My spouse got caught with a second facebook: Advice?

What to do when your spouse got caught with a 2nd Facebook. The second Facebook says in an open relationship. There are no pictures or friends. But I found it, and he told me this after 7 hrs he remembered he made it. His excuse, I play a game. I made the clan member and I a profile. I do not know if its women or a man. I haven’t used it since I made it. I forgot about it. Now let me mind u that he added some ppl to his real profile from this game. The profile I knew about. One of the game clan members states she is the boss. He plays this game nonstop for almost three months now. I’m pretty sure he does it at work too. I’m upset and feel betrayed. What or how would you approach this? I know he hasn’t cheated because he comes home on time and leaves on time.

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Well ILL JUST SAY I play a game that sounds similar to this and I too have made extra accounts for my “farm” accounts. So that half doesnt seem too far fetched.

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Can I ask what game is this?

I have a second account for gaming and my gaming friends. I also post game play videos I don’t want on my personal page.

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Probably talks to girl on the second profile idk especially since he put in an open relationship

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I use a 2 account when I play a game. When my x left pof up on my laptop and I seen did not have kids that really upset me

Lmaoo been there done that. Hes talking to bitches. Save yourself the heart ache. If he had nothing to hide why would he not tell you about it ? And why would it say open relationship

I think ur reading to much into it…in the past,I have made extra accounts for my games as well. …if ur confused, it’s mostly to "cheat"in the game…send yourself things (items,coins,whatever) …etc.

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I have like 3 Facebook’s 🤷🏻 it sounds like it’s for gaming. If he’s not doing anything wrong don’t be upset… Ask him to look at the account and the messages on that account to ease your mind

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Before you accuse him too much…I know A LOT of people who have multiple accounts for this purpose.

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If he’s home and doing his job to help support the household stop trippin

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I had a second profile so I could send myself lives xxx

I once created 5 accounts for a game before I discovered I could add strangers as friends to help me out in the game.

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2nd account’s for gaming is common however I too would feel hurt by the relationship status even if it wasn’t his current acct

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I mean it kinda sounds legit.

Its more a trust issue in your relationship then the game. Thats the issue not the game or random extra profile with no friends.

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Caught? It’s against the rules to have a second FB? He made it 7 years ago and hasn’t touched it since. Why are you even worried about this?

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Just bcuz he is on time doesn’t mean he hasn’t cheated. Cheating isn’t just physical

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I have a second account for fb buying and selling and games

As a gamer, my husband and I both do this. I have a personal account, and a gaming account. We both play our games with people of the opposite sex, have them as friends on our pages and we all speak even when not playing. Given we dont play fb games, we play ps4, xbox, and PC but all of us come together on fb too. I think you may be thinking too far into it personally but I dont really know you or you’re man to say something is off. I personally wouldnt be with somone who doesnt want me talking to people and being who I am, doing what I love to do. As long as I’m not overstepping boundaries in my relationship, there should be no problems about who I game with

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The ‘open relationship’ part makes me think he is full of shit :woman_shrugging:t3:

If he’s only gaming and hasn’t given you a reason other than this to not trust him, I’d just hang back and watch.

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My husband did this I screen shot everything! Then I deleted it. And confronted him he denied it and I threw the screen shots in his face and finally fessed up. I had a long time to trust him again…

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U tripping he gone cheat on u and leave ur stalking ass like thats sad if he come and go on time that means u dont trust him searching for things to argue about

The open relationship is a red flag, unless you actually are in an open relationship. My husband started a new game on his phone that he plays like all the time, but he talks to me about it and I don’t think it’s multi player.

I guess it would matter to me personally if he told me about it before I found it, or if I was blind sided by it.

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Tell him to be friends with you on that account too if he has nothing to hide :woman_shrugging:

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Not trying to play devils advocate… but just because he leaves on time and comes home on time means nothing.

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I have like 5 accounts all for games to send me lives

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Alternate profiles for gaming… legit. Using those profiles to portray your relationship status in a light that’s different than reality… liar. Leave him :woman_shrugging:t2:

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I used to have 2 Facebooks. One with family and friends and the other just friends. Doesn’t necessarily mean he will cheat with the second one if it’s just for games. But if you’re worried about it I’d just ask to see the messages on it to help make you feel better

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I would look at the account and look at the activity. Look at stuff he had posted it would be easy to tell how active he had been in that account. But to me it sounds like there is nothing to really worry about, if his relationship status bother you that much all him to change it, and add you as a friend on that account.

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I’ve made a ton of throwaway accounts for games BUT I don’t do ANY profile info (relationship status, location, etc) I don’t even use my real name
If you truly don’t trust him you should leave
The only way to test his story if you want to stay despite your trust issue is have him log in and check the notifications and messages

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My fiancee has 2 because he forgot his password to the one and made a new one.

Don’t be too hard on your self it’s just a game, i have a friend who loves gaming and sometimes it requires one to open a Facebook account,

I have a second account for gaming

A second account for gaming is normal. The relationship status is not. Why put that there unless you’re looking to cheat? If it was innocent, he would have either left out all bio info, or put correct info.

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Some dating sites have games like I can’t remember I have seen a few like mob boss there is a street racing one and a friend something one. Anyways if there are questions then just go with your gut make sure you talk about it until you feel better and don’t settle so there is no bitterness or resentment that will poison the future. Hope all is well.

I dont think there is anything to worry about. :slight_smile:

Wow this post just saved you alot of headache, fights, and a break up because everyone is saying they have 2+ accounts for games also!

WTF did I just read?

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If there are No pics and No friends, :thinking: thinking :thinking: it’s old! Just sayin

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I have an additional fb account for games…but, I also have additional chat apps such as Line and Discord…dont mean I am cheating…means I am at home or work or tending kids and still able to have a few friends and game at the same time…

When Farmville was a thing I used to make accounts to send myself stuff all the time.

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You know you can see when the other profile was created? If it was recent and he put open relationship, then he is definitely curious.

I must admit, i feel sorry for so many men who has do deal with insecure women​:rofl::woman_facepalming: Like, really? What is wrong with todays women??

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I understand the multiple gaming profiles, and i’d normally say it sounds like just a gaming profile… But why say in an open relationship? Why not in a relationship? Or why set the relationship status at all if it’s just for gaming?

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Really? I have a second account for my games too…

But if it’s for gaming why would you put in an open relationship

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If it was innocent he wouldnt have put open relationship. Maybe he didnt cheat but he has all intentions to.

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I have a 2nd Facebook page that I use to stalk clients (I’m an investigator). My name is the same as my normal account but spelled differently and while I am happily married it says I am single. People create additional accounts for all kinds of reasons. Maybe he just thought the “open relationship” thing was funny. If you are truly that insecure in your marriage then I would suggest counseling. If something as insignificant as a relationship status on a social media account is enough to cause serious conflict in your marriage then you are probably headed towards bigger troubles down the road.

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I can understand the games part, you need a life or other things extras for the game just send yourself some.

Some games let you talk to the other players so I’d be checking the game out and not worrying about the blank Facebook lol.

Everyone saying it’s normal. Why would he say he is in an open relationship if he’s innocent?

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I have 3 Google account for games and my husband made me get rid of 2

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You have to actually change relationship status in order for it to say “open relationship” in facebook. That is a huge red flag to me…

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My dad has 5+ accounts for game’s… hell he even made the dog an account for games :rofl: . As long as his gaming isnt affecting the house work , his paycheck or family / quality time be happy you got a loyal man that works :woman_shrugging:

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How dare he play a game.

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Idk I’d be asking about time cards from work but I’m a lil psycho

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My sister’s boyfriend came home on time and left on time too, and he was cheating with multiple different girls. I’m not trying to worry you but I’m just saying if someone wants to cheat, they will cheat.

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I have two and originally it was to used for games. Now I just don’t use the other. But he could be telling the truth or lying :woman_shrugging:t5:

This really comes down to your relationship with him and how much you believe him. None of us know this man to make a reasonable conclusion.

And a lot of the women in this group are lonely, bitter, and miserable and quick to try and make others the same lol

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You know even if he’s on time they always find a way… trust me

Ask him to let you have a look at the private messages attached to that “open relationship” account

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What’s the problem here? I have two Facebook’s accounts and I play games as well. Most people do. Some people have more than two accounts. My opinion you’re reaching. 🤷

Okay sure for the games but the relationship status ? No sounds sketch

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My husband has two fb accounts I know about both, but if he’s saying he’s single… um. Sounds kinda strange.

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I can understand a gamer profile if you don’t want online friends/clan members not wanting to be on your real life Facebook (Back when I used to game I would have multiple Facebook’s) but the open relationship thing is very weird. I’d make him add me and make his friends list visible if it isn’t lol.

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U can go into his new fb account and see when he last logged in was and if it was his newest phone or not hes using see if hes lying also I’d go thru all the shit in his settings to see what else hes done with the account is it linked with him phone to automatically log in? That will tell ya if he lying or not

Always go with your instincts, they’re usually right.

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I’ve had multiple Facebooks. Some are probably still “active” that say single🤷. I’m not single tho. But was when I made the accounts for a game lol
Here’s the thing. If you’re digging THIS hard for issues…you have an underlining issue you have problems with. So you find things to get “mad” about or to find fault in things.
Now I don’t know if it’s behaviour he’s done that you’re struggling with, or your own personal emotions. Old patterns are hard to release. If the last guy did things like this and then cheated…it can fuck up NOW…when the outcome wasn’t going to be the same cuz the guy wasn’t the same guy!
If I found out my man had an account I didn’t know about, and he told me it was for his game…I’d be like ohhhhhhhh…ok. Then I’d drop it. BUT I know the man and I trust him :100:. So I have no reason to doubt him.
You obviously have reason to doubt…so I’d be asking myself WHY…then figure out from that, where you go next🤷.

It says in an open relationship. Do with that what you must. You camt trust anyone these days because social media makes it easy to cheat I’ve seen men who have amazing lives cheat on their wives because social media gave them the temptation. Im not saying he is, but just watch it.

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Men are men they dont think with there head but something else lol

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If it’s just a gaming thing make its join account and share the password? It’s suspect but possibly more of a fantasy situation, either way if you let it slide you could be kicking yourself in the future xxx good luck

Bloody hell poor bloke , bet his coping it. Way to much drama over nothing

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Having a second fb isnt an issue. Lots of people do. You didn’t ‘catch’ much really. The relationship status, he can change that. Talk to him. Unless he’s cheated before, or actual signs of cheating, I’d say its lack of good judgement.

You can cheat without being physical. Just saying.

Are you a stay-at-home mom? Any interest in going to night school for something enjoyable? Like taking photography or quilting? I’m not a fan of people saying something they’re not either. For example: I’m in an open relationship. I’m suggesting that maybe you can shift your priorities, take advantage of the situation, and do something for yourself. Maybe, taking classes that can help you earn a living on your own, if he is shifting his priorities.

I find it personally, troublesome that people aren’t in relationships for the long haul anymore. We are distracted by the choices and distractions. In other words, men and women don’t mind switching partners or circumstance instead of working things out. Find your niche if neither of you are going to sit down and talk openly about his status of being in an open relationship. He may be board, which isnt unusual in a relationship.

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Omg move on from it :joy:

I would have him change the "open relationship " status and add you to that profile too. That way you can see the activity (if any). Any way you feel, tell him…be honest and upfront with him. If your pissed, tell him. If your disappointed and angry, tell him. Would he want to go have a session with a couples therapist just to talk out the feelings you both may be having??? If u feel it was a mistake, and wanna stay with him, maybe talking to someone is a good idea.

Fyi…they can leave on time and come home on time and still cheat!

I find it strange that his excuse is it’s for games but he couldn’t come clean from the beginning it took time for him to remember??? in my opinion it took time for him to make up a story, and why have a relationship status on there if it’s for games, or be honest about your status?? also keeping to a schedule doesn’t mean anything, all he is doing is keeping to the schedule you believe is on the up and up, no one can tell you what he’s up to except him, it’s what you choose to believe, have you ever joined him while he’s playing these games, that would give you some insight

It’s just a game, my hubby playes games it helps him relax we both work and life gets stressful I can careless. If it makes him happy shittt over thinking this way to much 🤦 get yourself a hobby

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I have quite a few friends that have alternate FB strictly for the game aspect, so it is fairly common. Usually they’re identified by ‘this is my game profile’ blurbage and there’s no relationship status 🤷
I personally don’t have a 2nd FB as it’s just a hastle to me but Hubby does for 2 games, same ‘this is my game’ blurbage status.
Is he willing to let you see it?
You know your spouse best. Is this an issue or not is to be determined between the two of you.

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You know your spouse. If you’re questioning it’s likely more to it than this. I’m a gamer type girl and I have accounts for games so. I don’t think this IS the big ticket deal breaker But if you are suspicious anyway odds are your instincts are telling you something

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Is it forgotten tales if so I wouldn’t worry about it they do have clans and in the clan my husband is in there’s a girl who has the name magic girl but she’s from half way around the world and she’s got a family so .

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What is the game . My husband plays hustle castle. He plays it alot two . He ven calls up his deputy to tell her where to post stuff for wars . Her and her husband both play . I have them on instagram but she would not add me on facebook . Some of his other clan people have he has 50 people he is in charge of I guess in this clan he been playing nonstop for 3 years. I was annoyed at first and still kinda am since I asked if I could play and he said no

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Just because he keeps a predictable schedule doesn’t mean he doesn’t cheat. If a FB page real or fake causes this much suspicion the problem is much deeper. Seek help and pray

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Just because he comes and goes on schedule means nothing. My cousins ex wife used to cheat on him when she had the kids.

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I had a similar situation happen. It really was innocent. I checked in on it several times and there was no activity for years.

Make him choose you or the game and explain your feelings as to why

Time to delete all accounts and get to counseling

That’s crap he is totally cheating

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Sounds like bullshit to me

Totally overreacting

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Lolol hes talking to other women

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If he has a fake profile, but has added these female ‘gamers’ to his real profile then there should be no alternate Facebook at all. I think you already know that this behavior is wrong and is cause for concern. I personally would give him the boot as I despise shadiness, but most people are gluttons for punishment.

That’s normal Ive had Facebook accounts for characters. You don’t know if your game friends are weirdos don’t want them on your real account with family.

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