My husband and I have had to block his mother because she has become a witch. She caused a huge problem on social media after he was born because I wasn’t comfortable having her in the room and has shown narcissistic tendencies ever since she just continued to harass us. Has anyone else had any issues of the same with their mothers-in-law?
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Sounds like you already solved the issue by blocking her .
I’m sure others will have experinced this but not sure how anyone else can help if the issue is already fixed .
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Yep. Completely removing her from my life was my wisest choice ever. She still sees her grandkids but never will you see us in the same space.
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Toxic. Remove the toxic from your life.
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Same, my lo is 8 months and my mil started acting crazy like this was her baby and she was gonna do whatever she wanted because she was grandma. I gave her chance after chance while I was pregnant and afterwards as well. She just couldn’t step back and respect my boundaries so she’s been blocked. My husband wants to eventually have her around our son, but I’m in no hurry to have her disrespect back in my life.
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My mother in law had asked, through my husband and I of course said no. when the time came she and that whole family was in the waiting room once baby was ready to come. Had to have her by emergency cesarean. Once i was back in room with my husband and baby. Had to try and feed her and all of a sudden his family comes walking through the door…i was in pain, breastfeeding, trying to bond with my baby, completely out of it, nurses taking vitals and checking, taking urine bags in and out. Completely uncomfortable! They were there, every day, all FOUR DAYS that we were there! During feeding times, doctor visits for me, lunch, dinner…that family came to the hospital all hrs of the day. Then once home with baby and siblings, they came almost every day for a week! Just one of many issues/power struggles w/her.
She has always been in control of everyone around her. Until I came along. My husband and I still argue about her because, she is so toxic and narcissistic. I deal with aftermath from him because, of her. After two years of the bs, i finally had to tell her how it was and how i felt and to cut her off. She still goes through my husband to try and get what she wants…ppl like that will never change or stop. Put your foot down and stand up for yourself. Removing any negativity from your life is always a plus.
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Just go ahead and kill her.
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Oh man my mother in law is crazy. And finally we just cut her off totally. My kids were young enough that they have no memory of her shenanigans. Sometimes its hard for my hubby because that’s his mom but he knows the relationship is toxic
Yes!! We stopped all communication nov 2018 and it was the best decision I’ve ever made.
I dealt with a narcissist husband for 8 years. Its impossible to deal with unless you go no contact. Much harder to do with family members. I say hold your ground. Make rules. Do not allow her to control the situation at any point.
Mine hated me for 20 years. She had a stroke and the only person she recognized was me. She had chastised me for years about my parenting my life my cooking my housekeeping, you name it. After the stroke she came to live with us and I taught my kids what it is like to honor your wedding vows. 8 years of care taking until she passed. RIP #Vivi
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Just a little note to yall who can’t stand yalls mother in law, what come around goes around. The will be on the other foot some day! Food for thought!
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Yes and eventually had to get a divorce.
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My ex mil was like that and so was the stepmil. They both tried to overstep and even my fil did the same thing telling me if I didn’t do something one specific way, then I was being kicked out and my daughter would have to stay and get abused by everyone around her. I said ef that and moved. My current mil is totally different. I told her she could come up to the hospital but because only one person was allowed in the OR, she could still come up and hold him while I was in the recovery room and she was completely ok with that
Yep, moved 400+ miles away from it when my youngest was 2 weeks old. Best decision ever and even my husband agrees, he said we should’ve done it sooner
Man do we have the same MIL?! Been through the same thing. Apparently I’m the problem because I laid down boundaries and she doesn’t believe her son would ever agree to such a thing. Ended up having to cut them off for peace. They still try to cross the boundaries and use guilt to see if they can get their way. Good luck to you. It’s super frustrating and a sucky situation to deal with.
Yep my mother in law is very toxic and was always causing drama in my relationship. Mine once told my husband I was sleeping with his best friend so he would leave me. She came out and admitted to my husband that she said it so he would leave me. We haven’t had anything to with her for 3 years now and are much happier
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I’m departing from mine under different circumstances.
I agree do what’s best of u and ur family. Toxic people sux
A man leaves his family and clings to his wife. Cut her off for a short time and then explain the rules to her. If she wants to be in your life she must act accordingly. Give her a crack in the door. If she acts up cut her off again. On and on until she gets it. If she ever does. Some do. You have a family and it is your duty to protect them. Life is difficult enough without having an emotional vampire in your life. You have 0 obligation to her. Your way or the highway. easy peasy.
DO NOT tolerate abuse. From ANYONE!
Involvement needs to be avoided…separation is needed before it gets more toxic. Don’t feel guilty either…you’re protecting your family.
Good lord people. She had a kid. The mil wanted to be in delivery room but both husband and lady writing this didn’t want mil in delivery room. So mil caused a big fuss on social media about it. Now she’s harassing the dil & son. Read between lines. Ya’ll can’t be that ignorant to not realize what she’s talking about.
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Yep! My ex-outlaw tried to change my daughter’s name at birth because she didn’t like it. The stories are endless. I stuck it out until my youngest graduated from high school and I left. Took my clothes, family heirlooms, and my dogs and started to put the narcissistic MIL and her favorite son behind me. I’m happier now than I’ve ever been. My children have a very limited relationship with the outlaw-but that’s her issue, not ours! Stick to your guns and don’t let her dictate how you raise your child. As I told the outlaw, you had an opportunity to raise your children, now it’s our turn. She didn’t listen, but narcissists never do!
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My mother In law is only allowed to have a relationship with her son. She mistreats my kids and myself but if we dont get involved with them then we are all good. We’ve tried to work on so many issues but mine started very similarly! I was married and pregnant in less than a year. His mom wanted to remain queen bee of his life and when my husband leaped into fatherhood and husband hood and basically all she saw was that he left her. Twelve years later and she has such a bare minimum relationship with her son. She didnt call him for any reason or make any gesture to him most of last year and the year before that… She is my children’s only living grandparent. It’s sad how long we’ve been on our own but we’ve made it.
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It’s your right to have whoever in the delivery room so do as you want But there is a grandparent law so if your mil is smart she can use it.
After a child was born? It is always best to take it to God first, pray pray pray about it then go to her and be very honest about your feelings and discuss everything that is a problem if after that she continues the same then you might have to just stay away…
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Sit down with her and discuss your feelings. My mother in law and i wasted 6 years not speaking. We sat down in November and worked things out.
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The first step to making yourself better is accepti g responsibility for tour own mistakes. To not do so is the very definition of narcissism.
First off you said your mil was a witch because you would not let into the room when he. Was born . i ssume you meant a child birthing . most mothers want to get along well with their sons Sig others .most sons want there to be unity in the family. I would try really hard to be her best friend . give her some latitude . i doubt she is the cruella deville you make her out to be
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While I totally understand where you are coming from. Boundaries have to be kept and enforced.
I have three daughters and a son. My son is my pride and joy. (I love all my children, he is the youngest and only boy) we work hard to teach him to grow up to be a good person a great father and an awesome husband. I know someday a woman other than me is going to have his heart. I can only hope he chooses well and we all can be a family and work out our problems.
My MIL has actively tried to insert other females into my marriage and was only nice when she wanted something. I tried for years to make it work and she made it impossible. My husband still keeps up with her bc that’s his mom, but I haven’t spoken to her in over a year and it’s been lovely not dealing with her drama.
I’m about to end my relationship with my mil as well. Toxic as all hell. Has been for all of my husband’s life. She doesn’t know her place and is the gossip queen of our town. Our life is so much better when we aren’t dealing with her. It’s your life and your family. You need to do what’s best for all of you, and being around someone like that, isn’t it.
I always hear horror stories about MILs. Mine is amazing!! She was able to be in the room with the last grandchild and I’m so glad she was able too. She allows us to live our own life but is there when needed!!!
Try best u can to get along with your mother in law
You may not care for her but sure ur husband does a lot
My husbands parents passed couple years back I had hard relationship with them but they got sick n moved in with us n I gained relationship with them n brought my husband n I closer
They r no longer with us
Miss them a lot n glad I was able gain relationship with them good ppl
But parents aren’t going to be here forever
Pass before u know it
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My daughter is 7 1/2 years old. We have not interacted with his mother since our daughter was 5 months old. She made some very inappropriate comments about her son’s ability as a father so we parted ways. There are many other things that led up to that, not just an isolated incident.
he didn’t want his mother when he was born"? And if she cause a huge drama in social media when he was born wasn’t that old enough to hold a grudge on her? And how is this your problem?
I went thro same! I’d avoid her til we got divorced! Good luck!
I don’t have a relationship with either my mil and fil both for very good reasons. My husband kind of has a relationship with my dad. But my mil threw a fit on social media about us being married and then messages me on fb about how I’m only with my husband for his money. So in laws are “fun” when they want something
I havent spoken to my mil in over 6 years. For pretty much the same reason. Life has been way happier.
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I never wanted anyone but Dr and nurse in delivery room
Yelp!i tried for years to make things work.its been over a year since i had any contact with her.i choose not to deal with any more bs.
My mother-in-law told me to divorce my husband and marry her other son because he needed a strong woman and my husband didn’t
Definitely don’t let her in your lives y’all will be so much happier without that drama
This post doesn’t even make sense. Your husband didn’t want his mom in the room after he was born??? It must be pretty bad!!
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How is your husband a blessing to you? You called your MIL a witch, a narcissist and a harasser, this is your husband’s mother. If he is a blessing then she must have done something right.
I loved both of my MILs, what a blessing they were to me.
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You need to rewrite your post, doesn’t make sense to some, add some more to it
I cant do anything without stalkers trying to do whatever they can to catch it people ive never done a thing to who need to justify there hurtful!, disrespectful and highly illegal behavior. It caused me to lose everything including my mind i think sometimes. I have not been told qhen where or how my children are and have been harrassed and told that they are either dead or hurt until i belueve nothing. You all got a wake up call coming because I obviously win the award for the worlds worst in laws. Best of luck
Not gonna lie, a shitty MIL is a deal breaker for me. Find a good man and meet his mom asap lol
No one should have the right to take a woman’s son out of her life. She loved and gave birth to your husband, just like you have with your child. How would you like to have your son ripped out of your life? Instead of bearing grudges and ripping apart families, why not try to be adults and try to talk and work out differences. Your children should be able to know all their grandparents as they are growing up. I have tried over and over again to talk to my daughter -in-law and she just continues to rip apart our family, because she can’t stand it if people don’t think the same way she does. She has called me horrible names and disrespected me and my mother because we voted for someone she can’t stand. Everyone has the right to vote as they believe. We are all individuals but we should all be able to try to compromise and try to find common ground and be respectful of each other despite our differences. Usually when there are problems like this in families, it is because of actions done on both sides. The Bible says we are to forgive each other and treat each other as we would like to be treated. It also says that to forgive is divine. If God can forgive us our sins, we should be able to forgive each other.
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Ur not alone my mother in law has called jobs got me fired tried to have me killed offered her son large amount of money to leave me I can go on and on she is the devil and my husband finally told her to fuck off and we change our numbers
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She caused a huge problem on social media after he was born? Is the he your husband?
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Oh yes… We have completely taken our children her only grandchildren out of her life permanently…
We are less stressed now… Feels great.
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I blocked mine out over a year ago. I have also made sure she can’t enter the birthing center when my son is born and I have security cameras on my property to alert my phone immediately if anybody steps foot on my property. Sometimes you have to keep toxic/ narcissist/ delusional people out. 
Girl it’s not worth it we keep my mil blocked
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You must mean she became a b!tch as a Witch is wise and uses energy work.
That being said, keep her blocked. She’s obviously just trouble.
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No had a terrific mil
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Shes toxic! We had to cut ties with my MIL for reasons like that! We’re much happier now. Toxic is toxic, no matter who it is. Do what’s best for you and your family!
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2 days before my eldest daughter turned 5, she (mil) didn’t get her own way, she had a meltdown and cut is off.
My daughter turned 22 yesterday and is getting married in 6 weeks.
Sorry, not sorry she’s not coming.
She made her choice and I haven’t missed her at all.
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if i have a problem with my mother in law i will call my mom she will solve it lol my moms bad ass
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Just remember you’re a mom and you’d hate for your son to block you.
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Yes I’m not married but I completely block my other half’s family because all of them think they can raise my child the way they want too. Like before she was born I had a little get together for the family’s to announce my daughters name when I told them what her name was going to be they tried to tell me no you can’t name her Delilah name her Isabella I went off the deep end and told them straight up this is my child i will name her what I want too. Your not having her so you have no say so. My other half stood behind what I said.
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Kill her with kindness
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Keep in mind if she’s being toxic don’t feel bad for cutting her off.
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Oh be glad your mother is alive
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I had an amazing MIL. She passed away in the fall of 2011 and I miss her everyday. But my mother…man oh man…she is toxic to the core. Nothing and I mean nothing pleases her no matter what, EVER. Thankfully we live in another state and don’t have to see her and now I don’t even take her phone calls. As previously stated, it doesn’t matter if it is family. Toxic is toxic and you do not have to tolerate it in your life. Set some firm boundaries with her. If she can pull her head out of her ass and be more respectful then great. If not…she needs to go!
I tried with my mom but she could not seem to grasp the concept that her behavior was completely unacceptable. I knocked it down to one call a week, 20 mins Max. She would talk non stop about herself. Never once ask about her grandson, or me or hubby. You were lucky to get a uh huh in… my psychiatrist and my husband which is a psychologist said time to stop all Interactions in your best interest. I did and I don’t regret it one bit. When I miss my mom I’m actually thinking of my MIL. She was the closest thing I ever knew to having a stable mother.
Bottom line is you do what is best for you and your family 
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My step mother we had to cut off and that includes my dad because of her. She was so toxic and has caused my father’s and I relationship to be non existent.
Family or not you cannot let toxic narrsacist treat you they way they will, I cried kept my self upset and even told my husband I wanted a divorce because eod the way his mother has done me the entire 10 years being together and have finally realized am not letting her I terfere in our marriage because she is mad that he has a wife and children and it don’t revolve around her
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I’m so glad my mother in law is not crazy!
To be honest when my mother in law acted like a psycho I threatened to throw her an ass whoopin and she calmed her ass down . My first ex husbands mom I literally just decked her on my wedding day and she went to jail soooooo everyone resolves issues differently 🤷 I don’t deal with anyone’s bullshit I don’t give a shit who ya are !
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I had to cut my own father off because he tried to fight my fiance while he was home alone with our baby. I had spent 5 hours steam cleaning our carpet because our baby learned to roll and he gets all over the living room, so I made a no shoe rule. We invited my father and grandmother over, was planning on taking them out to dinner, I just had to finish up at work so I told them to go ahead and spend time with their grandson who was already home with his dad until I got there. My fiance asked them politely to remove their shoes and my father responded with "good fing luck, you wanna take them off from me" then proceeded to stomp around on my carpet. Obviously my fiance responded in equal with take your fing shoes off then my father proceeded to step in his face saying he was going to fight him all while our baby is crying on the floor underneath him. Thankfully my fiance is not a violent man and was able to diffuse the situation enough till he left. As soon as I found out I told my dad he was cut off. I grew up with his violence I will not allow it in my home or against my family. You have every right to remove toxicity from your home and life. Your children will learn what to accept in their own life from you <3
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Ew been there done that, cut her ass off. My would have been mother in law tried to burst in the room while my legs were still spread in the stirrups and they were trying to get my blood to clot and stop the bleeding. She caught a nurses elbow to the stomach and cried like she was a victim. Her son is as narcissistic as she is and they both only see my daughter 2 supervised days a month for maybe 5 hours each of the days. Toxic people gross me out.
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It saddens me soooo much when these woman don’t hold their mother in laws on a pedestal the way they do their OWN mothers etc etc they never want the mother in law in the birthing room even tho their son is JUST as involved and important as the mother without the SPERM they would have no baby so how is the mother in law not important in all this?!?..it makes me sick and scared for when my boys grow up I truly hope they never get with a selfish condescending all about ME ME ME Bitch:woman_shrugging:t2:
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Why does the whole dam family think they should be in the delivery room…your not her daughter an if she can’t understand that an wants to be childish then block her ass…ignore her until she can act like an adult
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I have a horrible evil MIL. She only likes my husband’s 2 prior kids and is very mean to the one we have together and my child b4 him. Shes a narcissist who only cares about herself and does whatever she can to get whatever she can out of people. We blocked her from our lives a yr ago and moved on. Couldnt be happier
My husbands mom isn’t even invited to come to the birth of my second baby. No invitation has been extended and she better not show up or I’m a politely ask her to leave. I don’t need the unnecessary stress or tension 
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My MIL’S WERE THES BEST…amazing women who took care of their families…i can only hope to be half as good as them someday…
I have had plenty of issues with my MIL.
My husband is forever screwed over because of her choices when she was pregnant with him and well throughout all his life. He’s not the only one of his siblings that she screwed over.
When my husband and I started dating, I liked her and cared for her as best I could. Then all the proof that she was manipulating and lying came out and I wasn’t having it.
She is toxic.
She shows no remorse.
She may have messed with my husband and his siblings, but eventually screwed me over (and also our unborn baby)-- for 3 months she refused to pay rent and electricity, claiming she didnt have money. Even combined, my husband and I werent where we are now financially, so we were on the verge of being homeless because of her. And she didn’t care nor has she shown remorse to date. She even ran away to another state to live with one of her children who doesn’t have the best track record either.
I let my husband know that she wasn’t going to be near our baby and that she lost the privilege of being their Grandma. Might sound harsh to some, but the reality is she isn’t someone anyone should leave a child with–she’s toxic and a danger to our child.
Toxic is toxic.
Doesn’t matter if it’s blood.
Our children are already going to be exposed to less than ideal things, whether we like it or not.
Why force them in a toxic environment to top it off?
Husband still has communication with the jerk, I made it clear I can’t control him, but that she will have no say, relationship, or communication about our baby.
Don’t worry to much as long as your hubby is by you side there’s always a few DRAMA QUEENS IN. Every family
My MIL is an amazing woman and I love her dearly. That being said my own mother is a witch, very controlling, and self centered. A text book narcissist! For this reason I have block all contact with her, when this happened my kids were old enough to see the real her and don’t ever ask about her. It’s tough to be at this point in life when the people who should love you and want you to be happy are the ones making life miserable.
As a mother you know what’s best for your family and if that means limiting contact with anyone in the world than so be it.
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Omg put distance between you and her before she puts distance between you and your man … she’s not your mom so let him deal with her
Story for the long read! Let me tell you my story. I had moved to Arkansas during my first pregnancy, cause I was homeless. The father denied my son, up till it was time for me to give birth. Father, living in Iowa. Was unable to attend his son’s birth. After my oldest was born I moved back up to Iowa to be with the father, not knowing he had a evil plan with his mom to take my son away. I moved back, and we had gotten pregnant again right away. (My oldest son’s are 10 months apart)well I was a good mom. I was looking for a job, we were living with his parents, and we both didn’t have a vehicle. I was 3 months pregnant with our second son, when we had gotten married. Everything seemed ok, till 3 weeks after our wedding he told me I was annoying and he didn’t like hanging out with me unless I smoked weed. So me trying to save our marriage smoked for him. A week after smoking with him. My friend had a girl come over to her place and saw her messages that they were sending to each other. My friend called me and told me I had to read them. So I showed up and read the messages. I was devastated, and the girl told me she didn’t know otherwise she wouldn’t have ever talked to him. I confronted him while I was packing my things, cause I was done. He tried convincing me to stay, but I wasn’t having any of it. I spent the night on a friends couch and woke up with millions of bites of me. I went to the er and called my mother in law. See was in the room with me when the er doc asked me question. When the question of, if I smoked illegal drugs came up I got scared and said no. Well this bitch waited till the er doctor left the room to follow him. Told him right outside the room where I could hear them! Told them that I had been smoking weed and that I told her that I was going to smoke till the day I died, and that I had no concern for me or my children’s lives! I was so dumbfounded. I felt so betrayed, cause I had only smoked for the first time that week. Out of 2 whole years! The er doctor came in with a dissapointed look on his face and asked me sternly if I had smoked weed. At that point I couldn’t think of anything to say, so I told him I smoked for depression. He shook his head and told me it caused depression. He called dhs, which was my ex husband and mother in laws plan all along. They knew I grew up in foster care and would never put my kids through what I went through. I fought it as long as I could. My mother in law kept telling me that my son would be adopted right away if I didn’t sign him over to her. I felt like I was backed into a corner, with no where to go. So I signed the papers, cause dhs had me drug tested. Which I knew I had weed in my system, and my husband had coke, and hardcore drugs cause he bragged about it right before we were tested. I was an emotional wreck. Not to mention after I had our second son, they called dhs again cause I was homeless. No one took me in and the shelter I went to had bedbugs. I fought with all my might, but ended up signing him over as well. It took me till they were 3 and 4 to get everything ready to get them back. I had a van, two jobs, and had just gotten a apartment. Not even a week, and I found out I was pregnant again. I felt so lost, and upset with myself. My boys turn 5 and 6 this year, and I’m pregnant again with a 13 month old. I’m getting my tubes tied after this baby. My son’s just got adopted by their grandma, and this whole week I haven’t stopped crying. I feel like I let them down. I feel like a worthless mother to them. Watching my 13 month old grow up, has helped me a little bit. I got back stabbed by someone I thought I could trust, and I don’t want anyone to have to go through. What I had to go through.