My Sister-in-Law Doesn't Like Me and Actively Ignores Me: Advice?

Not everyone will like you, and you won’t always like everyone. I wouldn’t even worry about it. She doesn’t have to like you.

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Also being friends with her isn’t the best idea because if the relationship fails more than likely your friendship will too

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Ask HER and not FACEBOOK :person_facepalming: also why should you care? Your husband and daughter are your family not her. If his parents like you that should be enough :person_shrugging: you dont marry the family you marry HIM. THAT’S your family not her bratty ass

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Why are we still worried about who likes us or not? And why are you married with a kid and living with them? Hear me out, I know times/finances may be hard but respect comes in your own home. I moved out at 17 and never lived with anyone since then. Can’t no one come to YOUR home and disrespect you but they can do that in THEIR home/family home🤷🏽‍♀️

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I think the only option here is to ask her.
Ask her to go for a walk round the park or something, leave child at home with the dad and just have time with her alone.
All our circumstances are different and if it’s best for you at this point in time and your family to live with the extended family I see nothing wrong with this. Lots of families do this.
If you’re living together it is best you all get along. As best as you can.

I’d talk to her sentry about it and I would do it alone so she doesn’t feel ganged up on. Though I’d tell your husband first so he isn’t blindsided either. Just explain you don’t know what you did and ask her to explain. If she doesn’t then you did nothing wrong and I’d honestly just keep being civil because there isn’t anything else to do

There could be alot of factors.
Maybe the inlaws are telling her thing’s. Or maybe the husband. Also it could be shes uncomfortable with you guy’s living with his parents. I have a friend who when her brother moved in with his wife and kids she took it out on the SIL. Try texting her a nice message and express you want yo work on the relationship. Because no matter what your the mother of her niece and aren’t going any where. I’d nip it in the but now.

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The only way you are going to figure it out is to ask her.

Just start calling yourself Meghan Markle…

Similar occurrence for my mom. She & my dad’s sister were actually friends BEFORE my parents got married. When my mom started having children, my aunt changed. She‘d badmouth my mom to everyone (including us kids) then accuse Mom of ridiculous things as excuses to stop speaking to her. But she claimed to love my siblings & me and often tasked herself with being our “surrogate mom”. And of course played the innocent act with my dad. All this to say maybe your SIL is jealous of all the attention and love you have in your life. A husband, new baby, etc. Perhaps bring it up to your husband and see what he has to say. He needs to be the one to step up and defend you, his wife. The way my dad should have for my mom.

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El muerto y el arrimado a los 3 dias apesta. It’s time to move out, you have your own family and living with other people will always cause unnecessary drama.

Can we get a follow up post to see how it goes after you’ve asked her lol!?

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Ask her face to face

Punch her over show her who’s boss​:rofl::rofl: nah :v:

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Where is ur husband in the picture. He need to talk to her and stand up for u .
Otherwise Move out from there ure not obligated to live with them .
Glaring at u and talking to ur daughter .
Thats what i call BS .

Maybe she finds you annoying…:woman_shrugging:

If she wont even look at you, but u get dirty looks constantly, uummm… what?

She’s probably a bit jealous. Of what your life is like. Especially if compared to hers you are where you want to be. Sometimes bitterness comes from you being in a good place and them wishing they were you. Have you asked her? Maybe she thinks you judge her and think yournbetter than her or maybe she thinks you don’t like her. Or maybe she’s just going through stuff and you are what she compares herself to. Hugs. :woman_shrugging:. In my personal experience with sil you can’t win them all.

Have you asked her why? Hard telling what others might be telling her?

Have you ever tried asking her whats wrong? Maybe you did something that hurt ber feelings without even realizing it.

Maybe she feel 3 years living with her parents is to much,there is not place like your own you should ask her what’s wrong

Confront her and if it continues it’s her problem not yours.

Directly ask her, also did you and your husband ever have issues? Maybe he confided to her and now she looks at you differently

I would ask her about it. If she can’t come up with a legitimate reason then move on. It sucks but sometimes people are just like that.

Same here. But it’s with my MIL

same here… Jelous. just smile and look pretty. tell your husband to set her straight

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Ugh women lol it’s probably her being jealous. If it were me I would pay her no mind at all. If you get along with his mom that’s great too. But if she wants to continue her immature behavior then i wouldn’t even try to have a relationship with her. I’d just keep smiling and enjoy his other family members.

The answer is very simple. Why don’t you just ask her what’s wrong? If things were fine at the beginning then something happened for her to distance herself like that.

started after your baby maybe she jealous

Just kick her butt :laughing: you not marry to that idiot !! did it ’ my way’ :stuck_out_tongue_winking_eye:

It’s time for you your husband and your children to move out of that house if you don’t you’ll be divorced within a year so stop looking for your own apartment because he’s going to stay with Mommy and don’t be surprised if he tries to get custody of your baby get the hell out why you can good luck try to stay safe and healthy

Sorry small correction don’t stop looking for an apartment start looking for one again good luck