I’m sorry your kids come first. Leave
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If I saw an older child holding a blanket over my little one’s face, I would have smacked that boy from here to Sunday, spoken to his father, and if Dad would have refused to do anything about it, that boy would have had all his things packed and I would have personally driven him to his mother and spoken to her. And then told his dad to get out. You do NOT mess around with someone harming your kids in any way. You kid might be alive, but you are also responsible for their emotional well being and being terrorized by a step sibling isn’t healthy.
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Sounds like he’s trying to get attention from his dad. I would give dad an ultimatum. Depending on the age of the kid maybe sit down and try to talk to him when dad isn’t around about why he does that.
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The kid is learning the abuse somewhere is my first thought. But sounds like the he needs some therapy and somebody needs to check out how things are at mom house. But for the husband he would have change or leave, and most people don’t change
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You’re knowingly allowing someone to abuse your children. Harsh but true. Either take complete control of the situation and make clear boundaries over what will and will not be tolerated and then follow through. Even if that means leaving. How terrible for your poor children. Sounds like your step son needs some counseling and rules
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You married a lazy POS…thats not your stepsons fault. In fact it might be why your stepson is acting the way he does. You need to set clear boundaries ( hubby has to discipline) and if hubby doesn’t do what he is supposed to do you need to figure out what you and your kids need. If it is a divorce so be it…your kids shouldn’t have to deal with this shit
Move on babe say bye bye to both of them man +boy you live happily ever after
His dad sounds useless. If you plan to stay together then YOU start doing something about it. He is you stepson and you can parent also. When you see a bad action then discipline it and try to give him attention too even if it’s hard bc you’re upset he probably feels like an outcast in his own dads home.
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How does he even financially support that boy if he doesnt have an income???
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Kick him out and let him support himself and his son.
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I think all kids should have a healthy fear of their parents…we quit smacking bottoms and got a generation of spoiled ungrateful brats
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Sounds like the boy AND dad need to go.
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Sounds like a good old fashion butt whopping is needed
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Put ur foot down to the dad get control of ur son or I will no arguing no bullshit tell him if he don’t like it then his son is not welcome until the behavior stops he doing this cuz his dad lets him. Stop the situation before he kills one of ur children like the instant with ur daughter!!!
What age is the step son. He either needs to be spoken to or disciplined in some sort of way and id soeak to husband and say to him that if hes clearly not willing to discipline then u will just as u woyld ur own kids. Hes in ur home and his behaviour is unacceptable.
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That’s one fight I would make sure it would be the last
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Its cause he knows dad wont do anything about it. He needs to go in time outs or to his room/bed when hes acting out when dads around or not. Your not punishing him when dads around cause you expect him to do it so when dads around it happens. If your SO has a problem with you putting him in timeouts and wants to argue with you about it then you need to tell him he either starts to discipline the kid or you’re leaving, cause your kids being abuse by the child isnt ok just cause “it’s his son” and hes only there on weekends.
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The one with the money is always the one with the most power it’s time you take control of your situation there’s no way this kid would be coming over to the house and causing all this mess.
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I have the same issue with my stepson till I proved that I will ground you in front of daddy. Or run in front of daddy. Most of the time he acts out bc he wants dads attention. And I don’t play the game of acting like a bully to his younger siblings. He figured out quick that he is going to end up spending more time away from dad than with dad if he didn’t knock off his behavior
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You all need to stop thinking of the kids as “mine and his”. He’s doing it to your kids, and you’re doing it to his kid. And you both need to sit down with him and let him know that dangerous behaviour is not acceptable.
He acts out when dad is around because he knows he can! lol
Take away the car and tell your husband the child isn’t welcome in your home. If he wants to host his son at his parents house, you’ll give him the car back, but until he disciplines the child, he’s not allowed in your home with your children. You have the job so I assume you pay the living expenses? 
He wants attention from his dad point blank, and if he won’t punish him you do it, it’s your house and your rules too or another option he doesn’t come over if he is going to suffecet his little sister and beat up his step brothers. Put you foot down
Why do all these woman cry and whine about sorry ass men that won’t work and act like grown men…after 5 years putting up with these shit,u get what u deserve…OR SAY ENOUGH…GET OUT…AFTER 5 YEARS,come on lady,get a backbone!!
Sounds like he needs some father and son therapy. I’m no expert but if he’s only like that around his dad then maybe some issues there that need to be resolved.
Your husband needs to grow some balls and be a parent, even if it’s only for the weekend! Your poor children having to deal with this every weekend is just sad
If I were you, I would sit down and write a pro verses cons list of staying in the relationship or breaking it up. Than base your decision on that.
Quite frankly, I dont understand why you’re supporting this man and his child? Tolerating all this drama?
Your able to financially support everyone. Imagine how much easier your life would be, if you kicked this man out? You wouldn’t have to deal with his brat either!
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Number 1,put the dad on notice to fix the child’s behavior or he can visit his child elsewhere, it isnot fair to make your kids fear his visits.Dad should step up.
Stop paying for the car. He doesn’t work? He can’t afford to drive. He can get a job to pay for his car or take the bus to get his son.
Cancel the insurance.
Also, you are letting your children be abused.
You would be in a way better position without him and you would have money to take your kids out. I don’t get why woman keep these losers around.
I’d leave every time he comes over
Leave don’t put up with that kind of abuse and take the car with you!
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