Hello, I have a question. I just want to know how other people would think. My son plays a game called plants vs. zombies. So my husband bought another version for him for Christmas. I didn’t know it was a present (it was a digital copy just like the first). So my son saw it and asked if he could play it, and I said yes, thinking it was something he and his dad had played together. So, he comes home and starts yelling at our son that he shouldn’t be playing that so I told him I said he could, and asked why he wasn’t supposed to. That’s when he told me it was a present. I said he should have told me that so I would have known, and he said I should have just known. He said it was the same thing as if presents were hidden in the attic, and I found them and gave them to our son. Am I wrong for not thinking it was a present, or is he out of line? I’m just looking to see how other people would have thought.
Your son saw it, so obviously your husband didn’t do some great hiding job. Not your fault you’re not psychic. Sheesh… I hope this is a very rare, one off attitude for hubby…
People play games all the time (rent them, play with friends etc) then buy them later on. Just give it to him as a gift as intended. You need better communication about gifts.
Divorce that idiot 
It’s a game downloaded on a phone/iPad, not a physical present that is wrapped in Christmas wrapping paper. His comparison is ridiculous. You are not in the wrong. He should have told you he bought that game for your son for Christmas and that he is not allowed to play it until then. Or better yet, he shouldn’t have put a game that can’t be played until Christmas on the device where the child will see it. Your husband is in the wrong.
Better to ask next time, esp. since it IS close to Xmas.
I think this isn’t even worth a thought process the kid got the game early move on
It iiiiiiiss that time of year…thats all I’m a say 🤷. Not something to get hellbent over though
I mean…if you didn’t know then, oh well. Don’t buy something online and assume it was known by the other half. I would of probably done the same…Communication is key.
It was most likely on the dash board of your system , I have xbox 1, and so he would have seen it no matter what so it was kinda dumb to have a digital copy on the system you allow the child to play on. This game is actually the same amount online as it is in Wal-Mart so it could have been easily bought at Wal-Mart. Did he buy it so he can play it and then say it was a gift ?!?! I have the game you are talking about lol.
This is like not a problem lol. Like shit happens. Can’t you just like tell your son " hey by the way that was for Christmas!" And just let him have it early? I don’t understand why it is a big deal at all. I don’t even think it matters if you should have known of it was gift or not, you didn’t, he saw it, he played it, big deal. Your husband COULD have told you but he didn’t. Who cares? This is like a first world problem for sure
He should of told you. My husband downloads games all the time. I don’t ever use our playstation so unless he told me I wouldn’t know. Just him and our kids use it. But also my husband wouldn’t freak out on me about something like that. I would just say maybe tell me so I know for next time. Or tell him not to download them until he wants them to be on the system. With playstation you can buy stuff in the store and not download it. You can also un download stuff but still own it in the store
It’s a digital copy, he could have bought it, started the download then stopped it so it didn’t save but it was still owned. It was a digital copy fully downloaded and he didn’t 1)hide it and 2) say a word to you about it, my daughter plays xbox with her dad so I’d also not take any notice if it was new or not and say yeah play it
I would be as mad as your husband. But get over it pretty easy and go out and buy something else for him.
My husband knows that my closet is off limits to him and the world all year round I always have presents in there.
I mean, it IS that time of the year BUT, how the hell would you have known that? Damn.
You should’ve texted or called him before you let your son play.
Your hubby should have wrapped it an put it away. Not your fault.
It’s a game. It was an accident. You both need to get over it.
Omg this post is ridiculous. He should have told you and you should have asked him about it. Geez do y’all communicate at all? It’s not the end of Christmas 
It’s a wonderful time of the year…
Hardly the end of the world! He can get him something else. It was an honest mistake!
Tell husband you’re not a mind reader. COMMUNICATION is key. Duh lol men. Smh
Hes out of line you aren’t a mind reader
No, he is an idiot for expecting you to just KNOW that it was intended to be a gift.
Did those of you screaming “He should have hid it better”, and “You should have known”, read the post at all! It’s a DIGITAL COPY. It can’t be wrapped 
If this is even a post, you both have zero communication.
Your not a mind reader and honestly he should tell you about it if it is a gift
Should have actually hid. Can still make it off limits til Christmas. No one should be raked over the coals for.
He should have told you that he got something and that it’s a Christmas present. We can’t read minds.
Its literally a fucking digital copy. His dumb ass should have told you it was a present, or maybe not let the kid on the console so its not there for him to find . you can’t wrap a digital game. His fault. Its not the same as gifts from the attic when you’d OBVIOUSLY know they were gifts.
My hubby and I always tell each other about every present for our kids that way this doesn’t happen. Perhaps communication should be better and he should hide the gifts in a more hidden place 
Geez its not that big of a deal. Shit happens. Its over.
Its a digital copy, if you dont play the games with them and do not watch them play then how would have you known
Has anyone considered that the child should have been taught by both parents to leave other ppls stuff alone? One less gift …
He’s not going to die because your son played the game and obviously it wasn’t hidden or anything since he found it. Your husband needs to talk to you about stuff instead of expecting you to just know.
I’m just here to say, I love plants vs zombies 2.
He should have told you about it. It’s a digital download. So it was right there with the rest of the downloaded games your son already has? How in the world were you supposed to keep him from seeing it? Especially if you didn’t know about it?
Not that serious. He needs to calm down. Honest mistake. Tomorrows a new day.
Who buys a digital copy of a game early to give as a present? Obviously it’s just in the list with the rest of the downloaded games, and therefore not even remotely hidden. He needs to grow up. Next time he wants to gift a game, he should consider a hard copy and actually wrapping the damn thing.
First off … not the same as finding a physical thing in the attic or a garage. Common sense, when it is something hidden like that —its most likely a surprise. Did he hide the game? Or was it physically something that he can touch? If it was in a device already and just right there “accessible to you or anyone” then the answer is a big NO he cant be upset with either of you. If it was in a paper or some form of like downloadable physical copy, he could of hidden it better.
Geesh its a game how are you supposed to know its a present??? If he gets upset, it should also be with himself and probably you cos he cant access most likely without your help … AND okay I’ll give him that benefit that he gets in his feelings but YELL at your child? He wasn’t aware he couldn’t play with it and plus it is HIS present … so he could of reacted differently and told your son “uhoh looks like some silly elf let you play with your Christmas gift early buddy! What is daddy going to do now?” Then eventually just get him a different present. He is a kid. Let him be a kid. Dont make him remember moments like those that mommy or daddy getting mad OVER something silly and stupid.
Be parents. Be grown. Enjoy the little moments. Move on.
That’s more like him hiding gifts in the attic, not telling you what they are, you purchasing the same thing for your child to play with now, and then getting mad that you aren’t psychic
I mean doesn’t any one else hide Christmas presents in a commonly browsed place of the house? No? Not the same.
I wouldn’t have knowing eather. Especially if it was on the computer. So, yes he should have said something, and he should have hidden it better.
Narcissist.
“You just should have known” Always someone else’s fault.
Your husband needs to chill the fuck out. He’s getting mad over nothing. You didn’t know it was a present.
Why do men seem to think us girls can read minds guess what no we cant he should of told you
I can def see both sides. But either way, do you need confirmation from strangers, on your marital probs, on social media platform on who was in the right and wrong? Would you be cool if your husband is on a “dads uncut” page posting about how you were wrong in an argument between the two of you. Immature if you ask me.
Really not a big deal. He should have put it some place where the kid wouldn’t see it so easily and/or told you about it? I had ordered my daughter a Xmas gift, well my son was waiting for a package in the mail. A package came (it was her gift) but he thought it was what he had been waiting for and opened it while we weren’t home. So when we walked in my daughter saw it. Yes I was bummed but what ya gonna do. Shit happens. No need to turn it into a huge thing.
I would’ve done the same thing. Sounds exactly like our household.
His anger is misdirected…it was his responsibility to tell you that he bought it as a present
Sounds like you married a man that cannot admit when he is wrong. He messed up by not telling you and instead of owning his mistake and apologizing…it’s your fault for not knowing something you were never told.
Nope.
We just don’t go around buying our kids games just because. So I definitely would’ve thought it was a gift 
He’s overreacting. Just tell your son its an early Christmas present. Thats what I did when my daughter saw the sims 4 expansion packs in the library, she is 11 though.
Tell ur husband to grow up!! And apologize to u and ur son for his actions…and just say oops…move on
Both sides are understandable but knowing your child plays on the console why didn’t he wait a little closer to Christmas to download and purchase the digital copy?
Thats something my husband would say. It was an honest mistake. Your poor son though 
He should’ve told you.
I wouldn’t have known it was a gift if I wasn’t told. Digital games pop up on our console all the time because we have game share with our family…
I think this close to Christmas, it wouldn’t have hurt to ask…
You have to admit that most men don’t just go out and buy random Christmas gifts unless it’s for their wife, so how were you to know?! Lol. Tell him next time to just communicate with you and these things won’t happen! I think he overreacted a little, but he was probably just happy with himself for getting a present all on his own…lol. I’m sure he’ll think twice next time so it doesn’t happen again. Lol. Merry Christmas!!
I mean how are you supposed to know? Definitely should have said something or waited until closer to Christmas to download it.
You’re not wrong he should have told you. But also I think it’s a given anything new in December or November is present. That being said if you thought it wasn’t new then I understand. Also, I wish I had your problems 
lol jk! But this is funny!
First and for most its a digital copy so everyone saying he should of hid it better is just they dont know what a digital copy(downloaded no disk no case on a system) i understand both sides yes he should of told u it was on there and not to let him play it yet. You also should of looked at the title of the game and realized it was a slightly different title. My nephews 10 and im always looking to see what game he’s getting onto cuz we have some that aren’t kid friendly at all. But sounds like a mistake make sure the poor kids alright cuz it was in no way his fault for yalls lack of communication
Both of you made a mistake. It’s done. Let it go.
If it was hidden somewhere yes you should have realized it was hidden for a reason but if it wasn’t hidden and it was set in plain out where he could see it no how are you supposed to know I don’t pay attention to which Legoland or which video game that’s not my kind of thing so if they get stuff like that I make sure that first its child friendly and second I let him play it your husband owes you an apology he needs to realize not everybody’s into that crap
Sounds like he has anger issues
With it being a digital game he should have waited as it automatically pops up and should have told you. Either way your son would have seen it on there. I know there are tons of free games that can be downloaded so it was imo a honest mistake.
Yes he should have told you to put it away when he bought the game home. Our husbands don’t know where our kids rome around at while they are at work so he should have just given it to you for safe keeping.
If he didn’t tell , than how would you have known. Just like if you had baked a cake and wrote “eat me” on it. After he ate it, you told him it was for a birthday.
He should of told you and not got so up set plants vs zombies games are all pretty similar and it being a digital copy it was not easy to hide is saved right there on the system if it was to be a gift should have waited to buy it because when you buy it digital it right in your library so it not like it was really hidden
I think it’s one of those mutual misunderstandings. Honest mistake! If he’s normally a pretty agreeable guy with no anger issues or temper, this is a battle I’d walk away from. Be thankful he is thoughtful enough to buy your children something they love. 
Honesr mistake! Its digital so the kid has already seen it. He should have waited to purchase it closer to christmas. Just tell the kid its part of his Christmas gifts.
Ok so in my house my husband would have been like WHAT THE HECK THAT WAS A GIFT… I would have said well you didnt tell me! Then we would have laughed and said oh well. Merry early christmas kiddo. I mean it’s not the end of the world.
Wrap it up and stick it under the tree
He should of said something. Your not a mind reader.
If he plays on the system a lot and you don’t really know much about the games then he should have definitely told you. Also if he has access to the menu he will see the game anyway so how is he not supposed to know about it. Sounds like he needs to chill.
I can’t even believe this is an actual problem. It was an accident. Let it go
Your husband should have waited to buy the digital game. He ruined the surprise himself. They show up as soon as you buy them. Your husband is an ass for yelling at both of you.
He should have told you. If we didn’t have such slow internet at our house, my boyfriend would have many games that I wouldn’t know what is new or old. But since our internet sucks it’s always 3 days of bitching because his game is downloading.
Tell him to stick it where the sun don’t shine!!!
Shouldn’t be yelling at anyone let alone a child
I’m confused, it’s a digital copy? So like on his Xbox or PlayStation, the game thumbnail was front and center and available to play?? That is 100% his fault. Why would you buy a digital copy of something for a gift? Unless your son wasn’t allowed to play his consul until Christmas, I don’t see how it could be anyone’s fault but your husbands. That is the silliest gift idea I’ve ever heard of
If my child comes in with a random game I find out where it came from if I didn’t buy it never just assume with kids
it was a random thing that happened if he is bent about it then I’d just ignore it sounds petty and lame to worked up over that.
He sgould man up, syop acting like a hurt sussy and he should have told you.
How could he expect to have him not see it if it’s a digital download? I like gaming and my husband and I have adult games and games we play with our kids. However, it’s common sense to hide gifts? If he wanted it to be a present he should have bought the disc and hid it. Just common sense.
He shouldn’t have even got it yet, buying digital is instant, has %100 on the wrong and it’s not the same as it being in the attic and you giving it to him because if that was the case he wouldn’t have even been able to see it let alone ask for it, hubby is being unrealistic and rude!!
That’s like you being mad at him for something he did in a dream. If there’s no communication then he shouldn’t have a go. The game wasn’t hidden from your son, or you so it isn’t your fault
Was it wrapped!?!? If not oh well. Move on 
I mean id be mad too he shouldnt have snapped though but you also should have asked to make sure if youve not seen him play it yet .
He should have been like hey this is a gift for son please help me make sure he doesnt get ahold of it… so, no, I don’t think he should be so angry at you.
You can own a game and not have it loaded. 
It’s dad’s fault not telling you!
You’re not a mind reader if he didn’t tell you it’s not your fault
Not a big deal… Just tell the kid that its one of his Christmas present… Last year my husband put ALL of my sons presents “up” but turned out he only sat them in our bedroom… later that night my 3 year old came carrying them all out into the front room, I was upset but we just told him that they were gifts and we had to save them for Christmas… he got one of them and we put the rest up even tho he already saw all of them
I say will this really matter in 6 months or so ? Apologize and move on
Your husband obviously didn’t hide it well. If my son found it I would have told him he could play the game also. Your husband needs to chill out 
LOL! You know that asshat bought that game a month early so he could play it himself. Should have hid it in a private folder or password protected it if he didn’t want the kid to find and/or play it. I would have laughed in his dumb face. Tell him to grow up. He’s mad at himself and taking it out on you. I really hope you don’t just take that shit from him. Ball tap him in the middle of the night and when he wakes up screaming, tell him you had a nightmare and it was an accident. Then blame karma because he was being such a bag of dicks earlier.
Why was the child getting into stuff he has no business getting into
It is digital so auto download? Same type of game your son already had only a new version for Christmas? I don’t think it is a big deal except I would wonder where it came from. Just tell son it is his Christmas present. Get some smaller items for him to unwrap.
Talk about screwed up communication! I’m on your side. Unless you are psychic, how wld you know? I assume you are not that swift about these games as I am. He was emptional because this was a big deal for him and the son. Treat it for what it is: comedy of errors. Get over it and ask your son if he is devastated. If not, tuck it away, present it with the humor of what it is and remember the Xmas of 2019 as the big kurfuffle.
How freaking dare you not read his mind ?!? You are the worst
Clearly that was sarcastic. He needs to get over it. He screwed up. He should’ve let you know or better yet shouldn’t have even loaded it on the computer