I need to rant. My two boys play football they are 10 and 11. One of them is autistic. Their coach’s never put them in. They do not ever teach the kids defensive. The coaches only teach their own kids and not even the correct way. My kids never get the correct amount of plays they are required. After the game their coaches yelled at all of the kids about how bad they did. My sons are so upset and it was not even their faults!
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This is so common in sports
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Find a new team. They aren’t all like that. BUT In ANYTHING team sport, club, activity there will be unfairness ALWAYS you just gotta find one that isn’t super awful .
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Change Club, there are good coaches out there.
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Speak with the coach privately and directly, and then if you need to, the director of the organization. I am assuming you are referring to rec ball, in which case, you are correct, everyone should get to play. They are learning and having fun. If you are playing travel ball, I’m sorry, but they’re playing to win. Either way, it warrants a mature conversation- and you get more flies with honey than vinegar.
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When my son first started playing he was very timid. The coaches didn’t give him a whole lot of playing time and when I questioned why- they were truly afraid of him getting hurt because he was so terrified of tackling/getting tackled. Not saying this is why your sons aren’t getting time but something to consider
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Kids are on the team, some kids may play more then others and if coaches at that age are not being encouraging, maybe you need to switch , kids. Need to accept disappointment . Coaches can do.rimes be tough but that’s how kids learn to work harder , if you can be a better coach, why not volunteer. Your time
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We did little league through high school. You have to be involved. You as a parent have to work with your kids at home too. You need to volunteer with the team. Coaches are actually harder in their own kids. Don’t like how the coaches do things then you be the coach. You do realize they do this for free.
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I would ask them to put your kids in, give them a chance, even grease the wheels, bring some water and oranges, help fundraise, bring goodies after practice, get the coaches cool sport gear on coaches day, get the kids some cool stuff, pitching in showing extra care could potentially sway the coaches to look your way js it’s an idea. Even ask for advice on how or what to do to work on with your kids, boosting their ego, tell him he’s great and to teach you his greatness. Tell him how much you and your kids love football and they love to play.
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Find a new team. That’s horrible coaching
Go to a new club and put in a complaint.
If it’s not competitive everyone should have time on the field. Talk to the coach, if not find a new team
It’s a team sport. If one loses, they all lose, it doesn’t matter if they play or not. If you want your kids to play, practice with them and help them get better. Talk to the coach.
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Welcome to the game. Now go find a new team.
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Welcome to the world of sports, where the coaches play favorites and the parents are just another round of mean girls that never spiked past high school. I’m so glad I’m past this stage.
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My son played football for 1 year. The coaches didn’t put him in the game and now he won’t play again.
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My son was on a championship team and we traveled for the games . He sat out every game watching his team lose. An older team need a player so I agreed to let my son be the xtra. Well he not only pitched a perfect game for them , hit hit 2 home runs and a grand slam. That team won. Now the same coaches that made him sit out while his team played , all wanted him on their teams next season. I turned them all down. And kept him with his original team coach .
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Every child should get to play
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lesson is “life’s not fair, get used to it”
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Find a different program - not all programs are like this a$&holes. Don’t let your lil’ guys get frustrated- if ya have to try a different sport - never give up, never give in - your boys depend on it.
I’d find a new team!!! It’s a KIDS sport! Meant for them to enjoy and have fun! They should not be playing kids based on their abilities at this age!! My son is very bad at soccer yet he plays as much as everyone of his teammates! I’m sure there is a team that doesn’t have terrible coaches
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Talk to the coach not us 
There is always going to be drama when it comes to little league sports. We’ve had adults fight in the parking lot. We’ve had one mom get jumped because she ran her mouth. I don’t take little league as serious as other parents. We aren’t winning scholarships or even going to college for baseball, basketball or cheer. We do it because it’s what we like to do for the moment. The only way to survive in little league as a parent is to speak up and don’t back down. If you paid for them to play, then do something about it. Go to the organization leader and say something, do something. Request your money back and go to a different league. I had to do this with cheer. In fact we started a whole new football team and cheer team because of crap going on.
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Not trying to be mean but seems like the coach isn’t putting the one with autism out there because majority of kids with autism don’t like being touched and maybe he’s assuming if he puts him out there he could be triggered by getting touched and have a meltdown. The other one not sure why he wouldn’t put them out there. But have you not been around kids sports lately or something cause it’s never fair and coaches do play favorites of course they always do and always have. There’s been cops called to lots of kid sport events 
It’s ridiculous but that’s life and it’s never going to be fair especially in the kid sports cause coaches usually have their kids in sports and on their teams.
Complain to whomever runs it or find a different team.
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Well. Being a football mom for the past 8 years, I can assure you that it doesn’t get better. All of my kids play football. Including my daughter. I will say that my 11-year-old and my daughter get plenty of play time. However my oldest son did not. he got his mandatory place and that was it.
The problem with a lot of football programs is that they play “Daddy ball”. Where the coach’s kids suck, but yet their first string everything because their daddy is their coach. It’s actually embarrassing for the whole team. But on another note you can find a different program. You could go to a different school. You have options. Or you could say something. A lot of things go unnoticed because nothing is ever said. Talk to the coach! Explain to him what you’re saying. And what the kids are saying. And if it gets better cool. If it doesn’t then find somewhere else to play. Unfortunately that’s the name of the game babe. You either learn to work with it or you get over it.
Pull them off the team. They don’t need the stress. Get some parents together and start a new team that will uplift and encourage the kids.
Unfortunately it’s life and you may just need to find a new league. Make sure you
reinforce with your kids by talking & practicing with them.
When my oldest played ball I volunteered to be the team mom. Because I noticed coaches were playing favorites. Yes, they were harder on their kids but they were also focusing on their kids. In the league we were in the team mom actually overruled the coaches when it came to batter’s line up and positions. You just had to read the fine print. The coaches were pissed because they wanted their kids in certain positions, but we had other kids that were better or tryed harder, so I made changes. I made sure every kid played. We all paid a lot of money for our kids to play.
File a complaint with the group that runs the league. Have video.
Then, find your child a new team.
Quit that team. And complain to organized it. Would be great if you filmed him yelling at them too to show whoever runs this. Also have you asked your kids if they want to be part of that team?
Yup… my son started football this year too and seems like the coaches only focus on the kids who already knew how to play or have played before. The kids who are new just get left behind and sit out the games and all. It’s starting to piss me off too. If it continues I’m going to say something or just take my son off. It’s bullsh!t.
This is every coach/child team sadly. Speak up for your kids I made an entire scene at my son’s soccer game because as soon as they let him play the coaches kid yelled out bench that one I yelled out if anyone needs to benched it’s that brat because I paid just like his parents to play too