I need some advice, I have a 15 year old girl who half does her chores, we had her do dishes and she wouldn’t do the dishes on the counter so we changed her chore to sweeping and mopping the living room and she stopped doing that and now her chore is to feed and water the chickens and we just noticed that she hasn’t been watering the chickens. What can I do with her or a chore we can give her. As punishment we have taken her phone away and no internet for the rest of the day. But I’m at a loss as to what to do with her, everyone of my kids has a chore they have to do everyday and she is the only one who just does the least possible in the hopes of getting away with it.
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Take everything away until she does her chores for a week without any issues.
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At 15 she’s plenty old enough to know better. I would make it a system. You want phone and wifi for the day your chores from the day before MUST be completed or you don’t get your phone in the morning. But actually stick to it. She doesn’t do them because she knows you’ll just do it and she won’t have any real consequences. After a few days or weeks with no phone she’ll get it.
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Be more strict with the punishment, no phone , internet , tv for a week
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Stop doing her laundry. No spending money or privileges. Nothing new. No phone or internet for at least a week. (Unless internet needed for school).
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Familylink is a parental app that installs on your phones. You can set a lock time. They can still make emergency calls, but everything else is disabled at the time you set. We use this for our 17 year old. She does her chores, she gets extra time.
10 swats for every day she does not do her Chores 
I’m sorry. I don’t understand “she won’t”.
If she wants wifi, any devices at all, a TV, to leave the house for anything beyond school, money for anything, she absolutely will. She needs discipline and boundaries. Your job is to teach them to her.
You do know it’s ok if your kids are mad at you, right? 
Let her be mad. Decide her chores, decide consequences for not doing them correctly. And make them hurt. Not physically, of course. Take her devices for a few days. Take her TV. No, she can’t hang with friends this weekend. No, she isn’t getting money for anything. If she can’t do what she has to do, she doesn’t get to do what she wants to do.
She is a part of a family unit. Everyone has something to do to help the family run smoothly.
If she loses her stuff for a few weeks, oh well. It won’t kill her. She’s leaving in a few years. She works at a job like she does at home, she’ll never hold a job.
Probably most important, when she does it right, thank her. Discipline is important but so is saying Thank You.
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Is she depressed ? My 13 year old is the same before she was diagnosed with social anxiety and is now on medication.
I’d stop changing her chore, she may be seeing each of these changes as a victory -she is defeating you because instead of making her complete her job you are letting her off the hook and giving her something different. It sucks as a parent but I’d give her a chore and stick with it, even if that means you are watching her more closely and giving her constant reminders. She won’t like that but maybe it will motivate her to do it right to get you off her back
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She won’t do it??? UH WHAT???
Oh yes she will!! FFS BE THE DAMN PARENT! She does nothing else until it’s DONE! Period!!! She wouldn’t get the phone back at all, for a week!!! I can’t with parents like this……
For every chore that she doesn’t do
Take every thing out of her bedroom apart from her mattress , her pillow and a blanket
My 3 grand kids aged 16 down to 9
Do their all their chores each week
With out having to be told to do them
You need to practice hard love
Not soft parenting
She is plenty old enough
If your teenagers are not telling you at least 3 times a week they hate you , your parenting wrong, she knows what shes not doing and your letting her get away with it. I always told my teens , im not asking what you want, im telling you what your going to do. Be a parent not a friend
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Stop accommodating her behavior. Make her do the dishes. If she doesnt do it right she can stay there until its finished. If she refuses take the phone and all other electronics. Every time she does this add a week with no devices. Stop coddling her laziness.
No, phone or internet for the REST of the DAY! Try 1-2 wks. Sounds like you let her get away with things to easily.
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I wouldn’t give her any type of electronic until whatever chore you tell her to do is done, one chore is super easy she’s lucky to only have one.
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At 15 I figure she has a social life. My kids weren’t a lot to go out until chores were done. They had to be done to my approval. You’d be surprised by being constant how they learn to get them done.
They want to be with their friends.
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You are letting her get away with it by changing it everytime. Make her do it.
Does she have a phone. I’m sure she does. Most people do. Get it and use it. Take everything away and make her earn it. U can do this. Be strong. Don’t cave momma!
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What my parents did was if we didn’t finish the dishes we had to wash dry and put away every dish in the house and would supervise to make sure we did. They were old school
Stop changing the chore and be consistent with the punishment.
She is getting away with it. You keep changing her chore and each time seems to get easier and easier. Some kids are strong willed and adaptable and won’t care what you take away from them. Gotta stand your ground and stop changing the chore.