Let me just vent me and my S.O. have been having some hard times the past few months. Some issues in the relationship on top of money issues but never would I think that he would go this low. Almost 2 weeks ago I started getting a pain in my right side. So I asked him to take me to the ER when he got off of work. We went to the hospital they didn’t really know what it was at the moment so they gave me some medicine and sent me home.He completely disappeared. He showed up to work the next morning and didn’t come home that night. Two more nights passed and he didn’t come home. While he has the only car we have that is working right now. The pain in my side was getting worse and worse and I’m texting him begging him everyday to take me to the ER finally 3 days later he takes me and they rushed me into emergency surgery to have my gallbladder removed.They send me home the same night and he brought me home and then disappeared again he’s gotten paid twice since this has started and not bought anything for the house we’re out of food we’re out of toilet paper I’m in excruciating pain and I don’t know what else to do. His nephew told me he seen him in a club last night. How could he just turn his back on us? I can barely move it hurts to breathe what am I supposed to do and how am I supposed to feed my kids with no food and I can barely move? My heart is broken I never thought he would do something like this.
If you want to be petty…. You haven’t seen him in over 48 and he’s your SO that lives with you… and he’s had no contact… file a missing persons report! Not coming home for days, not replying, you have no idea where he is or if he’s even safe… 
Is there anyone else that can help you out? Friends or family members? Once you recover from the surgery, sounds like you got a lot to do! Get a job. Apply for help from your state for food stamps and child care assistance. Don’t beg this man to step up and be there for you. It’s a waste of time. I’m sorry it’s a struggle and unfortunately, I know it all too well. You got this! Let him go 
I’m so sorry. Do you have any family or friends close that can come over to help you with the kids/house/you?
You reach out to his family and ask for help!!! You then take his ass for child support and don’t give him the option of coming back!!!
Omg ladies let’s just face it men suck and they r useless
What a flog… 
I’m sorry sweet that on top of your pain, healing, kids, mother life your SO has done this, like what type of man is he???
It took me 2 days to recover from that surgery. Start applying for jobs now! Contact divorce attorney. You should’ve never rely on him for everything!
He is obviously checked out. So sorry! I personally would file for emergency government help, make a missing person report and be done with him.
Men are disgusting creatures 
This was me when I come hone from the same thing convinced by him to leave the hospital early just to arrive home and have him leave me with 3 kids I couldn’t take care of he picked up a speeding ticket in another town found the extra cell under the mat in the car he had multiple lives and personalitys id be done there’s no comminf back from that in ur time of need hes gone
Are they his kids? Let him go and Go file for child support, food stamps, housing, ect…
Once you are better, take steps to be independent. Don’t ever be completely dependent on others, especially men. If you are not employed or employed in low-wage work, make a plan to enhance your skills to create a career path to be able to support yourself and your children.
Sounds like your significant other does not want to be a family or support anyone except himself. I’m sorry. Next time pick someone who isn’t immature and a prick.
Then build your “village” of family and friends you can call on to help you out. Of course you then have to be willing to be there for these people in their time of need also.
Do you have medical insurance? Perhaps it would cover home health aides to help with daily chores, etc. See if there are any social services programs that could provide temporary assistance.
Contact charities and religious institutions that could help. Reach out to neighbors. Ask everyone you talk to if they know of anyone or any organization that could assist you. Then contact them. Be sure to thank everyone who helps. Thank-you notes are the gold standard. This is how you network to get what you want and need. Pay it forward by sharing your contacts with others in need.
Not sure if there’s a way to provide your info to people on this forum so folks could help: nearby for rides, visits and personal assistance; those further afield to provide funds for what you need including Uber/Lyft, groceries, maid service, meal delivery, medical care, etc.
If you’re not part of a spiritual tradition, it might be time to join one. There are plenty of options like Unitarian Universalism, Bhuddism, Taoism, Baha’i or other less mainstream choices if traditional religion is not your thing.
Sadly this is way to close to home. Just from my experience I’d almost say he has a addiction problem. It sounds like he has a drug problem or has someone on the side.
Tell him you are filing for a divorce. That will have him home. If not you know he’s unfit to be your husband.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Prayers for better days 
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Call 911 and let them know you need emergency help. That’s spousal abandonment and make sure they make a record of this. You’ll need to file for divorce and use this information to get full custody and support. Clearly you can’t trust him to take proper care of the kids. Anyone who abandons a spouse who has just had emergency surgery is worthless. Not only that if he had brought you to the ER sooner and you had medical care earlier you probably wouldn’t have even needed your gallbladder removed. Put him on full blast. Explain your situation on social media asking for help. His friends and family as well as yours deserve to know what a POS he is and you and your kids need help! I hope you recover quickly and get better support!
Prayers for both of you in Jesus mighty name Amene!
It sounds like he has either a closet addiction or a mistress and a serious case of narcissism … maybe all the above.
I’m sorry he’s being such an AH. He’s not a man worth being with. My ex left me in the same situation with 2 toddlers. He even took my oldest son so I had no help. My situation was kidney stones. Men like them enjoy seeing people suffer. Don’t show him you need him. The more you need him the more he’ll make you suffer. I hope you have someone who can help you. Order food for delivery if you need to. I had no one. I honestly don’t remember how I survived. I just did, I guess. DO NOT TAKE HIM BACK. When he comes back tell him you’re done. Pack his stuff & throw it out. You don’t need the stress of being with someone who won’t be there for you.