My sister found out she is pregnant and the dads mom won't let him be there: Advice?

Meanwhile what mom tells their son they cant have anything to do with their pregnant girlfriend?

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Once he has a child he is considered a emancipated minor. He is a man now he needs to stand up to her. He is having a child. This isn’t a joke

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The damage is done so why wouldn’t the mother of the son make the best of a the situation. Why would she want to get the law involved… It takes 2! Not the first and won’t be the last. Help your son be a good FATHER!!!

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My understanding is that if they are both underage the mother can ask the court to declare her and adult (emancipation) or she can get married and she will have rights for her child but if the father is underage and wants rights to the child he must marry the mother. If his parents won’t sign off then he must petition the court. It is sad that the boys mother is behaving in such a way. I hope for the best and suggest that the boy seek legal advice.

Hope mom (his mom) is ready, most states now, the parent of the teen parent is responsible for the child support until the teen turns 18. Hope this girl gets a dna and files for child support!

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Once he has a child of his own he can move out and if needed (most places don’t require it anymore) petition the court to become emancipated based on his mother refusing to let him be part of his child’s life. Usually once a teen has a child, they’re able to move out and judges usually won’t punish them for it.

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I mean… His mom has every right to be a bitch and not help him be in the kids life… But she can’t stop it from happening

she will have to let him see the baby if she wants him to pay

Sign the birth certificate. She can’t stop shit

Sometimes people get so upset they don’t make good choices. So give it some time and see what happens. If your young it works better if you get support from both sides .

If you are old enough to bump uglies then you know what “can” happen. His mother needs to come to terms with her son is no longer her little boy but this babies father. The baby didn’t ask to be here, it is what it is. Time to step up! I think mummy dearest is worried about the financial burden of her sons mistake😔

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So she’s teaching and encouraging her son to be a deadbeat dad. Maybe she should’ve taught him to use condoms and be responsible for where he’s ejaculating and nobody would be in this situation.

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Piece of shit grandmother…how could she alienate her grandchild…

Ask your local social services

tell him to grow some balls…

I’m so glad I live in Australia…all this shit is way too complicated. :joy::joy::joy:

Paternity test. If he’s a minor, he’ll still be financially responsible but his mom might keep interfering. Tough situation. Baby first, drama later.

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How sad …he should be able to choose to be in that baby’s life. It shouldn’t be up to his mother he made a decision to have sex… I hope things change for you’re sister

Have your sister when the baby come take a dna prove to her he’s the father maybe she’s thinking that he’s not the father prove her wrong

If minors. His parents can be responsible for child support.

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It is not right not unless she is under age she can say to her parents

If I was that boy I’d tell that mother to try and keep me away from my child. It will not end well for you. And follow thru. Sounds like he wants to be involved and he has every right.

Give boys mom time to process the news. Once when calms down she may come around. If not, get a paternity test and gets courts involved for visitation and child support.

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She is not gonna like it when they take HER to court and she will have to pay child support. That is so sad that she is being like that show that boy to be responsible , maybe her baby daddy left her and she is bitter so she wants the same for her granchild. I would be glad if I had a son and he wanted to be involved in his childs life , I would let the whole world know my child was being responsible. That woman is just bitter, hope she can move past her anger and bitterness and let her son be a great father. Good luck!

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Have the father move in with ur sister may be tight but they will make it work least the dead beat Gramma will be out of pictures and if he 16 his mother can’t legally do anything the court will see he wanting be a man and father to his child and will rule out his mother … if came to that! He left home be with his child and support the mother of his child they will recognize him as a mature adult

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Is the grandmother to be going to pay the child support?
In NYS at the age of 14 youth are able to make their own medical decisions. In this case, the mother of the boy may have some pull as long as he lives in her home & he is not an adult. It may not be the wisest choice, but he can choose differently.

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Someone will be asked to pay the hospital bill…if she claims him as the father…he will have to find a way to help pay it…how old is he? If she is underage and he isn’t…the court will go after him

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Take Momma for child support

Let things simmer down and go from there. They’re young and I’m sure the parents are just freaking out right now.

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See if he can file for emancipation, he might have to wait until after she gives birth but it’s something.

Also if he really wanted to be around her he would, sounds like excuses.

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Take them to court. He played an equal part in making the baby. He gets to play an equal part of the responsibility. The parents are bullshit for saying he has to walk away.

Bet if some guy knocked up their daughter it would be a different story

I think legally y’all could go after his parents for child support. Kinda shitty she’s trying to force her son to be a deadbeat dad.

When she files child support the mean ass grandma won’t have a say

Same thing happened to me while I was pregnant. I was 15 when I fell pregnant with my daughter and my partners mum made him move back and tryed making it so we couldn’t see each other and filled his head with lies about me when my partner realised he moved back to mine. She has no right to keep him from his child it’s up to the parents of the baby to decide their future.

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It doesn’t make a difference where you live the boyfriends mom needs to keep her nose out of it

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The mom will end up regretting her decision to keep her son from the baby he made. Her teen son was old enough to make the baby, he needs to be responsible.

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If I were you look at paternity laws in your state. Even pay a lawyer for a consultation if you want to make sure what you have is right. If this were my daughter, I would not let that lady think she can just walk away that easily. He has a responsibility now whether or not mommy acknowledges it.

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Seek a paternity test.

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How old are you guys?

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Is the boy a minor? If so then only thing she can do is take him to court.

A couple things need to be known before good advice can be given… 1- how old are you BOTH? 2- how far along is she? 3- How long has the mother of the boy had to process this? I know I wouldn’t react like this, but I know that I would need some time to process if this was my son… she may just need a little time. Just as much as Dad’s protect their daughters, Moms protect their sons. Maybe in a few weeks she will start seeing things clearer.

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Tell her to go after him for child support. He should help. Don’t be deadbeat dad like same. Tell him to stand up to his mother. You made a baby so grow up and help

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DNA test.his name on birth certificate

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Depends how old they are

Grow some fucking balls and tell his mother to fuck off

I think there’s more to the story. Is it the grandmother really stopping the father being involved or is the father just saying. Most grandparents would encourage a relationship with the child and father and they would also want to know their grandchild

My son became a teenage dad at 16. She was also only 16. My son was in the delivery room with her alone with her mom, myself and my mom. From the day he was born she never wanted to or even tried to be a mom. I worked and so did her mom so my mom kept the baby while we both worked and they were in school. My son got his GED not long after my grandson was born. My mom passed away when the baby was a little over a year old. My son had just got his GED and didn’t have a job yet. I told him I would not pay a baby sitter since he was not in school and not working that he could keep him. My son didn’t have a problem with doing that and he got really close to his baby. And now my grandson knows who she is and he sees her occasionally but he doesn’t ever call her or ask to see her. He thinks his dad hung the moon.

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she needs to file for child support. Why did she get close to him before she met the family? She was a dumb ass for doing that.

No idea but I hope they figure it out.

Just one more child for tax payers to support.

Is his Mom doing what her son wants? teenager starts at 13 so how old are these two? Let it be for now and wait for baby to come. Then DNA test. Birth Certificate can be filled out then. What last name to use can be determined then. I would keep maiden name as marriage is 50/50 chance at that young. But her decision, I have seen allot of issues on the page when fathers name is chosen. Custody issues and whatnot.