Some vehicles (if equipped) have speed controls on them. I am not that boujee, but, I know some do. Lol. I would take the car. Just me. I have a kid that has her permit and will get her license in about 3 months. She knows the rules and if she breaks them, she will go back to riding the school bus and catching rides with friends. I know it ends up hurting you, but sometimes we have to sacrifice to teach our kids a lesson
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If you don’t take the car from h now for a little inconvenience you may not have the option of taking it away later because of something horrid…what happens if he’s speeding 20 over one day and a high speed chase happens or drunk driver is speed 20 over and they clip each other…or a pedestrian happens to jump or walk out in front of him or a deer runs out in front of him??.. taking the car won’t be an option then nor will it be your least concern…needs to have consequences for his actions…I’d rather give him consequences as a parent then have him to deal with worse later
Sorry but only true consequence that will make him listen is him losing the vehicle for a bit. He can probably catch a bus to school. If he gets pulled over and gets a ticket then it’ll be on you guys cause he’s a minor.
Take the car away. Have him find a different way . Find someone to take him . Because if not he’s going to end up hurting himself or someone else.
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I have a dead sister because she was speeding… Other factors were also at play but maybe if she wasn’t speeding around bends in the rain things wouldn’t have happened the way that they did
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Take away the car and tell him he has to get an uber. I completely understand that life is too busy and in order for him to get to school or his job he needs it but guess what? If he kills himself or someone else because of his speeding, you’ll never forgive yourself.
You take the car away? Simple. Make them uber to work. If they don’t want too tough luck., if you drove correctly the car wouldn’t have been taken
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Simple take the keys away, buy them a bicycle !
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Take the car and have him Uber until he figures it out.
How do u know hes speeding?
I’d be taking the keys before something bad happens. Speeding kills not only him but what if he hurts someone else.
If he can’t slow down he isn’t responsible enough to get behind the wheel
I agree 
. Take it away before he kills himself or someone else.
Take the car away til he learns or look into putting a speed restriction module installed
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Natural consequences as in dead? Just take his car for a few weeks, then a few mths and make him take a bus or ride a bike
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Take the damn car before he takes someone else’s life!!! It’s that simple
I understand that taking the car doesn’t feel like an option. If he doesn’t have a bus route next to him or goes to a private school there wouldn’t be a way for him to get to school. Maybe you can make him earn money to pay someone temporarily to take him to and from everything? I believe there are ways to put some kind of chip or something into a car to control some of their options while in it. Speed, seatbelt, music level, hours, etc. I have no idea how it works but maybe something to look into?
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You are the parent take them keys away…if he’s speeding and kills someone it’s YOUR fault along with his
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He knows your not going to take the car away!! So why not still do it?!! Hopefully he doesn’t kill someone
 I am agreeing with everyone take the car obviously he knows that you think it can’t be done. That’s why he’s taking advantage of the situation.  It will be a good lesson for him
See if you have a friend in law enforcement that’s willing to scare him
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No you don’t just assume he will learn anything. Make sure he leaves your home with extra time so he doesn’t have to speed. I know easier said than done. Maybe he could watch some video that shows results of speeding and the tragedy it causes in accidents.
He can learn to use the bus.
Not sure this falls under “natural consequences”
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Removal of his licence by the authorities will happen inevitably. Sooner or later
Take the car away. Only way the kid is gonna learn. Either that or end up in an accident. Your choice.
Speed kills, I’ve been an emt for 15 years and witnessed first hand what happens when a speeding car wrecks. I would take the car away…
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Take the car and have him take a bus. Better then losing your son or seeing him in prison.
Put a speed governor on his car, don’t allow his car to get over 35mph and tell him he’s not to be on the highway cause he can’t go over that speed.
Only allow him to take his car to school or work and back for punishment. No additional trips. If he can be good and then you can give those rights back. If he does good for longer, take off the governor. He acts up again, but it back on.
OR. Make him pay for his own insurance, get him something like Progressive with an in car snapshot device. Getting a notification that your bill goes up due to your speeding will have you driving perfectly lol.
Shoe lace express is always an option. I don’t care lol. A natural consequence of speeding is crashing and dying.
How inconvenient would it be if was in a accident and hurt or worse killed himself or others?
There’s a reason for speed limits, what makes him so entitled he can breach them! I cannot believe you would ask others what to do in this situation. Take the car.
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Show him car crash videos and also remind him of the consequences of his actions and other peoples also
There’s a good YouTube video of a car hitting a truck at different speeds- 20mph then 40 mph then 60 etc and goes right up and shows the faster you go the more crumbled the car got. At the end there was no car left.
Also remind him it’s not cool, he can be late and if he has a friend that’s died in a car accident then remind him of this and say do you want to be next.
My son says I’m a great driver (he is 6 though) and I always say to him although I haven’t had an accident I don’t trust other crappy drivers coz all it takes is one to hit us… this was over a conversation as too why he needs his car seat 
coz mumma loves you so much and I don’t want you hurt my little dude.
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He could definitely ride the bus. In our house, driving is a privilege NOT a right. They aren’t required to drive under your roof, it just makes life easier for us and for them. But if they’re going to be irresponsible and cost themselves or someone else their life, the privilege gets revoked. The same way the state will revoke that privilege til he turns 18 if he gets too many tickets or points on the under 18 license. Would you be OK if he killed a mother and child by driving recklessly? I doubt it. You gotta do what’s best which isn’t always what is easiest.
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WALKING will do wonders!!!
Take the car away and find him another way to go to school. He can ride the bus to and from school. If you don’t put a stop to it then he’s gonna end up killing someone or himself. He is obviously not mature enough to be driving if he can’t follow the law and not speed.
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It’s more convenient for you to allow him to be wreckless than to take away his keys for a month? He is putting himself and others on the road at risk because he has never had the consequences of those actions.
At a bare minimum “charge” him a speeding fine anytime you know he is speeding just like an officer would.
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Don’t think “natural consequences should be allowed to happen since it could be life threatening to others. What a time bomb waiting to happen … take the car and let him figure out a way to school and keeping his job or you can take him, but he needs to learn that this is not his right to put others in danger. His rights end where others rights begin. Take the keys Mama!
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I’d either put all car bills in his name
And get him to sit and watch a clip about a crash and show him the dangers of speeding or take the car till he learns to drive safely x
So, does he need the threat of moving schools so he can take the bus to the one in district need to happen?
“Natural consequences” can include innocent people. I’d bear the burden of the inconvenience before I’d risk other people’s safety. But I’d also force my kid to attend a different school if they continued to have such careless disregard for others and open disrespect of me. I wouldn’t keep rewarding them with a vehicle. 
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Take the car away and have him ride his bike.
Taking the car away is an option. You see it as an inconvenience instead of a privilege for him. Take the car and get him a peddle bike.
At the very best he will be caught and have his licence taken off him, at worst he injures or kill himself and or others. Take the car from him, is it really worth the risk, he obviously wont learn until its to late
My dad put a block behind the gas petal so max speed was 55.
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I agree with the many that said take the car away, it is not worth losing his life over or killing someone else. Teens think they are invincible. How did he manage to get to school before he got his license? He can either get himself a bicycle or you might just have to change your work schedules as his life and others are more important.
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Letting natural consequences happen could get someone killed . Buy him driving lessons maybe . If he doesn’t get it take the car . That hard lesson might make it sink in .
Take the car away! Wtf? He could hurt someone else cause he can’t listen snd you don’t want to punish him because it would put you out… mind blown
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Get them to run really fast as fast as they can into a wall.
Then explain that’s how much a 10-15 mph collision hurts.
See if it helps xx
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Take the car and buy him a bicycle
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Take the car. He can ride the bus or take a bicycle
Take the car, he can Uber
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Put a tracker on his car he goes to and from work/school only. You may need to take the car and he will need to learn public transportation. Its a privilege to drive and clearly he is abusing it and not just risking his own life but others as well. If he does something and hurts or kills someone at the end of the day you will be responsible for bills and so on.
Take his car away there is always a bus he can catch
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I worked from 9yrs old, bought my first car at 16. Paid my own insurance, gas, maintenance. Got three tickets in a row at 17 and lost my license for 3 months. Burnt up a set of tires, then finally wised up a little.
Take the car and make him ride the school bus. If he’s not responsible enough to follow the law then he shouldn’t be driving. A consequence could end up being tickets you would have to likely pay or someone getting injured. I wouldn’t let ‘natural consequences’ teach him a lesson for this
Those “natural consequences” you’re referring to, won’t necessarily be solely on him. If he crashes into someone’s car, house, a pedestrian, a semi? I’m all for survival of the fittest mentality, but clearly he’s not listening to you and he’s definitely old enough so the problem is obviously that he’s not mature enough.
The ONLY option is to take the car away. He can find alternative methods of transportation until he can operate the vehicle in a legal and safe manner. Do this before he kills someone or himself. You’re not talking about abusing a cell phones privilege or anything, operating a motor vehicle is a VERY big responsibility and if he cannot do so safely, he doesn’t get to. Your decision on this matter is also key to saving lives. Do you want his or someone else’s blood on his hands or yours???
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Hopefully getting a ticket will be enough to teach him the lesson, and it won’t be an accident!
Taking his vehicle
Is the only option. It’s just too inconvenient for you. Figure it out. His life is more important and clearly he’s not mature enough for this responsibility.
How do you know he’s speeding?
Natural consequences and he will be responsible for paying the additional fee if your insurance goes up
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Not to mention parents are responsible for there kids action until they are eighteen. If you know he’s speeding and he hurts someone y’all will be just as responsible.
Umm normally I’m a fan of natural consequences…but in this case that could mean death of your child or someone else’s…did you really ask if that would be a good option…take the car
Start driving him, cause his shown you that his not mature enough to handle such a death trap responsibly.
One of my biggest fears when I’ve got my children in the car is ending up on the road with someone who drives recklessly like that. Take the car away before he’s responsible for taking someone’s family away. It’s necessary.
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You say ‘let natural consequences happen’ quite casually, but one of the consequences of speeding is killing an innocent person or child… I wouldn’t be taking this lightly if i were you
Take the car. No question. They were given 2 feet for a reason. The car is a luxury and privilege
Highway Guardian and Family Link are used to limit the speed to a safe pace.Mar 13, 2021
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Keys gone and take the bus or walk.
Better than a jail sentence for dangerous fatal driving
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Your son’s life isn’t an option either! Take the car and figure it out. I’d withdraw my kid from school before allowing “natural consequences” that could include death.
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Take the car before he kills someone or himself. Better to be inconvenienced than grieving. There is always another option aside from him driving.
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Take them off your insurance and take the keys. They can buy their own car and insurance if they don’t want to follow rules. They can walk, bike, uber - or miss out.
I would find a friend cop to trap him and scare thw crap out of him. If that didn’t work the whole “not an option” would be THE only option.
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What are there no buses?? You just don’t wanna hurt his feelings by taking his keys Lol and guess what? your guna end up regretting it if he ends up hitting a tree Or another car at high speed
Take away car either Uber him or take him yourself 
he’s being reckless and the way I see it is rather him be late then not arrive at all if he’s running late to everything he needs to figure out better time schedule and leave earlier
My parents got into my wallet. If I wanted to drive i had to pay my insurance. And the lawyer to make one of two tickets disappear. A 16 yr old with a ticket is extremely expensive. Plus In NC, 2 tickets under age 18, the state takes your license. That’s what got my attention.
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Let natural consequences to happen? You mean like getting into an accident and possibly hurting someone who wasn’t speeding? With the mindset like that, no wonder your kid doesn’t listen to you.
Take the car away. They can take a bus. Have him watch videos of what can happen to your kid and OTHER INNOCENT people that he or she is putting in danger.
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Natural consequences could mean your child ends up dead or kills someone else. I would take that car so fast.
He is perfectly capable of taking a bus. Or, ground him from all electronics except phone when you need him to have it. Get a camera in the car if u need too. Monitor him. You want him to drive he’s your child. I will say this here in Cleveland if u don’t drive over the speed limit on the highway your as good as dead. It’s a mad house on the highways. It’s like a race against time I absolutely hate it. It scares me on the highway how in a hurry and selfish everyone is. But if you don’t keep up your missing exit, risk getting hit, or you’ll get some angry people who will chase you down the street. It’s horrible.
Get him signed up for public transportation.
And remove a few things from under the hood so even if he has spare keys: it won’t start.
Humble him down to basics and make him EARN it back: bc at the end of the day, you’d rather be able to have him mad at you than you be giving his eulogy - or be a character witness at his hearing.
Pennsylvania allows you to take away your child’s license if they’re under 18. There’s a couple options here- let him drive but the insurance and any tickets are his responsibility, or put him back on the bus and retract his driving privileges.
This is a FAFO situation, let’s hope all he gets is a ticket and doesn’t have an accident. There are innocent people out there on the road with him that don’t deserve to be part of his lesson.
Take the car away and let him figure out a way to get where he needs to go just like any adult would have to do without parents to bail him out. Driving is a privilege, not a given right.
Do ya have public transportation? Take away the car before they get hurt or hurt someone else!!
As hard as it is, trying to level head with him while having the convo with him. Instead of making it about scolding and disciplining… explain to him you understand his mindset, but there are very real consequences to speeding. Not only of his life, but I’d play on the lives of others he would be affecting if he crashed. Other families with babies, other families in general.
Unfortunately, teens stop listening to their moms at a certain age (it’s literally in their brain chemistry) so having perhaps dad or an aunt/uncle to have this conversation IN ADDITION to you… would be beneficial.
Whatever you do, try to talk and communicate as much as possible. Instead of just disciple and consequence. I grew up in a “because I said so” or “I’m taking this away with no explanation” household and it’s still engrained in my brain the way I wasn’t respected as a human or was deserving enough of human conversation. Had I known the “why” to things or had my parents empathize and explain things to me… I wouldn’t have to recover as an adult from as much. Now as a parent myself I prioritize communication and connection in addition to comparable consequences when needed.
Unfortunately taking the car away without communicating properly the situation… he’s only going to find a way to drive someone else’s car and speed… or do it again if he gets his car back. Taking things away doesn’t solve the issue unless you pair it with level headed communication and connection.
Hope this helps 🫶🏼
Is there not buses? Take the car and make him take the bus . He will learn real quick that driving is a privilege
My parents would have took the car away and made me use public transportation of some sort…walk…taxi.
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Taking away the car is an option as most teens I grew up with didn’t have one. If it means taking away extra curriculars then so be it. They are risking everyone around them and not just themselves. Let’s not let them go through the natural consequences which can be as severe as death.
Take the car, he can ride the cheese wagon. He will be angry but so be it, it’s better than standing over his grave. He must learn that there are rules and consequences for breaking those rules. Holding our children accountable is not a matter of convenience, hold the line Mama.
Possible ride along with local law enforcement? Have lunch with the fire department chaplain that has to deliver bad news to families? There are options.
The problem isn’t just the speeding. It’s that you have asked him several times and he’s being disrespectful and continually “doesn’t listen” says he has zero consequences. Its time to consider some tough lessons Momma.
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I require life 360, one day him and his friends were going to Walmart from school, I checked his location and noticed that he was doing 85 down HWY 431, known by many as the most dangerous stretch of Hwy in Alabama, so, I got in my car, life360’d him all the way to the peanut butter isle at Walmart and made him get in my car and we went home. His car sat in the parking lot at Walmart for 7 days. His buddies had to call their moms to get home (I’d already talked to moms and given them a heads up) and it hasn’t happened again. That was almost a year ago!
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It’s irresponsible not to take his car. He could hurt himself or someone else, and you will be held responsible.
Take his car! Driving is a privilege not a right. He can take the bus to school and figure out rides for work. Tough love before he kills himself or someone else’s loved ones.
Bus for school? So he my have to wake up earlier oh well
And work he gets to find a ride or pay for Uber!
Natural consequence? Like him killing someone? Take it away obviously
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Take away his car and his dl that’s the only way he will learn
Taking the vehicle away IS an option. It’s just not convenient for you. But it wouldn’t be convenient to bury him. Or someone else bury their loved one because of him. I don’t care about your schedule, and what’s easiest. To keep a very close eye on him, order a monitor off Amazon and install it in the car. Super easy. Just clips right in. Tracks speed, location, sudden starts and braking. If it shows he’s gone over the limit, sorry Bud. Better get up early enough to get a head start with that walking or catch a bus. Driving is NOT a right. And he has NO right putting others in harms way because he’s entitled.
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No bus at his school, no one he can ride with ?? It’s your job to get him to school. Don’t schools have to provide transportation?? Give him a couple bucks and use public transportation. Oh no , why don’t we just let it work it self out…… let him kill himself or others , you know, do to work schedules 
Normally I would say yes for natural consequences but unfortunately, natural consequences could look like him taking someone’s life because of his decisions. If he is at the age where he goes out recreationally I would take the keys away unless it is strictly for school purposes. He would be losing his social privileges.
Another thing that you could do is force him to find a ride and make him dish out the $ to pay them for gas.
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So taking the car or taking a possible life from speeding? Seems like an easy choice no matter how far his school is! It’s not just a few mph over the speed limit, it is a lot!!!
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In Va if a child gets a ticket they HAVE to go to court and the parents have to go. That’s an inconvenience, I know because my kid went. I’d rather make them feel the inconvenience vs me feel it. Plus that insurance bill goes up…. That’s also inconvenient
Better start walking . Tell him he gotta leave early lol. Jk. He will learn the hard way when his licence Is to expensive to pay for or loses it