I’m currently 27 weeks and I have a 6 yo. My partner told me last night he was done and he found someone new who makes him very happy. He told our son this morning he will be moving out soon and he’s confused and sad. My heart is hurting on so many different levels. He said he will not be at the birth and isn’t going to be apart of her life. I’m thinking so many things of my kids, finances, processing, etc. I just don’t know where to begin. Almost an 8 year relationship down the drain.
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Don’t beg for him to return… You didn’t mention if you worked or not. But if not find a job and just do the best you can!
If the 6 yr old is his. Put him on child support and again when the baby is born. He doesn’t get to chose to totally disappear for your daughter. He will have to pay support.
You will find someone worth your time. If he can’t be for the birth. Find a family member or friend who is willing.
You are stronger than you know you are!
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Why wait? He can leave immediately. Your poor babies, especially your 6 year old. What a complete jerk. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.
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Oh sweetheart, I’m so, so sorry to hear this. My heart goes out to you and your little one! 
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Firstly, please know you’re not alone. This is an incredibly tough time, but you’ll get through it.
Prioritize self-care and seek support:
- Reach out to loved ones, friends, or a therapist for emotional support.
- Consider joining a single parents’ support group.
- Take care of your physical health, especially during pregnancy.
For your 6-year-old:
- Be honest and reassuring; explain the situation in a way they can understand.
- Maintain a routine for stability.
- Encourage open communication and validate their feelings.
Regarding finances:
- Research local resources for single parents (e.g., financial assistance, childcare support).
- Create a budget and plan for the future.
Processing emotions:
- Allow yourself to grieve the loss of your relationship.
- Focus on your strengths and resilience.
- Celebrate your journey as a strong, capable mother.
Remember, you are stronger than you think, Capable of overcoming this and SOOOO deserving of love, care, and happiness.
Your children will thrive with your love and dedication. That’s a promise 🩷
Keep in mind:
- His decision doesn’t define your worth or parenting abilities.
- You will co-parent, even if he’s not physically present.
Take things one step at a time. You’ve got this, mama! 🩷
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I’d keep everything I possibly could including money and set up child support asap. How disrespectful to even put you in that situation at such a vulnerable time. You got this 
keep your head up momma
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Make sure he supports those children financially.
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He needs to get a vasectomy today!
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What what an ass hole ! He’s trash.
I’m sorry this has happened to you. I know it’s heartbreaking. My husband walked out when we were 6 months along with twins. He never looked back. It was rough, but I raised two very independent men who are both excellent assets to their families, community and their careers. You will do just fine. I pray you lean on your family, friends, work colleagues and your God. You can do this and your children will be better off in a loving healing atmosphere.
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Let it go. Do not waste your time on him. Go after child support and custody. I’m a happily single mom of four. Yes it’s hard but better then being cheated on.
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Anyone who can do this to their pregnant partner doesn’t deserve u or the kids, he’s obv been with the person he’s found behind your back, ur kids will give u the strength u need to get through these hard times, u really don’t want someone who is ment to love and take care of you and your family do this to you, he’s not worth it, sounds like a awful person, try be around people, family, friends, talk to your health visitor and midwife to get the right support, belive in yourself that you are stronger than you think x
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Better with out him you will be fine . You will be amazed on how much you can do without someone that’s not right for you . Probably find that things are allot nicer
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God created women strong and u will be even stronger 
. Pray God leads you in a job and a way to get him to pay some child support. You’re not alone.
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this is sad, but at the same time, it could be the best thing that ever happened to you & your kids, Just a remember this, if he did this to you once , he will do it again. Now get a lawyer & get as much as you can from him for child support 
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Yeah that relationship has “it’s meant to be” written all over it. He’ll leave you for her he’ll leave her for someone else. Or hopefully she leaves him for her side piece. Definitely go get std testing done for your and babies sake.
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He sucks. The new woman is getting trash.
- Stop having babies with “partners” instead of husbands.
- Get to filing for child support immediately.
- Get a job if you don’t have one, or a better job if you do and a second job you can do from home. You’re going to need it.
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Remember this when he try to come back
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File for child support immediately.
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start the child support case now
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Some great advice and insight here. You got this.
Make sure you get everything in writing from here on out, if you can’t then write it in a journal as soon as possible afterwards. Document everything. There’s apps that allow you to communicate and plan and everything between the parents to document literally everything. Maybe get a free consultation with a lawyer and see if there’s anything you can do… Might be able to sue him depending on where you live. I hope things work out for you.
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I’m so sorry take him for all you can men make me sick
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I put my horribly abusive ex in jail when I was 8mnths pregnant with my son, we already had 3 little girls and I had no job because he was the sole income, he beat me so badly that I had no choice but to sneak out with the kids and the car in the middle on the night after he had drained all our accounts to $0. I had nothing but my kids and my mom nearby. I got behind on rent but I got a job after I birthed my son and have raised my 4 beautiful children alone for 3 years, no child support because my ex was sentenced to prison for 12yrs for what he did to me that night so completely on my own, until I met my now husband. You can do this. It will all be ok, it will be hard but it will be ok. You got this, we as women are so strong💪🏼
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He doesn’t get to chose if he is or isn’t part of the children’s life!!! What’s an absolute selfish twat! He helped made them he helps support them. I am so so sorry he has done this to you. I hope you find someone who deserves the love of you and your kids and isn’t a selfish narcissistic arse!
That’s what you call a deadbeat. I’m sorry you’re going through this. Just know there’s a lot of support and you’re not alone.
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Not down the drain live and learn it’s Blessing in disguise 
Oh wow that pisses me off. I’m so so sorry you dealing with a POS like him. You deserve so much better girly. Karma will take care of him 
Get a lawyer and start documenting this now! Please don’t wait
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Get a divorce lawyer y’all maybe common law married check your state laws
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As a man and a Dad I am disgusted and so sorry to hear this. I really hope things work out for you in the end. And on behalf of men everywhere…I’m sorry this happened.
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Hit him with the most child support you can get and never look back. Get your child in therapy asp. And take care of your self. Get all your important paperwork together and pictures and things that mean a lot to you before he gets to them. Hit the bank
He sounds like a giant POs tbh. Sue him for child support and custody, definitely don’t put his last name on the birth certificate, but sue him for that child’s support too. I would also be letting everyone and their moms know he is a lying pos that abandoned his kids for 
so there’s no confusion of who the bad guy is and why he isn’t a part of your life anymore. You also better call your child’s pediatrician immediately to ask for a referral to a psychologist to get some therapy because he clearly is dumping your child too and no longer wants him, because obviously if he doesn’t want the new kid, he doesn’t want the other to interfere in his new life either. Sad that anyone is picking such garbage. I will never get how any woman can pick a man that can’t even be loyal to his own kids.
File for child support and opt to have support enforcement garnish wages, best thing I ever did.
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Go to the state ASAP. (If you live in the US) apply for childsupport and assistance. Now. Also, WIC. Talk to a therapist and your child should too, it’ll help you both process all these changes.
I’m so sorry you are going through this. He’ll regret leaving. New relationships are always so happy and exciting. When he begs to come back… DO NOT LET HIM.
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If he cheats on you he will cheat on the next one.
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I left my abusive ex with 2 toddles and newborn. Did school daytime and study at night. Left kids at daycare during day and my parents at night. I had 4 years of very hard life but now we own our house, have pets, good paying job and happy kids. It’s better to be alone than with someone who doesn’t want you
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U can’t force him to be there for the kids, but u can take him to court so he has to pay child (and possibly spousal) support. Apply for WIC, HEAP, food stamps. Check local food pantries, churches, free online groups, etc. I’ve been there. I raised my older two on my own for five years. They were 5yo and 8mo when their father left. They’re now 21yo and 16yo, both thriving in life and want nothing to do w/ him.
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You have had a lucky escape he needs to contribute to your children so make sure you get that sorted then live your life and be glad you are well rid of him he is not a nice person to just leave you like that he has been already seeing this person for some time I will bet to just up and leave like that he will get his just desserts when karma bites him on the bum
Dam if he didn’t propose after 3 years you should have left him
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Could be worse, I caught my husband on the couch with a 17-year-old when he was 38. He kicked me out when I was three months pregnant and then controlled the whole pregnancy and left me living on a couch until I gave birth and then controlled the way I gave birth how I gave birth when I seen my daughter when I didn’t see my daughter and all that shit it’s easier to find out now and then instead of 20 years down the drain count it is a blessing
He can walk away from a relationship, but not his children. File for child support. Then get with a therapist to help you through this difficult time. Pregnancy should be a beautiful time in a woman’s life.
There’s tons of programs and resources available. If you have Medicaid get a Care Coordinator to help you with resources. Also apply to civic and county housing.
Look into going to college so you and your children have a chance at a better life.
My daughter was pregnant, boyfriend walked out. She got her masters degree in social work and now her and her 15 year old daughter have a wonderful life.
It difficult but it is so worth it.
Make sure you take care of yourself, get a good therapist who will help encourage your growth, not dictate what you do if they were in your position. Best of luck sweetie 
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happened to me… left me with a 3 yr old and twin newborns… Child Support is an option…
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Wow what a piece of work not even wanting to be in his kids lives either they are probably better off without him if he would walk away that easily sorry I have no advice but sending you lots of love xx
Sit him down before he leaves. Let him know your lawyers name and cost. Let him know how much child support will be. D0 N0T take him back.
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I would file for child support asap and let him go. He clearly does not care, love you or want to be with you. I would also file for full custody and take his parenting rights away (so he doesn’t show up years down the road and want to start a relationship with his baby). If you decide to let him have a relationship down the road (if he decided to be a man and step up to be a dad) then it will be on your terms. He would have to prove to you and his child by showing up consistently. I’m sorry, I can imagine how hard it is for you. If he already has someone, girl he has already been gone emotionally and hopefully didn’t cheat on you. He probably was already seeing her. SMH fuc*ing men… take care of yourself and your little ones. Remember, he chose to leave you and not be a part of his babies life. Do not put his name on the birth certificate. If you take away his parenting rights then he wont have to pay child support I believe, not sure though… you can ask. good luck momma 
Girl he is a whole piece of shit for telling your son that shit. This makes me so goddamn mad. Where is your village? Lean on them if you can. Oh and take that motherfucker to court for child support and maybe even alimony.
Make sure you go after him on child support
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I want to know what woman would want a man who has nothing to do with his newborn and six year old. This new woman is okay with that type of man. Gross
Here in comes the ol’ saying “It’s Cheaper to Keep Her.” So hop on down to that courthouse and get that child support ball rolling. Do not wait, it’s a pretty simple process but it takes time. You don’t need a Douche bag like that around you or your children, so he’ll still have to support regardless of being in their lives. Just keep moving and Remain A Strong Powerful Woman🤍
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Well sad news for him child support is being served
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That is horrible, people are downright mean. I’m sorry that you have to go through this. For now you should at least call Health and Welfare and sign up for assistance until you can get on your feet. Sometimes there are local places that will help you with electric. If you sign up through Health and Welfare guaranteed they will go after him for child support you won’t even have to do anything in that aspect
File child support. File foodstamps and get a job. Women have been doing it for decades. Ur not the first won’t be the last
Let him go. U can do this my ex left me with 3 kids 8 6 and 6 months old just take each day as it comes if u have a joint account stop any of your money going into it anything that as both names on get in touch with them explain u have now separated so u want your name taken off it. Get in touch with the benefits office don’t know if u get benefits or not but if u do and it’s in joint name cancel it otherwise he will still receive the money and start a new claim in your soul name also inform school so they are aware of the situation so the can keep an eye on your son get in touch with energy supplier get the bills in your name and if they are think about getting a top up meter so then u don’t have a big bills coming in. Then take a deep breath and know not every day is not going too be a good day but they do get better and if u need help then ask it’s ok too ask and talk
Every opportunity to be the best you, without his cheating ass!
It is awful when this type of situation happens and it brings so much stress to your body as you are growing another and parenting a hurting child. Reassure your little boy that you will not go anywhere, he is loved and this breakup has nothing to do with his father’s love for him. If your ex does not plan to be at the birth or have any contact with the baby make sure he communicates this to you in writing and have the information notarized for future reference. If you are not married then reach out to a family law office now to see how paternity can be established as not wanting to be involved in the babies life is not the same as being financially responsible and that should be fixed prior to her birth so you don’t have to deal with that then. If you are married the court recognizes him as the father of your baby so child support will need to be set up. Call around for counseling and support groups. You can get through this with time and assistance from friends and family. I wish you all the best.
He likely will be a deadbeat Dad also, he is not worth having in your kids lives. Who would want him to have access to your children, especially since he will be living with a woman who would take a man who has treated his wife & children so horribly. She obviously is not much if she wants a man like that.
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F*** him foreal. Do not let him back into the home either when the new girl fails because it will. You also need to get into therapy asap to help you cope with this especially since you’re pregnant. Also file child support and full custody but just know that he’s going to try and claim the baby that isn’t born yet isn’t his (they always do this when there’s a new girl involved) so make sure that you’re the one to request the test on the baby and file child support for that one too. Don’t let him get off easy either. Also get a lawyer asap. DO NOT LET HIM BACK INTO THE HOME I REPEAT DO NOT LET HIM BACK INTO THE HOME REGARDLESS OF ANYTHING. Once this new girl fails he’ll want to come back and will use the kids as leverage too to try and get back into the house so don’t fall for that neither.
You deserve so much better than someone who is going to cheat on you while you’re pregnant than had the audacity to tell your son he’s moving out and leaving THAN had the audacity to tell you he’s not going to be around for the new baby.
- get a lawyer ASAP
- get proof of his affair
- get counseling, if possible for your son and yourself
- collect all information you can on his/yours financials
You begin by getting custody in place and getting child support set up. Then get on whatever assistance you are entitled to. If you aren’t working, get a side gig at the very least. Doordash or Uber while your son is in school or take him with you. Or some other work from home job like baking or housecleaning or organizing.
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The audacity. Take him for everything.
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Hes wanting to abandon his family for a new piece. Tell him ok, but I need you to sign some papers stating you are ok with me having full custody so I can do all the necessary things foe the kids for school and medical. And then create a document for him to sign. That way when this blows up in his face he can’t come back and say he wants 50/50.
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File for child support and try for alimony, it’s the least he can do. And don’t let him come back when his new relationship crumbles because it will and he will try to weasel his way back in. 
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Piece of shit. File for child support immediately.
And he isn’t going to be at the birth because he doesn’t want to pay child support. But you can still force him to pay child support, start that process now. Regardless of whether he wants to be in their lives or not he needs to support them.
Don’t let him get away with this crap. Woman up. He can do whatever the heck he wants with his life. You take care of yourself and your kids. screw him
Yes get a lawyer and do it properly done ask him to come back he isn’t worth it have you got some support I no it’s hard and your brain is working over time right now but just take some swap breaths count to 10 and breath.you got this everyone is here for you if you need to chat ask family if you can to help you.
So he won’t be in his sons life either? Wtf.
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Start with a lawyer who will make damned sure he is a part of you, your son’s and your baby’s life financially for a very long time!!
Make sure your state doesn’t recognize common law marriages.
So he’s going to be in one of y’all shared children’s lives and not the other? I wouldn’t be suprised if this bites him in the rear and he comes crawling back. Don’t fall for it.
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GIRL put his ass on child support. “Not involved” my ass. Fine, no custody. Do not let yourself and your children struggle when you can at least attempt to hold him accountable.
Whew, that’s big news. My first suggestion would be to surround yourself with people you love that love you back- family, friends, support groups. You need support at this stage of your life and that’s perfectly alright, so go get it. My second suggestion would be to leave the tall talk to the adults and leave your little out of the drama as much as possible. He’s going to have lots of questions and that’s okay, but he doesn’t need to see any fighting/arguing/ill feelings anyone might have along the way. My third suggestion is to remember to love yourself through this and remember you’re growing someone inside you who doesn’t need the extra stress so continue to eat right, sleep plenty, shower and be the amazing person you are, regardless of the situation at hand. God/The Universe will carry you through this; just keep your grace and integrity in check while the hormones are hopping. Let karma take care of it- she’s good at justice. May the sun shine again in your world soon and God bless you.
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Sounds like you dodged a bullet.
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What a scumbag. I’m so sorry.
He is a deadbeat POS! It is BEST for your kid(s) to see you in a positive light. Let your son see you smiling even if you have to force it. Get outside with him and let him be physically active at a park or in nature with you. This is very beneficial to both of you. Staying inside crying with tv on and venting on the phone around your son will have negative impact. Stress and sadness will negatively affect baby as well. I have been in your shoes; literally. Your partner is the one who is going to miss out; you are the one blessed with the unconditionally-loving babies. The court will give you child support and if he doesn’t pay it they’ll garnish his paycheck. Make sure you get any and all important numbers and documents you may need (i.e. his ss#) for officials to trace. He will likely try to change his employment a lot to avoid child support garnishment but they can trace his social anywhere he goes. You will find love again so profound that you never even dreamed of with a partner that will love those kids like their own. Focus on loving yourself for now. Keep reminding yourself its not your fault; this is his loss. Their are several resources for women on your situation. Get involved in groups that have other women in your situation and get your son involved in actively playing with other kids to take his mind off all this. Church, excercise, sign up for a pell grant and further your education. The kids are always watching and observing and your vibe will spread to them; you’re the example of how they will turn out. Prayers for your future happiness and success. If you want to private message me please feel free. It feels like the end of the world right now, I know, but I promise IT GETS BETTER.
He sounds like a real prize. Let him go and go file for child support. And go file for full custody before things become an issue.
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First file for full custody, file for welfare, file for emergency daycare assistance, then get child support, he doesn’t just get to up and leave with no responsibility because he found someone else while in a relationship, that’s not how life works!
I was 19 when I left my sperm donor after 1 month of my twins being home. I did it for almost a year all by myself! You got this and life will get so much better!! I promise you can do it!!! It will be so draining, so hard but so worth the outcome in the end!
A little over 11yrs now with my husband who adopted our twins!
What’s his name
I want to find him and make sure this new relationship gets what it deserves
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File for child support on any children you have together with the partner immediately as well as keeping primary or full custody of the kids (file before he does or his new GF tells him too)
File for any kind of food assistance you can for yourself and your children.
Keep any and all communication via text or email so you have a record of what is said and can use it in court if needed.
Keep your head up mama. 🫶🏻
Wow.telling a child that is terrible! Bad enough to tell you being pregnant! I’m sorry. I hope your going to be OK. But I’m sure the betrayal alone is devastating…
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Karma’s a b**** you’ll get his
Let him go
Hes already checked out, time to heal
Start the process of child support
If you cant afford the place your at yourself start looking for something smaller and affordable
Don’t beg him because then he’ll think he can come and go when he pleases when this new fling doesn’t work out
You can do this !
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Is the 6 year old his? And child support!
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You can do it mama there are things you can sign up for snap and housing just move on I know it hurts but you have your babies to do it for I’m hoping for the best for you!!
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The moral of this story is DON’T live with someone outside of marriage. Not quite as easy to leave. And it is not God’s way to live.
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Let him go.
Get your support systems in place
To NOT contact him about anything personal amd give yourself some space
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Shit I’m single whats up 
I went through the same thing but we were married. I was 4 months pregnant with his son. His new relationship was only 16 he was 28… He caused so much turmoil as the years passed until the children were grown. Life left a huge scar on me. It really is hard to go through all that in a lifetime. I advise you to seek counseling to help you through the rough patches that are headed your way.
Let him go sweetie,
You and your kids will be better off
Without him
When he isn’t there
Toss everything he owns into garbage bags and put them on the front yard
After you’ve got the locks changed
As for his new girlfriend
Let her have your sloppy seconds
Chances are he will cheat on her eventually
Sounds like the trash took itself out. You got this.
Definitely not down the drain, you have your son and you are having another child. You don’t need that so called man. Please let him go, he will want to come back eventually and I hope you tell him where to go. You deserve so much better.
Document everything. File for abandonment. Take him for child support. Never speak to the man again.
Put him on child support just because he chooses not to be a part of her life doesn’t mean he won’t have to pay child support. Keep your head up and just do the best you can for your kiddos. I’m a single mom of 4 and only get child support for 2 of my kids right now but I’m working and getting by the best that I can.
Tell him you want it all in writing. Take that to a lawyer to get full custody and child support. Always remember that you can do it on your own you’ll find someone better that you and those babies deserve later on