Is the mother-in-law’s care and concern being interpreted as discrimination and intrusive values? Are these offerings abuse?
It’s hard to tell whether the mother-in-law has gone outside of healthy boundaries by saying rude-things about her daughter-in-law’s weight, because no example is given.
I do admire the people who maintain a healthy weight. It is optimal for health and aesthetics.
Tell her to go fhs. Tell her you are comfortable and when you decide i want to lose weight, i will do it at my time and pace.
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Tell her you’re happy the way you are, and to please stop commenting about your weight. Tell her “if I want to change my body, I will on my own time. But right now I’m fine. I would appreciate it if you would stop commenting about my body.”
Your husband should speak up for you too. Stop letting her treat you that way.
You need to have a conversation with her about how she makes you feel. If your husband won’t stand up for you then that’s a whole separate issue.
I learned to be straight with people. Tell her not to mention weight, dieting, exercise or anything about weight or you will leave. If she continues, leave!
I like to turn it around… throw random comments “don’t you ever eat? You’re too skinny” “does the cellulite on your thighs bother you since you work out too much?” “Do you have trouble keeping your pants up with those straight hips?”
I’m 5’0", 180lbs and my mom comments about my weight every single time we talk… it makes non sense and it hurts. I feel this to my core.
Tell your husband to tell his mother that unless she can keep her personal comments about you to herself, you will not be visiting any more.
Oh hell no! You need to tell her right to her face that you will no longer tolerate her unsolicited and hurtful comments. Period.
Put your big girl panties on… They talked about Jesus… So let her hate your weight. Does your husband love you then who cares about what she says… 
Tell her to keep her opinions to herself and her nose out of your business cheeky cow 
Ur lucky ur the one dealing with ur mil and not me… She wouldn’t like me cuz I would tell her exactly where she could stick her unwanted opinion
Yeah tell her to kiss your butt and mind her own business, you have to put mother n laws in their place sometimes,
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Tell her you can lose the weight but she can’t lose the bitch
I would tell her her… “your son loves it” he has meat to grab” lmbooo🤷♀️ NO LIE!!!
Tell your mother’s in law to mind her business
I’m 5.7 and wiegh 200 too it’s what happens when we get older so fuck that bitchh cause if u fight ur body to get down to a certain size when that’s not what ur body can handle it’ll cause alot of problems
Stop visiting and or tell the MIL to shut tf up. Tell your husband the same.
I’d just tell her to stfu 
Tell your mother in law to go an get F … k ED.
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Tell her how u feel. Assure her you know she means well, but it’s hurtfull
tell the bitch your body, your business, end of
Tell her to F$&@ the F$&@ off.
Trim down a bit perhaps.
Tell the mother in law to piss off and tell the hubby no sex until he sticks up for you. That’s bullshit. Healthy people die early all the time. Skinny healthy bodies don’t mean shit. Stay strong and stick to your guns.
Negative people don’t go around
Tell her to shut the F up
Talk to her and tell her how you feel
Tell her to shut the f… up.
Tell MIL how you feel.
Tell her mind her own business
Tell her to mind her own damn business
Tell her to mind her f, bussiness
Tell her to Shut the fuck up! It’s all kidding aside tell her she needs to have some class and to back off and that you’re happy with the way you are 58 200 is not overweight at all. sorry she’s a ignorant bitch
Tell her to f@&$ off
Fuck what your mother in law says.
If you feel good, OWN it babe😍
Tell Her To Kiss Your Ass!!
Tell him to either tell his mother to shut her whore mouth or you won’t be going to visit and she isn’t welcome in your home. Fuck that. Fuck her. And fuck him for not defending you.
Go on a diet workout it’s good for you will live longer and be happier you are obese and need to change your mother in law knows what she is saying.
Throw a pie at that b*tch and tell her to take a hike
Tell her - thank you but big NO - I’m happy as I am
Tell her to eat a dick.
Tell her to kiss your ass
I may be fat but ur ugly and I can diet
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Tell her to fuck off
I’m a straight up bitch so I would tell her to f off
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I would not be visiting
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Tell you mil you are comfortable where you are.
Tell her with kindness. I like me thanks . No help needed . Love you though . Thanks .
Tell her that you’re not interested in dieting or working out with her and you’d appreciate it if she stopped asking the next time she brings it up. Then change the subject. If she keeps pushing then tell her to mind her damn self cause you’re happy as you are.
Have a gentle conversation - she, hopefully means well & that it’s not a conversation for the 2 of you to have if you don’t want to
Tell her to Stop it !
Tell her nicely, none of your (f**king) business!!
If ALL she did was ask you to diet with her and work out with her sounds to me she’s just trying to spend time with you doing something y’all can do together that they are into… Just tell her you’re not into being as healthy as they are. If shes making comments about your body. Then I get annoyed real quick. Everytime she made a comment I’d answer by saying … Your son likes it. he don’t like to cuddle with bones.
Start pointing out her flaws. See how she likes that.
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Just be straight with her or tell her to do one .
I would be like, “Listen, I’m not interested. Don’t bring it up again. If you want to diet, then fine, but again, I am not interested.” Nothing wrong with you being frank.
Oh I hate mother-in-laws like that that thinks they’re better than everybody else that looks perfect I used to be skinny too a long time ago but after I got into my thirties I slowly started ganging more and more I was able to go from 250 down to 205 in 2008 then it went up to 70 and it’s been 270 till a couple of years ago and I’m 5’8" to I had something terrible happen in my family and I lost down to 224 lb but I was not eating but maybe twice a week then all the sudden I get to eating ice cream and stuff and I ended up now I weigh 329 I just can’t get it down and keep it down but if you’re a 5-8 200 lb you’re looking good because that was what I was was 5/8 and around 205 and I was very confident with myself don’t let her bring you down just ignore what she says just turn your head and if you don’t see it didn’t hear it and walk away I’m proud of you coming to talk about this because your mother-in-law has no right to do you that way I don’t care if she’s thinking about your health or whatever when somebody does that crap it brings you down because of what you’re being told then you start thinking of yourself as ugly too fat just because of them so don’t let people get to keep looking good and be yourself they can’t deal with it then they can leave I hope you good luck and God bless
If she knows she’s getting to you, she’ll keep it up…
Forewarn hubby you about to put her on notice…
“Back off Bi** I’m happy in my own skin you must not be…”
Might cause issues between you and hubby but if he’s not saying anything in defense of you he’s just wrong…
You’re man needs to tell her to zip it
Tell her to shove it
I 100% understand and go through this with my own mother. However, I think your relationship with her would benefit if you say yes. Give it a shot. I know you feel comfortable and that’s completely fine, it might give you guys some really great bonding time
Just tell her She needs to stop! That you feel good in your skin and het comments about You are Just plain rude.
Let her know how it makes you feel. She should except you for who you are. Praying for you 
You need to put her in her place. She should mind her own business and stay in her lane.
Just be frank, let her know that you are just fine how you are and your happy. Let her know that you would appreciate if she wouldn’t bring it up again. She might get mad at first, but she will come around. Or at least If she wants to be in you and your husband’s life, she will.
Tell her that while you are over weight, she is ugly and you can lose weight, but what is she going to do about her ugly!
Tell her to get a life. Then she can concentrate on her life instead of yours.
Grab a donut take a huge bite out of it about an inch away from her face then while you’re chewing with your mouth full tell her “Mind yo b’niz Mil…”
That’s about as rude as she is for fat shaming you.
Offer her a piece of cake and tell her that her clothes would fit better if she filled them out a bit. These negative criticisms from ANYONE are unhealthy and destroy your self confidence. Detach yourself from these people if possible.
Let her know how her comments make you feel. She may think remarks like that are a motivator, so you need to tell her how hurtful she’s being. If she’s invited you to diet or exercise with her, maybe you could accept her invitation. You never know, you may end up enjoying a good workout, and it would go toward building a better relationship with her.
You are not over reacting! And she has no right to treat you that way. If your husband won’t stand up for you, stand up for yourself. But do it with kindness lol. It’ll bother her more then
Fire with fire since you have already said you were uncomfortable. Ask if she is ill, because she looks like she’s becoming skinnier then normal. Color of skin is off, ect. Make her feel the same till she stops, or stops talking to you… mission accomplished ether way.
Ignore her. Do whatever makes you happy. Opinion of others doesn’t define the real you. Focus on yourself not with their opinion.
Same thing with me, but not my mother-in-law. Only my neighbor. She makes problem about me being fat. 
But I don’t care. I’m fat yes, but I am proudly says that I have a beautiful daughter.
Oh my just tell her to stop because you don’t appreciate it. If she continue to do it stop visiting until she gets the message.
Ask her to do a health check and workout with you - Involving cutting back on all passive aggressive comments and workout how be a much kinder person!
Just keep your respect and keep being nice with them and enjoy life the same way you always do without letting their remarks affect you as an individual or affect your relation with your husband. Do not complain about them to your husband. Ignoring them tactfully with respect and being nice to them is the best thing you can do to yourself especially if you have a good relationship with your husband. Do what you need to do on your own terms and time without letting them know that you are bothered by their remarks. If you are convinced that it is what you want to do, then surprise them, or if she is supporting you morally then do it with her. You will be a winner believe me. Don’t let little insecurities take over your relationship with them.
Speak up for yourself, I don’t care if you are at her house, she is being rude and hurtful.
Only God can judge you anybody else can ( screw a light bulb ) figure of speech be happy in your own skin i am 6’1" i weigh 262lbs and i am happy in my skin so do what makes you happy and God bless.
Bake her a cake with heaps of cream and a bunch of flowers. then tell her its a appreciation gift for her kind offer to exercise with you but i’m quite happy how i am,
that is r and she needs to stop and your husband should say some thing to her to stop
Ask her if she wants to go to weightwatchers together,
Your husband should support you and stand up for you!
It called body shaming tell her this is between you your doctor
Tell them you decide your own weight and if they are jerks, forgive and don’t go there. Good luck. God bless.
Tell her no thank you, I like being thick. I feel more womanly when i lay with my man and I can tell our bodies apart. Thank youuuu, but no thank you. Have a nice day bites 
#bigisbeautiful #slimthick #nodiet
She is JEALOUS of U… and truth be known she was a FAT KID and her mother done her this way…
She might be just simply wanting to spend time with you
Judy say…
‘No thanks, your son loves me nice & meaty & cuddly not stick thin’!!
Tell her, the doctor says I’m fine as I am…
Better to carry a couple extra pounds than have a eating disorder! If you are comfortable with your body then ignore mum in law don’t bite & don’t visit she will soon get the message
Tip 1-remind her you can lose weight, she will always be a Bitch.
Tip 2- let her know that her son seems to really enjoy the cushion for the pushin.
Tip 3- tell her that if your not sitting on her face, your weight is none of her business.
Tip 4- eat cake, because Fuck her opinions
Your mother in law is a B
Ignore her or tell her to mind her own business!!
