Have to be in the same room to get pregnant.
Is your sister bothered by this? Or is him sleeping on the couch an issue that you are adding to the list of reasons why you don’t trust him?
My husband and I have separate rooms and we couldn’t be happier! Together for 26 years and married for 23 years. We are as happy with each other as we have been for the last 2 decades. I’d argue that we are HAPPIER now that we don’t share a room anymore! He snores LOUDLY and I am a light sleeper. We both also like having our own space. We hang out together every night, watch tv, read, do “couple things” and then he goes to bed (in his room). It’s not really unusual but for a while I think a lot of people thought it was an indication that there were issues with the relationship. But I hear people talk about it more and more. Most of us will say that it’s helpful to avoid issues with the relationship.
If your sister is concerned then SHE should have a conversation with her fiancé. But if they are trying to have a baby, safe to say that it’s not affecting their physical relationship.
You sound like you are trying to look out for your sister and that’s admirable. But be careful because you don’t want to push her away. IF he’s not in it for the “right” reasons, you will want her to feel comfortable coming to you for support. Sometimes we can’t keep our loved ones from falling. All we can do is help them up
Why are you asking and not her just tell her you see red flags and to uare worried and that you will be there if she needs you. This isn’t your business.
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Not your relationship, not your business. No advice needed
It’s really none of your business, to be honest 
Does she snore? My ex snored and he was not allowed to sleep by me! Lol
Talk to them ? Talk to your sister in private and then talk to him in private. If there’s nothing abusive going on, step back. It’s not your relationship.
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Stop focusing on the fact u all think it’s werid she’s worried that the boyfriend is sleeping on the couch and not with her, that’s not what’s bothering her, it’s an example of what is happening in a relationship that’s obviously Not Normal. She used that as an example and u lot are throwing her out for saying it.
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If he’s using her then u need to do everything in ur power to get her away from her. As her family it is ur business to look after her and have her back. I wish I would have had family or friends that had my back when I was being severely abused by my ex husband
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Are you screwing them? Why tf do you need advice? It’s their life and unless you’re screwing them, you need to mind ya business.
Love my own bed. Love my husband. Maybe one of them snores? Works different hours? Tosses and turns? Just let them do them
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First off, you shouldn’t be posted about your sisters business. That’s weird in itself. If she doesn’t have an issue with you, why are you airing her business. Even if she does have an issue, that’s HER issue
It’s really not any of your business
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He’s gay n using meet as a cover. He must have a rich conservative relative about to die lol
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This is a fake post to get attention and comments.
Try being supportive, it’s really not your business who she chooses, so be supportive until there an actual reason not to…
Do they do it in the kitchen then?
They are trying for a baby, but he sleeps on the couch?
You are all over the place, so maybe stop judging your sister’s choice and save your opinions for the moment???
Literally none of your business and weird you are asking
Why is it any of your business? . Not your relationship not your concern… worry about your own life and less about hers 
stay out of it and get a life or a hobby and who are you to worry about their sleeping arrangements. Do you pay their bills , help them to take care of their things then not your concern or business. You sound like a perv js
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My aunt and uncle sleep in different rooms. His snoring is horrendous… been happily married for 30+ years…
Some people are just couch sleepers, my grandma has been my whole life. Married or not. Brand new bed or not.
My man sleeps on the couch at least 2-3 times a week because I’m a night owl & like to stay up watching TV, he gets up early for work.
He gets sleep 
I get tv til 3am.
So that’s not weird at all in my opinion
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Been with my husband 15 years. He sleeps on the couch cause he snores so loud it rattles the windows😆 anyways it works for us. I don’t think it’s weird
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Could be he has some morals. They are not married.
I love the closeness of falling asleep next to my husband of 37 years
It’s almost fall. He needs a place to stay for the winter. She’s gonna be stuck with a baby when it’s over
Omg having your own sleeping space is the best !! Get a good nights sleep. Doesn’t mean you love each other less . Probably love each other more cause your well rested lol
My ex and I rushed to get married and I got pregnant shortly after. We were not a good fit and had no business being together. He ended up cheating a lot and I had to restart my son and my life from nothing. They need to slow down.
Couples that sleep in different rooms have happier marriages 
Y’all need to mind your business though, she’ll side with him over y’all
My grand parents and great grand parents all slept in separate beds and separate rooms. I can’t sleep hardly if my hubby and the dog aren’t in our king sized bed.
Well your sister has to learn her hard lessons if she hasn’t listened to you. Let her. Be supportive when it fails.
That’s your red flag? Them not sleeping in the same bed together?
Wow 
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How is this any of your business?
Why are you so interested in their sleeping arrangements?
This rushing a relationship is normal. If she already had kids I’m sure they’d be calling him daddy.
It’s ridiculous. Probably no birth control. He probably has a girl on the side which is why he sleeps on couch. I know way too many relationship like this. She loves him… It’s sad really.
Why is it any of your business ?
The couch sleeping isn’t a red flag, but everything else is. I’d run a background check on this guy & tell your sister to use birth control. He wants something and I don’t think it’s good. A roof over his head she’ll pay for? Green card & anchor baby? Someone to control/abuse? Trafficking? A personal slave? I can’t imagine a happy ending.
Ask why she can’t wait. If they say they’re in love now and don’t want to wait, ask why they can’t get engaged and get married a year from now. Tell her to ask for his last tax return, an accounting of his assets and his most recent pay stub from work. That should tell you a lot, including if he refuses.
Ask to meet his family. If he says he has none, do the background check. Ask him for a medical history. Ask if he’s willing to get genetic testing since he wants a baby so bad.
Ask to see his driver’s license and vehicle on the pretext of ugly pix and wanting to see his car because you’re into them. Check the name & license plate & look them up.
What happens if your sister asks to see his phone? Tell her to check it out.
Stress she is NOT to have a child with him until she’s known him at least a year. In case he turns out to be horrible she will be yoked to him for life. Ask her to see how he is around children for a stretch of time. Maybe have them offer to babysit for someone for a couple of hours while the child is awake and they stay at home. It’s easy to keep a child happy at a fun place, not so much when you have to entertain and feed them yourself, they have poopy diapers and cry. Does he expect her to do all the work? Does he get annoyed or lose his temper?
Offer to help pay to freeze her eggs if her biological clock is ticking loudly. That way she can have kids whenever and doesn’t have to be in a hurry.
See if you can take your sister out of town for a couple of days & tell her it’s a surprise where you’re going. Pack a bag for her & get her away from him for a few days. You can let him know you arrived safely for sister time for a few days; it’s more than a spa day out. Try to talk some sense into her. Try not to let her tell him where you are so he can’t drive to find you.
If he calls her every 10 minutes turn her phone off for a couple of hours and see how abusive & controlling the messages got once you turn it back on. Get some info on abusive behavior for her to read and discuss.
See if she can take a class at a women’s center to teach her how to be safe in an abusive situation and ways to get out safely. Take it with her and drive her there. Pay for her tuition if you can.
If she insists on going through with things, remind her that you will always be there for her NO MATTER WHAT, and that you will help her escape safely. You’ll know what to do from the class. Put the domestic violence hotline number in her phone: (800) 799-7233.
