My toddler wakes up in the middle of the night crying: Advice?

So, I don’t know how well to explain it, but I’m currently 31 weeks pregnant with a boy, and I also have a three-year-old boy. This has happened on several occasions and it had stopped for a while up till just recently these past few days. For whatever reason, my toddler will randomly cry out, whine, or fuss at night and whenever I go to try and soothe him back to sleep or calm him down I find he’s still asleep while making these noises. I haven’t gotten to talk to a Dr yet, but I’m seriously thinking about it cause it worries me a bit. Plus. He’s only ever woken up once from this and when I tried to calm him down, I couldn’t. I also tried to give him some medicine cause he felt on fire and he had screamed at me each time I tried to give it to him. I took him up to his dad at work and he seemed to totally recover. This was a while back though. Before I was pregnant. I don’t know if it’s relevant in anyway but it’s the only other thing that’s worried me.

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Sounds like he’s trying to seek attention knowing you’ll take him dad. He needs a play therapist.

It’s called night terrors, and extremely normal

Bad dreams/night terrors. Perfectly normal

My child had them til she was nearly 5. On the rare occasions she takes melatonin or any medicine that makes her sleepy like cold medicine she is almost guaranteed to have one. :woman_shrugging:t2: Its normal! It can be scary but it will get better. I would be more worried if they were too afraid to fall asleep or too afraid to be in their bed alone.

Normal, he is child what do u expect?

Could be a nightmare or if it’s like my kiddo and she was getting too full on drinks before bed then woke up screaming because she was hungry. So maybe cut back on drinks before bed and do a small snack when he wakes up?

Sounds like night terrors. I would have to hold my son rocking him with his pacifier and blanket for long periods of time to calm him. Sometimes that meant most of the night. It’s normal, mine grew out of it relatively quickly.

Id talk to his pediatrician. Medications can cause night terrors. Our 2 yr old never ever sleeps through the night. We put a TV in her room with a chromecast so I can control it without going in there. It seems to calm her down n she goes right back to bed. If he’s not waking up though idk if that would even help.

My almost 2 yr old does this too. I have kinda thought she was growing cause she wakes up telling me her legs hurt

Night terrors probably, look it up.

My 3 almost 4yr old daughter does this. I just lay close and talk softly “mommy is here, you’re safe at home” and she usually calms down within a few mins.
My son also did it around the same age…it didn’t last but a couple weeks…maybe happened 5 times but then when he got older…around 9/10 it started happening again…it was hard to get him calm but it happened for around 6 months…stopped and hasn’t happened since, he’s almost 12 now. I did the same with him…kept a quiet voice but repeated that I am with him and he is safe at home and that I wouldn’t leave his side.

Mine does this several times a night and I have to lay with her for her to fall back asleep. Usually the 1st time is because she has to potty but the others are night terrors. She doesn’t get them as bad as my oldest did

My daughter is 8 and still has them, my 3 Yr old also does it as a mum of 5 it is normal unfortunately we can only try and be by their side even though they don’t know we are there, also my daughter doe it when she needs a wee I can take her to the bathroom and back to bed and she will not even know I have taken her she will calm down then as well good luck xx

Night terrors. Can’t really determine what causes it as every child is different. Some say too much screen time, some say being hyperactive the entire day, some say emotional stress. Still happening to my daughter a few times and she’s 5. Just don’t try to wake him up but make sure he doesn’t hurt himself & make him feel that you’re there. That’s normal it happens to some kids his age and was told it could occur until the age of 7 or 8.

Do you give him melatonin? That shit gave my daughter nightmares i stopped giving to her and she stopped having nightmares

My 4 year old does this. Its night terrors. All I do is sit or lay next to him and say “mommy’s here its ok” and just keep repeating it until he calms down. Normally within 5 mins

If u have red lavender u put a little on yr finger and rub on the 4 head ,around the belly button in the plam of the hand , behind the ear and the bottom of the foot I have a 13 and 4 years old it works

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Pray for him when it happens it will go away.

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This happens to my son as well he’ll be three in December, it’s almost every night… :woman_facepalming:t4: if we talk to much or try to touch him he freaks more, it’s a side effect of the night terrors, so what we do is move him slowly and we don’t talk too much. Most of the time once he gets a drink and we put one hand on his belly he goes right back out. I have yet to find a long term solution so if anyone has one let me know lol!!

Have you tried a weighted blanket they are ment to make you feel like you are being held

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Night terrors. My oldest used to have them when he was younger. We got to the point where we could tell when one was going to start by the noises he made, we would go in an sit on the bed rubbing his back and tell him it was alright. It seemed to do the trick.

No pills.Put him a shirt wrapped around his pillow( he will smell your scent and think he is with you.)sleep sleep sleep.

My 3 year old started getting growing pains in her legs so sometimes she cries. Other times it’s because she has to pee but doesn’t want to get up lol

Maybe night terrors. When my daughter got this this I was advised not to touch her until she woke up.

Night terrors, the more you try and wake them, the worse it is.

My had night terrors. She would scream but she wasn’t actually awake her eyes were open. They removed her tonsils and it stopped. Before surgery we use to have to slowly wake her

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My 4 year old used to have night terrors. If it happens around the same time at night, I went in and stirred him a little bit. Not enough to fully wake him. Just enough to stop that from happening. It did help alot. A child therapist suggested it.

My second would do that. I learned she had night terrors or nightmares so I would stand by her bed runbing her back to sooth her until she calmed down. If she woke she remembered the bad dreams and was up rest of the night so calming her to stay sleeping helped. I looked at our days to try to see if something was stressing or scaring her during the day and learned to keep our day as stress free as possible so the night terrors soon left.

He’s having night terrors. Could be a number of things. However, once my daughter had her tonsils out it all stopped. If he snores his tonsils may be large. See his Dr.

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My oldest son had night terrors as well but it was much worse when he had to pee and wasn’t awake enough to process it. Limit his fluids at night before bed and if he wakes up it’s a good idea to take him to the potty if at all possible.

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Most people make a whole lot more noise at night than they realize. Think about how much noise you problem make snoring, tossing, turning, coughing, passing gas, random air passing your larynx, vocal reactions to your dream, talking in your sleep etc . Your son is doing the same thing. It just seems like a lot because you are aware of it. Sometimes a child is having a night terror but that is perfectly normal and the child doesn’t even remember it in the morning. If you feel that you need to, just soothe him a bit by rubbing his back. There is no need to wake him. You will probably worry him more by waking him up because he is going to wonder what is going on or worse, you wake him up and he doesn’t want to go back to sleep. Lastly, it is normal for a child’s temperature to rise at night. Unless it is 101 or higher, it is probably not an issue.

Night terrors if he’s still asleep. Completely normal I was told. I used to babysit a little lady that did that during nap time. He’ll outgrow it.

My daughter had night terror during growth spurts over the years. She even would walk around but was never really awake. Just try and soothe and keep safe.

Could be night terrors or simply a hot sleeper. We stopped with footies and socks and our 2 littles sleep much better thru the night now. Body heat leaves thru the feet and head so they stay warm enough with just pajamas even if they kick out of the covers.

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Night terrors!! My son had them! Don’t wake them! Put him back to bed and let him be!! I was told it’s dangerous to their health to wake them! He outgrew it but it happened on and off for a few years! He walked with his though! He would come to my room crying and I tried to talk to him and he couldn’t answer any of my questions and was asleep but his eyes were open I woke him at first but doctor said don’t wake him just walk him back and put him to bed!!

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Does he have sensory? Only because you said something about him being hot to the touch. My son has meltdowns and anxiety when he’s too hot. And has woken up from a dead sleep screaming because he was too warm. Every child is different! Good luck mommy!

My daughter used to do this too. Her Dr said it was night terrors, thankfully she outgrew it! Good luck momma

Sounds like night terrors. I remember my babysitters youngest son went through this. He would still be half asleep, walking around the house but flipping out terrified

Sounds like night terrors. My youngest son experienced these. Very frightful. Very hard to soothe/comfort child. Just be patient and calm.

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Night terrors my son had them…just dont wake him. I used to cuddle mine until he stopped or lay near him with my hand on him for comfort…he grew out of it

It could be him knowing the baby is coming soon so he’s looking for extra attention. Could he be getting any teeth still? Sorry if that’s a silly question lol but good luck, wouldn’t hurt to call the doctor, could even be night terrors? Good luck, and congratulations on the new baby!

Sounds like night terrors to me. 2 of my 3 kids had them around that age

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I would chat to the doctor regarding sleep apnea.
I know of some who struggled with this parents thought it was nightmares until they went to a doctor at the age of 7. He apparently would stop breathing and cried in his sleep out of panic. He was also a very restless sleeper.Removed tonsils and adenoids and problem solved completely no more waking up and sleeps very peacefully no kicking ect.

My daughter went thru this. We would try to wake her up and couldn’t. She would cry loud and hard. Someone said they are like night mares or night terrors. She would stop and go back to bed. Its hard to go thru at the time but it will pass

probably night terrors… my son was about that age when he went through them. Even if we took long car rides that he fell asleep … on 2 occasions i had to pull over to wait out his cries and screams. He would then randomly wake up like nothing happened. They are completely normal after talking with his Dr

Night tremors … honestly the scariest thing to see… my daughter went through it… she did out grow them in about a year… pediatrician explained it to me… kids this age take A LOT in… more than we know…some things get out on the back burner of their brains… a nightmare might trigger these outburst”…

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Night terrors both my boys went through it. It usually happened if they were too hot so I would strip them down to their undies turn a fan on and tell them it was ok but u have to just let them go through it. They dont even know they r doing it. He will out grow it mine did. Good luck

Just make sure his not hot and sweaty when he just goes off to sleep for about an hour or 2. My son is 6 when his sweating and I forgot to remove blankets he cried and will mumble something even cry for me while I’m with him. But his fast asleep. I should worry about this but I figured out the pattern and now I have no night crying anymore. So just take notice to his pattern every night and see the difference when he does happen to cry. Hope this helps

Night terrors. Different from nightmares. All 4 of mine went through it. My oldest was the worst. She’d cry for 4-hours straight…the more I tried to calm her the worse she got. It’s best to leave them as hard as it sounds. They grow out of them. Good luck :heart:

Sounds like it could be night terrors. My oldest son did they same thing about that age. Is your son potty trained? I found that my son needed to go to the bathroom, but wasn’t awake enough to go. I would walk him to the bathroom, he would go and then I would put him back in bed - right back to peaceful sleep.

My two oldest kids went through this when they were that age. I would put them to sleep with me and my husband and that made them feel better when they would wake up crying we would hold them until they went back to sleep. They are 7 and 8 now and they grew out of it.

Mine is 12 and he still gets them - his pediatrician doesn’t seem to think it’s a big deal but trust me, for us it is horrible!

Sounds like night terrors my youngest boy used to have them, he would scream and cry and be all panicked and be really hot, so I would open his window and sit in front of it cuddling him till he cooled and calmed down

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Night terrors my baby did the same. Even looked like some nights he was having a seizure. Put him on clonidine it helped alot

My now 3 year old had bad night terrors a few times a week for about a years from 1-2 years old, dissolvable calming tabs found in the infant department helped lots.

Night terrors , my son had them he grew out of it

Night terrors at that age are common my daughter did that until a few weeks before her fifth birthday. Nothing could help and if we woke her it was ten times worse.

This is normal kids feel when “they are kicked out of the baby crib” your toddler feels is almost time for the baby to be born. Just let him sleep in your bed when he fusses and do as much as you can with him day and night sing to him give him lots of love and kisses. He will learn to share the love. But do take him to his doctor to check if there is any other concern.

This is about the age my kids started having night terrors. They all appeared awake but where 100% asleep

Sounds like night terrors. My daughter had them from age two to four.

My youngest daughter had those when she was grade school age.

Quietly reassure them mama is here . Pat their back so they know. It should go away .

Night terrors. They are not uncommon.

Night terrors are extremely common at that age.

Night terrors. Usually around that age is when they start.

My daughter is 6 and still gets night terrors.

My son had night terrors look them up

My 1 year old does it n my 2 year old also my 6 year old wakes up during the night crying no n walks around crying ive also woken up n hes standing there staring at me

My son is 7 n still does this sometime i wake him up n hes like what?

Are they night terrors?

Agreed with night terrors. My dr recommended paying attention to when it happens and before it starts happening gently move an arm or leg, not enough to wake him but what it will do is break the REM cycle and therefore break the terror. It worked wonders for my daughter

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Night terrors. Just love him through it.

Yep night terrors they can start around that age

Sounds like night terrors

Night terrors they aren’t awake

I would think growing pain.

Uso a small night light.

Poor kiddo has night terrors. Has anything changed in his life that could have traumatized him?

Pay attention to what he’s watching on TV

sounds like some one needs some drug time to get somethingfrom the doctor

Talk to his doctor about night terrors. My oldest son had them as a toddler and this sounds very similar. My son could even answer questions but with a delay. Reality was that he wasn’t really awake. It’s not an uncommon thing, it does not harm them, and they outgrow it. My son would sometimes shake and I feared it was seizures. He had them for about a year when he was around 3-4 years old. Think of it sort of like a sleep walker, they may be moving around and even talking but they have no memory of it.

His doctors advice was to watch him so he didn’t fall out of bed or anything but otherwise just let it pass. Trying to pull them out of an episode can prolong it.

Sorry to jump on your post but I’m 1year old daughter does this too!! She is alseep doing it, Anyone know anything we can do, is it a case of speaking to our doctor!! X

My oldest had the same issue, I just snuggled with him until the night terror passed. As he got older he started sleep walking and peeing in random places (sisters room, corner of the bathroom, his own room). He has finally grown out of it. Didnt have an issue with the other 2 kiddos.

Going through this same exact thing with my 3 year old and pregnant as well . I brang it up to his PCP and they said it could be night terrors or just bad dreams and told me to limit the amount of tv he watches before bed . All that’s helped really is me going to lay with him and rub his back just letting him know he is ok in a soft voice .

Its night terrors, completely normal. My best friends son had them and he is autistic; not much you can do but to keep him calm and pat his back.

Definitely night terrors! Try not picking the child up it makes it worse just keep saying “it’s okay mommy is here for you “ it will stop we went a year of this off and on ! Almost a er trip we didn’t know what was wrong

My son had horrible night terrors as a toddler, and now he is an adult that sleep walks. Something we thought he would grow out of, but hasn’t happened yet. He’s 22.

Night terror. Stay away from any auger before bed