I dont think its adjusting to a new baby sorry. I have 3 kids and my youngest is 1 1/2 and she has started acting aggressively and I dont have no new baby. Also her sisters are 5 and 7 and they never acted aggressively. Your going to have to use discipline or it’s not going to get better. Since I’ve started disciplining the aggressive behavior my daughter has almost completely stopped it. She will still every once in a while when she gets really upset act out but it’s not at all like it was. She was biting, kicking, hitting, throwing things at ya, I mean she was bad lol
Walk away and say when you calm down and stop hitting you can have my attention again.
She is jealous. Was she a only child until the new baby came. Maybe let her help you with the new baby so she feels important. Even though you are still spending quality time with her maybe she feels left out. Just a thought.
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I bit my mom as a child and she nibbled my arm back. My family FLIPPED OUT one aunt even said she was abusing me. But all she was doing was showing me that it hurt too. She didnt gnaw on me she just nibbled me back and i stopped cause i realized i didn’t want that.
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Naught spot, works a treat if ya do it correct 
With my littles I use a combination of old school and new age to discipline, with old school used as the absolute last resort. However, is it really because of the new baby? I really don’t think the behavior should always be blamed on that.
Both of my boys were biters. Oldest quit relatively quickly. My youngest, well he likes to push my buttons (he’s now 16 and still likes to test me lol). I bit my younger son back every time he bit it didn’t do anything until one day he bit his brother so bad it bruised I told my oldest to bite him back and he never bit again. Also with temper tantrums, I was always told to make sure your child is on a safe place, let them throw their fit and they will eventually calm down. It worked.
That’s what happens when they aren’t ready for a sibling. My son was also 2 when his brother was born, he did not act that way though, he was a little jealous but mostly enjoyed his new big brother role. He tried to feed him and change his diapers. Have her help you with the baby, encourage by telling her about her new “big sister” role, call her big sister and let her feed and clean the baby when possible. When the baby is sleeping tell her to come quick and hang out with mom without the baby. And if you can set out a time to go out with just her I would definitely add that to your schedule, at least once a week so that you are only giving her attention. Shes only two, shes a baby as well. You just need to reassure her that she isnt being replaced. You dont need to discipline her, it’ll make her feel worse.
My almost 2 yr was sweet to her lil sister and tried to act like her mom lol…amd still does now they are 2 1/2 and 4… still best friends. But my 2 yr is a biter so we bite her back and she stops. She’s almost done biting now…i can just tell u to do it back to let him/her know it hurts
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You mention your “toddler.“ But how old is she exactly? The reason I ask is because two-year-olds cannot express themselves verbally. So when they become frustrated they become angry and will do all the things you mentioned…biting, hitting, etc. And don’t let anyone tell you that it’s not because of the baby. Your toddler is still a baby too and requires a great deal of attention also, which she is probably getting less of because of the new baby. The best advice I can give you is to talk to your pediatrician about the problems you’re having.
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Children around 2-3 years of age (ir really varies, you might think you’re out of the water when you’re 2 year old doesn’t act up, but it could really hit at 3) typically act up. For SOME it’s just tantrums, but most also yes their limits in other ways (biting, hitting, kicking). Add to that the fact that a new baby usually makes a child act up too. It’s a huge emotional adjustment for them to not be the baby anymore. This can cause aggression in a LOT of kids. For some children, time out works. For others you need to potch them on the butt. I don’t mean hit them until they’re red, just enough of a shock to realize that what they did can also hurt them. Whatever your parenting choices are, be consistent. Use the same punishment each time she bites, the same punishment when she kicks, etc. Kids aren’t inherently bad, they usually are acting out of frustration.
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My son was 3 when his brother was born and I never seen any of this behavior. He was included in the entire pregnancy like picking out clothes and shoes for his brother, helping assembly his crib and swing and he got to pick his brothers name. There is a difference between terrible 2’s and being 100% mean. Toddler would be getting a time out, a favorite toy taken for awhile, a bed time story skipped because of the behavior or to bed a little early to think about what she did. I would be doing something right now before things get completely out of control and you lose your mind.
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Shes jealous of the new little one one of my twins did all that
My almost 2 year old has started this shit. I’m 7 months pregnant and she’s getting really pissy. She understands she’s getting a brother. She kisses my
Belly and calls him
By name. But lately here she will hit, scratch and scream when she doesn’t get her way. She thinks she runs the show. I usually just put her in her crib and let her scream when she acts like this. She hasn’t figured out how to get out yet. The other day she wouldn’t put her pull up on and fought me, kicked me hard as hell in the stomach. I had finally had it. I busted her ass. Not hard enough to hurt her, but enough to show her I had had enough! She stopped, cried a little, and then hugged me and told me she was sorry.
Girl… it all depends on the kid. No kid responds the same way to discipline. You just have to find what’s right for you. The only thing you need to know is that however you have to do it, you HAVE to take control of the situation or it will just worsen over time.
Good luck momma
And great job❤️
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Kids this age get frustrated easily. And they cannot express it. She may be experiencing any number of frustrations, from new baby to not being able to do something as independently as she wants, to wanting a red cup and getting a blue one. Someone else mentioned consistency, and that’s exactly what your toddler needs. Each and every time she does the unwanted behaviors, you need to utilize the same consequence. It will take time, but this too will pass. 
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It’s because of the new baby my 4 year old doing the same thing
When my son was born my daughter was only a little over 1 years old. She wanted nothing to do with him. It was like he didn’t exist. She would go out of her way to avoid him. She would get aggressive at times but with trying to get her to help be apart of taking care of baby brother she slowly adjusted. It only took about 6 months 
but be patient as you can and be consistent but also stern. They’re all still babies and require a lot of attention. My oldest was only 3 1/2 years old. He was such a great helper and still is to this day. They’re all now 8,6 and 5 and pretty close to each other.
My son is almost 2 and is going through it. I place him in the room, door closed after two warnings. I don’t feed into it. Hes literally in there for 1min, cries and comes out cuddly and we just move foward and repeat. Be consistent!
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My son (5) has his moments where he gets really mad but he cries too so like he’s mad crying lol but what I do is I send him to the room to chill out and then I usually offer hugs afterwards or he’ll come to me and he’ll ask for a hug all by himself. And usually he’ll go back into the room and really relax and then he’ll come back out. It may work or it may not but that’s so far only what I’ve had to do since my son was smaller. I also always ask first if he wants to tell me something or talk about it, or if something else is bothering him. I also make my son do “homework” such as tracing, reading, maybe sometimes even coloring. He ended up liking homework tho lol but he won’t fight it, like if he acted out he’s sent to the room he comes out gives me a hug and he does homework for acting out.
First stop breeding if kids are coming out pissed off .secondly take away all the luxuries away as punishment .and just give a touch up slap on the bottom
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Does she possibly have low blood sugar? A snack or meal may be worth a try. But this also sounds like very typical sibling rivalry since there is a new baby, the adjustment will take some time.
Give her some responsibility with baby. Like feeding or help diaper her or dressing with bathing she needs to be needed. She’s just jealous so she’s acting out. Hope this helps
I don’t agree that all kids go through terrible 2’s. However baby jealousy is real.
When I had my son, my daughter was 2.5. We watched a baby story on TLC together & she was in the delivery room, counting through my contractions and saying “push da baby out Mama”.
At 1 week, I had the baby on a blanket in the living room. My daughter was potty training & sitting naked on the floor next to him. I left the room for a minute to get a bottle, saying “don’t touch the baby”. No sooner did I leave than I heard a blood curdling scream from the livingroom. I rushed back in to see what had happened. Both baby and daughter were in exact same position as when I left…
I asked “what happened?” The response; very sweetly she said “I bit’em”. He had purple teeth marks on his ear.
She got her naked but slapped & sent to her room, which lasted all of a minute as she hyperventilated all the while ascending the stairs.
Another time we were playing and she slapped me hard in the face… my knee jerk reaction kicked in and I slept her back… I felt so bad as I hadn’t even had a second to think about it. We talked about it and I apologized, but explained she shouldn’t hit anyone. It re-occurred one time after that and as soon as she hit me, a look of horror came over her and “I sorry Mama”. I didn’t do anything other than reiterate that we don’t hit… that was the last time it happened.
All that said, I never really needed to do any spanking. We’d talk it out and reach understanding most of the time. Siblings will be siblings and they will fight & argue… just try to moderate fairly, as the youngest does catch on & learn they can get big sister/brother in trouble if they cry. It’s all a learning experience with no right or wrong way. (Assuming no abuse or laws broken) As long as you teach consequences, they will catch on.
My kids are now 16 & 19. They are nice kids, they never really argue and they’re a pleasure to be around. We all bumble through parenthood. You’ll find your way. Best of luck!
Also, they are at that age where they know what they want but can’t express themselves fully, which means that they are always frustrated. I don’t know, mine is heading to the terrible twos. Will handle the drama when it comes
could be related to a recent vaccine