So my SO & I have been together for 4 years. Have a beautiful 2-year-old daughter, and I’m currently 6+ month’s pregnant. We live an hour away from anyone we know. I’m a STHM; I take care of our daughter. I take care of the house. I do it all 24/7. I got no license, no car. I go nowhere except to the store once a week. In the last 4 year’s we have been together, I go out and get him a little something as a present, for his birthday or holidays, He hasn’t gotten me anything for my birthday or holidays in the past 4 year’s. Not that is matters, but it would just be nice to get something besides flowers and chocolate, and the only time I get that is if he feels bad or we argue if that. So maybe once or twice a year. He ain’t romantic at all. His thinking of romantic is him telling me, oh be naked in bed when I get home from work.We never go out on a date night’s anymore since we had had our daughter 2 years ago. We have been out together just the two of us once in the last two years, and that is only because I planned it. He has planned for us to go out, just the two of us over ten times since our daughter was born, but there is always an excuse, or he would start an argument with me that end up us not doing anything. Kinda joking around with him I said ya know you still owe me a date night and then all I get back is, ya well you still owe me stuff too…It just sucks to feel unappreciated, and I need some romance in my life. The first 1-2 years of our relationship was great, fun, romantic. Once we had our daughter, that all went away. And I understand things will change when you have children. I have changed my whole life for my daughter, and I love her to pieces.
I would maybe hint you want something. If that didn’t work over the years simply communicate that with him. Maybe finances are not good? Maybe you never expressed to him if it matters or not? Cause I’ve seen men ask their woman what do they want and then hit them with the “nothing” so nothing they get. Men are very direct with things like that.
You said in the beginning that he’s always been like this, then at the end say in the beginning he was fun and romantic. Like if you knew he was this way from the get go then you just need to get over it. But if he actually was romantic and fun the talk to him.
It’s pretty sad how many posts are about feeling unappreciated cause of not receiving gifts on holidays. Does your significant other not doing anything throughout the year to make you feel appreciated?! Bringing in the groceries so you dont have to?..starting your car on a cold day?..filling your gas tank?..I’d rather a flower on a random Tuesday than gifts on a holiday that people feel obligated to buy.
Sounds very miserable I couldn’t imagine being solely dependent on a man & it seem he have u locked away sounds to me like he is cheating just simply the way he is treating u my advice after u have the baby strategize your exit plan even if he is not cheating I wouldn’t stick around for that type of treatment u deserve better
I’m not a gifts type of person, so I personally dont care if my spouse buys me stuff, or takes me places. I’m also a sahm, no license, and my husband works 12 hours a day 5 days a week. You need to communicate with him. If he doesnt resolve the issue or the answer isnt what you want then you have two solutions; leave or work through it. My husband and I have known each other and loved each other since we were 12. We got back together when we were 18, and we are 25 now. After as many years as we have been together, we dont really treat holidays or date nights like they are a huge deal. I’ve lost so many people in my life, and while having some items they’ve gifted me are nice, I really wish I could have one more holiday with them. I guess I’m a homebody and i guess i value experiences more than items, and that’s why i dont get upset. But you’re not me, you’re yourself and you have to think of you over everything else. Your child isnt being cared for completely if you arent happy and healthy. If your husband is treating you badly ontop of all of those issues, then that’s a different story, but ultimately communication, listening, and honesty are the only way to resolve marital issues.
Some guys just don’t get it…who cares who planned what who cares if the kids come to or don’t come with. Plan something , movie, zoo, walk in the park whatever and just go. If he makes an excuse go have fun without him. And I would strongly suggest you get a car and liscene so you can do what you want when you want. You can’t wait around you need to live now.
Solution…get your license, get a car…and get out and do stuff. Meet other moms and have a life.
Stop getting him stuff too.
Honestly there are lots of women who can’t even get a guy to commit, so yea I find this post extra 
Order your own presents off amazon? And maybe get a drivers license so you can go places especially when your daughter starts school.
First of all, get your license. No reason you shouldn’t have it.
Time to leave sweetie. If you are treated less than a queen he doesn’t deserve you. He will never change. You need to go and get a fresh start. Focus on your children and I promise Mr. Right is out there waiting for you.
All the people saying leave cause how dare he provide for her and take care of his family
Been with my husband 9years , he has never planned anything and has never been a planner… he also doesn’t buy me anything I just say I’m buying this for myself 💁🏻 but I knew this since day 1 … it sounds like your man as been the same since you guys started so not sure why now you’d think a guy would change Bc men don’t get it… now you’re probably going stir crazy if I were you , I’d go out and get my license first off. Then find a babysitter and plan a night for you and the hubs! Don’t dwell so much and expect a guy to get it they don’t think the same as us! Life gets crazy with a kid just have to figure it out…
Easy stop buying for him!!! It goes both ways
Who cares? Aren’t there more important things to do with your money and time then worry about if so.eones going to buy you crap?
I tell my husband exactly what I want, and where to buy it. I’ve learned that just expecting something wont cut it. Some people get foggy when it comes to get giving and it becomes stressful. Just be direct. If he STILL doesnt get you anything then just dont buy him stuff and spend that money on yourself instead
First… learn how to drive and get ur damn license ,no one but urself knows how u feel,no one is a mind reader…change ur life to the way u want it to be ,or get out…ur grown,start acting like it
Be honest with him. Tell him calmly how you feel and why. Open communication is so very important.
Stop buying things for him. If you stay with him he will never change or get you anything.
Men are wired differently, you have to spell it out for him.
Some Men dont think like women do. You have to talk to him. Basically spell it out for him
You have to talk to him, he cant read your mind. Im sre he has a lot of pressure on him and more so with you pregnant. Just talk to him girl.
My husband has been this way since we got together. He isnt the type to surprise me and that’s fine. We will discuss what we want to do for our anniversary and then he will take me to pick something out. If I find something he buys it and if I don’t see anything I want then he ask if I’m sure and we go about our business.
I buy him things and little surprises and he loves them. But I knew from day 1 he isnt that kind of guy and that’s fine. I value his time more than anything because with his work it’s hard for us to really have quality time.
Yes save any money you can. Yes I use to buy for myself. But I worked pt when my kids were in preschool a few hrs.
my money!
Open up ur independent, u may not have a car,but that doesn’t mean u can’t have a license, maybe that will open up ur life alittle,make u less dependent on ur man,I know it did good for my mom after she got her license, didnt have them for 15 years after marriage, she was happier, more independent, she got a job too,helped dad with the bills, made a huge difference to her!
Buy yourself a present, my gifts to myself are always a favorite.
Love language test for both
What of he doesnt have extra $ if hes paying for most if all Bill’s
Ur tradition and love language is gifts
That’s ok
Honestly it sounds like you need to gain some independence. Not sure of your age but you sound young. Get your license and then maybe even get a part time job around your husbamds schedule. Something even to get out of the house for a few hours every week. As for romance and ever doing anything…that’s life. I’m pregnant with my third and have 4 kids in total and family is almost 2 hrs away. Weve been together almost 5 yrs and literally been away alone together one time…for one night. Plan something at home for the two of you…why is it all on him ??
Teaching your beloved daughter that it’s ok for a man to treat her that way because you tolerated it from her dad.
yes men like shop quickly
You should get gifts. It’s unfair that he doesn’t get you anything. Gifts is one of the 5 love languages and it’s not selfish to want something. I’m sorry this is happening to you.
How about get someone to babysit and have dinner cooked for him, a movie, massage, time in, that way if he starts a fight well you weren’t disappointed. Listen, I know this is not popular!! He works, I mean seriously I know sahm have it hard, but you clean up, do laundry,cook and play with your kids maybe have a lesson or two. He is responsible for you and the kids roof that you stay under, food that you eat!! Maybe cut him some slack on things, maybe he us doing the best he can. Also, I love a- be naked when I get home- text. Good luck. Also, do not come at me bc I will not argue with you. This is MY OPINION.
My ex and I were together for 5 years and I never got a damn thing. Not even a card on mothers day from our son. It sucked so bad
You Need to Talk to Him.
Have you told him? Men are not mind readers. Tell him your love language, express him you feel unappreciated. Don’t say that it doesn’t matter, when the first thing you’re saying is he doesn’t get you anything for birthdays or holidays! Because it does.
Set some goals, You need to get your license. Start putting aside money for yourself so you can do this. You need a life of your own other than being a mom and a partner. Go to the gym, eat good and find other moms in your area that might be interested in play dates!
Get a driver’s license, go back to school…get some skills because this has already ended. He as no regard or love for you and it will only get worse. This is not about presents, etc. It is a matter of expressing HIS love for her. By keeping you isolated he is able to control whatever you do. This is abuse!!! Talk to someone at a shelter. Not necessarily to leave but to get help so that you can take care of yourself and your babies. He will try to make you feel selfish but whose kids and house do you take care of His!! There is help and support out there. Even if you do not leave what would you do if something happened. You deserve more!
I was with my husband for 11 years and only gifts were Christmas and were for the home. I was working, though I had to walk or take buses to work cause husband had my car. I bought personal things for my husband, birthday and Christmas. Didn’t have any children then. Depends on what is truly important I guess. I came from a poor large family so I thought nothing of it. Later I started to buy for myself from what I earned. Getting your license would be my #1 priority. Being pregnant you won’t be able to get a job right now but keep your eyes open for you might like to do. Maybe enroll for online classes to get some additional education. Will help to get a part time job so you have some independence.
Maybe he feels unappreciated, maybe he’s stressed, tired and worn out being the main bread winner. But honey you need to get some independence! For yourself! I think some men like the fact that a woman has to depend completely on them dont let him have that satisfaction! Get a part time job or something online if u can find something legit and get some money saved up for u and ur kids so when/if the relationship goes south u don’t have to ask him for a damn thing. But in the meantime communicate with him and tell him your feelings and what you need.
The best thing a doctor ever said to me was “make yourself happy and stop looking for your husband to do it for you because you’ll end up miserable”. Best advice I’ve ever gotten.
Two things here- You’re a SAHM. Be grateful you get to be. It’s not easy providing for a family on one income.
Two- Read the book the Five Love Languages, Google it, YouTube it or something. Therein lies your solution to your problem.
The present thing is materialistic they dont mean anything really. Now the comment he makes about date night I’d be hurt. He probably doesn’t get what you need. You guys should read love languages. guys dont get certain things maybe take the reins and plan a night, start doing something for yourself like a hobbie, reading, working out… just something for you . You cant expect him to make you happy you need to make you happy. Putting that pressure on some feels bad he probably doesn’t feel like hes doing anything right . Gotta reinforce good behavior show appreciation… that goes both ways.
You sound very thoughtful. Maybe you should talk to him but honestly since you’re a sahm, he might feel like he’s carrying the financial load and isn’t thinking of gifts. No excuse, just being honest. I do think you need more independence but I will say again, you’re very thoughtful and kind. He should give you rewards for that. Sadly not everyone thinks that way. My partner doesn’t think of the good he only focuses on the bad. I’m sorry. Also maybe plan a night out ?
Firstly, get your license gain some independence.
You seem like the type of person that wants to be outside doing activities and you should work towards that. Talk to the S/O and let him know you’ll be using his car to take the kids out and have some time outside for yourself.
Secondly… A few handful of women suffer from antepartum depression. Which is depression while pregnant due to hormonal changes and stress.
You should talk to your doctor.
Thirdly— and this is going to be harsh— the man is not going to change. If this is how it’s been for four years, then this is how it’s going to be for the duration of your time with him.
You’re going to have to sit down with yourself and ask how important this is to you. And if it’s at the top of your list then maybe counseling could help. If it doesn’t then you need to choose if you can make the best of things or say this isn’t enough and I deserve more and pack your things and leave. You’re starting to resent him for something he’s done most of the time he’s been with you and it’s going to ruin your already rocky relationship.
Maybe he’s also depressed. Being the sole provider for a growing family is STRESSFUL. I know because I’ve been a sole provider. The amount of pressure that’s on you at all times is insane!! I’m not by any means justifying his actions. He needs to realize that you have needs also and maybe meet in the middle somewhere.
My hubby now is not romantic. No big or small Mother’s Day gift. No real Christmas gift. No let’s dress up do our and wine and dine. He doesn’t cuddle and he doesn’t sit and communicate very well or empty his heart and spill his emotions to me. When he’s upset I usually have to pry it out of him. Anyhow he’ll come home and bring me my favorite tea sometimes. Or when we go out to Wendy’s we’ll both call it a date, even if the kids are with us. In the car we hold hands and call it “our time together.” Even family movie night I consider a date. And that’s enough for me. I adore the little things. And I was the one that started calling our outings a date and making the best of the situation because I love him and I’m his own way he loves me too.
But it wasn’t enough for his ex-wife. She wanted the cuddles and the going out and dancing and dining the flowers and the special mother’s day jewelry. And she didn’t even realize he would do little things for her so he stopped doing things all together for her and that’s when their relationship started to crumble.
Anyhow. Try counseling if you can.
I dealt with the no gifts thing and that was because my spouse was the only one working amd paying all bills and the budget was so tight it could strangle a man. We couldn’t afford to go out either but what we did do was plan date nights at home. We’d do movies on the tv or we would cook something nice together. Well id cook and he’d be my prep chef. It was hard for both of us but once things settled in our lives everything changed. We went out and stuff but missed our indoor momemts and so now even though we can afford to head out we prefer to stay in. We don’t cook though we order in😈
You need to get a car and become more independant, it will get worse
Get your liscense your to coped up you need some what of a life.
My ex was not a romantic he loved sex but didn’t know how to make love I got where I dreaded sex.
You can throw hints about even a small gift would really mean alot, Sorry to say some men just do not get are needs.
I wish you all the luck
It’s just going to get worse. Communication
Hunny if you are that unhappy then leave. Yes children change your life my husband and I have been together for 7 1/2 years married for 4 years and we hardly get date nights maybe a couple times a year that’s what happens when you have kids and busy working lives. My husband has never been the romantic type, but I know he loves me and I love him so I have accepted that he is not a romantic type. The last time I got flowers was for Valentines Day a year or two ago, and would I like flowers more often yes but he is a guy for one they don’t think about that kind of stuff a lot and two we have kids and other things to pay for. He does get me gifts for birthdays and Christmas sometimes, but not all the time but it’s ok because my kids are the greatest gifts he has given me plus I would rather him spend money on our kids then on me. The first years of a relationship are always going to be better because it was still new and exciting. Also you are a stay at home mom so that means only one income which means he may not have the extra money to buy all these gifts for and you and pay for date nights he is supporting you and your kids. Honestly feeling unappreciated because you don’t get gifts or date nights kinda sounds selfish. I am not saying you are I am just saying that’s how it sounds.
Hell naw i would leave… Nope you have already said things and he is not understanding… Because he doesn’t give a shit… if somebody can stash it they will make the time they will show up they will be there anyone not make you feel like crap. this could be relationship people just do nice things just because. is not a healthy relationship and I would just leave because it seems like he wouldn’t change
Get out.
Get a job.
Car.
Your own money.
He’ll notice you then.
That you are GONE.
But it will be Too late.
Once OUT…you will NEVER go back.
Best wishes for a happy life.
Meeting a Real mam.
Who will treat you with love. Affection.
Kindness.
Appreciation.
Following for advice.
I haven’t gotten a single card, candy, flower, or gift from my husband. He shows me love through paying rent, electric, and grocery costs.
You may want to consider that money might be tight. And he is a normal man btw when it comes to romance. You might want to go get your license. Find other SAHM in your area and do playdates. Your happiness is what you make it. Why don’t you plan a romantic evening and he may catch on. Men don’t know unless it smacks them in the face.
My husband does other things for me… like I was complaining about our uncomfortable toilet seat so he changed it. I know it probably seems silly to some but to me it showed me he cares. He will also pick up a treat for me now and then. Maybe you’re not seeing his love language as they call it. Maybe he shows love differently than you want to receive it. (There is a book about this but you can look up love laguages it’s very interesting). Maybe he thinks he’s doing things for you that you’re not seeing.
But from what you said about the gifts when you’re mad and not spending time on you for dates etc. Either… I think you need to communicate and find a way to bond again. It sounds like he might not be putting in any effort at all in your relationship and its not about gifts. Maybe you both need to talk about what you need from each other to feel special and loved again. Maybe he doesn’t see how important it is to you or maybe he’s depressed stressed or having a hard time and not telling you.
Leave that relationship now get out while you still can he is harboring you away from the world and sounds like he is ashamed to be with you out in public and also he maybe cheating on you
Seriously^^^^^^ what the hell id never assume this about their relationship. There is something wrong with you
Why don’t you have your driver’s license? You need some more freedom here.
Express your feelings to him. Let him know that you want him to put forth more effort in certain areas. Talking to him and seeing his response just may give you your answer.
Have you tried talking to him? I think that’s the first step. Also, as someone stated, maybe the finances are tight and he doesn’t want to let you know. As for the date nights, how about try having a relaxing, romantic evening at home. Some ideas are a nice dinner, movie night, maybe give each other massages. Having kids can change our lives and going out becomes harder. I think you just need to talk to him.
Definitely try once more to communicate that you aren’t getting what you want out of the relationship. In the meantime, while waiting to see if things improve, you should redirect your focus. Focus on doing things that will help you to become more independent (such as getting your license or enlisting the help of family to help with the kids once a week so you can do something you enjoy; maybe taking a class?). Focus on spending quality time with your kids too because they’ll appreciate the memories you make with them more than your husband does at this point. And lastly, keep your head up. Focus on yourself. Once you build that confidence in yourself, you’ll know who’s worth your time and from there you can determine how to best move forward for you and your kids.
Have you spoken to him about how you feel men can be completely blind to things sometimes and kind of need it spelled out for them. I’m 8 months pregnant with a 17 month old also stay at home mom and I don’t have my license (do to severe anxiety on the road) I have started taken driving lessons to help with my anxiety and hopefully get myself a license. My SO works from typically 7:30am to 8 or 9pm and has very little time or energy to want to do much after work. I told him I miss spending time with him he use to only work until 5:30-6 before I got placed on bed rest and we have made Saturday nights our night after our son goes to sleep we pick a movie to watch together and have some snacks and drink grape juice out of wine glasses 
it may not seem like much to most but it means the world to me that he tries. He also started bringing home small gifts after work just because he wants to and feels bad, he also takes our son on Sundays (his only day off) to do something for an hour or 2 so I have time to myself and enjoy some kid free time. You could always do a date night at home lite some candles make a romantic dinner put on some music. When my SO and I are making dinner for our Saturday nights we put on music and dance in the kitchen while cooking.
I suggest you both take the love language quiz online!
My husband and I have been together almost 5 years and until recently he didnt plan date nights unless I made him until a few months ago. We had some drama rock our relationship to its core. He finally had a wake up call and hes planned 3 dates since then. He’s not romantic at all but hes trying. He’s never been the romantic type. If he knows I’m having a rough day and we have the money he stops on his way home and brings me roses and even that’s only happened a few times. Instead of being aggressive about your feelings try actually talking about your feelings without coming off like it’s all his fault or like your accussing him of something. Men dont think. My husband recently told me he wasnt planning date nights because he was afraid to plan it and have me be miserable the whole time. I had to tell him as long as were not going to the shooting range idc. I’ve also made a list of stuff we could try and gave it to him so he knows whatever he plans can be enjoyable for both of us. You both need to put in the effort for your relationship to work.
Men typically are clueless when it comes to these things! You might just have to flat out tell him you would like more romance… and it goes both ways, do something for him or with him that he enjoys.
If you feel trapped tho it would help to do something for yourself like get your license and make some new friends.
I’ve been with the man of my dreams for 17 years and the biggest thing about relationships is communication, just say what you want, don’t expect him to just magically guess that you want something and get upset when he doesn’t get it!!
I’m sorry. Im not going with the crowd here, but leave. This sounds like a controlling relationship and don’t nobody have time for that. Get out now.
Mija maybe you need to tell him how your feeling, screenshot this post and send it to him and just tell him you want to do more things. I had to speak up in my relationship and let my SO know how I was feeling because he isn’t the most romantic either.
Go on line and read about The 5 Love Languages. Everyone falls in to a category on how they give love and how they receive love. It’s an eye opener when trying to unravel the mysteries of a relationship after the new wears down and life has set in. It will help you grow together in understanding those little things that can have big and long term negative impacts on your relationship. It has saved at least 5 couples I know from separating for reasons they now understand and work with.
There is never a time you shouldn’t be spoiled and appreciated. I’m not going to brag about all my gifts I get, but my bf spoils the crap out of me just bc he loves me. Even if you don’t have money there is other things he could do. Mine showers me and washes my hair and gives me back rubs every single night before bed. He takes care of the baby even after working 12 hours. If a man wants and loves you he makes time and shows you love and appreciation.
I had a ex like this I simply stopped bying him things for bdays Christmas ect they hate it when it’s done to them
You need to go and get your license. Stuff sitting at home getting cabin fever that shit will make you crazy.
Once you get it then kick his ass to the kerb, he doesnt sound like he has any intention on giving you romance or appreciation at all.
Fuck boys are not men
You can’t expect him to be the only one who plans date nights. Sometimes parenting and life push romance to the back burner and you need to take control to get it back where it needs to be.
I feel he should get you something from the kiddos that’s what we do. The kids get daddy something and vis versa
But that’s something you need to talk to him about, and remember kids change every thing.
My husband and I haven’t been on a real date in years either but we find ways to make it fun, we will do a mini at home date once little one is in bed, and sometimes we take her on a date with us. You have to make the best out of bad situations. Unfortunately having Kids and no one around to help babysit or take the little one so you can be romantic together is a bad situation, our closest family is 12 hours away and we never get alone time unless she is in bed. I’m a full time working mom too so it’s super hard but we make it work. And remember presents and romance aren’t everything. I’m just super grateful I have a man who loves me, and our child a lot and takes such good care of us. 
Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?
He will never change, he has you where he wants you. Get out while you can.
ive been with my so for over 10 years and not even a birthday card,hes the most selfish person i know! i used to enjoyall the holidays and for 10 years they have been ruined,it dont get better with time so i have no good advise for you
You not having your drivers license, is your responsibility. Take care if that. Your needs aren’t being met u need to discuss it w him like u wld anything else. You might want to find out also are his needs being met. You need to show him exactly what you need. Maybe he is working too much, maybe he dsnt realize he needs to work harder on his marriage, maybe he’s just lazy, whatever it is, fix it now before you feel any more hurt or resentment. Those feelings will kill a marriage, quickly.
I really do understand because given early in our marriage I would remind him but I can honestly, say even when the children were tiny we did have date nights once a month.
Because everything is shipshape with clean ironed clothes, cooking, looking after the babies are expected so, how about your doing absolutely nothing taking baby out in the fresh air or to a friend. Treat YOURSELF do something for you, he’ll notice, believe me. Do it once a week. Do it don’t think about it, do it…
This is something you should have dealt with very early on in your relationship Since you didn’t you have to decide whether or not you want to continue dealing with it or not. It likely isn’t going to change at this point so you have to either change you expectations or you have to choose to leave if you are unwilling to do that.
Sounds like this is a conversation you need to have with your hubby…no one’s a mind reader, sometimes you have to physically tell them what you need or what behaviors you would like changed…if nothing changes, save yourself the time and energy and move on and away.
He sounds like a selfish man.
It takes alot of effort from both sides. When I work we both work as a team and i laid that out for him. When i have been down, out of a job or on maternity leave I take care of the house, but I also plan the date nights. It literally is impossible to stay happy when you cant get time alone. Mommies and daddies need to bond. We have been so much closer since I decided to not be butt hurt that he doesnt get me flowers or anything like that and just plan the dates (btw guys suck at that stuff, they dont do that on purpose they just suck at it)! Good luck momma
This is so heartbreaking to me. You are isolated and live for your kid and boyfriend. What about you? Since hes not romantic, I’d skip asking for flowers, candy, even gifts, I’d ask that he buy the drivers course so you can start doing more for yourself. It doesnt answer your question, but you need to start taking care of you without waiting for him to do so.
You seriously need to tell him exactly what you want and why. Be clam about it. And if it doesn’t happen then at that point you need to figure out what you want out of life and if hes going to be able to give that to you or not!
I’d just ask hey what’re you getting me for Christmas? 
Just tell your partner what you want. We, as individuals, are constantly changing. Whether it’s because we have kids or not. But we grow and learn through life. If he isn’t a romantic type then you’re just gonna be disappointed over and over again. A nice gesture here and there shows he tries but still no clue as to what really make your day. Teach him, guide him and let him know what you want to get.
My husband knows not to surprise me because, i dont like surprises💁♀️
He’s got you trapped & he knows it. Why would he work to keep you when you’re already completely dependent on him?
Tell him what you want, and in the meantime, work on gaining some independence!
14 years being with my husband. Haven’t got a present in 10 years… No birthday…valentines…Christmas…etc.etc… I figure pick your battles…
Stop buying him stuff and let him see how it feels. I’m pretty sure, he will feel some type way about it and if he mentions it to you. Let him know how you feel.
Get away from him!!! He sounds very controlling and that is scary!!! He has isolated you!!! Find help please
Darlin, I don’t mean to put ideas in your head or anything but he has you right where he wants you… and if you want something to change then you have to make it happen, Men(not all) but Men tends to get comfy about a situation and if you let them continue to do it then they will
I’ve learned if you want something plan it or buy it yourself🤷🏻♀️ sometimes guys need guidance. Let him know how you feel
I’m in the same boat as a sthm of a 3yr old and my 5 yr old just started kindergarten. My husband and I have been together 10yrs and once the kids were born a lot has changed. I have found that most guys need direct answers when you want something, hints don’t work! For Xmas this year (for example) I bought myself stuff I wanted and then told him 2 other things I want. Maybe your guy gets you flowers and chocolates because he thinks that’s what you want? Try telling him directly what you would like and see if he listens.
You have been telling him how to love you for years and he aint getting it. Get your license, get a job and see how willing you are to put up with this nonsense.
Gifts are not my primary love language and this whole post makes my blood boil
Be flat out… say I want you to
Get me something for my birthday and holidays. Then find a sitter and plan a date night because That’s what I need to do too in order to go out for a date without the kids lol.
If you love him this isn’t something you leave him over like some people are suggesting 
… try to fix the problem … some guys just don’t get it … mine doesn’t but I plan stuff and tell him whattt I want before that holiday and he came around and started listening because I expressed him listening and wanting to do these things is important for any girl idc what they say. 
Nobody can read your mind. Express your needs. Some are never taught what to do. Teach, say so, communicate.
Be specific, I take pictures of things or send links to things I like maybe he just doesn’t know what you want or need. Men are oblivious most of the time. Speak up for yourself. And kids does definitely change everything so unless you lay out a plan he has no idea what’s going on.
All of these submitted posts about the guy controlling and isolating the female and the female wanting to stay with them are insane to me. 
Tell him how you feel! Communicate that you’d like a little effort. Tell him what you like, straight up. Guys often don’t get hints.
First off, get some independence! And closed mouths don’t get fed, say something about it to him!
Pick your battles…are presents REALLY that important??