My mother in law told my daughter she should NOT have a dinosaur themed bedroom: Advice?

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my great grand daughter wants a dino shirt like her brother

My mil use to tell me what was wrong and right for my kids. I’ve always given into people on certain things however not with my children! I’ve always stood my ground with them and what they want. Now my mil an I get along great. She accepts what I say and what they want. Actually we get along better than her and my husband lmao!

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My daughter is 12 and very girly and every since she was small she’s loved dinosaurs and sharks. And still does

Grandma doesn’t sleep in the room, so what affect does it have on her? Give your girl that dinosaur room :heart:
If my son wanted a princess room, I would go all out.

I thought dinosaurs were both male and female. Your mother in law sounds very sexists I wouldn’t care about what she thinks

Dinosaurs are not just for boys in fact I know soon many girls that love them, including myself. If that’s what she wants she can totally have that. I would let your MIL know that you aren’t ok with her telling your daughter what she can and can’t like. Especially because of gender norms. Dinosaurs are for everybody! And she just ruined your daughter’s self confidence and she’s probably questioning other things too. And Definitely let your daughter know it’s ok to like anything she likes. She doesn’t have to like princes things because she’s a girl, she can like Dinosaurs too!

Do the dinosaur room and next time you go see your mother-in-law dress your daughter like a boy LOL

I am using this as my inspiration for my daughter’s nursery.

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If you listen to your mother in law, you will do whatever she wants to satisfy her, stand up to her and tell her to mind her own business, some girls like boy themes and there is nothing wrong with that

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The only person you should be having a conversation with is your daughter. She is not wrong for wanting dinosaurs. Make her feel comfortable again. I completely feel your anger in this situation. Playing the gender card/rolls for a young girl could definitely reshape how she sees the world. Express your concerns. Your household will be ran how you want it be ran. It’s okay to agree to disagree.

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It’s your daughter’s room not your mother in law nothing wrong with :sauropod:

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Tell the mother inlaw to get with the times!

Your daughter, not hers, if that’s what she wants , the mother in law will have to get over it

My kid is getting whatever she wants my daughter has a NASCAR room and my son has soccer room

She flipped ? Time to have a gentle private talk with grandma. She needs to be supportive or at least neutral not judge mental. This is your child to raise not hers to mold. Her responsibility as a grandma is supposed to be loving, fun, supportive, wise :blush: that’s it.
Remind kiddo her ideas are important and it doesn’t matter if someone else doesn’t always like them :+1:

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They are out there, folks

Honestly forget Mil for now she can wait.

I would talk to kiddo and tell them that people judge what they don’t understand and she can have whatever type of room that makes her happy. What’s most important is that is her room and like any other boundary it’s hers to decide.

Not everyone will agree with you 100% of the time and honestly this sounds like the perfect situation to give this girl confidence in herself and her choices and be herself unapologetically!

Adults can be wrong and it’s okay to say so and question them. Mil reaction was ridiculous she needs a good lesson on if you can’t say anything nice then keep your thoughts to yourself. :stuck_out_tongue_winking_eye:

Your house, your decision.

Explode on her. Your MIL way of thinking is toxic to your child. Let that baby have a dinosaur room and let your MIL know where she can put that opinion.

I wouldn’t have a private conversation. I would include my daughter because I would want her to see me sticking up for her.

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You don’t approach her, and you do what makes you and your daughter happy!! It’s not her say!! My daughter had a Batman room for a few years when she was a little younger. Doesn’t hurt anything!! If that’s what they like then so be it!!!

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I would probably re do my entire home in dinosaurs.

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Tell your daughter about Mary Anning, the mother of paleontology.

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It’s your daughter and none of her business. Do what makes your daughter happy. Shame on her.

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To care what your child wants in room is fucked, who cares fucking people in world is fucked. As I used to say could be worse :joy:

Her room her choice your her mom

Your mother in law needs to mind her own damn business. If anyone talked to my child like that they’d immediately be dis owned and never be allowed in mine or my child’s life again

Give it to her!! Your mother in law needs to stay in her lane it’s none of her damned business and she’s wrong anyway.
And gently tell your daughter she can have whatever kind of damn room she wants.

Nothing in your house belongs to Mother in law …Your hubby needs to have a talk with his mom about boundries.

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Give that baby her dinosaur theme. Why? Because that is her home, her room the place where she should feel comfortable and safe, mentally, physically, and emotionally. Don’t let another person steal your joy or the joy of YOUR CHILD. Children follow the examples of their parents. Speak to your mil in front of your child so she knows that you have her back. You can say that it will be decorated in a girls theme because all the dinosaurs will be female with pink feather boa’s.You are your child’s advocate :blush:

Why do you need advice it’s your daughter :woman_facepalming: tell your mother in law where to go!!:woman_shrugging:

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Give her, her room that she wants to bad for the mother in law there’s nothing wrong with girls liking dinosaurs

Your child …your rules
Do the dinosaur room
If u listen to her you’ll go nuts
My little girl loves dinosaur too if she ask I will for her

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You should definitely talk to mil, but exploding isn’t going to solve anything, just cause more problems. It’s not that big of a deal. Talk with your daughter, tell her grandma was wrong, problem solved. Older people are more I guess old fashioned, they think differently. It’s not really any of her business, but you guys told her about it and she expressed her opinion about it. Exploding on her won’t change her mind or solve anything.

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My toddler absolutely loves and adores dinosaurs. Her bedroom is boho themed but we threw in some dinosaur stuff … they make pretty girl dinosaur things with girly colors and flowers … but i also dont see a problem with having boy color dinosaurs either as they are kids an who cares what gender colors society seems acceptable just pick out what she wants

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Dinosaurs are a lie. never existed

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I would do so many Dino decals that it covers the walls…. My house my child. Love them but don’t crush them if not you’re gone

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It’s an animal. How is an animal not sutible for girls? I would tell her if she can’t respect you and your daughter to not come over anymore. If you daughter loves dinosaurs and want that in her room, DO IT!!! You nasty mil doesn’t have to sleep in the room your daughter does.

Just let her know, or tell your husband to do it! My husband always steps in when it’s his mother and I with my mother. I know they don’t like it when we buy my daughter “boy” toys, but we let know from the start that they are just toys and we are not going to let our daughter cry over a “boy” toy

Whatever. I ignore mine and do what we do.

When you’re all done with the theme, drop me pics. My 16yo daughter would totally dig doing that to her room too.

Please do her dinosaur room.

I have a little girl who’s 5 and lovessss dinosaurs.

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The girl is only trying to express herself. Don’t make her change her mind based off your mil opinion. It’s not her daughter, it’s not her room. so it really doesn’t matter what she has to say. That’s just me tho.

Show her all the woman in paleontology and then show her some awesome exhibits, my daughter has loved dinos since she was about that age she is 11 now and we have promised her a trip to the smithsonian when she is 12, but has visited more dino museums than i can remember as we make it a point to find them when we travel♡ show her that her likes/loves has nothing to do with body but what is in her mind and heart, your mother in law would hate me blahahaha i encourage her little heart to thrive!
My daughter pictured below

Nothing wrong with a girl being interested in dinosaurs. Those who work in that field make a lot of money gramma.

Tell you MIL you will only use girl dinosaurs

Your daughter can pick whatever she wants (kid friendly anyhow lol), so if she wants dinos, or cars, or whatever she wants, tell everyone else to gtfo with that mindset! What a crock of bs… my kids get the pick our what makes them happy, idc what other people think is “right” for boys/girls/etc… I feel your pain though, my daughters grandma is the SAME way

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Tell her to.pay for it if that’s what she wants but to tell her that a dinosaurs are cool she is so wrong.

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What if she chose puppy’s? Why is it dinosaurs is only a “boy” theme? I loved Dino’s as a kid and my mom never said a word.

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You need to set boundaries. She’s now traumatizing your daughter! With an opinion at that!

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Why no Dino’s? My daughter who’s ten now loves Dino’s and still does. For her third bday, she asked for Dino Themed party and we had so much fun with it lol. And she had tons of Dino toys when she was little.
She’s still fascinated. Tell MIL maybe she’ll grow up to be a paleontologist by nurturing her interests and she can have whsyvet she wants, dinosaurs aren’t a gender based thing! Jeez!

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Just reassure your daughter that she can like whatever she likes, regardless of what other people think. Dinosaurs are awesome in my opinion. :sauropod::t_rex:

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Tell grandma to butt out.

It’s not bout no one else what is a mind craft party boy

Omgggg I would go off! Here’s my 6 year old daughters room.

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Tell your daughter to ignore her and go with the dinosaurs

Momma do what your baby girl wants there is nothing wrong with it at all. My youngest loves unicorns and he’s a boy. It only gender profile if you make it out to be. As I momma of 4 boys I don’t see the issue tell her it’s not her room and she can take her opinion else where.

You go get the biggest Dino :sauropod: decor you can find and decorate that sweet babies room! Then you tell your MIL that she doesn’t get too dictate what goes on in your household and if she wants to keep this behavior up than she can just stay away! They have adorable Dino stuff on Amazon.

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Do her room in dinosaurs. It’s your daughter’s room she can have what she wants. She’s only little once. Your MIL has no say so.

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If she owns the room where the art work is to be done then and only then does she have the right to offer advice. My grand daughter likes dinosaurs and dolls,. Her favorite doll is a black baby. JS

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You don’t have to say anything. Make her a dinosaur room!

My littlest girl LOVES dinosaurs :t_rex:, sharks​:shark: and bugs​:butterfly:. I believe it shows intelligence. She has such patience & finds the tiniest insects. We say she could be a paleontologist or entomologist. I’m a everglades biologist, my kids are pro at ID. No holding back women in the sciences!

Oh I would have a few words for her.

There are thousands of options of decor she can choose from to make it girlie or not.

That WOMAN would not try to force her opinion on my child again. She way overstepped. Tell her how you feel then show your daughter she can have anything she wants. :slightly_smiling_face:

Tell grandma if it wasn’t for female dinosaurs there wouldn’t be any at all. Just say maybe the dino’s decorating her room are all female. Lol

We live in 2022 there IS girl themed Dino bedding oh god

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Since when are dinosaurs just for boys? Your mom is confused.

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I’d be a petty Betty and get anything and everything Dino for your baby :woman_shrugging::woman_shrugging: it’s not her room it’s not her house she has no say and I’d flat out tell her that and if she can’t control her mouth and behave in front of your child then she can leave

You can do a girly dinosaur room! Half of dinosaurs had to be girls to create more

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Tell her to mind her own business, its not her place to make that decision

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My girl has loved dinosaurs since she was a toddler and she’s 11 now. Give her a dinosaur room!! You do not owe your MIL anything. It’s not her room and not her child. Wow the nerve!

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Go for what your daughter wants

That’s silly :stuck_out_tongue_winking_eye: they had to have girl dinosaurs to exist soooo paint it pink or purple for balance and slap some dinosaur stuff on there and call it a day! You can be girlie and like the boy stuff all at once! Best females I’ve ever met were the biggest Tom boys and the meanest girls I ever met were fairy princesses…js…

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Cute ideas for girls /who want dinosaurs

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Whose feelings matter more, your innocent daughter’s or your MIL with completely out dated ideas?

Umm first off your daughter is so awesome wanting that theme and screw your mother in law let your daughter express herself how she wants too. I absolutely love dinosaurs and put as many as I can in my home.

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Your MIL needs to chill her tits… I was a straight tomboy when I was little. I loved toy cars, I loved wearing boy shorts, white t’s, I loved playing with wrestling dolls, etc… I was always a Daddy’s girl. I wanted to do everything he did and was stuck up his butt… I’m definitely still a girl lol. :woman_shrugging:t2: Your daughter is allowed to like whatever the hell she wants. You’re letting her express herself and I think that’s awesome! I praise you for that. People are too judgmental and too into their head nowadays. My sons favorite color is PINK. He’s almost 6. He likes colorful things, loves rainbows and also likes guns, knives, anything to do with army/war and likes zombie games. I’ll never tell my children (I have 3 boys) what they can and can’t like just because of their gender. Do your baby girls room in dinosaurs, momma! If she likes it, it’ll make her happy. :heart: Don’t let MIL ruin it for her granddaughter. :wink::grin:

You tell your monster-in-law toys are not distinguished for “boys or girls”. Themes can be for anyone. I had a Batman room growing up and a Superman room now as a 36-year-old adult. It’s 2022 if she want a dino room she can and should have it

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It’s her bedroom…she wants a dinosaur theme room she should get dinosaur themed room.

I don’t believe children should have to stick to " girl themes" and " boy themes"…same as clothing ,toys etc shouldn’t be subjected to " boy toys and girl toys". I would just do her bedroom how she likes.-:heartbeat:

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Listennnnn my 9 year old son loves getting his mani with color nail polish. Everyone had something to say. They told him “that’s for girls! Are you a girl?!” Lit fire right under this momma bears butt. I told them “my son will express himself in whatever way he wants. I don’t care how it makes anyone feel. He wants purple nail polish guess what? He’ll have purple nail.” If they aren’t paying for it or taking care of your children they’re opinion doesn’t matter. You assure your baby that whatever SHE wants is totally fine.

Don’t explode just do the room in dinosaurs overload !!!

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Will she still want them in a couple years or will you have to re-do ?

Dude, I’m a 29 year old woman who STILL loves dinosaurs and would be doing back flips if I had a room like that

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Tell that MIL to F all the way off. She is part of what is wrong with society today :rage:

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My daughters favourite animals are dinosaurs!! I can’t wait I give her a Dino bedroom!

I would ignore grandma since it’s not her room and if daughter asks what her problem is I’d say she doesn’t like dinosaurs and leave it at that.

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It’s not up to up to the mother in law. She’d flip if she saw my loving room!

I think its great she’s showing interest in dinosaurs! they’re fascinating creatures! here is a list of women palaeontologists …maybe share with your mother in law! Category:Women paleontologists - Wikipedia

I have lots of “boy” stuff in my room.

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  1. this is a great opportunity to show your daughter you accept and love exactly who she is. She gets a Dino bedroom and you will love doing it because it’s true to her. 2) as far as MIL… I’d remind your mother in law that your child will one day be old enough to recognize when someone is trying to force assertions onto her and make her question her self (or even self worth). Fortunately, you are the parent and get the right to decide regardless of MILs opinion. But she might want to avoid looking like the bad guy in the future, she’s only alienating her own relationship with her grandchild.
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It is NONE or her business … if she’s gonna spout off things like that I would question whether she should be allowed around my daughter. It’s all about boundaries :confused:

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My daughter will be 5 the end of this month and is OBSESSED with dinosaurs. She even had a dinosaur bday party for her 3rd bday. She has dino toys and everything. There’s nothing wrong with girls liking dinosaurs.

What are these comments about? We are talking about relationships that will last til death in optimal situations. I hope this mother seeking advise realizes this. Maybe the M-I-L does have outdated ideas. Maybe the M-I-L is a little paranoid about this gender dysphoric generation. Maybe this M-I-L Is thinking green, brown, earthtone, and imagines bright fun girly colors for her grand daughter’s room. There is a picture someone posted in the comments with bright, purples, pinks, turquoise, happy colors. Show the Mother in law that a Dino theme doesn’t have to be dreary colors. Most of all show her that you care about her ideas and try to appreciate her as someone your husband and daughter love, even if you don’t. Yout attitude towards her will make an impression on your little girl one way or the other. Whatever dysfunction she or you have brought to the table can be remedied by a little kindness and empathy. Some of these women making derogatory comments are the same women who will post about kindness in their next post. Let’s at least be consistant.

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Encourage her that she can do what she wants with her own room and she can BE anything she chooses as well. There are several people who are female and study dinosaurs. She sounds like a very intelligent young lady. God bless. :heart::pray::hugs:

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If I’m not mistaken there were both male & female dinosaur. Tell mil (in private) to butt out!

Let your daughter do it, then if your mil says something, let her know that’s what your kid chose, and you’re more than ok with it, don’t offer anymore explanation. Let your daughter know there is nothing wrong with what she chose, that’s what makes her happy, so the hell with everybody else’s opinion
(Just my 2 cents)

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Explode. Biting your tongue isn’t gonna get you anywhere, and it certainly won’t help your little girl. Tell your MIL she can either put her outdated opinions in their box, or she can fuck all the way off.
And talk to your daughter about how granny was wrong to say the things that she did and that a dinosaur room is okay if that’s what she really wants.

Remodel the whole damn house as dinosaurs!! Seriously.

"It’s ok for you to like dinosaurs. It’s OK that grandma doesn’t like dinosaurs. It’s OK. For different people to like different things.

Dinosaurs can be for both girls and boys. It wasn’t very nice for grandma to say that you shouldn’t have a dinosaur room. If you want a dinosaur room, we will make you a cool dinosaur room. And that’s ok if grandma doesn’t like it, because it’s your room not grandma’s"

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I would tell her straight up don’t ever say that crap again or you won’t be hanging out with the grand child my daughter’s 4 and has a dino bedroom and she plays with dolls and cars and trucks and dinos and fixes her big trucks and diggers!!!

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Let her have the dinosaurs!

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Make that room pop off gf

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