My twin sister died earlier this year and was very, very sick through the holidays last year. And most days, it doesn’t seem real that she’s gone because then I have to accept that a huge part of me is gone forever. But with the holidays coming up, I’ve been extra emotional as these will be the first major holidays without her. And my daughter has been wonderfully supportive and loving, and my parents and I are there for each other, but I feel like most of my friends have basically abandoned me because they don’t want to deal with my emotions, even though I don’t really talk about it that much. Only two friends even came to the funeral. I guess I just don’t feel like I have much support at the moment when I need it the most, even though I’ve been there for all of my so-called “friends” in the past when they needed someone. Sorry for the long rant, I guess my question is just asking for advice on how to manage the holidays this year without falling apart the whole time?
Hug ur kids play with babies or young little ones. Appreciate every moment with those there with you. And try do something you just know your sister would have wanted done. And live thru that. It never gets easier. Those feelings never go away. There always gonna be a trigger moment. The greater the love… The greater the grief. And that itself is a blessing 
Celebrate her Life that she did have, remember the good times, talk about memories with the family
I’m so sorry you feel like that and I’m so sorry that you have to go through this there’s not really much anyone can say that will change the amount of pain that you’re in but I’m praying for you and I hope you pull through the holidays with ease knowing that she’s not in pain anymore and just honor her keep her memory alive talk about her. She’s watching over you I hope you and the kids and your family have great holidays this year
I’m sorry for your lose hun. I can’t say I understand what your going through having never experienced the loss of a sibling myself. But I know that when my Grandad passed a few years ago, Birthdays and holidays were the worst for me. I would always turn around and almost ask my grandad if he wanted a second helping, or if he wanted the second corner piece of a Birthday cake (his favorite). The first holidays were the worst for me. The hurt has never left me, but as the time passed, I was able to peek past the pain (its was still there) and I was able to remember the parts that he loved the most. Like how he would always get the smallest helping at Thanksgiving so he would have more room for the desserts.
This is normal. It’s called seasonal depression. Ask your Dr. To give you something to get through. I had to do this and it help.
Fall apart. Cry. Scream. Then do your best to get through it. You loss your other half. Twins are different. Losing a sibling is hard. Losing a twin even harder. You have a right to be upset. Those friends aren’t your friends. Those arent your village. Work on finding your village. I am so sorry for your loss. Don’t bury those feelings. Feel them. Release them. Love her through the space that separates yall. It wasn’t goodbye. It was see you later.
Try and celebrate her life, not her death. Xx
Im so sorry. I dont know what id do if i lost my twin. Do whatever you need to do. There is no right way to grieve when you lose someone so close.
My lord my God is your comforter, your guide and your strength ,lean on him
I’m so sorry for your loss. My dad passed on Thanksgiving. I know it’s hard. I just keep remembering that he’s out of pain & in a wonderful place. Talk about her at family gatherings & try not to be sad. She’s probably hanging out with you & wouldn’t want you to be sad.
I am sorry. I lost my sister two years ago and she was very ill. The tears we shed were real but mostly out of gratitude that she no longer suffers. The later grief comes when you want to speak with them about good news and you cannot. I think deep grief lessens when you look at all the pieces of the puzzle. I miss her, a lot but after seeing her without pain, gratitude for her well lived well loved life with her family friends and her God, I can let it go a little at a time.I hope this time comes for you. God Bless.
So sorry for your loss .An you have every right to cry an scream if you want to. God Bless you an help you heal .
I’m in same boat hun nothing go going changed this how we feeling for whoever we lost closts keep them in ours heart and remeber that they want us be happy and keep our head up for mods sakes…dont let kids missed out what you and your sis had in past what you had fun enjoy holiday and stuff like that do treasures that with your children as remember that I know it’s hard
Holidays are the hardest and dont get any easier they just get manageable she is with you in spirit your bond as a twin is different and may effect you more then others. None of your friends will understand what your going thru unless they have lost a sibling themselves they may not know how to help you. From my experience I’ve tried to include my brother in some sort of way during the holidays remembering the good times. Lots of tears and emotions but deep down they want you to be happy keeping her memory alive will help you in coping with the lost maybe try a councilor or pastor talking about your feelings or even writing them done is a way of healing
Never been there but I do emphasize with you. The pain of it never really goes away you just learn ways to cope with the pain and emotions. Once you get in a better place try to think of happy things yall done together and try to keep them alive for your kids and if she had any kids for her kids too. You take one day at a time and try not to think of her as gone but not sick anymore or in a better place. Dont let anyone tell you that you’re taking to long to grieve just try not to let it lead you into depression.
Go to therapy, it’ll be hard but so helpful
I feel your pain. I lost my brother 2 weeks ago to suicide. I’ll never understand but I’m happy hes no longer suffering. My plan it to continue on with our traditions with my kids and hope for the best
I’m sorry about your sister. I recently lost my mother, and am also devastated. Accept that you will grieve and let yourself do it. How to get thru holidays. Remember good times from years past. Embrace the good memories. And if you need to cry, then cry. Anyone that expects you to just bounce back after this kind of loss, is delusional. Take care.
I am an identical twin myself. I can’t imagine how you feel and I am so sorry for your loss. It’s hard to explain to others the bond since they don’t know what it’s like. You weren’t even in the womb alone let alone most of the time after that. Just know she will always be apart of you and is with you in your heart. The bond you had transcends death and you’ll see her again.
My brothers b day is on Christmas and thanksgiving was our holiday to all get together and my first year of his was really hard so I stared working multiple job and worked out a lot so I guess what I’m saying is keep you’re self distracted either by working or volunteering especially if you can help out children their little faces and hugs are the best they seem to feel your sadness and will always try to put a smile on your face many hugs going your way
In general people do not like death and avoid those going through it. I have lost both parents and recently had a stillborn son. You really do see your true friendships at dark times. My first Thanksgiving without my mom I held her picture and sat on the couch just crying. Grief is hard, so hard. It is okay to feel all of these feelings and allow yourself to feel them honestly. This year is hard, different times in different years it will be hard but it does get easier to move one foot in front of the other. For me I personally have been pouring my love into my living son and focusing on the now when these times hit hard. Grieve, but also enjoy the small things. Know your sister wouldn’t want to see you like this, that she wants stories of her told and your face to light up. She wants to see you living and loving.
Faith in God to keep you in His loving arms. Prayer
I am so sorry for loss. I pray God give you peace and comfort that only he can. Maybe one way that could help you through the holidays is to start a holiday tradition in honor & loving memory of your sister. Just a thought. Hugs & love to you & your family. 
Do something different for the holidays go on a vacation away from all the hoopla maybe to a sunny place and just relax .you will come home refreshed and a better prspective
As a twin i am sure you have many great and funny memories. One of the things that help me on the loss of a loved one is I NEVER say goodbye… why? Because its not. If you know their faith basis then you KNOW where they are. So since they are already there and you plan on being there too… how is it anything more than a see you later.
You just fall apart when you feel like it! It’s okay. We lost my sister to cancer almost 10 years ago and the holidays are always hard. We all cry less and tell more fun/happy stories and memories now. But it takes time to heal.
I had a wonderful brother died i dont do holidays any more
Grief therapy. You need a safe space enabling you to deal with the grief. I’m sorry those around you aren’t providing the support you need.
Don’t expect that you will get through the first holidays okay. I find that if I expect it to be bad, it is usually better. The firsts are all hard though, and if you break down, it is okay.
Maybe becoming a Big Sister to a young lady in honor of your twin will make you feel better. I’m sure she will be watching from heaven with a huge smile on her face and in no more pain. Amen
If you need to, skip the holidays altogether. Travel somewhere, even if it’s close, and skip it all. It’s okay to have a pass on holidays and maybe even start completely new traditions. There’s no right or wrong way to grieve so do whatever helps you to get through. There’s also support groups you can search out. Sometimes it’s nice to be surrounded by people experiencing the same thing. And they may have something on the holidays you could attend or more ideas. Sorry for your loss. Can’t imagine how you’re feeling right now.
I’ve been there before. The people who said they were your friends and don’t have the backbone to be there now, are not your friends. We are. Everyone who offers sympathy and support here. We are your friends. And you have a lot more support than than you know. It’s the first major holidays. It’s not going to be easy. But you will get through it and come out stronger. Don’t be afraid to set an empty place at the table. Your sister will always be alive in your heart
I’m very sorry you’re goong through this. I know a lot of people think it’s “bad” to see a professional but honestly i think therapy might help you. Sometimes it helps to have someone from the outside help. I’m not saying go to a psychiatrist, but a psychologist (psychiatry =possible medication)(psychology = counseling/guidance)
So sorry. I guess take it back to the basics…which is…be thankful and appreciate the ones who are here. It’s so sad because that’s the thing, tomorrow isnt promised to any of us. The rest of the day Isnt even guaranteed.
The holidays come once a year, maybe start a new tradition in her honor!! Keep it strong and honor and celebrate the people and beliefs that are still here. Start a brand new tradition in honor of your sister!
I lost my youngest son a yr.ago right on 27th of dec.we did family gatherings together always , n this yr.my energy has gotten the best of me , but just try to remember the special moments you both shared, it doesnt get any easier, but in time we’ll be together again n that holds us insain. Good luck n bless you always to cherish her memories!
So sorry for your loss. I would like to tell you it gets better with time but that would be a lie. Our second year without my little brother and I’m struggling . Try to remember the good times, reminisce and laugh. Cry when you need too.
People in general are uncomfortable with death for a whole host of reasons that can be hard to understand. I’ve found that sometimes, being around someone struggling with their emotions (even legitimate reasons like yours) threatens their own mental health and for their own well being have to step back. Some people truly just don’t know what to say and remain silent/absent so as not to make things worse.
I know it can feel really rotten to feel like you have no support system at such a difficult time.
Could you do something to honor your sister?
Start a project in an subject she was passionate in?
Do volunteer work?
Sometimes these things can bring a sense of peace you’re missing but they can also bring new friendships with people who can understand what you’re going through.
I’m their to my mom’s passed away in Mar of this year I feel alone staying mad hurt at every one cause I can’t deal with the lose of my MoMA not been here I don’t want itl get better no I haven’t got my MoMA so how’s it going to get better pain go away hurt go away how do I deal with my life with hurting for her
Im praying for you.I lost my identical twin sister a week after our birth and somehow still feels like a piece of me died.
Alissa Kathleen Lee I totally agree!
My husband died Dec 29th leaving me to raise 4 daughters alone. I made sure the following yr we had a place for him at our table-our wonderful memories keep him alive within us and always will.
Oh and anytime an ornament fell from the tree my lil ones would say ‘Oh daddy!’
They would NOT want us to suffer here on earth.
It was a twin or sibling I lost, but on 1/9/2018 my mom passed away suddenly with no warning, she wasn’t even sick (they believe it was her heart and it gave out but no autopsy was done for confirmation as it wasn’t a crime scene and my Dad didn’t want to do that to her so we actually do not KNOW for sure why) I became pregnant with my now 1 year old about 5 weeks after she passed. Everyone in my family believes when she realized how badly everyone hurt for her loss that she guilted God i to gifting a baby to my family… It didn’t make the holidays any less painful at the end of the year but we did find joy ~ that’s my advice to you, find the joy. Even if it is a small bit of joy take that little piece and roll with it… It will lead to one smile, which likely will lead to another. When your sister comes up in conversation talk about things that made you laugh with her BEFORE she was sick… one smile from anyone at your home will create a circle of smiles. That’s what we did.
Maybe it might be a little easier if you go somewhere new; some where you haven’t gone before or have a memory of your sister. I want to tell you i am so sorry for your loss! I can only imagine how hard it must be, being a twin! But you know what? The holidays are really hard for a lot of people who have suffered a loss in there lives of someone they loved dearly. Don’t feel alone. If you can, be the one to reach out to others…msybe even look up some old friends! You do need friends right now if possible. Even if they do nothing but listen to you, or even just sit in a room with you when you are feeling sad. I wish you the best, & i hope good things hsppen to you in the coming years to cheer you up!
I’m so sorry. I would imagine that some people don’t know how to help or comfort so they shy away. I would want my friends to be there to but try reaching out to them and telling them how you feel. I pray for your comfort and healing. I hope your family can find some joy in the upcoming holidays.
Prayer got me through the. deaths of my parents my sister and nephew as well as close friends
It will be impossible to handle the holidays without falling apart. I’m so sorry for your loss, I lost someone I loved a few days after the holidays. That was over 6 years ago and it still hurts when the day comes. All you can do is grieve and be there for each other. Try to celebrate for her, don’t feel sorry for her as she is no longer in pain. She would want you to keep living your life and enjoying the holidays for her
Sometimes something happens that makes the holidays to hard to bare so dont . I had a life changing event 13 years ago and only just started doing holiday again last year with a small tree , I feel more festive this year . During the years I didn’t do holidays I went to the beach each Christmas and enjoyed time there it calmed my soul .
I can’t even imagine. My oldest brother died a few years ago. We were very close. I have twin sons… I couldnt even think about if they lost each other.
I highly suggest seeing a therapist that specializes in grief and trauma. It really helped me. So sorry for your loss.
From the sounds it you do have support but they lost a daughter ,an aunt, and your friends might not know what you need because like you said you dont talk about it. Maybe see a therapist to help
I had a friend who was very , very close to a sister who had a lot of medical conditions…and she was so devastated when her sister lost her fight. But this song she always played in the car …in full volume …before her sister died and after. She said they would both sing it togeather when it came on. The song was : " Angel " from the movie City of Angels. I hope the words can give you some comfort.
Maybe do something completely different for the holidays since it will seem so weird & sad not to have her with you. Travel someplace different, maybe someplace warm if you live in a colder climate, or vice-versa. Visit a friend who lives far away, celebrate Eid or Kwanza or Solstice instead. Join Jewish friends for Chinese food and a movie. Serve dinner at a homeless shelter or nursing home. If you can afford it, travel to a country in Asia, or another place where many do not celebrate Christmas.
Get grief counseling. Hospice and Haven can be a great resource for the grieving, and sometimes funeral homes or hospitals can have grief support groups. You can find kindred spirits and new friends in these groups too.
I’m so sorry about your friends. Sometimes people don’t know what to do. Tell your friends what you need and ask them point blank why they didn’t come to the funeral. If their answers and actions aren’t satisfying, make new friends.
Take up something new to exercise your mind and body. Take a class in geology, ancient history, a foreign language—anything to engage your brain and give you something else to focus on and talk about. Take up painting, poetry,
bicycling, Zumba, yoga, trapeze, weightlifting, karate, ballet. Release endorphins and make yourself stronger.
Write letters to your sister, or poems expressing your feelings. Or write a memoir about her. It may be cathartic. But learn not to obsess: give yourself permission to enjoy life again. It’s what your twin and everyone else would want for you.
Write a list of things you are grateful for every day. When something good happens, thank your sister, now your guardian angel.
Lastly, I’m so sorry. Losing a twin must be like losing half of yourself. You have the virtual support and friendship of all of us on this site. It’s a start.
Accept the fact that you will fall apart it comes with the territory. Our grieving takes time, alot of time. As for friends, honey we have very few friends and many acquaintances. You take one moment at a time and remember to breathe. It’s hard grieve however you need to you have a right.
I know the feeling, lost my best friend of 37yrs in March, hurts a lot but I’m trying to take one day at a time. Nobody really cares it seems and that’s what really hurts.
Fall apart, the only way to rebuild is to be broken. Lean on your family and good friends and take it one day at at time
My dad died Dec 21 of 2013. The holidays are still not easier for me. I still struggle. Along with my siblings. And as for those “friends” they were never really your friends. I would move on from them and get the support you need from your real friends and your family. Because they are grieving too. If it helps have a seat for them at the table. And remember the memories you had with her. Losing someone is hard. It never gets “easier” you just learn to deal/live with the pain of them never being there. My brother doesn’t celebrate the holidays still to this day. I would also recommend maybe talking to someone outside of your inner circle. It might help. Happy holidays and keep your chin up! She’s looking down on you everyday♥️
Make it a wonderful Christmas, decorating, baking with your family. Your Sister would want you to keep living your best life. Your friends that didn’t show up.is sad, especially if it was easy for them to attend her wake etc. Remember how wonderful your twin in and keep her alive with all of your memories.
If you can, why not take a year off from holidays ? Personally, I don’t think you should refrain from falling apart… sounds like your loved ones will catch you, and crying releases toxins. I humbly suggest that people can get sick from a loss if they don’t express their grief.
How about getting together with your closest support souls, ignore the holiday trappings, have some meals together, watch funny movies, laugh & cry as it comes.
My heart breaks for you. What an unimaginable loss. Love and blessings to you friend.
I am so sorry for your loss. My sister is my best friend and I can’t imagine my life without her. My thing is, I was also very close to my mom and Feb will be 10yrs she’s been gone. The first holiday will be extremely difficult, I had her picture sitting on the living room table so she could be near us as we celebrated Christmas that following yr . Every time I go to her grave I cry, cry pretty much every time I think of her. What I Have to keep reminding myself of is that she is with God now, and not sick anymore. And I will one day see her again and she will be waiting for me. God bless you my friend. Message me any time you want to talk, I’m here.
You will fall apart. Theres no stopping that. Just be around family and loved ones who know what’s going on. Stay strong when you can and break down when you need to. Losing a loved one is hard especially if it’s your twin. Fight your hardest everyday and with time the pain wont be as bad. The breakdowns wont be as frequent. You’ll never completely stop missing her but time will make it better. No matter how many years go by, holidays will always be the worst. Stay strong.
So sorry for your loss honey. Losing a sister is the hardest thing especially a twin. The holidays especially Are the hardest. Lord put your hand upon her comfort her and guide her through this holiday season. In Jesus name amen.
So, so very sorry for your loss.
Prayer. If you don’t already know God, seek Him. If you do, rest in Him. He is able to give a peace that surpasses understanding.
The thing I did during the holiday season to help me with my grief is to focus on things that made me happy example Christmas trees and decorations also maybe think about starting a new tradition with your daughter.
There is no rule book when it comes to grief… I’ve suffered some major loss in my life too and I found that my friends avoided me as well. At first , I was really hurt by it all but then I came to realize that it was mostly just because they didn’t know what to do or how to support me. It’s not something someone understands until they go through it themselves. You do whatever it is you need to get through this. I hope you find some peace and happiness while you navigate on your journey of grieving. I can tell you from experience that you will gain the strength to live again and although it never gets easier , you find that you deal with it differently.
Therapy is best thing to-do
I lost my sister 19 years ago on the 17th Dec. She was just 17 and died in a car accident. That first Christmas me and mum took a flask of soup and a went for a walk on the moors and didn’t acknowledge Christmas at all. It’s still hard but some years are worse than others. Please remember that it is essentially one day. You get up, eat, watch a film then back to bed if you want to. Dont feel obligated to celebrate with others if you’re not ready. Dont be so hard on yourself and give yourself time to grieve properly. I’m truly sorry for your loss xx
I grieve my mother still after 10 years. Some tear daily . still. After the 2nd year I went to therapist. On 3rd trip he said "your never going to stop missing your mom and you will always think of her . She lived with me 46 years. Anyway driving home the words hit me. It was like a light came on. And now I could give myself "permission "to grive without feeling guilty. Because some had insinuated it was time to “get over it”, I felt a great weight weight lifted . I cry or let a tear fall when it comes now and dont feel like maybe somethings wrong with me. I still mention her name daily and always will, sometimes just in telling off on her funny ways or things she did. But in no way is she forgotten . Your hurt will begin to be less painful as time goes on but let no one tell you when that is. Just keep her memory inside you and let others know is perfectly fine to talk about her! Sometime sure, I shed a tear even when laughing about a funny she did. But it helps to speak of her in that way. Her love was unconditional and so will her memory be to me and her grandkids. Hugs, it will get better, just find what works for you.
I know this sounds repetitive and obvious but please seek some counseling! You dont have to go though this alone and sometimes it’s best to have a ln unbiased person to unload on. Many hugs to you
Oh sweetie I’m so sorry for your loss and please know it is absolutely normal for you to feel this way
Don’t ever let anyone tell you where, when or how to grieve the loss of your sister
It’s absolutely ok to fall apart and scream or cry and yes even get angry
Everything you are saying is totally normal after a loss so go ahead and completely loose it because that’s all part of Grieving
Hugs to you
I’m a twin also… my twin is still here. So I can only imagine what your going through and how broken u must feel. I’d be lost without my twin. It’s ok to be said and break down. Just lean on the ones that wanna be there for u and forget the ones that ain’t there. Your sister would want u to live your best life. Live on through her if u know what I mean. Sry for your loss.
So sorry for your loss. I couldn’t imagine losing a twin. My gpa passed almost exactly a year ago and i am having huge issues myself with the transition… He and my gma raised me for 12 yrs. My dad also passed this yr 6 months from his father. This is hard. Best of luck
Im so sorry for u loss, but try to remember the good times, she wouldnt want u to be unhappy, try to light a candle for her and maybe u can feel her with u.
Turn to God he will always be there for you I know it’s very very hard
The heck with those so called friends. My sister just lost her 47 year old son. For his birthday she went to the cemetery and decorated the grave beautifully with fall flowers. This made her so happy. Maybe for Christmas you can do something like this. Make her grave site beautiful for Christmas. Maybe you can have you daughter make something that came from her heart
It’s very consuming, take 1 day at a time. Ur sister is still with you, I’m sure that’s why u feel so sad. Pray that God will give you strength to get through each day. People will tell you should be getting over it, but they don’t realize how deep u miss her. Just pray God will help.
My friend its always hard when you loose aloved one but what i beleive there really gone there always there in spirit and walk by your side whenever needed you can still talk to her and its not crazy to do so every christmas or anything thats speacial to you she will always be there in spirit for you .you are never alone so celebrate and no loved ones never are far away watching over you
I lost my 17 yr old brother February of this year and we’ve been trying to figure out the same thing. Friends have sort of disappeared but i acknowledge this is something most ppl dont know how to deal with unless in the situation so they just stay away. None of my friends came his funeral. Right now the best thing is just to keep among family members and carry on the traditions that she loved. We’re doing the same. Instead of hiding our grief we’re sharing our feelings with each other and doing things he loved and isn’t here to do with us anymore. Big hugs to you and yours
Remember two true friend are better than a hundred fake. I lost my father a few months back and I’ve been falling apart ever since. I have my sister and her family as well as 1 amazing friend.
That’s got to be hard. I lost my brother and my dad within 7 weeks of each other Nov 7 was my dad’s 3rd year death date. It was so difficult, my brother was in September. All the holidays was hard it still is. It’s not the same, but we still do the things they liked to do as a reminder they’re still in our thoughts. I believe they are still alive, they’re body is dead. Just know I believe your sister misses you too! 
Take on minute, day, week at a time. Hugs…
Be thankful for the family you do have this holiday season. I know no one could ever replace your sister but be glad you still have ur parents and ur daughter. I miss my Momma so much it hurts but I just try to focus on my daughter and my grand babies and thank God I have them to help me get through. God bless you sweetie.
Not a rant you need to vent. Your need to see a counselor. They can help you sort out your feelings. God bless you.
So sorry for your loss! It’s okay to fall apart. Just take it one day at a time and the pieces will come back together, as I wish I could say the holidays will get better, they will always be hard, keep your family and the two friends close. And find someone you can discuss things with, it will help tremendously!
So sorry for your loss…no words from anyone will make it better but please know that everyone posting on here has reached out to you…support group is so important…this group has been wonderful to all questions and for thos who have reached out…know that we are here for you…GOD is here…
Maybe get into some counseling. Sometimes loosing a loved one can affect you alot more than you yourself want to admit and its feelings like this that you will project onto others making it seem like they wont want to be around you. As for the holidays celebrate the things she loved to do in memory of her.
You have my deepest sympathy. May she RIP. Holidays are very hard to get through and this is your first year without her. It will be hard but you will get through it. I remember my first holidays without my father, I cried alot and that’s ok. Your in my thoughts and prayers.
Is there a support group I’m so sorry for your loss being a twin is harder maybe try to celebrate her in a special way
Talk to you parents and hug your daughter, the holidays and the angelversary are the hardest to get through. I lost my 19 year old brother 8 years ago and still struggle through the holidays every year. I too lost all of my " friends and so called best friends " 3 of them that had been in my life 15 years because none of them could handle me asking them to be there for me for once. So turn to all the good people you have in your life. Look at all the beautiful things that happen pray as often as you can, took me a while to get back there and if you can find a good counselor I recommend it. Also took me 5 years before I got one because I was too proud and my grief took over. Look for tiny miracles there all around you!
Holidays are hard for me. Lost my mom the Friday after Thanksgiving. I try staying really busy . I work in retail so I volunteer for extra hours so others can be home with their families.
Just t ask e one day at a time hun i lost my so 7 yrs back n I’ve experienced what ur saying about friends mine all done the same I’ve got the true friends that stuck by me yes it hard coming to terms with it but it will come when u least expect it n ur sister would want u to stay strong n she will always be with u hun in spirit
The pain is mandatory the misery and suffering is optional. Your wound will heal with time and the fond memories will take center stage. In my opinion the best way to get through the pain is celibrate life bring the positives ceter stage . Most of all ask the question would my sister want me to be happy
If you fall apart, it’s ok. No one grieves the same and you’re grieving. Take it one minute at a time.
Those friends or so called friends their not your friends or they would be with you through all of this
God is with you ask him he will help you
God is with you every day
First if all, so sorry for your loss. I lost my brother who was my only sibling several years ago. A wise friend told me he would not want you to remember him with tears. He told me to get together with friends of his and cousins and share memories, particularly those which evoke laughter. He had a great sense of humor. We would share stories and laugh. It was very healing.
Don’t forget your love ones.
Life is for the living.
I lost my twin suddenly in November. The holidays were awful.That feeling of being alone & friends aren’t helping could be from not having your best friend any more. I feel it to, the absence is overwhelming & constant. It hard not to feel alone when your used to having someone as special as a twin. They are more then a sibling or friend, it’s a unique pain that’s really confusing. Just know you really are not alone & I hope it gets better for you. 
Try going to church, you need Christian family and friends!! They are there for you no matter what. Then maybe find a way to honor your sister plant a tree, donate to her favorite charity, help at a soup kitchen/ food pantry. Your sister loved you but would not want you to be depressed. She is free from pain now and HAPPY. You should be to! Oh yeah you can also get a balloon filled with helium write messages to your sister then r lease it and as it flies away let your unhappiness float away with it. God loves you and you are not alone.
Prayers work for me. Sorry for your loss. Try to view memories, such as photos but it may take more than a year before you can smile instead of crying. Grief takes a long time and I cannot imagine losing a twin. (((HUGS)))
I understand what you are saying. I have not lost a sibling so I have not been through your emotions especially losing a twin sister. I feel that not having more friends to support you is so very hurtful and sad. Holidays can bring on so many different emotions even if you are not mourning such a loss. Two years ago my daughters military husband was killed along with 15 other military personnel while on a military flight. They have two children, our grandchildren. It has been difficult but everyday we move forward because it’s our only option. We do this to honor him and we speak of him daily. Sadness is there of course and always will be. Is there anything you can do to honor your sister? It does help, really. I hope you can just be patient with yourself. You owe it to yourself and your family.
My sister died & now I’m the only one left. Both parents & brother too. It’s very hard. Maybe one day I will have a happy holiday, i put on a show but deep down. I just to sleep through all of them. Hate the gift giving & it’s a financial burden on me. But Jesus is the real reason. Life just sucks at times. I can tell by my moods, depression sets in. One day, things will get better, I pray.