Looking for some mom advice. My son started daycare he’s been going for about 2 weeks now. Prior he was going to an home daycare. I’m worried he is starting to develop anxiety. The night before it’s “Mommy I don’t want to go to big school”. As soon as we pull in the parking lot the tears immediately come gushing. It’s every morning. Yet when I pick him he is happy and in a great mood and tells me he loves school. Side notes he has morning teacher than afternoon teachers. I’m just at a loss. He has been breaking my heart.
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Maybe a little separation anxiety. Ask his morning teacher how long the tears last. My guess is not long. Make dtop-offs lighthearted, fun and short. It’s still new to him. 
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That’s totally normal. Ask the teacher how long that he cried for after he’s dropped off. It’s probably only a couple of minutes and then he has fun!
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I’d question who is doing what to him there to give this negative reaction.
Totally normal for kids to have separation anxiety my son did the same thing, as long as he is happy and said he had a good day when you pick him up don’t worry about it.
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Do they have monitors in the classroom,where you can check on him., if not ask,the daycare to check into it.
Something’s not right to make him act that way. Do what you can to get to the bottom of what’s going on in those mornings.
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It takes about 6 weeks for a big change.
I don’t know, guess I’m just not a trusting person of society, but if my grandson was literally crying every morning that he didn’t want to go back to preschool, and then feeling ok with it after school, me being an over thinker and suspicious minded, I’d be questioning the morning staff. Since he’s happy After school, and that’s coming from the second round of teachers. Seems like he’s troubled with the morning staff too me…But Who knows
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Mine had it for about 8 weeks. It was really tough. It ended up he didn’t like his teachers and when he switched rooms it was gone. He was also 2. I know it’s hard……
He may not like the morning teachers. My friend had a problem with her son crying when left at daycare. Come to find out another child was bitting him. She started seeing marks on his back.
My son was exactly the same. I had to leave him with a teacher at daycare, kindy and the first year at school. He always had a good day though. He’s in his 30’s now. lol
I was a daycare teacher for 30+ years, I have seen children crying, kicking and screaming at drop off while mom or dad is there after they leave within a few minutes the child is ready to start their day. They are looking for a reaction from the parents. i know its hard but keep drop off quick - it will make things easier for everybody Also, he’s still getting used to a new environment it can take about a month for them to feel safe and comfortable
Maybe talk to his teachers about giving him a “quest” every morning so he has something fun and empowering to look forward to first thing. Can he guess what’s for breakfast? Can he find out what will be read in story time? Can he name what colors his teacher is wearing? Can he name three classmates? Etc.
He’s learning how to play you and you’re letting him learn how to deal with normal feelings, Everything is fine
Its normal. My son had separation anxiety and he started pre-k this year. the first week everything was good then week 2-4 he would cry and pull on me every morning but in the afternoon he was fine. It just takes time for them to adjust. Give it time, you can try and do reaffirmations with your child. Every morning on the drive to school , I tell my son to repeat with me. I am a big boy, I am smart and strong. I will not cry in school and i will have fun and make new friends and my mommy is picking me up after school. Stuff like that to reassure him and relax him or put some music he likes in the morning. Try and make the trip to school fun in the morning and just be patient I was struggling like you and they get better.