Nobody can tell you how to raise your own child, honestly I live with my parents and I try to ask them questions and I always get told you’re her mother you know best. So basically if they can’t support how you raise your child tell them not to come back until they can support you
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Just… WOW. I am a grandparent. I’m raising my oldest grandchild in fact. (He’s 15) I’ve had him all but one year of his life. However, my other grandchildren all know they mess up they get disciplined. They’re momma needs to bust their butt… So be it. As a grandparent, the prerogative to spoil the grandchild is ours to enjoy, but the job of the parent is to guide and direct. Do not feel guilty for doing your job.
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I did the same thing with my mom, she didn’t like how I was doing something with my first born. We got into a fight, I took my kid and walked away (was at her house), bout 8 ish months later (after not talking to much to eachother) all was good, she never again told me what I should do with my child.
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your house, your kid, your rules.
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Just warning you all, this is a public group. The people you’re talking about can see your responses. Just warning you all to avoid future conflicts lol
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Your kids, need to set boundaries with the grandparents it else they will continue to do this forever… They won’t like it but they will accept it or leave.
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Let them leave.
Booohooo throw a fit like my child then you get a time out too.
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Your child. She don’t like it? She can leave.
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I just told my Mother, in a firm voice, you raised your children I’ll raise mine. She never interfered again.
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I would have held the door open for her. She’s not raising the child, you are. And I would make that clear to her. I don’t like to see my g babies get in trouble, it literally hurts my heart, even when I know they deserve it. But you best believe I know my role as Nana and would never disrespect my children or their spouse in their parenting choices
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You are the parent! And I feel you are absolutely right! Holding our children accountable is our JOB and they will thank you for it in the long run!! Do you!
My kids won’t even let me near my grandkids
In Florida grandparents have no rights at all. Explain that to your parents
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Tell them bye and let them go home. Do what’s best for your kids. Your house your rules. Period
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It’s okay to correct your child but it’s never okay to make your kid stay in the room for the whole night,that’s never okay,that wouldnt go well with my mom or my mother n law. It’s okay to discipline but it’s not okay to make or force a kid to go to the room for the rest of the whole night especially over something small,theres other way to correct her than to force a kid in a room. parents have rights to there grandkids regardless of the parents rules. My family can come over and they can be told to quit having a attitude but I wouldnt send our kid to the room for the whole night as my family came over to spend time with my kid and a kid doesnt deserve to be forced in a room the rest of the whole night,no kid deserves that especially for something small and stupid like that.
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Pack a little bag and send the unruly brat with them 
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Tell them to go right on home, sounds like that’s where they need to be so they can mind their own business.
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My reply would simply have been “can I help you with your coat?”
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Your kid your rules.period. it does not matter where you are or who you’re with!!! You shouldnt feel judged. Did they send you to your room when you were that age?? I bet they did!!
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Your house uput tiles
You’ll understand when u become a grand parent.
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Ok so your mom already had her kids and raised them. She don’t get a second chance 
the next time she she gets upsets and says they have to go home… before she can say “because blah blah blah” just say aw man well maybe you can stay longer next time, or next time maybe we can… if she forces the issue just say I’m sorry mom it’s not open for discussion or debate and leave it at that…
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I have no problem telling my parents that they raised theirs now it’s time for me to raise mine.
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Well I would be limiting time with that friend.
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Yes, my mother & I moved into together for a few, along with my 2 daughters at the time. Due to us thinking it would be easier financially. Well that turned into her completely taking over. For a long time I was able to not allow that but over time she had just beat me down with to where in the end I wasn’t even feeling like their mother. I love her, she’s a good woman but I feel like she regrets alot from when we were younger and trying to make up for it with them. Undermining everything I said. To where everything I did wasn’t right, if I didn’t do something when she thought it needed done or how she would make remarks and or would know I was getting ready to do something with them and would take them and leave as I was getting ready, ECT. It got to be too much. My kids were acting out because there’s 2 people trying to parent. And they wouldn’t listen, fighting, I ended up moving out. It was a blow up and I hate that, on her part, and she did some things that made it hard to forgive but I tried for the sake of my kids…they do love her…but she flat out said she didn’t want to see them…maybe in a year or 2 when I failed. Now it’s been over a year and a half and she hasn’t seen them. Everyone acts like I took the kids away to hurt her but they wasn’t there and didn’t see. She’s sick so I think that’s slot of it…her whole personality was changing. I tried to help her but it just caused me to be depressed and like I said wasn’t able to be the mother. Now my kids are doing great. I’m able to be the mom. It’s not chaotic. I’d try to make her understand they need you because you’re their grandmother, not because they won’t survive with out you. But she just couldn’t understand. It breaks my heart because they miss her, and I love her but she just won’t …idk. I just wish she could see they are happy and taken care of and maybe understand she overreacted and got a little too intense. Again idk though because I think what she’s dealing with and not getting any help over and maybe something else coming on…but her personality has changed and there’s no making her see she’s not right. It’s not the woman I grew up with. She is softer and more affectionate with my kids than with me but her attitude towards me is just hate and I don’t understand why. But I had to remove us from that situation in order for us to thrive. I am the mother. As are you. If there was reason for concern if understand more but since it wasn’t the case with me, and sounds like it’s not with you then you stand your ground. She can leave if she doesn’t like it, and come back when they understand you are the parent and will go about it how you see fit or what works for y’all. Also seems like as parents get older and turn into grandparents they change. They get softer. They think back on things they wish was different with us. I get that but can’t undermine the parent or the kids will not respect you if they see others don’t and it will be a mess.
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I learned to not give a shit. Your parent wants to correct you but doesn’t respect you correcting your kid? Double standard. I made it clear to his parents and mine, our kids need to follow our rules, THEY are not in charge. If they said they are gonna leave then BYEEEEEE
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You are the mom I know it’s hard to tell them but it will work. out
It’s your child full stop you do what you think is right you have to live with your child ,24/7 not them do what you would on any other day a stick to it.
You need to have a talk with your parents. I bet they wouldnt let you get away with that behaviour. If they dont like it then they dont have to come over.
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Shoulda asked grandma to sit down with some hot chocolate and talk about whats going on…
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You are the mom and the final authority.
I had the same problem with my in laws !!!
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Well, looking at it from a grandmother’s point, I can see why she would be upset. They come over to spend time with the family, and now a big part of it is gone for the night. You’re not only punishing your daughter, you are punishing them as well. Maybe, a better way would be let your daughter know ahead of time any misconduct while the grandparents are there receives double the punishment after they leave. I don’t think they are necessarily angry because you correct your child. More that it affects their visit too.
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Ok mum so you never did that to us 
Sorry you feel that way
Parenting is all about balance and you will find your instincts will serve you well over time. Hang in there!
Why did you make her go to her room for the night.couldnr you have made it 15 or 20 min. I think you should correct your child, but you went to the extreme.
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Okay so YOU’RE MOM and YOU get to say how your kids are disciplined. Flat out not they grandmama.
Your house, your rules, YOUR child. You do what you feel is best. Next time your parent a get upset stop and ask your mother “ would this behavior have been acceptable when I was younger? “ Then explain that you are correcting her behavior so she doesn’t, think it acceptable to testa other people poorly with no respect t or manners. We were obviously raised different and I think sometimes grandparents don’t see if from our point of view when it comes to our kids. I firmly believe that the behavior taught at home is what makes a or breaks a child. All these kids being bullies and treating people poorly is a result of poor parenting, kids are allowed to walk all over their parents without fear of paying consequences. Stand your ground and keep up the good work mana, your children and parents will all respect you in the end.
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Pft. If people dont like how I parent my children in front of them, the door is open.
Unless you are a parent who is putting your children in danger, grandparents and ANYONE ELSE don’t have the right to “correct” you.
Just say "okay, have a good day! 
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Advice… theyre your kids🤷♀️
Your child ! You do what is right . Don’t let nobody tell you how to raise your child
I find this with my mom and my 4 year old. My thing is she had her chance to raise her kids now it’s our turn! They see it as that’s their grand baby who does no wrong. I just tell my mom sit down, I’m trying to raise a decent human not a grown spoiled brat grand baby 
Don’t like it then leave simple
That’s a toxic relationship and your child feeling like they can get away with whatever they want when their grandmother is there will only get worse if you don’t put a stop to it now. Stop inviting her round. I know it’s tough because she’s your Mum but it’s only showing your child that they don’t have to do what they’re told everytime she undermines you
I’ve known ppl who didn’t discipline their kids, like ever. They have been in and out of juvenile detentions, no job more then a week. No one wants to be around them.