Be grateful God showed you her heart and how hateful she really is.The trash took itself out and I would not spend another minute feeling hurt over this lady.Sometimes family does you the worst.
Whereās your contract?
What a load of shit thereās no way anyone would let that happen not when thereās a contract sign and sealed Or did youse do one of those tar-toe tar-toe family ones Lmao 
If you have any Proof of message since Iām guessing there is no contract I would take her to court because 20,000 is not just something I would let go
Was all of this ārent to ownā on paper? Because depending on the agreement you may be able to take her to court to recoop the 20 grand and damages, like the cost to move somewhere else.
On a personal levelā¦ doing business with family is a no noā¦ it always ends badly. Life lesson learned and I am so sorry this happened to youā¦ I wish you a better house and healingā¦
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She would no longer be considered family to me. Drop her like a hot potato. Sad. Very sad. Move on with your life goals.
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Move on without her. She is the one missing out and some day will regret. She is not worth the time and energy of your heart ache.
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Always, ALWAYS get documentation of what you pay for.
Iām sorry that that happened to you and your family though. And congrats on your new baby!!!
And honestlyā¦i would just do your best to let it go BC it doesnāt seem like your SIL is gonna change
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Should have got it in writing, cant take back writing with a signatureā¦you could have sued her
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Take her to court because dear god I would fight to get my money back since she just screwed you over
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Sheās totally wrong for that.
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These are not real. It the same person writing them 
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Take her petty selfish ass to court and get your 20k back. What she did was aweful and her being family does NOT mean you should just forgive and forget in circumstances like these.
Iād sue the shit out of her 
Always and I mean always have the agreement in writing. Can you prove how much money you paid, or over paid? Sue her ass
Iām assuming you didnāt have a contract or she wouldnāt have been able to do that. Thatās the risk you take 
She canāt just tell you to be out in 30 days she has to give you a written notice and go through the courts. Look up the laws in your state cause thatās what my ex roommate tried to do to me and my mom but with my mom I just left cause she threatened to hit me while I was holding my son and threatened to take him away from me
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She sounds like a real piece of work you are better off without her Iām so sorry that that happened to you and your family I couldnāt imagine the stress you must have went through and are probably still going through. I would just write her off and not even consider her family donāt contact her donāt even let her contact you just completely drop her out of your life She doesnāt deserve to know your children after what she did
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We moved to some property my sister and her husband were buying. We agreed to pay half. We were caught up and even payed their half on months they couldnāt. He had a manic episode and swore that my husband was sleeping with my sister. I knew it wasnāt true. He I formed us we had to move. We didnāt have anything in writing so we were screwed. I have to say now it was a blessing in disguise. We now own our property and live in a bigger house.
Moral to the story GET EVERYTHING IN WRITING!!
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Call a lawyer, specialist in real estate
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You were renting to ownā¦did you pay more rent to her than the average rental in your area? 2.5 years for only 25k sounds pretty cheapā¦but then again, I am in a pricey area. cut your losses and be glad the toxicity is out of your life.
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She used you and her brother to either pay off her mortgage or pay off debt AND then when it was sorted out, she turfed you all out without a careā¦ She is a heartless bitch!! You could take her to court and you could win because verbal contracts can be legally binding and you were paying 6 months in advance every time, the problem you might have is if you were handing her the cash in handā¦if you done bank transfer then thatās your evidence, and if you have that evidence then she is in breach because I think as rent was getting paid 6 monthly, then eviction notice should have been 6 months but Iām not 100% certain. However you have survived it and got your husband and 4 children and you can stand proud knowing itās lies she is telling about you and ANYBODY that knows and loved you believe itās lies, anybody else who believes the lies, then you donāt need them in your life anyway. Leave sister in law to her life because if she can treat family like that then any friends have no chance and she will end up a very lonely person. Either sue her or forget her!!
Lesson learned in a heartbreaking way. Get everything in writing from now no matter who it is and what itās for. You sell a bike to a family member or friendā¦ type a bill of sale and everyone signs it with a witness. Make a deal for a land contract, every aspect gets put in writing. If yāall made the arrangements to rent to own in texts, itās in writing. In any future contract write a clause that mentions there can be zero evictions or ending of the contract unless itās for reasons of non payment of rent. And keep EVERY receipt.
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its your house move back in put her rent into an account dont touch it and let her take you to court
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Unfortunately family will screw you over faster then a strangerā¦
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Unfortunately if you have nothing in writing or signed ā¦ that is seriously your own loss. You canāt take peopleās word these days. It is now a case of she said he saidā¦
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Do you have a written agreement ? Never do anything without one plus get it notify ā¦
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Blood is not thicker than water. Family will screw you faster then a friend. Sometimes I just want to smack a fool. Sorry that happened to you and your family. It would be a cold day in hell before I ever spoke to her again.
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Did you have a written contract witnessed by your lawyers?
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Maybe you can take her to small claims court and get your money back. Could be worth a shot. Do you have proof of the money being paid? If so you could have a case.
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get your own mortgage . Less stressful then what just happened.
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This was an expensive lesson to learn, unfortunately. NEVER do ābusinessā with family members. If you do, have a lawyer draft papers to keep both parties from getting screwed. Iām sorry this happened.
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Apart from the house situation which was just terrible, the fact that she never met her nephew, her own brothers child speaks VOLUMES about her. I say consider yourself lucky shes out of ur life!
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Yāall paid 6 months in advance but left with a 30 day notice? 
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Wow. That was a hard freaking lesson to learn. If I was you Iād just carry on and live your life. I would however never associate with that lady again. Family or not.
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Donāt move and make it fun
Family will screw you over quicker than you think! My grandparents gave me a house and we were working on itā¦ they shoved so much shit in there ( junk) and wouldnāt get it out ( I offered to move it) well they ended up giving it to my uncle and then apparently my cousin after my husband and I did alot of work to itā¦ needless to say I cut ties with themā¦ I even offered to buy the house and they told me I could just have itā¦ sorry you went through this. But without any signed documents there isnāt really anything you can do. I learned that the hard way.
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Now we need her side of the story.
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Did you have it in writing that you were renting to own? If not, then you have no case. Iād cut ties and never look back. She sounds like she has some issues and you shouldnāt want your kids around her! If you have agreement in a contract take her to court, if not walk away and donāt look back.
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We had the same situation with some close āfriendsā I learned a valuable lesson, do not mix business with friends or family.
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Is there a written agreement???
Was there no written contract? If you paid 6 months in advance she canāt throw you out heck if you are under contract she canāt throw you out. Sue her for any money invested into the property
thatās sad iām sorry
Get a lawyerā¦you should have done that to begin with bc paying rent up front six months in advance she cannot kick you outā¦if you have legal document of the rent to own etc. Then she canāt just kick you outā¦unless there are grounds to and legal documentation you shouldnāt have gone anywhereā¦ otherwise your best bet is to get advice from a lawyer she might owe yāall money if it was an illegal evictionā¦as far as her being a flake it is what it is ā¦family doesnāt always mean theyāll be there unfortunately
Things like that need to be written up in black and white . A verbal agreement has no grounds if even in a situation like this . But even in saying that that so sitter is so mean doing that ! Especially with kids and all .
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Its not a good idea to mix business with family. She dosent sound very nice. I would just move and be done with her.
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Iām not really sure how any of us could help per say, but yea, thatās a total bitch move on her part. Some people are just like that though, Iām sorry it had to be someone so close. 
1 word: estoppel. Get yourselves a lawyer!!
I also have the sister from Hell! 
Always take before and after pictures in any house your not buying straight out.
With whoever how ever you make an agreement with always do it in writing with signatures in front of a legal personal with a witness stamp.wouldv saved you gtn kicked out.hard lesson learned and even family can stab u in the back,sorry u had to deal with thatš
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Sue her! Get a lawyer
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canāt trust relatives anymore! next time, get it in writing!
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I swear itās such a toxic word: āsister-in-lawā lol Move on! Itās her loss not being involved with her nephews. How does your husband feel about the whole situation? If you had a contract I hate to say it but it might be time for smalls claim court to get some $$$ back
Family is family but contracts exist for a reason. This definitely shouldāve been in writing.
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She has to give you 90 days notice is sheās planning on moving in or have her family move in. Did you guys do up a contract?
Sheās probably havenāt moved into it cause she making out she has to do renovations cause the impossible damages u didnāt do to the house. Slam her in court.
GET OVER IT & HER!! TAKE THE BLESSING GOD GAVE YOU, THANK HIM & KEEP IT MOVING! People & family who KNOW YOU, know not to BELIEVE anything she says!!( sheās probaly jealous of your happiness! DONāT LET HER RUIN IT!!) GOOD LUCK! CRYINGā¦GURRRRL STAY BLESSED!!
You have rights was it an agreement on paper or just verbal? Even if you were just renters you have rights. I think you got hooded winked by your sister in law. She got you to clean it all up after she left it a mess. Then you invest 20 grand so now that all gone to her. Then on top of that she smear your good name by spreading rumors. I say your better off without her in your life. She sounds very selfish and she went back on her word were I come from your word is your bond itās trusted. Sheās not an honest women sorry for troubles.
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That is utter bull shit I would never speak to her again
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A verbal contract is a contract. Get a lawyer and sue her. Then cut her out of you life completely.
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Let it go and move on!! Itās not worth anymore tears!! Donāt let her steal your peace!!
Wow, Iām so sorry to hear this. Some people can be very inconsiderate and cruel. Next time, have everything in writing to protect your family.
Sounds an awful lot like some drugs might be involved. Not necessarily street drugs, but possibly Psyche drugs?
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Sue her, and get your money back. You were renting to buy. She lied and scammed money from you. What a nasty POS of a woman. Mess her life up how she did to you.
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Never do anything like that with family it will not ever be there fault !
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Take her 2 court then cut her from ur life if u had a written contract. donāt stress at the end of the day the only person ur taking time from is u and ur family. I was renting 2 own my current house from my grandad, he had a stroke and his bitch of a wife screwed us out of another $8,000. 
we own the house after a 2 year battle. Now we donāt even get 2 see my grandad because of her. Needless 2 say I wonāt see my inheritance either but getting peed about it again isnāt any sweat off her back she sleeps just fine.
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Some family will hurt you quicker than anyone.
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Never mix family and business because it always gets too personal.
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If itās been a year, I think you need to move onā¦. 20k? Are you talking about rent OR work you put into the house ?
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Firstly whatās your husbands stance in all of this??
I would absolutely move on and not stress about it. If you paid money above market rent you could pursue it but likely not worth it.
Sister in laws lost a years payments on the place and made her choice so you just have to let that go.
Take her to court and sue her
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Cut her off completely. If you dont, next time document EVERYTHING. Take pictures. Take videos. Have a witness.
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thatās horrible. wonder why she didnāt move into the house, hope you can figure something out. if you have something down on paper from her that you origally agreed on, it could stand up in court. good luck
Never rent from relatives. Save your money and look around and buy your self a house and do it legal. Through a lawyer. and borrow from the bank. If she wants to sell the house make her an offer and borrow the money from the bank and pay her off. Or look around and see if you can find another house to buy. Keep looking and you might find somethin for a better price with more land and more room.
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Small claims court, get back your 20 thousand? Breach of promise and contract agreement.
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Sounds just like what im going threw! 
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Get a flipping lawyer.
Keep your distance, she is not going to change.
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Boot her, and move on. Get the toxic people out of your life.
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I see no comments as to what your husband thinks about what his sister did.
Sue her for breaching the contract. She canāt just up and kick you out for no reason. Especially if the house is taken care of, paid for, etc.
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Ban her from your Life Forever!
Ive been a mom for 11 years. I got 3 hours onceā¦til i had to leave ladies night earlyā¦for reasons im cool with not discussing
I understand your anger itās justified you can try to take her to court but it will be a long drawn out hassle or go on with your life without the stress with her not in it, you are much better off. Let it go relax and enjoy your own family. If she at some point does come around ignore her and her issue unless of course itās an emergency like her health. Good Luck
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Nasty rental situation with sister in law, help!
Honey I get it but being mad does nothing. Your anger doesnāt affect her. She isnāt gonna wake up and think āheyā¦sheās mad at meā¦let me be a better person and apologize.ā Your best revenge is to smile, be happy in the new situation and lead the best life possible. Plusā¦ honestly I would be grateful because the trash (aka the sister in law) took itself out. Much love and good vibes your way.
Very difficult situation. but family. My advice is forgive but never rely on her again.
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Agreement written or verbal only? If you deal with family always make it legal, written, and Noterized. Id trust a total stranger today much better that a family member. God bless you and good luck.
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Everything in writing - especially when it comes to āfamilyā
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No such thing as a rent to buy. Sure, everything is for sale at a certain price. If you want to buy a house, do it correctly. Many owners of rental properties will do a Contract for Deed which means you are a glorified renter and have to do all repairs . I would guess 95% of contracts for deed do not work out. The house/land is not yours until it is paid in full. Owner forecloses and the next sucker pays 10k down to āown a home.ā I have seen it happen many times turn over 3 to 5 years and u get it back. Same as EVICTION for rent process. Get over it, you were a renter, period. There are many programs FHA, USDA, with zero down and a credit score over 570. Good luck. Your sister had every right to take her home back with a 30 day notice. Buyers and renters beware, always.
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All of this negativity is not good for you or your family. First of all consult a lawyer and see if you have any options. It sounds doubtful but it is worth a try. Then perhaps you can find a counselor/ therapist to help you resolve these feelings. If you can find a way, let it go. Itās true what they say, if you canāt forgive then you are just holding on to the poison. You have my sympathies and I totally understand because I too have dealt with people like your sister and even worse with family members like her. May God bless you and I hope you can find happiness in your own family (your husband and kids).
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I would definitely contact a lawyer to see if you can get any money back from her
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Sue for breech of contract 
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Going forwardā¦always get everything in writing.
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From years of watching those court tv shows, I have learned documents are the key! Witnesses, Text messages etc. Keep it all. on a personal level , just forgive and be happy. She has to live with herself .
Hope u took pictures of when u moved. And I would be going to court for sure with that kinda money invested in it
Did yāall have it in writing. And always remember take pictures before you move in and clean and of thing that were already wrong with the house. And take pictures of the house when you move out. This is for your next place. Because you cant trust not even family these days
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