitated. Dogs are animals. Don’t take your child back just yet wait . Take a calm approach and tell your parents that you have to put the safety of the child first and. They need to crate the dog or put it in another room when you visit. Or they have to visit grandchild at your house. I have always had dogs and realize they can all be unpredictable.
I’d tell them while you are there the dog needs to be put in a doggy kennel, outside or in a closed room.
There is more to this story. What kind of dog? What were they doing before the bite? Doesn’t mean the kid was abusive, might be he accidently hurt the dog, who is unable to communicate verbally. Why so close to the childs face?
How old is the dog. It may have a medical issue. I would definitely insist the dog is kept away from your son. Neither one is at fault only your mom thinking it’s not an issue. The dog will sense your sons fear and most animals who bite are scared of something. Dog may be trying to protect your mom. As dogs age that protective behavior can get worse. My in laws had an older dog that had arthritis so she always put the dog in the bedroom when we brought the kids over. She was fine with adults but would snap at the kids because she didn’t grow up around kids.
Time to put the dog down! Sorry, but kids come first
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Im a huge animal lover who has had dogs my whole life. I now also have 3 young boys. In my opinion this dog should be crated, kenneled or kept seperate from any and all children. Its just the way it has to be when a dog has a history like that. It has shown it is capable of injuring your child and should not given any more chances. I would certainly be upset if a person is more worried about the dog than a child and i love dogs very much. In saying that they dont need to get rid of their pet just take the extra steps to ensure the children are safe.
Don’t go, their choice. They choose the dog over your child’s safety just don’t go. It could have been way worse what if he lost an eye or scared for life.
She needs to lock the dog up while you are visiting… and a very close eye needs kept on the 4 year old so that he doesn’t get to where the dog is
Some dogs are fear bitters. If your son is afraid of the dog, the dog will know and he could get bit again. The dog should be put up when you visit.
I’d tell her, I’ll only come over if the dogs in another room. Secured and can get out.
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Sorry it happened. But dogs have bad days too just like us. When u visit have the dog put in another room. Bet grandparents feel as bad as u
Don’t let your kids get near the dog or bother the dog. He is probably protecting his Area.
What is more important’ your Son or that Dog’ you should have it removed before it kills your son, I certainly would not ever bring my son there while mom still prefers the dog, that dog has taken a dislike to your son!
Just ask your parents to put the dog up when you visit. If they don’t respect you enough to do as you ask, tell them they are more than welcomed to visit you, but you won’t be visiting their house.
We had a
Similar problem we would put dog up when my grandchildren were her so they wouldn’t be hurt any more
Your son should never have to see that dog again. Dog bites are traumatizing. I hope you are able to respect his feelings.
There is something wrong with you. Keep your behind and your children’s behinds away from there. Your Mother doesn’t care about you and your kids well being. Don’t you be the same uncaring parent to your son. Find productive things to do instead of visiting there. I had a dog bit my neighbors child. Really cared for that dog, but he had to go. Will not tolerate biting dogs. No child did not do anything to dog, I was about 8 feet away. Love your child.
If your parents love the dog more than their grandson don’t take your child to their house. The dog has already bit him twice that’s enough to get rid of the dog ask them what are they going to do if the dog one day kills or disfigures your son there’s nothing they can do to bring your son back or if his disfigured for life they are going to feel guilty every-time they see your son and it would be hard to forgive them because they knew their dog displayed signs of aggression. Once a dog bites someone they will continue to do it regardless what training they go through. There’s been so many children disfigured or killed by family dogs.
Yes keep the child away from the dog.If the dog doesn’t bite anyone else, there must be a reason he doesn’t like your child. maybe he doesn’t trust him.
They’d be coming to my house. Only grandparents or not my child would not return to their home as long as that dogs there.
My dad’s chihuahua bit my nephew hard enough to almost need stitches, thankfully butterfly bandages worked. My sister and me agreed the kids cost visit grandpa unless he got rid of her since he refused to cage her. Nephew was 2 and is now 10 and still terrified of little dogs
Have you ever been bitten? I don’t think you can allow your child’s fear to rule , because not all dogs bite but I would want them to keep the dog away from my child. The child comes first
Keep your son away from that dog he may do it again. I’m sure she loves her grandson but I think she should put the dog in a kennel when you go visit your son is the most important thing you have protect him no matter what
The child obviously did something to irritate the dog.
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Only visits/your son if they agree to secure dog in another room, basement, elsewhere. Otherwise, tell them they are always welcome to visit in your home, w/o dog. They might balk at first, but will not want to miss their grandchild.
Your parents are attached to the dog they feel bad love your child so I would say let them know you are on your way and have them pen it up till u leave that’s what we do
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Your children come first. If parents do not want to quarantine the dog in another area while you are there - I would not go.
You can keep them in your life by going out with them for a lunch or dinner or have them to your home. (Just let them know their dog is not welcome to come)
As grandparents, they really should understand your concerns.
If they have issues with that, it’s their loss. Not being mean. I understand they are your parents, but you may have to visit them by yourself, if reasoning is not for them to bend to.
A dog, relatively, doesn’t have a long life expectancy.
Your relationship with them should not be severed. I feel. As for your position & especially for your son. (Even going to their home with the dog in another room could be traumatic for him, if he heard the dog bark, etc)
Good luck. I hope this helps you. Hope everything works out okay for you 
My mil has a dog that don’t like small kids!! I’ve raised mine so far to love animals! But she only does so much then she’s done and hides! Two of my kids has been nipped to tell them to stop and leave the dog alone! Because I their dad and both maw maw n pawpaw all told them to leave her alone! They choose not to listen to us they listened to her! Even our own dog can only deal with them so long and they push their limits!! She is gentle telling them to stop! My point is some dog do tell kids to stop, if the kids doesn’t the dog has the right to make that point to the kid!! Sorry your kid go bite but don’t put the blame on just the dog!
There could be a medical problem or it could be that the child unbeknownst to anyone has done something previously to the dog that it didn’t like. Sometimes it only takes a child falling down to scare them. It could also be that one of the older kids did something the dog wasn’t happy about. But, in the end, if the dog doesn’t like the child, it should be kept put up while your kids are there or just don’t go there and tell the grandparents the reason why. Leave it up to them whether they want to see their grandchildren or not.
This should have been been taken out of your hands after the stitches were put in…in NYS a dog bite is reportable. You do not get a pass, to let him bite again. Good luck…hard choices. It’s not as easy as people think…separate him, crate him etc. you know as soon as he starts to whine they will spring him …and that puts your kid at risk.
My dog was very old and didn’t like to be bothered but when my grandkids came to visit my dog had to be put in another room. The was happy to go into another room to get away from the noise and kids. Even when I would take my dog for a walk and a little kid wanted to pet my dog, I would always tell the kids they to ask if they could pet my dog or any other dog. Sometimes I put a mussel on my dog.
They should at least lock up the dog. I personally wouldn’t have had that dog once it bit ANYONE 
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