You have needs too. Its not about the gifts I’ve been in those shoes. Tell him your needs and specifically. If that doesn’t work, then you need to get some independence and leave.
Oh wow…so sorry this is happening to you…but I have to agree the the majority of these post…
He has isolated you…is he the jealous type?
He doesn’t read minds…tell him flat out (in a nice way, I have to catch myself sometimes…to be nice)
I just buy my own stuff and tell him…oh I bought myself my B-day present or whatever…but I have my own vehicle, access to our bank accounts, etc.
But we have been married 25 years, went through some heavy shit to get where we are today.
Men think different than us…my Hubs comes home after work and zones out on the TV…I get it he has a REALLY STRESSFUL job…I am in early retirement for some medical reasons and am at home pretty much all day by myself…we have a 21yr old Son still living at home going to college and he works, too. I want to talk about the day, whatever…My hubs wants to zone out…after a few back and forths he NOW puts the TV on pause and listens to me…
It’s all about each partner giving and taking…sometimes he gives and I take…sometimes it’s the other way around…but we both give 100% to our marriage…that’s why we have lasted so long, I believe…I tell my Son…he is going to make a WONDERFUL Husband…because over the years when shit got real between us…I would tell my Son…see what your Dad is doing and it’s pissing me off…DON’T DO THAT With Your Wife…
(Please do not take it that I have warped my Son’s mind with stupid shit…that is not how that statement was meant.)
I hope it turns out okay for you, Doll…
It’s over girl. Be happy, dump the baggage. Life is too short.
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ok I was in the same boat before and I tell u it ended very badly. Im now a single mom of 2 toddlers struggling to get on my feet. Not every experience is the same but this I will say: get ur liscence, be more independant so u dont rely solely on him. Bc if it does go south u dont wanna be stuck with no way to provide for them kids!!!
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You’re in the throes of life with small kids, it gets like that, the first priority you should have is getting a license and a car. Tell him how you feel, communicate openly. You’re both in the trenches right now, bit you can make it better with communication
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Coming from a woman who married an unromantic man, you just learn you have to plan everything. Talk to him about it, tell him you’re feeling unappreciated and he might realize something needs to change. Find a local stay at home mom or high school kid to babysit and make date night a regular thing! Or plan your date night close to where your family loves so they been spend time with baby. I usually suggest a few ideas then make him pick one.
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Tell him what you want/ need to be Happy. How would he know otherwise?
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Equal treatment. Don’t get him anything. If he can’t get you anything.
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I mean I just calmly tell my husband exactly what he needs to do and exactly what I expect on holidays:woman_shrugging: hes a good man just not a very smart man 
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Everyone is different. Talk to him. Communication is important.
Demand a “Date Night” once a month.
He’s made you a prisoner of his home and slave to yalls kids and his needs!! It will only get worse!! Get your kids and yourself out of the situation ASAP!
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Don’t beat around the bush. Flat out tell him what’s bothering you and why. Don’t make it into an argument. Tell him it would be nice to get little gifts or some kind of appreciation.
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I wish my husband told me to be naked when he got home. Lol I don’t even get that!
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Sorry you’re going through this, but first go get yourself a driver license that way you don’t feel “trap” and then do what make you feel special and appropriate. Like getting your hair done, nails done things like that.
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I am sorry, but this sounds like you are in a relationship with a very cotrolling individual. He has put you in total isolation, this is not normal. I am sorry, but the best advice I can give you is to get you and your child out of there. Life is too short to deal with a man who sees you as nothing more than a servant. #BeenThereAndBestOptionIsToLeave
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My husband never got me an anniversary gift, but I always got him one. He was SHOCKED the first year I didn’t get him something. It’s only fair. Show him how it feels.
Its better to leave. I dated someone like that 9 years ago we have a son together, he treated my son that way 7 years later I meant my husband.
Mine doesnt ot hasnt either but it’s not a issue for me because he does more than I could ask for putting a roof over my head and food in my stomach so I never complain.
I’ve been with my husband for nearly 10 years and he always forgets! Always. I’ve learned to accept it as its not like he loves me any less, I just plan ahead for myself and tell him what I want, where from and how much so I can buy it from him 
but that’s just us every one and every relationship is different. Talk with him and hopefully that helps 
Been with my man for for nearly four years now we have a two year old daughter and I’m in the same boat as you mama. He even texted me on my birthday once in our home from the other room saying happy birthday, at least I got that. It’s a real bummer I totally understand where you’re coming from. No cute little jesters or just the little things but I always remind myself it’s not that important and what is important is keeping our roof over our head and providing for our daughter. It’s a bummer just try to focus your mind on other things. I dont have much advice because I’ve tried talking to my spouse about it in the past which didnt really do anything but make me sound like a whiny bitch. And if you nag on someone about what they’re not doing then why are they ever going to want to do it feeling forced. It sucks I wish I had better advice but just know you’re not alone and men are useless lol.
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Hi you know you are a controlled women keeps you in the bush so you can’t go or ido something will he even slow you to God out once in a while would he care if your down or would hell just think your winning
You teach people how to treat you!!
Tell him what you would like. They’re not that smart when it comes to that type of stuff. Just saying. Also, work on YOU! You’re more than just a mom and a wife. Plus, it’s your job to make YOURSELF happy, not have him do it for you. But also, look at the good things he does do for you (even though he sounds a little bit controlling) but you need something for yourself. Share your life with someone, don’t make someone your life.
My husband is like this, so I plan it all and he rembebers what days mortgage is due and I remember birthdays he’s not the romantic stuff but he will go with it when I due it just talk to him figure out what works for u for us in 9 years I’ve gotten flowers in the begging but he knows now that I prefer a steak dinner it’s all communication even if the other person don’t like it they will understand
I’ve set up a WhatsApp group called Laura’s Christmas present with my partner and add bits I like to it and what shop he wouldn’t have clue unless I gave him ideas, he knows I don’t expect all the presents and to make it some what a surprise but I’d defo be having words and saying that you want a night off and is he going to get you a present for Christmas this year, if he says no stop getting him one? And buy yourself something, it can be from the kids x
Sure i would be curious if he is messin aroud