I would limit as much contact as possible with them. Your partner as well. There’s no reason to treat someone like, especially a child. & how are they gonna be mad at him for not being around 24/7? He’s a grown man, who has a partner, a child and a job. It sounds like his family needs to grow up & very toxic. If something comes up like a dinner, etc I would tell your partner you’re not going. There’s no reason to sit there and be talked badly about. I would also cut the presents and such down for the cousin. I have a similar situation, I would also buy my cousins 3 kids stuff for Christmas… every year. At least for 3 years I literally got nothing back, they never bought anything for my daughter. They always have excuses… last Christmas they made an excuse that the presents were in their car. But they had to go home to wrap them. So they would go home that night (AFTER everyone else opening presents) and said they would mail them out. Nobody got anything. Also one year before my daughter they told me they ordered me a make up thing and it was on the way… never got it. I also make it a point to show up for the girls birthdays and bring a gift. My daughters FIRST birthday comes around… my aunt asks where my cousins are… I don’t know. So I call and he has the audacity to say “oh I’m doing yardwork… I forgot her party was today. We’ll be there soon” so they showed up 20 minutes before the party ended & my daughters “gift” was super used & stained clothing & also added in the clothing the girls got from when they were born in the hospital. I also text his wife happy Mother’s Day, and she only replies “thank you” not “thank you You too” or anything. After that I have not talked to them since. They don’t try to contact me and I don’t contact them. I don’t have them on social media. So I totally understand how you feel, and you might feel stuck since it’s his family but you don’t deserve to sit there and treat them great when all they do is talk down to you. Cut them off. Let them talk their shit, you know your man, your child and you are happy and healthy and that’s all that matters.
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If it were me, I would limit my time with them. They will have their opinions of you regardless. Some people just don’t know how to not be wrapped up in meaningless drama in my opinion. You love your partner, you both love your son, and you’re all trying to build a life together. I’m sure in a way its sad you don’t have that support system but sometimes things can’t be forced. Through becoming a mother I have realized that people I thought would be there aren’t , and some really unexpected people have taken their place. Look at the ones around you that are supporting you
, that are there for you that do see that you’re trying to build a life with your family.
Your partner should say something. My husbands my kids step dad. If his family, on anyway treated my kids different. Or less then… He’d flip. We live in diff town, so we don’t see them much. But the last year, my son was doing chemo, in the same town his family lives in. And so we saw them more. They treat them just like their own. Etc. And asked about him. And how he was doing etc. And they have plenty or grandkids that are biological lol. But they ever treated my kids like they were less then his, he would lose it.
girl if they don’t want to be apart of his life then let that be … your SO is there for him , that’s all that matters their loss not your little boys 
Been there before, but to my case its their grandchild their own blood that they don’t care , I stopped forcing it and now we live happily No toxic family, we cut them off of our lives. As long as you child is love by your partner that should be enough. 
My husband excepted my 2 yr old son. Loves him n raised him as his own…
So what do you want to do for them to love ur dear son?Nothing…absolutely nothing…most important thing is that ur partner took the father figure to ur son…the rest are insignificant…family is not always about blood,family is love…but they don’t get it…you can’t make them…just let go and avoid exposing ur son n urself to any unloving/toxic relationship…love n prioritize you, ur son n ur partner…let 3rd partners be…they will always…you should also let ur spouse know what u feel so that he supports or atleast be in the know
I do not think there is right or wrong solution… love what you do, live your life for you and your son.
I’d cut them off and set some healthy boundaries, how does your SO feel about this?
My husband’s mom is like that with my girls. They’re her blood, but doesn’t acknowledge them at all. No birthdays, holidays, nothing. We no longer talk.
Have you brought these concerns to your Other half? If so, how did he react? If not, maybe you need to talk to him about your feelings and see how he reacts. Also, doe she stick up for you when you’re not around?
Omg this has happened to me but. I really didn’t care Just sayin
I would keep being nice to them and keep living my life the way I wanted to without them making me feel the least bit bad give a lot less to them and be a lot less for them
Do unto others as they do unto you
Im going through the exact same thing
Don’t be around people that make you unhappy. Keep you visits short and polite
I think you might count yourself lucky that you and your son are not in their lives. They sound like horrible toxic people who don’t know how a healthy, blended family behaves. I would not make any effort to develop those relationships either. Just stay neutral and put your own son first and foremost. I am very glad your partner survived that family and is good for you and your son.
Ummm why do you have to be around these people??? It’s so easy to cut people out of your life. A toxic relationship is toxic no matter who they are. When members of my family ask why I don’t have anything to do with certain people my answer is simply It is not mentally healthy for ME or MY CHILD.
Your s o should be speaking up and not allow such behavior from his family towards a child he took in as his own and anyway if thats how they are its there loss go your own way and do your own thing and let them stew in there own misery you your s o and your child just try to b happy and don’t worry about them
Cut contact with them their toxic
I have never understood why people want a relationship with people who don’t care about you ?
I DONT believe Family is Family.
I believe TOXIC IS TOXIC.
You are blessed w a man who loves you and your child.
That’s enough.
Life your life.
Stay away from the others.
You have plenty.
Enjoy it.
Just because they are family doesn’t mean you have like them. They sound like assholes. Your son is better off without them! On the other hand I would call then out on it!
I’m in similar situation and have cut them out completely. They don’t deserve to be in my kids lives, myself included. Too toxic to be worth any effort on my behalf. After 23 yrs distancing myself it’s like any other day now.
At this point in my life, I’d bow out from visits. AND if they are that, either mean or clueless, I’d be grateful they have not taken my kid into the fold. Now, question is, will yo’ man be able to accept that ur no longer available fo’ this bs? Mutual support & less drama is the best outcome. CanNOT change other peeps, but we don’t need to eat crap either. It is okay to step back from them.
In just a few short words tell them to F OFF!!! You, your SO and your son are a family and you all come, are welcomed and loved! Either they take all 3 of your or none and your SO needs to stand by this.
If u think this guy is for u he should b saying something
Cut them out of your life.
CUT THEM OFF. They are toxic and taking their issues out on a child.
Don’t let anybody disrespect you or your son. You got a voice use it. Your partner should as well. Don’t play their games. Screw them. Nothing says you have be around idiots like that. Live your lives and tell them to F off.
i feel bad for people like this. my husband’s family makes sure to treat my kids from a previous relationship the same as our daughter. my mom will even take on “grandchildren” that arent biologically hers if one of my siblings are with someone who has previous kids. your SO’s family sounds toxic and you need to cut them out of your lives. children are innocent and don’t get why they are treated differently.
Your SO needs to step up and stand up for you and your son family or not that’s disrespectful and they really dont need to be apart of any of yalls lives
We just don’t put up with that stuff
F them toxic freaks of nature! 
Them out SNIP SNIP bye bye 
That’s what we have done to my husbands side of the family. Haven’t seen them in ten years. Out of 16 grandkids they only see 4 on a regular basis and one of them they are raising. They have 5 children and out of those 5 they only see one. Silence is the cross they will have to bare
I would honestly cut them off
Sounds toxic- disconnect
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Toxic is toxic. It’s not good for you, or your son to be in those peoples lives. Money spent on them could be spent on your son or your own household. Dont put energy into nasty people and teach him it’s ok because they are family. Family can be toxic too.
I can only tell you what I would do. First, I’d delete or unfollow them all on social media. Secondly, I would stop going out with them. Thirdly, I’d tell them all to kiss my 
. Finally, I’d take care of my son and give him all the loving in the world.
Do nothing. Literally nothing. If they want to be like that, Fine. As long as they aren’t being directly hostile, do nothing. Your child deserves better than people who have to be begged to care.
Its not easy for everyone to accept a child that’s not blood because if yall break up they might not rver see him again so they don’t want to get close It took my family long enough to realize my man wasn’t going anywhere and for me to have a kid with him myself to actually see my sks as their grandchildren
Your partner needs to be a man and put his foot down.
your SO is allowing this behavior, and only HE can correct it. Nothing you say or do will. Tell him, fix the problem, or you won’t be getting together for any family gatherings with these people.
Let them go , don’t allow them to steal the joy in your life and home .
Stop allowing them to even see your post .
Be happy 
your family is not going to make them happy you have witness this many times , stop allowing them to steal your joy !!
Stay away, don’t let the child start to realise they treat him differently. X
I wouldn’t consider this man a good partner or father if he was maintaining contact with people who treated my son and me this way.
Play their game allow no one to hurt your child not by word or deed !!!
This is so sad and sickening 
I’m sorry you and your son are going through that but I think it’s time you and your SO cut them off completely it isn’t fair you do all this shit for them and cousin and they do nothing in return and bad mouth you all the time cut them off you and your son and your husband don’t need that negative energy sounds like they use you guys
I agree with most. Just withdraw you and your son out of all events pertaining to them. You and your awesome SO can be more than enough. Don’t expose him to that nonsense
I would not have anything to do with them anymore.
Toxic is toxic!! Ask your so why he won’t defend you??
Fuck them. Pretend they don’t exist and carry on with your life. They’re the ones loosing out!
Your man has taken the role of being your son’s father and like you said he is amazing. So guess what, fk his family. They’re doing you this way because they can! Me personally, I would’ve BEEN cussed their aes out. You’re a grown woman, so either tell them how you feel or delete/block them from social media. I wouldn’t attend any events that they give until they learn how to act. 
Your husband needs to have a talk with his family 
thank the lord my in laws are amazing !
I could have written this
What Polly Workinger said above
Okay so my experience. Our kids are blood related to their dad. My f.i.l. thinks not because their hair is not as curly as he thinks it should be. His only grandkids and blood related and he disowned them for racial reasons. My kids do not hear from their grandparents or see them. Not even a phone call and that made my husband’s relationship with his folks strained. He barely see them if at all and he doesn’t call. He loves his kids and he never questioned my loyalty and to me that’s enough. I don’t need extra. I would love for my kids to have a relationship with them but we explained not everyone can just love someone. Some people can only love yiu when you’re a certain color and your hair is a certain texture. Very early my kids got taught abt racialism and because of their own grandad. They took it hard but I explained it’s better someone let yiu know they don’t like yiu rather than they pretend to like you because ppl who pretend can hurt you. My advice for you is talk to your son and help him understand not everyone knows how to love. Talk to yourself and understand its okay how they feel because the most important thing is your husband loves you both and no one else matters.
Cut all ties with that part of his family. Only communicate and get involved with the ones who involved themselves with you and ur son
I would ignore them until they can change their attitudes.
Stay away from them and keep your son away he doesn’t need to be treated like that.
Honey… you say you and your guy, and your son, are all good and the love is there. Don’t waste your energy on what his family isn’t doing for you. You didn’t have them before you met him, and in this day and age… people can suck. Even about children. Carry on your life amongst yourselves. His family that are out to hurt you and your son will win if you don’t distance… it’s hard, and it’s a bitch… but don’t waste your time worrying about them. Life is too short. You’ll see when you get older…
Stop giving them your energy, focus on YOUR household, and if your SO is doing an amazing job at being a father to your son then F his family, their loss. Don’t do anything for them as they don’t do for you and yours. Let your SO deal with his family, as long as they don’t come at you sideways then just act like they don’t exist, this includes going to family gatherings, eating out ect💯
My 2 younger siblings have a different father than my older sibling and I. When we were kids, his side of the family didn’t like us due to race issues. We could tell, kids can sense these things, even if they dont understand what it is. It’s better to keep them at a distance for the sake of your son.
What concerns me is, is that your husband puts up with this!! My husbands grandma told me not to come back to her house just because i wouldn’t let them walk all over me! So guess who doesn’t go to grandmas house because he can’t bring his wife?? You might need to speak to your husband about this! Let him know it bothers you but you might have a fight on your hands if he hasn’t stepped in already!! He’s not blind!
I. Would not have any thing to. Do. With them.
Sounds like they are jealous! If your SO loves you and your son, that’s all that matters. Fuck them!
I’d speak up about it and let the pieces fall where they may
This is toxic for you and your son. Your husband should speak up and take a stand on your behalf. It’s his fault that you feel so mistreated and that they’ve been allowed to do so. Cut them off from your life and your sons. If your husband sees them let it be without you.
Better to cut ties to this toxic relations. Trust me, whatever you do will not be good for them so better to cut them off. They will be happy seeing you pist. Kids can sense if people dont want them, remove your kid with that toxic relation and dont give them the benefit, cut ties. Move on as if nothing happened and live your beautiful life without them.
Long story short screw em 
ur son has the family he needs. They don’t have to include him and u should do the same in return.
As long as your SO loves, respect and accepts your child it doesnt matter if his family accept him or not, cut all ties with em .Be mindful he’s not their family
Honestly I would cut them out of my life and my child’s. I’ve dealt with that in the past and I refused to acknowledge those people or invite them to anything. Thankfully my in-laws now treat both my girls like they are their blood and love them unconditionally. I’m one of the few people who can say they have an absolutely amazing relationship with their mil. I would kill for that woman.
Just cut ties , SO wants to go let him . But let him know you are no longer putting up with their bullshit anymore .
keep him away from toxic people no matter who they are
U have a voice speak up!!! If anyone is rude to my kids I let them know. Speak your mind and keep him away from them all he needs is his mama
I’d personally cut them out completely. If they can’t respect the fact your SO chosen to be with you and your son. They need to go. I’d quick giving them things to the little cousin, she’s spoiled enough by all the others. They can get over themselves and accept you into their father like your SO did, or be ignored completely. Your SO needs to have your back if you two decide to marry, and they actually like that, they’d be cut out until they can respect you and your child
Fuck them point blank period. If your relationship is solid maybe express this to your man and tell him you will no longer be participating in their family events.
I would not go around them,do anything for them, buy them anything fuck them. I wouldn’t give your S/O an ultimatum but I would tell him me and our son are done being around them because they don’t treat us like family anyways. Your s/o needs to speak up but I can see why he doesn’t some families can just be so unbearable to deal with and that’s still his mother, father ect but you and your son don’t have to put up with that. I think if you stand your ground your S/I will support you in the end. Even if that means him and his family not getting along.
So my stepdads family is like this, he married my mom when I was 13 but 17 years later they still refuse to acknowledge myself and my siblings (besides the one that is biologically his) even though he raised us since then. My advice is cut them out… my mom keeps them around so they can see my sister but my sister does ask why we never come with. Her being special needs I don’t tell her why, just to have fun but growing up being ignored at every family function sucked.
Just because they are family does not mean you have to have a relationship with them. Toxic is toxic. If it doesn’t serve you or your family to be involved with them then don’t be. Sorry some people are super crappy!
Give the same back which seems like nothing,you&your husband should be all that matters ,sadly that’s how they are and will continue to be.
Your SO should be handling this.
My in laws do the same. To the point where my kids won’t even go to their house anymore. But then they think older kids should be able to sit in front of a tv and be quit and be still 
they would not even come to my kids birthday party. But the kids I share with my husband they would take in a heart beat. But it also don’t surprise me either when they like to play favorites with my kids I share with my husband. They even tried to take custody of one of my kids. That’s how bad it got. Till I started standing up to them and stop letting any of my kids go over there.
They sound like crappy people.
Cut them off as much as possible. Do your best to not interact with them. If they have anything to say to or about you, they can reach your bf and speak to him. I personally wouldnt want to be around them at all.
Well, they dont have to like him at all. As long as your bf/husband accepted him, there is nothing you should expect from nobody else.
You don’t deserve that, but most importantly your child does not deserve that. And if your significant other does not defend him or you, then he truly does not love you or your child. You need a man and family that love and accept and respect you and your son. If he does love you, he will defend you and your son in those situations and not allow the toxicity. And honestly, if anyone treated my child badly or acted as if they didn’t exist, then I’d be saying bye as well. Your child should always come before anything and anyone.
…no need for them in your life
Cut all ties with them they are toxic you don’t need your son knowing these people cut them off remove them off any social media and block their numbers I wouldn’t let my kids around vile nasty toxic people like them and they will just make you more upset
They are not worth the STRESS BE HAPPY YOUR HUBBY LOVES YOUR SON. KARMA TAKES CARE OF THESE KIND OF PEOPLE
My mother told me years ago, “Not everyone is going to like you. Some won’t like you because of how you look.” Basically, minimize you and your son’s time around people who you already know don’t like you. If ur “man’s” family is toxic then they been this way generations before you entered their universe. Can you tread lightly, defend yourself and your son, and manage this type circus or not? Your son is your #1 priority. If that man’s family is treating your son badly then you need to be the protector by staying far away from them people. Either your man understands your rationale for the distance or you need to let that man go sort out his toxic family on his own. Protect your son! Stop messing with those people.
Cut them off from your lives
Oh hun, don’t let it bother you so much! It’s their problem, not yours. Keep doing what you’re doing and don’t give them any mind. Once you realize you can’t change their attitudes, it will be like a burden lifted. Make your own life without them.
Stop going around them.
Keep doing what you are doing ! It shows class, respect, self worth ,morals, and it shows what miserable entitled assholes they are! Don’t change and hold your head up high!
That how it is with my husbands family one side loves my daughter other part don’t want anything to do with her
Stay away from them they are bad people
Thats sad. Its their loss.
Go on as of she doesn’t exist, your boy only needs you both, so cut all ties with her