Hello, please post. I don’t write on these things fed often or ask advice. Ok, so my 8-year-old came home with an attitude from her friend’s house. She has been rude and treating everyone like crap today. Well, my parents are over, and it’s like God forbid if I even correct my child. Then they have a problem … or it’s just tension all around. My mom actually said we are leaving because she didn’t like that I made her go to her room for the night. It’s like I’m not allowed to correct my children in my own house without feeling judged. Does anyone else deal with this? Advice, please!?
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I would tell her she raised you and she is going to allow you to raise her
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Your house, your child, your rules point blank end of story.
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Stick to your guns and if they want to leave, let them. You are the parent.
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I could under stand grandma getting upset if she was there for a visit
You could have grounded her tomorrow
Family time is priority parents won’t be around forever
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Don’t invite them over if you cannot correct your child in your own home without them being rude to you. Limit contact outside the house. Let them know that if they are going to be rude about you being a parent to your own child that they will have limited time with or around your child.
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Just keep raising your child how you see best. Grandma can stop visiting if she doesn’t like it.
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Tell your mom to shut
Up or she can go to her room too
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Let your parents leave.🤷 Your house, your child, your rules.
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Look at the bright side, if your mom is being nasty and doesn’t like how you’re raising your child with respect and manners… It’s a good way to get your mom to leave, next time just let you kid in on it…
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So her grandparents come to visit and you send her to her room? Why couldn’t she have been punished after they left or the next day? Seems rude to me that they come to see her and can’t.
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My mom is like this too! I told my son he couldn’t open everyone else’s gifts during family Christmas and my mom walked right out because I told him not to do something, she came back in shortly after but yes she is like this too. It’s like walking on eggshells but I’ve explained to her I need to be able to discipline my child from time to time and she should’ve disciplined me a little bit more possibly.
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Don’t give a crap what your parents think. It’s your home, you’r child
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I’m sorry I refuse to let my kid act like an asshole or think it’s ok regardless of who’s at MY house… I would’ve done the same thing and kudos to you for not allowing her to act that way…and as far as your parents go, they’ll get over it and if they don’t that’s their problem
Let them leave. Stand your ground.
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I would tell her to leave then. It’s your house and your daughter. Anytime my daughter is disrespectful I pull her up In front of family etc and I have no issues sending her to her room. I’m lucky my parents respect my decisions.
I also am strongly disagreeing with all the people saying she could have been disciplined the next day because family is over. That’s teaching your kid they can and will get away with anything when nan and pa etc are around and the kids will obviously play on it and make it worse.
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Tell them to get over it.
I would sit them down and tell them how you feel. Its your house and your child in the end. So if they cant act the right way when they are there then dont let them come over anymore.
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Your child!!! Don’t let anyone, not even your parents, tell you how to raise your baby!!
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Oh well let them go home. They will learn
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I get this!! What is with the attitude of ignore the problems they will go away?? Like whaat!!
Umm mom can get over it and let you deal with your child as you see fit, I would never interfer with my son or his wife when dealing with there daughter.
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Stand your ground. You are the parent. It is your home. If they can’t respect it, they don’t have to be in your home.
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Your parents need to have your back…
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Tell the kid, "if I have to correct you in front of grandpa and grandma you better believe your gonna get spanked/grounded/ your choice here
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Welcome to my world. And I live with my parents
Going to room for night is not correcting child… its punishment…
Having your child apologize is correcting child
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Did your mom come to visit? Maybe do it after she leaves. I hope it’s a misunderstanding.
Ignore her. You’re the mother , you raise your child as you see fit.
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Say okay bye and walk them to the door.
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tell them my house my rules! and if I’m not at home then it’s my child my rules!
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Stick to your guns and discipline how you see fit.
If they go then so be it.
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My grandmother did this. I told her if she undermines my authority over my child I wasn’t going to bring her around. If she’s acting up she gets disciplined. I don’t want her thinking it’s okay to be a brat regardless of where she is.
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Listen,
My son was very high ADHD, ODD and OCD. He was a handful to say the least. When he was about age 9 this happened…
Every night at dinner time he had no appetite. It was always a huge struggle with when it was time to eat. We had a cut off time as a rule. Eat before bed time (9ish) or dont eat.
One night he cried and cried that he was so hungry. It was already past bedtime. 10pm maybe.
I put my foot down that night, stood firm and said no.
He begged me,
Please let me call my Papa and tell him goodnight and I love him.
Okay, I said and I let him.
Well, that lil brat immediately starting crying when my dad answered the phone. Telling him he was sooo hungry and I wouldn’t let him eat. They got off the phone and 10 min later my Dad was standing in my living room, demanding I go make this boy a sandwich.
Yall, I was so pissed off at my son. My Dad.
He completely over ruled me and showed my son he could run to him anytime I said no. I made the damn sandwich, my son ate and my Dad left after my son was asleep.
My Dad passed away almost a year ago.
He was still very young.
It was absolutely devastating to our whole family.
I have 3 kids and ALL 3 of them have so many of these kinds of stories that relate specifically to them about their Papa.
You probably didnt even read all of this, but I wrote it to tell you…its not the end of the world when your parents over step with your kids.
They are their safety net. They are their biggest fans and they love them like you can not understand.
I know this because I now have a 2 year old granddaughter AND if she ever calls me and tells me her daddy (my son) wont let her eat a damn sandwich after bedtime, I’m going over to his house, I’m feeding that baby a sandwich and I’m gonna whip my sons ass.
I miss my dad.
They miss their papa.
I had to discipline my son (9) tonight as well for ignorant behavior throughout the day…I had my last straw. If your parents don’t like it, they are not forced to listen or stay. You know when you need to do something about your child’s behavior…I feel bad afterwards of course! I believe every parent does…but I always explain to him why he’s being sent to his room or I’m taking things away so his mind does not wander. They can reflect on what they did and how to improve their actions. You did nothing wrong! You can always calmly tell your parents why you did what you have to do… if they don’t like it then that’s their problem 🤷. They will get over it.
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I know what your going threw my in-laws tried telling me how to raise my son I told them straight out that he was my child and I’d raise him as I saw fit made them mad but they kept it to them selves after that.
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When my mom tried that I waited until she did something and then called her out. Like mom gets an attitude so I’ll say something like, That attitude will get you nowhere. Or something like that. I found grandparents don’t like being parented lol
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I would just reply : you know where the door is. Bye bye !
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Ask your mom what she would have done if you acted that way.
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You are her parent, she is your child.
They had their chance to raise their child/ren.
Do not let them undermine your authority in your own home.
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You do you Mama and forget all the haters… even if they’re blood. You’re doing the right thing!
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You are the parent. period. End of story. Sounds like an ongoing issue. Be strong.
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My mom does the same thing to me if I say anything to my son she will either say I’m mean or in a bad mood or she will make excuses for him
Bye 
have an attitude. But that child is gonna get punished for their bad behavior either way. Grandma isn’t a free pass to act like a little shit.
Normally id say you are correct you parent how you see fit but if she were there for a visit maybe ground her tomorrow and let her visit. If after you give your daughter a chance to visit with her gma and she still has attitude send her packin. At least you tried
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You did the right thing,your mom raised you her way, this is your daughter raise her the way you see fit
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You kid your rules. Smile and shut the door behind em. Rules apply ALL the time whether grandparents, aunts uncles etc are over.
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Are YOU an adult? Are YOU paying your way? Let your parents go home and don’t invite them back. Be nice, they are your parents but they need to understand you are an adult trying to raise a worthy human not a whining weenie.
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Tell Mom she raised you. What would she do if it were you acting this way?
My mom used to hate it when I disciplined my boy’s. She would say “oh, it’s okay come to Grandma!”
But as her child, if I would’ve back talked or slammed a door or whatever my son did. I would’ve been spanked or grounded.
Wow!!! If you don’t correct it now, a judge and jury will.
You didn’t like your child’s behaviour and your parents didn’t like yours
I bet your child didn’t like your behaviour either.
Your daughter is trying out a new way to express herself and you exclude her and your parents excluded you by leaving
Good on them for taking a stand on your BS
She’s a child what’s your excuse
Were you ever corrected or disciplined by your mother? Did she ever tell u what to do when you were growing up? Maybe remind her that she already raised her kid, and now your raising yours.
Remind your mom that’s YOUR kid, and if she needs correcting, its gonna happen regardless on who’s around and where you are. If they try to undermine you…correct THEM lol.
Maybe you should ask your mother if she wants you to send your daughter to her when she acts out in about 5 years from now when it will be mentally draining and damaging. Heck write your mum a letter about all this.
Your house. Your child
Your rules. She had her turn. Now its yours.
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Maybe u should have a talk with them but try to not hurt their feeling, I know most parents do that, but out of love remember we all grandparents they dont mean anything bad sometimes it’s hard to see them get in trouble, i have learned not to butt in.
Your kid, your rules.
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Just ignore it. They aren’t the parents and if they were I’m betting they’d do the same. They’re just mad that they couldn’t see her while they were there.
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My house, my rules, my kids. If they don’t like it there’s the door. My mom knows better than to cross me when I comes to correcting my children. Also, my kids wouldn’t be going back to said friends house if they wanna come home and act like that.
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Oh well you’re raising a child for the real world honey you better correct her before the world gets a hold of her they’ll be fine
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Maybe your parents should stay home then. I’m sure they didn’t give one shit how other people felt about the way you were disciplined growing up.
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Girl I deal with this I am so so sorry… My mother would not speak to me for a week and a half all because I walked my youngest child to the car when she had a tantrum in the middle of the store… and God forbid I yell at one of them for not watching where they are going… again we were at Walmart and my oldest daughter is 8 and she was on her phone ( I didn’t want to activate it but of course my mom jumped over Me and acitivated it so she could be on it in public when all i wanted her to start with was a WiFi phone) so she’s so into her phone she wasn’t looking where she was going and ran into another lady I told her to watch where she was going and it was her fault for being on the phone and my mom fucking let me HAVE it and tried saying the lady needed to respect my daughter’s space when it was my daughter’s fault… I cannot parent the way I want to and I feel this post so much I am so sorry it’s a feeling of being worthless and disprespcted and it sucks
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My mother in law babies my kid when I correct her. I ignore her.
Tell your parent to stay home if they can’t handle you telling YOUR child what/what not to do. It’s none of their business on how you raise YOUR child. If they don’t like it, oh well. Not your problem.
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Just continue to keep raising your kids. And if your parents don’t like it, keep letting them leave. Watch, they will stop leaving once they see that you are not going to give in to them.
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You are her parent, she is your child.
They had their chance to raise their child/ren.
Do not let them undermine your authority in your own home.
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Who carried her for 9 months ? You did not your parents ! I would put them in their place and let them know this is my child and he or she will follow my rules! I dont need any backup! Very simple 
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From a grandparent when you’re raising your own children you are strict like that when you become a grandparent you get softer in your older years that’s all it is just ignore it and do your job
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Hey mom, I agree with you. It’s hard to parent when someone else is butting in or correcting in front of our kids. But something just stood out to me while I was reading your question: the having a attitude after the friends house. Sometimes kids put off their feelings because it might be something else. Maybe talk it out with your daughter? You sound like your doing a good job mama. All the best!
I tell my mom point blank theres the door. Dont like what I do in my own house with the kids I raise and support then use the door and dont let it hit you on the way out!
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I would always say, what color soap do like ??? That was always grandma’s FAVORITE REMEDY for a smart mouth wasn’t it MOMMMMMM
I would ignore them. If they want to go home thats their prerogative, but you have a whole decent child to raise and teach in the meantime!
I have this problem with my parents(mostly my dad) overstepping myself and my husband. Any time we go over their house and one of our kids arent listening or doing something they arent supposed to they jump in saying dont do that, He is a kid, just let him be…or they stepping trying to correct them while I’m correcting them. Tonight my dad straight said to me “your at my house I’ll do what I want and tell them whatever I want.” Talk about a mommy coming on screwed…we left a few minutes later. Not gonna fly with me. My kids, my rules, I pay for them and gave them life. Dont overstep me 
makes me soooo mad!
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Next time say “okay bye you know where the door is” lol not that rude but seriously if you don’t teach your child now to be respectful and discipline then she is going to turn out to be a horrible teenage and adult. Your house your rules. Parents always use that when we grew up, so
I same the same thing now
If my mom has a problem with the way I run my house then good
Well you are mom it is your house if you don’t correct the way she’s behaving it just gets worse later on. Let your parents leave they can correct her however they feel at their house but this is yours she you deserve respect. But definitely sit down talk to your daughter there might be something going on and moms are always the safe place to let it all fall out to. Because they know no matter what you love them. Remember they are kids that don’t know how to deal with all the emotions correctly yet so it just comes out v
My pop wanted to get on me constantly when my girls were little. He said I was too strict and should loosen up. I flat out told him that he didn’t raise me that way nor did he raise a damn fool who is going to let someone else, anyone else, take my authority as their mother away. I also told him I loved him and respected him because of the way he raised me, and I planned on doing the same with my children. If he didnt like it, he shouldn’t have been the one to teach me how to be a parent in the first place, after all, I learned from his example. In 20 years, he has never said another damn word about how I discipline them.
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Similarly… But different, I tend to ignore a lot of attitude/ sauciness/whining etc. while it’s happening and just address it afterwards when emotions are in check because other wise I feel like it’s just gonna escalate(I equate it to talking politics with drunk people, they usually know they are being disrespectful and telling them in that moment only gives them a reaction I believe!) … But when my mom is out here (1-2 times a year) if anything gets said she’s all “you can’t ignore that, some things need consequences”… Well they get them, but when they are calm enough to have remorse and a conversation around it, hell they usually come up with the consequence after an apology!"
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That is your child & it is nobody else’s business on how you choose to raise her. Your house. Your rules.
Usually it is the older generation who say we are to soft, and don’t Dicipline , or teach kids today how to respect others.
It could also be grandparents are softer on grand kids, than they were with their own kids
Your child your rules. If they leave let them. Be nice. It is their loss
I think it’s normal for a grandparent to be protective like that over their grandchildren and I think they do it without even realizing they do it. I’m sure when you were a kid they would never allow that to take place in their home or their would be consequences. When your child comes home with an attitude from a playdate. Its frustrating and allowing her to behave that way certainly is not okay. Asking your child to go to their room until they can regroup is not an unreasonable request. Give her some time to think, then go in and see what has prompted the attitude, with an 8 years old it could be a million and one things that can trigger that. However, teaching your child how to properly deal with her anger, frustration or bad mood is a life skill that sadly most parents dont want to take the time to teach their children and they cannot learn it alone… You seem like a good mom to me, keep the communication going between your child. Last, make a time when you can talk with your parents when your all not heated and ask them to respect your choices for your child. They do not have to like them, but they do need to respect them. There are no rules or handbooks in parenting, it a learning process for all. Chin up lady, you got this!
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What went on at friends house? Does friend act out in any way not nice?
Honestly, I feel like all mothers/Grandparents are like that. Just gotta ignore it and parent the way you parent. If you need to, sit down with your parents and talk to them. Tell them “you raised me now its my turn to raise my child(ren). Please let me do it my way. If you have a problem with it, leave.”
Wait for your parents to go home, then correct you child.
You’re the parent, not them. If they can’t handle you disciplining your child then they should leave, which it sounds like that’s what they did. Don’t feel bad or guilty about it. It’s not up to them how you discipline your child whatsoever, and sending her to her room isn’t even that bad. It might be uncomfortable but if they can’t respect you then they shouldn’t be in your house in the first place. It’s sad but that’s just how it is 
No one can tell me what to do with my child.
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yup. i say bye 
come back when your grandma-tude is gone
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No one will EVER tell me what to do with my child. I’ve probably had it happen before, actually a few times, and I remind whoever it is that these are my kids & I’ll raise them how I feel is best. Every child needs corrected sometimes. If we don’t let them know when they’re wrong, they’ll never learn.
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I would say im sorry you dont like the pubishment i chose but i am raising her to ve respectful and to be accountable for her actions which includes consequences
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Yep! If we’re at someone else’s house-we get our shoes and shit and leave if someone doesn’t like the way I parent my kids…if they’re at mine I’m more than willing to hold the door open while they leave. They’re my kids and I’m doing what I think is best. If they don’t like it, they can parent differently than I do 
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I’d tell them well I guess you won’t be visiting often 
I discipline my kids and I’ll be damned if anyone especially my mother tell me what to do or how to raise my kids. She had her turn now it’s mine, that’s how I see it anyways. Don’t like it don’t come over
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Don’t like the way I parent you can leave MY house grandparents always feel that way with grandkids. If they don’t like it then they just won’t visit but we all know that won’t be the case. They don’t get to dictate how you raise your children. They will get over it.
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Discipline your child how you see fit. Your the mom and your in control of your child not your parents. If your parents don’t like ask them to leave and let them know they can come back when they can keep their comments to themselves. Your house your rules!
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Let your mom leave so she can handle her feelings and you can handle your daughter. That’s on her and honestly sounds childish.
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I would welcome them to leave lol she’s YOUR kid.
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I would of been like, This is my child not yours. You don’t have a say in what I do with my kids or how I do it. You need to leave now and feel free to come back when you learn your place.
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Bye! My child. My house. My rules
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Mil lives with us she did try but hubby shot her down he told her that they are our kids and we know what’s best for them so please stay out of it.
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It’s your child, your house, tell her to butt out…been there…nip it now!
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Great job, they mite have advice, but should not interfere when you tell them to do something
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