She needs to call her Dr. Asap!
Please make a plan with your sister, even if she doesn’t want to leave, frame it then so it’s a just in case kind of thing.
This is abuse and it’s clearly escalating.
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Just stopping her meds like that could have killed her. This man deserves to be reported. Maybe they won’t sweep it under the rug if you bring enough attention to it. Pushing leads to more physical violence. It doesn’t just stop at pushing. Pushing is how it starts, after the screaming in your face.
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Sooo, yall work 2 pages orrr what? I need answers
Help her get out of there while he is gone…
He may not have physically laid a hand on her (in this instance) but that is 100% medical abuse.
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This is medical abuse.
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Just be there for her. The only one who can make the decision to leave is her but you can always be a shoulder to cry on and a safe place to go. Reporting him to someone probably is going to make the whole situation worse as he does provide probably a chunk of thier income together and that could cause more problems for her then she seems to already be in.
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She needs to get out for both her and her babies. A man should never take away medication from a woman - he can’t control how she treats herself for mental illness. If it isn’t illegal, it’s extremely unethical to say the least. She needs to think deeply about leaving not only for herself but her babies. If he is already hitting his 2 year old for misbehavior when they’re literally just being to learn right from wrong, that is a serious issue. I would have a serious talk with her. I would even say, “sis, please break the cycle of pain… don’t let your babies go through what we did with mom.”
You need to talk with her asap that is abusive. Find a way to get her out of there while he’s gone if you can.
Honestly, there’s only so much you can do. She has to admit she wants and needs help first
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She needs to take this time to pack up and move, not healthy for her or her kiddos
Nothing you can do. She chooses to stay. 
she’s an adult.
She needs to get the hell away from him
I’m sorry but he’s not a good man
Medical abuse, she can call the police and report him for that. Its definitely illegal
Medical abuse she needs to report him and get new meds and leave him
Why dont she move out and file for custody.
Get her counseling. She won’t leave till she’s ready
Help her! He’s absolutely abusive. How atrocious, that is life saving medicine. He can go
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Get her out of that situation immediately.
He’s toxic and that’s a risk to her life.
I deal with depression and anxiety. I know how detrimental being without your meds is.
Dump the psycho, one bad man can ruin ur life
You could always call the non-emergency hot line to find out if it’s illegal i would think it is because they weren’t his and because what if she had a break down and hurt herself or someone else it would be his fault so I would definitely find out… I also don’t think we’re allowed to dispose of pills in the toilet but I’m not 100… He’s a shady mofo though thats for sure why would someone purposely take someone else’s medication and dump them that’s abuse and I’m sure where he works would not keep him on if they knew he was doing some shit like that especially then leaving her for months at a time with 2 little ones… Threaten him hun tell him u will call the cops u will report it to his job scare the shit out of his punk ass for that crap…
Professional help. This is far beyond a shoulder to lean on.
Make a report with his commanding officer. They don’t allow that behavior at all.
My prayer is with your sister.
That’s very dangerous and ILLEGAL!
This is abuse. Period.
Wtf your sister needs to get away from him
Sounds abusive
He’s abusing her plain and simple . He ASSAULTS the child . He is an ABUSER and narcissist . She needs him out of her and her kids life now !! She has time to do this now he’s left for a few months . If the home is in her name , change all locks etc . Put his stuff in storage . Get a restraining order - Whatever it takes to make her and her kids safe .
He should be more loving towards her seeing he is away most of the year.
Please get her back on her medication and get some therapy.
You sound like a wonderful sister she is lucky to have you in her life.
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She needs to leave…you need to do whatever you can to build her confidence back up enough to make that happen and be there for her when/if she does
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Tell her to pack up n move while he is gone. Change her number n be done with him.
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She needs to gtfo of that relationship…you might have to help her do so.
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There’s really nothing YOU can do but be there for her. She is the only one that can do anything. And it sounds like she needs to leave him. I know its hard to watch, but just be there for her as much as possible.
Mine did the same thing. Last time he filled my med bottle full of paint. Now i can’t find them. It’s been a hard month
She needs to leave him he has issues from being in the military and its only going to get worse if she doesn’t leave him or he gets help himself
Get her away from him and get her to have no contact with him
If you can Plz provide a place for your sister and nephews to go to until they can get a place of their own. BC she definitely needs to get away from her husband. It never gets better with abuse but it definitely gets worse if you stay.
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Now. That he’s gone it’s time to get out. She can get help from her Dr… And women’s shelter… Time to get out and lead.
Do whatever you can she needs to be out away from him and soon
She needs to call her doctor and get away from him
Report the CHILD ABUSE of your niece/nephew to CPS and let them help. They are a great resource if shes honest with them. My ex was abusive to me. Never my kids, but they were home. A family member called CPS and I was obviously pissed at first, but I am so grateful now because I am in my own apartment with my twin 3 yr olds and they are in daycare so i can work and we dont see him. Theres a court order keeping him away. So be that lufeline for your niece/nephew. 2 year olds CANNOT speak for themselves and if your sister is to sick and beaten down to do it, then you need to step up and do it for her! Maybe that’s the help she needs. As soon as I was told I will lose my kids if I stayed with the abuse, I was out! Do it now before he comes home and its 100 times harder.
I’m in this situation he just had a two year affair after 16 years together gave her my whole world then dropped her 9.months pregnant cause I found out and he saw I loved him because of.my pain it’s been a year and he’s been great but you can’t fix choices already made if I had a family member offer me and my children a safe place to stay I would have been gone but I have no one and after 8 years home with the kids and being talked down to you lose the confidence in your self it’s scary and too much to think about he’s gone for a few months move her in with you even if they sleep in the living room help her get a job by watching the kids while she works even if it’s night shift or whatever SAVE HER NOW while he’s gone move her in with you and empty the house if he sends money for rent set it aside for a new place and a car I waited through so much We never hit each other after 16 years he snapped and restrained.me.after I pushed a chair over my daughter heard.mw screaming stop your hurting me she won’t ever be the same little girl again my daughter is 5 and scared of her father he told her I would kill her in her sleep when she said she wanted a new house a better dad and no her daddy, nice right I’m one of seven no one offered me space if anyone had offered anything I’d been long gone show her you love her save those babies and your sister. Leaving here there isn’t an option period please I’m begging you save her I wish someone had saved me my kids are now 7 and 5 and I can finally start working and saving money to move but those years changed my sweet innocent babies I relapsed after 15 years horrible things can happen while she’s waiting to be able to do it herself seriously please please take my advice and I’d so love to hear from you and know she is safe thank you so much for caring about your sister it breaks my heart that mine didn’t care enough to do anything 
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Keep an eye on her.going off meds suddenly can possibly lead to behavior that is out of character for her. If you can help her out with some aspects of live temporarily please do.consider informing her doctor so that she can get the guidance she needs.you may need to take initiative and offer to help with specific things.
Please have her contact these 2 organizations. They can help is so many ways! No one deserves or should live under this abuse! It will only get worse. Contact the professionals!
You can contact his naval commander he will be dealt with they don’t play about abuse amd.you want a paper trail bc of there is pushing then 9 times outta 10 there is more than that behind the scenes this coming from a child who grew up in the shoving amd hitting yelling and cursing amd yes the kids get it too sometimes worse
Call the pharmacy she should have refills available
I am guessing she doesn’t want o be a burden on you, and since you guys were alone she doesn’t want to deprive her child of her father. You have to remind her that she is setting an example for her kid. Would she allow anyone, spouse or whomever to treat her kid that way? Once she is alone and away from him, has a stable life her kid is going to be much happier. Maybe them coming to stay with you until she feels safe and regains some of her independence and spirit would be good.
She needs to leave him. That’s abuse.
What can you do? Well one call the police. 2 call cps. 3 worry more about the well being of your nephews and not your selfish need for family.
Shes got to get away from him
She needs to do a refill & tell them what happened. You cannot just stop those the side effects can be horrible! She’ll go through withdrawl & I know this from personal experience
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