What helped when I lost someone very close to me was to do everything completely differently the first year. Instead of doing our usual thanksgiving thing we all packed into the car and went to Niagara Falls for a few days. We made a strong attempt to do fun, goofy things and not be sad for the whole time we were away. It did help and the following year we did more traditional things during the holidays but changed up a few things that were too painful. I am sorry for your loss but try to live for your sister. You might also find it helpful to start writing a journal, telling your sister all about your day. Good luck.
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The best memorial to your sister would be to find true happiness and joy in the life you have that she will never get. It’s rare to find a "true friend " but worth the effort of seeking. Maybe widen you interest and see if maybe you are not in the right circle right now? Also, maybe find a way to volunteer? Sometimes helping others is the best way to bring happiness to ourselves. My condolences on the loss of your twin. I can’t imagine what that would feel like. 
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I am so sorry for ur loss. I dnt have a twin sister but I do have a sister who just passed away 6 1/2 weeks ago. I miss her everyday. I try to put on a strong and brave face, but it’s harder some days than others. I have to be strong for my mom and nephew! 
I just lost my wife of 35 years to a very long debilitating disease. This too, will be my first “major” since she passed. I’m going to put focus on others. Bake some of the things she liked and take to local church. Buy some gifts for children who go without. And yes, I’m sending Christmas cards out this year. Basically, not sitting around focused on my loss, but using opportunities to reconnect to the world.
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So sorry for your loss. I recently lost my daughter to still birth and had all of the holidays planned out for her and everything… Its so hard losing some one you love the most. Gotta keep your mind occupied, its what I do…
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I lost my older sister when I was about 7. I do remember her and grieve for her at these times of the year. Her birthday and the day she passed fall in these times as well…I know it still affects my mom strongly. But I’ve found after having children that just surrounding myself with family and making memories helps ease the hurt. This is your first year without her and the last one wasn’t great. Over time the pain eases…but being able to look back on good times will help you heal. Its cliche but she wouldn’t want you grieving and not enjoying your life. Think of her fondly and make memories.
Also…at times people dont know how to handle conversations about death and the grief. Especially when it’s still so strong. Find comfort in your family right now if your friends aren’t able to be there for you.
celebrate the good things y’all did during the holidays thats how i do it when my grandma passed away and she was like a mom to me
I don’t have any siblings, but I was very close to my mom. She went in for a simple surgical procedure and things went horribly wrong. It happened right before Christmas and she never came home. It’s very hard around the holidays for me. See if anyone in your city has some kind or grief group. I went to one and it helped. If you believe in God, do a lot of praying. You’ll get through this. It will take time, but you will get through it!
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I am so sorry for your loss. I do not know who you are, but I would like to offer you my friendship. Please contact me or IM me and I will be there for you.
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I understand, I lost my 35 year old daughter last December and my husband of 48 years six month later in June. I too will not be in a holiday mood. I will never recover. I only wait for my life to end so I will be with them. I. Am angry at God. I will have to figure out how to go on. With no family around it is daunting to say the least
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I didn’t lose my twin but I did loose my son when he was very young. This year will mark 5 years since my son died and I still find it hard around the holidays, especially since he passed just before Christmas. No on can or ever should tell you how long or even how to grieve for your loved one. You take your time and you do what you need to do make it through. If that means being in sweats and t-shirt then So be it! First year is always the hardest, the following years marginally better with TIME! You have got to give yourself time and ALLOW yourself to cry and yell and scream and let all the emotions out. You are welcome to message me if you need to talk more in detail or just need someone to vent to
they where never your friends.Every day will be less she with you just not her body if she very sick think she is no longer in pain .I heard if you talk to them they hear you so talk to her.She always in your heart so she there.Sorry for your lost but dont forget who is alive and around you your parents your children. Your nieces or nephews from your sister if she had kids.Just keep going. Remember tomorrow never promised.
I couldnt imagine loosing my twin. I moved states away and my twin had separation anxiety. Im sorry for your lost. As far as support. You know who your real friends are when you need them the most. Remember that… as long as you have your family therenyou dont need anyone else. Theres no east way to get through the holidays when you’re mourning…
I understand what you’re going through. My husband died six months ago and I had to go through my birthday, our granddaughter birthday who we are raising, our anniversary(21yrs), and his birthday and now the holidays. We have included him in all of it. It has been hard but its getting better. Praying for you.
Be happy, she would want you to take advantage of being alive.
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We lost my 35 year old brother in 2016. We have a special candle that we use in the centerpiece of any holiday meal in his memory. We tell whatever stories pop into mind about my brother, and all the fun times we had. We laugh, and we cry- but we live. Every single emotion, we live… no holding back, because it’s important to go through. This Christmas is different for us because I have a baby boy now named after my brother, so he will inherit the stockings and ornaments that say “Sean”. Bittersweet, but the memories make me smile. I wish you well, sorry for your loss 
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I attend a support group that also has a siblings support group. This group is awesome. Please text me back here if you are interested and I’ll give you my contact info. I’m sure this group will help.
This is yr 2 without my brother he died Dec 13,2017. It got me very hard . A friend suggested to leave an open chair for him ,I did one better got a little craft chair out his picture on back of chair along with a toy kitty I’d lost same day my brother passed. I put him on the center of the table and I tell em I love him and I know he’s with me
My husband died 13 y ars my son died a little over2 years ago there have been 5 people who have come to s me I don’t know what their problem is buts on them prayers to you I feel your pain
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I lost my Mom in April. I am so sorry for your loss. I highly recommend Imagine Heaven by John Burke. It has truly helped me and is continuing to help me process. Prayers!
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I found when I list my husband that talking about him all the time helped me. It was difficult for his Male friends, but the women had less difficulty. He even attended his own wake as his friends gathered to recall our adventures. Later in the day when he said he was going to take a nap they quietly slipped away and he did too.
Pray about it from your heart when my husband died i had 2 kids its helps a lot talk to jeaus like your talking to mom dad. He heres you an listens just belive hes there for you
Remember you always have a friend in Jesus. He’ll never leave or forsake you.
I pray that God fills you with his perfect peace that can only come from him.
It will be ok.
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I am do dorry. That has to be so hard…
YES l lost my Sister also. She loved Holidays. She will be MISSED by all Family and family’s. Beth Large
I am so sorry for your loss
Keep yourself busy and take one day at a time
Lean on God. He will get you through.
So sorry for your loss
I can totally relate to you. My twin passed away from breast cancer last December. I still can’t come into terms sometimes even though I know she is gone. Some days are really hard especially around the holidays. Having your twin pass away is like apart of yourself missing and best friend gone. Keep your faith strong and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Family and friends help a lot.