Invite the nephew and his family and let your sister stay at home if she doesn’t want to be there! Let it be her choice to attend or not!
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I’d tell your sister to enjoy the pictures because she isn’t invited.
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Your daughter gets to invite whomever she wants to her wedding and the guests can choose to attend or not. Plain and simple. And people who can’t get through a family event need not attend or attend in the future.
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Support the innocent children even if they’re “kids”. Why cater to selfish, self centered, uncaring adults!!! I vote for the nephew and your daughter
To be honest, I say screw your sister and her husband
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Her choice to go or not go. It is at no point your issue the guest list belongs to you and your daughter. Your sister has no voice and I would not apologize
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Its your daughters big day and she needs to injoy it .so she needs to ask her Auntie to stay away.and invited her cousin and family.injoy the wedding .
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In my opinion, invite both sides, because if you don’t invite both sides and invite your sister chances are she won’t show up anyway she just wants it her way. This is not your day or your sisters day this is your daughter’s day do NOT ruin her day to satisfy someone else. That’s Just my opinion.
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Your daughter’s choice. I wouldn’t worry about your sister. She needs to grow up, be a mom and let the bride decide. Sorry
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Your sister is the actual devil. The nephew and his family come, your sister should be immediately uninvited for her manipulative behavior toward your daughter.
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I would tell her you will invite who you please and if she cant respect that then she can choose to come or not come but thats her decision not yours as she was also invited.
Your sister decided a long time ago she didn’t care about being part of your family. She’s invited, it’s her choice whether she comes or not.
Have your nephew and his dad and any other family come because they sound like the ones who really care about you and your daughter. If your sister really is mad about it thats her problem to miss out on your daughters special day that will have to be her choice.
That’s is selfish of your sister to give an ultimatum to your daughter on her special day,so if it was me i will invite her cousin and his dad and if your sister doesn’t go it’s her loss not yours
I say invite both… if the sister chooses not to attend. Then you be happy the trash took herself out and be done with her. She is a toxic person.
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Let her Stay Away, she is blackmailing you and trying to exert Her wishes over the occasion…
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When she tried to force them to choose the decision was made. She and her so called husband should stay home !
Its your daughters wedding. They invite, if they choose not to come its on them & no one else. Sounds like you are all closer to nephew & ex in law anyway. Not sisters function to choose who is invited.
Your sister should be ashamed of herself.She said her son can go but the rest of them won’t.Sounds like she has made her choice.She’s the one who has to live herself.This is your daughters wedding…not your sister.Very immature.I wouldn’t waste any energy on them, concentrate on your daughter.
Maybe her husband is a wife abuser,and she’s afraid all will find out the real truth!!!
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I believe you invite whoever you want to be there on one of your happy days. Aunt is old enough to behave or not go.
Easy. Tell her the nephew and his father will be there and if she wants to come great if not her loss.
You need to tell your sister that you love her but will not cave in to emotional blackmail. That the bride wants all of her family there. It’s her day and if they can’t suck it up then they will be missed.
Stay away from them completely no wedding nothing live as there not existing that poor boy should never be treated that way enjoy what u have n let the selfishness slone
This is not your sisters event. Put your foot down. Your daughter invites whomever she wants and if your sister doesn’t like it then she can get to stepping. Stop letting her get away with this foolish behavior. Make her make the decision not you all.
Its her wedding so it is her decision. Sorry sister.
Grudges don’t belong in a family event. Invite them all and let them decide if they can put their differences aside. Your daughter can have an easy conscience.
Aunts a piece of crap. Dont let her get her way. It’s your daughter’s day. Not hers. She made her bed. Now Let her lay in it.
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They should say “You’re invited. If u dont go thats on u. Nephew and his dad are invited. If you don’t come thats YOU (the sister) making a problem.” Thats all there is to it.
A sister shouldn’t be guilt tripping anyone, if she says she isnt going because someone is attending that she doesnt want to see that’s her look out . Sister isnt the one organising and paying for a wedding she was invited to attend not dictate who was going , dont like ? Then tell her to stay at home , going by the other answers we cant all be wrong 
Tell your daughter to send invites to who ever she wants and if aunty doesn’t show that’s on aunty. Poor girl has enough going on without having to worry about a selfish aunt.
This is Foolishness it is her niece Wedding. If she and her Husband can’t play well with others they need to stay home. Why is anyone trying to please her? Did she pay for flowers, food, The Dress, invitations, church limo???
You choose who you and your daughter want there. Your sister has made her choices now she needs to deal with them
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Your sister can SUCK IT!! She’s made her choice. It’s not fair to your nephew and his family who has been there for your family. Choose the nephew and his family. Your sister can get over it…
If they want to come Fine. If they don’t want to come Fine… they don’t get to dictate a who can and cannot come. If you are going to threaten the Bride… do everyone a favor and stay home.
Send the invites to all. The true family will those that can put aside the petty crap and show up for your daughter! It’s not about them.
It’s your daughters wedding. Extend an invitation to only your sister. If she chooses not to go then that is on her. Your daughter wants her cousin and family. Bride should have her choice. Like above post have someone available to excite your sister and (if she brings her husband and family) escorted out calmly. Sounds like your sister has a very controlling husband. Just be honest with her about guest can behave or be gone.
Your sister is selfish and ignorant. Tell her to stay home you will have a better time without her messed up family, the nephew is better off without a Mom like that!
Have your nephew and his dad come, you’ve lost your sister to a control freak
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I think you already have your answer. Just because she’s your sister doesn’t mean you have to like her or her attitude. Let her make her own decision to show up or not. Your sister is not in charge of the guest list.
The key thing I got out of your story is your sister is wrong . Invite both families and the one that counts will come weather the other one is there or not . Your sister should quilt trip your daughter about family being more important if she choose a man she married over her own son . Double standards for sure .
Your sister needs to get over her self and stop trying to rein someone else’s day .
Tell your sister that you hope that she will come and that it is her choice to come or not but no invitation changes will be made.
Tell your sister that they are invited and if she doesn’t like it. Then it is her problem not yours if she chooses not to attend. Your daughter doesn’t need any family drama at her wedding or at the reception.
It’s her wedding, tell auntie to suck it up buttercup. Grow up and act like a decent person. I’ll put you at tables across room.
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Bride and groom’s choice. Everyone else can deal or not come. There’s no making everyone happy and the guest list is no one else’s business.
Your daughters choice but for me definetly auntie and husband can kick rocks… My cousin and his family will be there not a man who is going to be sour anyway and a aunt who is told when to leave.
Agree, Everyone is invited. Whoever comes to the Wedding needs to behave, if Not then Leave
Your sister is being controlled and now she’s trying to control your daughter’s wedding. That’s not family. Your nephew comes and his family and the sister and her husband can take a hike.
You know what the answer is without anyone giving advice.
Talk to Clergymen about the situation and are trained to help in situation for wedding.
Meaning Clergymen who performs ceremony.
If noone can agree to disagree then couple should, (if truly IN LOVE AND WANT TO BECOME AS ONE), THEN BOLT AND ELOPE!
Tell your Sister you will save them a seat far as you can away from her x and her own son, then leave the rest up to her.
Its rhier wedding and they should invite who ever they want, if those invited dont go it is thier lose.
It’s your daughters wedding day n she chooses who attends. If your sister doesn’t come because her husband is a controlling jerk then that’s on her.
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I don’t have sisters/step sisters or half sisters. I have one brother, but I think if it were him I’d say something.
Maybe, if there is this much decension about who
gets invited to,a wedding, there should not be one!
A very clear warning about what lies ahead!?
Your daughter included everyone. Tell her to put her big girl panties on and choose if she’s gonna come or not.
Your sister is wrong to do this to her son period I would not have my sister come
Sometimes you have to make a choice, my pick would be the nephew.
YOUR DAUGHTER WEDDING HER RULES. Leave your sister and her controlling toxic husband out of the wedding. You don’t need them there. Your sister is just as toxic as her husband. Cut them off. Its ok to cut toxic family off.
I am the only one who can’t follow this family tree?
Send out the invitations and whoever comes and shows up hopefully will have a good time. Don’t worry about the ones that don’t they have to deal with it
Sounds more like it should be your sisters problem.
I thought this stuff only happened in my family. I say invite both, and let her decide (don’t tell your sister). Her loss is your nephew’s gain.
She either comes or not Really up to her.If no, no big loss
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This is not your problem to solve. A person can only change themselves it cannot be done any other way
If she invites both and sister doesn’t come problem solved.
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Ummmm…
Her choices are clear.
She doesn’t shive a ghit…
He IS YOUR CHOICE!
So enjoy the day with him.
Just invite them all
If they choose not to come, well that’s on them.
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Brides choice. Her day.
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Sounds like your sister likes to control,pray for guidance 
Invite both and if they choose to not come, it is their loss!
Your sister don’t care about you not her own son!!! Say “BYE FELECIA” AND MOVE ON WITH THE WEDDING WITHOUT HER!!!
I agree your sister is wrong!!! Tell her to stay home!!!
I hope the son doesn’t live with them
He will face endless cruelty.
Your sister is a tail hole!! Pathetic to pick a man over her kid!! Forget HER! Keep being a mom to ur nephew, he needs tht.
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You’ll never change …don’t try. Ask the young man what he wants…do what he wants… …ex husband s. Naw…
Tell your sister to grow up or not come!
Don’t marry a man that doesn’t like your children!!!
Don’t let your daughter fall for your sisters ridiculous ugly behavior…she is a guest and does not get to dictate who comes and if she had her husband do come they will most likely be rude and pouty. It’s your daughters day and she should not be made to feel guilty about 1 thing. I would tell my sister “ we would love for you to come, but understand if you aren’t able to make it” DONE! I don’t know why, but every family seems to have a horses ass who wants to rule every event
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Invite both and let eac one maketheir own mind up
I would tell my sister to go to hell
You invite both and let them deside
I hate family get togethers just for this reason.
Here is my advice:
Bride, this is a day for you and your husband.
The people you invite are there to support to as you start you new life as a monogamous couple.
Anyone that tries to use emotional blackmail is not the to support you. They are poison.
Since mommy dearest has thrown down the threat, take her up on it.
Sorry mom. It would have been nice for you to have acted like a responsible adult and put aside your petty hatred for your own son to see your daughter get married, but since you need to continue your Hatfield and McCoy feud, you can just stay away.
Then turn your back and walk away. Do not accept phone calls or respond to texts until after your honeymoon.
Sister sounds like a selfish bitch and wedding would probably be better off and more peaceful without her there at all. Let the nephew and his dad come.
Bitter sister let Go let God
Absolutely absurd !!!
It’s your daughters BIG DAY…she can invite who wants, if your sister is such a stupid bitch and can’t understand that this day is not about her, then she needs to stay home! Your nephew sounds like more of a loving family member than she is anyway. Sounds like your sister likes DRAMA IN WHICH SHE’S THE CENTER IF ATTENTION. THE CENTER OF ATTENTION IS YOUR BABY GIRL AND HER HAPPINESS ON HER BIG DAY!!!
She is a selfish bitch you don’t need her there. How do you not defend your child who she basically gave up totally.
Your sister sounds like a real bitch. Sorry, but who chooses a man over her own child and makes said child feel unloved by their own mother. Sounds like she can just stay her butt at home. 🤷
Tell her to stay home
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Tell her to stay home
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This was a very confusing read. But from what I did understand, I’d choose the nephew that’s been abandoned by his mother for a man.
Was confusing to read but it sounds like there are some serious issues there. If The sister and especially the husband have a problem then they don’t need to be the ones there. I have family members coming to my wedding that I don’t want there next weekend but other family members think I should have and have invited them behind my back. I’ve said I didn’t want them there but it is what it will be. People who I consider family over those who actually are know and know that there are issues between us and what caused the split. They’ve said that if a problem occurs and they are going to handle it before it gets back to me and my husband. If the sister and her husband cant fully support the bride and groom and who they don’t need to be there. Maybe do what I need let your circle know there could be an issue and have someone handle it before it explodes into something that it shouldn’t
I wouldn’t be worried about losing her when she clearly does not care. Stand your ground. She’s a grown woman. Invite your nephew and his father. Real family will come celebrate. She needs to get left behind so that she knows how it feels. You’re doing the right thing being there for your nephew and he is lucky to have you in his life. I can’t imagine leaving my son behind for a man. If she gets mad and you “lose” her. Then so be it. It’s actually her loss. There will be a time of regret for her and I hope it’s not too late when she realizes everything she set aside for her husband.
Your daughter wedding. If she comes comes if not her loss. Life is to short, spend time with family make memories. I’m sorry I feel she will be sorry to late.
Well if that isn’t about kindergarten level! Who you invite to your wedding is nobody else’s business – if the sister doesn’t want to come that doesn’t mean she wasn’t invited, she chose not to come! Why are you making it all about her? Either she comes or she doesn’t. I can’t believe you would let her dictate guests for your wedding!
Tell sister and her husband that it isn’t their wedding, its your daughters. If they can’t come because they don’t like the other guest, they are more than welcome to stay away. Your responsibility for their actions ended with the invite.
You invite them all, including your nephew and his dad and family. If your sister and her husband don’t want to go, fine. They need to grow up! You should not be trying to mediate this. Invite everyone and let the chips fall where they will. Enjoy your daughter’s wedding it is HER day!
sounds like too much control all the way around, i would invite everyone and not worry about it, whoever wants to come can and whoever doesn’t can stay home.
She has the answer, she already wrote it in the last paragraph. Nobody, and that is a firm belief for me, has the right to decide the life of others, what they can do, where they can go or not, what to think. The attitude of sister and husband is so disgusting, that I don’t even know why the lady asking for opinions has to wonder what to do. Tell your sister that by HER “ultimatum”,(the sister’s) she and her husband won’t be expected at the wedding. Period.
Leave your sister to pout… She’s the one with the issues