I have a two and a half year old and a five year old. I hired a sitter to watch them and we’ve had her about two years now. She’s a wonderful older lady and she treats my kids exactly how I’d hope a sitter would. I have cameras throughout the house (she’s aware) for safety reasons since she’s older and if anything happened I’d see as I check throughout the day. My son has suddenly started to say he doesn’t like her. I watch the cameras and nothing bad has happened. I ask him why and he says I don’t know…he keeps saying this and now he’s saying it to her and I’m kind of mortified. I’m not sure what to do about this or is this just normal two year old behavior…
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Maybe she’s scolded him at a time where you can’t see?
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Is there sound and you can hear what she says as well? Maybe since she knows you can see her?
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I wouldn’t have told her there’s cameras. Who knows what could be happening where you maybe can’t see it.
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Kids at this age did my lie about their feelings. My opinion is something is up…trust your child.
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It could be just normal behavior…my youngest was like that even with his dad or could be something.
I work with children-very common when there’s rules and boundaries. Time out, taking away a toy or tv for a misbehavior issue, etc. kids don’t like that , regardless of who is enforcing the rules. You have cameras and don’t see any abusive situations- it’s probably that
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My daughter was like this with her Nana and I finally figured out it was because she was bored. Idk how old your babysitter is but it could be that he needs more physical stimulation. If he’s able to answer I would ask specific questions like “was ms.(name) nice to you today?” “Do you have fun with ms.?”
Of course trust your son and trust your gut but it could be something simple. I would also talk to the babysitter and ask how his behavior is during the day
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Start asking you’re older one questions but not like demanding questions and then if you don’t find nothing maybe the child doesn’t like her cuz she’s trying to teach him like maybe pick up after itself or potty training maybe you think that you’ll stay home if he don’t like her
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I don’t use babysitters but if I did and this started happening the sitter would be gone the same day listen to ur kids their feelings are valid and they feel that way for a reason
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I’ve found this quite common. I babysit often and have had this happen a few times.
I usually find it is because I have rules and they can’t get away with bad behaviour, if you aren’t seeing her do anything you dislike this is likely the issue and it will pass!
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If you can put up a nanny cam. Maybe she is abusing him. You can’t be too careful these days
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Huh well everyone is saying that the kid is right but I had a toddler who walked around saying I don’t like you to almost everyone they saw or came across including their own family for about a year and oddly a child psychologist told us it’s perfectly normal they are learning and growing. Unless there is signs of trauma, abuse or being flat scared of the person it’s typically a child growing and a stage. I’m sure I will get burned at the stake for following a child psychologist advice. I have 3 perfectly fine and normal kids who all said stuff like that at one point or another.
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Maybe get your kids some special crafts that they only do with the sitter. There are tons of ideas on Pintrest. Or get some tickets to an event for their age and have the sitter take them.
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Kids are always testing boundaries. It’s probably a discipline thing and the kid doesn’t like it. I agree with asking specific questions, but even the 8 and 12 year olds in my life throw tantrums over discipline and following rules (because they were 100% given entirely too much full reign in the past). Don’t let your kid make the rules!!!
I used to babysit my twin niece and nephew, who were 2-3 at the time. My niece loooooved hitting my nephew. And I’d put her in timeout every time and now she hates coming to my house because I wouldn’t let up on the time outs- she eventually stopped hitting him while at my house but she doesn’t like to come here anymore. It’s probably a boundary thing that he doesn’t like.
Listen to your kid. Get rid of that babysitter. Protect your kid
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So if your kid later on doesn’t like his school, his teacher, his boss, etc. what then? If he doesn’t have a viable reason and you don’t see anything suspicious- think about it. What does your momma gut say?
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It’s very common when there’s rules and boundaries my daughter is nine years old. She doesn’t like me when I tell her she can’t do something.
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He’s a boy and doesn’t like rules. I’m guessing he’s testing to see how far he can go and she’s not having it
My 4 year old tells me that he doesn’t like me when he gets his way 
it’s fairly normal when people have rules and boundaries. 2 year olds are in the pushing buttons and seeing how far they can get with behavior so it could be as simple as they don’t like the rules and she doesn’t give in to their behavior.
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My daughter told people she didn’t like them when she was around 3/4 years old it took awhile but we finally figured out it’s because they were calling her “baby girl” and as she finally said “I’m not a baby”
Absolutely normal behavior. Almost as it should be if you have a strong connection to your young one.
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Its typically behavior at this age. Hell wait till you hear they dont like you. At older ages. You seen there’s nothing done wrong. Just remind LO it isn’t kind to be rude to people and keep moving forward.
My kids were nonverbal at 2 so we didn’t deal with this directly (like them specifically saying ‘i don’t like’
They’re 7 and 11 right now
Here’s what I’ve learned:
- kids as young as three can lie on purpose (no I didn’t throw the ball and break the lamp) but they don’t tend to intentionally lie about things like not liking someone. I don’t think that’s necessarily what’s going on here…but he is getting to an age where he is capable.
- kids often lie on… accident(?)
Either they don’t fully understand what they’re saying, they’re copying something they heard, or their perspectives are biased so their telling of events shows their bias. One time my oldest kid broke his glasses…when I asked what happened he told me that a kid pushed him. Once I got some more information…my son tried to sit on the edge of the bench…the other kid didn’t move and he fell. He wasn’t pushed. - We misinterpret what they’re trying to tell us. The other day my youngest told me that he doesn’t like meatloaf.
He likes it enough to eat it…but compared to chicken strips he doesn’t like it.
Maybe just try asking what he would like to be different. Sometimes asking a parallel question can help you get to the bottom of what’s going on
I’d say listen to your child!!
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There is a reason. Kids that small just don’t hate someone for no reason. What happens outside/out of the house? Is she stricter? It could be something so small and insignificant. My son said he hated his kindergarten teacher and she had been teaching 50yr. Didn’t understand why. Turned out she was saying his name wrong by one letter. He couldn’t tell me why so the teacher and I talked and in that I noticed the issue and asked him and he said yes…It was small but was huge to him. And sometimes they can’t put into words why and say I don’t know and it eventually comes out.
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My only question
Is, why can’t he play while the sitter is helping your daughter, but she can play while the sitter is helping him? Doesn’t sound fair. He’s probably bored. What does he do while the sitter helps your daughter? What fun activities does he do throughout the day? Luckily you have the 5 year old there to tell you what is happening.
My nephew is like this with me. Once when we were visiting, I was watching all the kids and he hit his sister for no reason. He was 4 at the time. And I had him stand in time out for 4 minutes. If he left before the time was up, it started over. When my brother got back, my nephew instantly told him “ I don’t like her. She’s mean!” And he held that grudge for like a year. 
Could be totally normal behavior.
Happens when they don’t like the rules or boundaries.
I’m a babysitter/ nanny and one of my girls ( she was 5) told her mom that she didn’t like me , she said a couple of times so one time her mom asked her in front of me, she crying said that I do stuff that she doesn’t like her mom and I got very confused until she said that I cleaned her nose with a little thing ( a q-tip) and that she didn’t like that
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Is it because he doesn’t like her or maybe he knows when she comes your going to leave, if he truly doesn’t like her would check into it,
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My son does this. He gets in a mood and he doesn’t like everyone and says we aren’t his best friend anymore. 9/10 times it’s because he’s been transitioned from a preferred activity or toy to non preferred.
Hes 5. I’d give her some fun activities to do that’ll “make” him see her as fun again without giving in too much.
Sounds like a toddler who was told he cat do what he wants when he wants lol…
Or is bored. My daughter got this way when gram and gramps didn’t give her attention and do what she wanted…
All toddlers go thru this as long as 5 yr old is still cool I wouldn’t sweat it.
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She probably won’t let him do something he wants to do lol he is 2 .
Im gonna be the odd one out here but you say you don’t see abusive behaviour but are you sure she hasn’t said something that looked like normal talking but could be considered abuse or something bad? Again I could be totally wrong it could be the fact that your toddler is just being a normal toddler and just doesn’t like being told no, I hate to think if something bad is happening it’s just a thought I had please don’t come at me
He probably misses you and doesn’t have the words to verbalize it. So he tell you he doesn’t like her.
If you child doesn’t like someone, you should really listen. Keep your child away form them…
Always listen to your kids…there is a reason he feels that way… Be it small…always pay attention…
When my 3 year old gets mad he says “I’m not loving you anymore” it’s usually due to him not getting his way about something. Kids just understand their feelings yet so there’s a good chance there was just something your child didn’t get their way on and their upset about it but may not even remember why they’re upset. When my son does this I just tell him that I still love him anyway.
Omg here 2 one minute best parents ever and they love us next minute they hate us 
boundaries and sticking to them can be challenging
A lot do it! Its the same with food. Tbey like been for 6bmonths then suddenly tbey won’t eat them. You are watching, nothing untoward is hapoening, it will pass.