In need of some advice about my son’s 2nd birthday party. Ok, so let me start by letting y’all know that my SOs mom & her own mom tried to fight me at my son’s 1st birthday party. I mean, they acted like animals! I wasn’t about to stoop to their level, especially in front of my son & all of our family, so I just told them to leave. I got a half-ass apology from his mom & no apology from her mom, but I figured I had to deal w them for a while anyway, so ill just let it go, but I made it know that I’m never gonna forgive them for that! Call me petty, but they literally couldn’t keel it together at my son’s 1st birthday party! Well, his 2nd birthday is in a couple of months & Idk if I should invite them. I don’t like them & its obvious they don’t like me, but I don’t really want to hurt anyone’s feelings by not inviting them… But at the same time, I just don’t think they deserve to come & I’m worried something might go down again! What would y’all do if y’all was in my situation?
Talk to your SO. And if you invite them, have it somewhere in public.
Make your SO talk to them and if they can’t act like adults, make it known ahead of time that they will be asked to leave with no warnings this time.
Nope one and done. Couldn’t behave the first time there is no second
If they are going to cause problems I wouldn’t invite them. Definitely discuss it with your SO but sounds like they are toxic. It takes away from the child’s special day. It’s a no from me!
maybe im just petty but thats a HELL no from me. my sister tried to ruin my wedding and honeymoon multiple times through the day and now i dont invite her to anything. dont invite toxic people into your life and your life will be FAR for peacefull
I had the same thing happen to me at my daughter’s 2nd birthday party me and my so daughter got into because she was jealous of my daughter after that I’ve never invited her to any birthdays she’s had and she’s 5 now it’s not about them it’s about the kids if they can’t keep it together for the child’s sake I would say to hell with them
I wouldn’t invite them. Let you SO take the child to see them on a separate time…but I wouldn’t allow them at the party because of what they did. Talk to SO…both of ubshould be on the same page about it.
No way, they have no respect for you or your son they literally tried to fight you at your 1 year olds party that’s just trash
Dont invite them? It’s a no brainer lol
Tell then it starts later than it does so you can have some peace during the party
I wouldn’t invite them to another one.
Nope. If you’re comfortable with him going to her place, she can throw him one. Otherwise absolutely not!
Let them throw their own party. No way would they be invited.
Talk to your SO. If he talks to them and can get them to say they won’t cause any problems then do it and see what happens. If they can’t keep from starting shit then you can say you tried and they are never invited again.
I would not invite them and explain the reason why and tell them when they can act like adults and put ur child’s happiness first …then u will invite them. Don’t let anyone ruin that baby’s bday especially immature people and let the whole family know why. Maybe a little humiliation will do the job if not they will b missing out on sharing ur baby’s milestones
I wouldn’t care who tf it is. Show your ass like that at my kid’s party and you’ll never come to another one. I had a sister in law and niece show their ass royally at my son’s party and I now have no contact with them. I blocked them off my social media and they dont have my number. They didn’t show their ass towards me BUT the way they done it and what they said dug that hole too deep for them to find a way out of with me. My mil tried getting us to talk to my sil and we said nope!
I would invite clear message act up u leave never to return again.
Let them know flat out. This is your last chance if you cannot act like an adult for a few hours you will not be invited to another event.
Umm. No. If you are ignorant and pathetic and trashy enough to try to fight me, at my child’s birthday party no less, you are obviously not sound minded enough to be around my child. Period.
Not just no, but hell no.
Their feelings would mean nothing to me at that point.
Have a small get together at your home for them that way they can still see the child but you have control over the situation and it won’t be in public, but this way your SO can also see that you’re trying with his side of the family…
First birthdays are special. Everyone wants to be involved. They SHOULD have backed off and let you have the day with your baby. I, personally, would invite them. If they showed out this year, though, I would not invite them in the future.
So they just attacked you and you didnt do anything to provoke it? You were blameless?
I’m not saying theres any excuse for it but I’m not buying grandma and great grandma just walked in and started wailing on you. Right in front of your child?
Tell the whole story.
Fuck their feelings and don’t invite them 💁
I wouldn’t invite them… Why risk something going down at your son birthday again…
Send them an invite…but lay down the law any one starts anything their history…An mean it…
Don’t invite them… if it matters to your s/o, have him, his mother & her mother do their own special thing with your son for his birthday. They could go for ice cream or something on a different day, if they really wanna celebrate with him. That’s how we handle difficult obligatory family members.
I wouldnt invite them.
You’re nicer than I would be even considering it. I wouldn’t invite them. They clearly cant be adults.
If it was me I would not invite them & wouldn’t care who didn’t like it. Just go on with your plans for your sons birthday without the trouble makers & enjoy your babies special day. Piss on a bunch of hel! being raised on the baby’s birthday. Good luck.
Definitely don’t invite them. That’s putting yourself at risk & the safety of children attending🤷 they’ve already proven that they don’t know how to act
You have to invite them. You need to be an adult and know you’re doing it for your child and not yourself.
It would depend on the actions and contact sense then , it’s been a year . Do you visit them do they visit you ? I would be clear about the purpose of the party and what you expect the energy and focus to be . Your son and HIS party .
Your child is more important than in-laws
I wouldn’t have them in my home what so ever
Animals like that needs to be caged
If they have already shown they cannot behave like mature adults I wouldn’t bother inviting them. Maybe invite just them and do a small cake and icecream party with just them if you are worried about hurt feelings
I personally wouldn’t invite them. They have shown you they don’t know how to act and can’t be civil and at a one year olds birthday party?! Come on now that’s ridiculous. I wouldn’t care if there feelings were hurt or not. They didn’t seem to care if they hurt yalls feelings by acting a fool at his party…
I wouldn’t invite them
Do NOT invite them. It is YOUR child, YOUR home and YOU should never be made to feel uncomfortable or attacked within your walls
Don’t invite them! His family might try to make you feel guilty. Forget that shit. Who cares. They chose to disrespect you. Don’t let them repeat it. They’ll cause drama at every birthday & holiday forever if you keep inviting them.
I know it’s not the same but my grandbabies mom hates me but did let me take them once a week. So I did the bday when i I had them and her family who also dislikes me did their own thing
I wouldn’t invite them. Dont feel bad about it either. If they wanted to be invited they should learn how to conduct themselves. I hope your sons party is awesome !
Dont invite, the hell with feelings it’s about YOUR child.
Don’t invite them just enjoy your babies birthday
Nope they aren’t invited
Call and invite them, but make it clear if they can’t act civil for your son then they shouldn’t come
Maybe in a public place, not your place. Ice cream place with other customers around? What is wrong with your SO? Should not be all on you.
No Way! would I invite them again! You don’t owe them a thing! Inviting them is just asking for trouble! And don’t fret over it,or feel guilty or bad at all about not inviting them! They brought it on themselves! I wouldn’t have that deal in my house,especially in front of my child! Have a great birthday with your little guy!If they showed up I’d tell them to leave or cops could help them leave!
Honey don’t worry about THEIR feelings!! Your child is learning from their behavior & it is very upsetting to children when people fight. Keep the peace in your home. Where does your son’s Daddy stand in all of this?
Take care of your child & yourself first. I would NOT have that mess in my home. Prayers & Best wishes to you & your son 
be strong Mama & keep the peace!!
I always take these posts with a grain of salt cuz theirs always 3 sides to the story urs theirs and the TRUTH…with that being said I hope ur lil one has a wonderful birthday without any katty drama ur baby deserves it
Well, I don’t know your family dynamics and where your SO fits in with this drama. I mean, his mother and grandmother want to beat up his girlfriend at their grandson’s and great grandson’s birthday party. I would not want to subject myself or my son to that, so NO I don’t think I would invite them.
Your two year old is not old enough to remember who was or was not at his party. He will just be happy that he has company around, different than he always has. And then it can be party time if you treat it like a party.
Why don’t you just have “a few” special friends or relatives—-mostly children and parents—and specify the time like 2:00 - 3:30 so it won’t make the kids too tired and they can leave before YOU are too tired. Then you can clean up and it will be over without drama. Let all relatives know th
In my marriage if there is a problem with my family, I handle it. If there is a problem with his family, he deals with it. No drama, just healthy boundaries. If they are toxic people, they are not invited into our home for any reason.
Nopee wouldn’t allow them around my kids for a birthday or hell even Christmas if anyone would act like that around my children they can just forget being involved with us period for any reason. Prayers for you and your son.
I wouldn’t invite them. If I were in your shoes, I would choose to keep that behavior as far from my kiddos as possible. Adult feelings aside, the baby doesn’t need that negativity.
Have your party and let them do one of their own! Save yourself and that baby from all the drama!
Have your boyfriend explain to them that will never be included again if they start trouble. If they can behave, fine. If they cannot, they will not be welcomed again. Sounds like the grandmothers are the 2 year olds.
Family Dynamics like this is why my youngest never gets to have birthday parties
Nope. Don’t do it. If you really need to invite them to some thing have them
Over for lunch on Saturday before or after actual party. But only the drama family.
I’d have two separate parties. One for them, and your immediate family, then everyone except them for the “real” party!!!
Have your bf put them in their place tell them flat out if they come they are to show you respect period no if ands or buts period and if they cross the line and become ignorant then he will make them leave and they will NEVER be welcomed again for any reason period
Why not be have your son’s birthday at a CafeO Play so the children can run and play and if there is drama the children won’t be involved or touch there fun
Heck no, I would not invite them! Your poor son & you, praying for yall
He can have 2 birthdays one with you and your family and one with bfs family
You can always invite them to the party. Have the actual party on a Saturday and tell them it’s on Sunday. When they show up on Sunday, oops, my bad did I say Sunday? I meant Saturday, I must have gotten my days mixed up! BAM
Don’t invite them. If they can’t act like grown ups then they don’t need to be there.
Save yourself the drama it’s your party do not invite them
Don’t invite them. You want a drama free environment for all
You could always do two parties so the fighting won’t happen
Your home and your rules! Do not invite them if you do not want them there!
Best not to include them in your plan. They sounds like trouble maker to me.
Toxic members have no place around your kid
They don’t get to come
Have your party, let them have their own with you ex.
Nope don’t invite them!
Nope… Don’t invite them
No don’t invite them
Nope they can have their own party for him…
do not invite them they do not deserve to come
You will see sooner or later! It comes to a time when you don’t give a rats a$$ if you upset or offend anyone. They showed you and your son 0 respect! They would be off my guest list!
Nope! Bitches can go be bitches somewhere else! Not at a baby’s party!
I say no. No child needs to see any type of violence
That’s horrible they did that…and good for you for not stopping to their level. I’d say invite them, but when you invite them let them know they need to be adults and not repeat what happen last year. Work out whatever issues they have with you before hand. Tell them if they feel like they can’t behave for the sake of your son, they can decline the invite.
Anyone that would hit someone in front of their own child or jump someone at a childs birthday party have 0 place in my life. How long before they don’t agree with you and try to hurt you again
If they love your son tell them they are invited but they have to be nice and not ruin the party I have been the same situation and I try not to have to interact with them you can be in the same room be stay apart the main thing is Dont spoil the party if they can’t promise this don’t invite them and make sure they know why
I would tell them if they cant act like grown up dont come, because it’s not fair to rude his birthday party, you did the right thing by not keeping it going good mommy
Nope. And if that had been me they be out of our lives for good. It don’t matter if their my child’s grandma great grandma or not. Don’t need people like that in your child’s life. I’ve kicked my own mom out of mine and my kids lives for less than that. They are toxic people don’t need that in your life and especially your child’s life
You are not obligated to invite them…this is a child’s birthday party your child he doesn’t need to see them be ridiculous and try to start fights with his mom…if they want to see him for his birthday then they should of kept their cool at his 1st birthday…
I would tell them that party is about noone except that 2 year old and if they care about him then they will act like it and act like adults who want that boy’s birthday to be a good, happy one. If they ruin it then they will NEVER be invited again. Nicely state those things. Don’t be petty and childish like them. Give them the chance eventhough they might not deserve it and be the better person. If they start being dumb, tell them this isn’t the time or place, everyone needs to get along or leave.
Look at it this way, if mom wants to celebrate her son’s birthday she should arrange to give him a birthday party on her own with her family. Do not plan a party on the same date. These blended families can bring drama.
Well I believe in 2nd chances. Sure you could say no. Avoid the hassle of a might be fight. But weather you like it or not they are in your child’s life. See have the same problem except it my own mother. She hate my children’s father an resents me for being with him an a bunch of other stuff on top of that. But any who I gave at least 2 chances because weather I like it or not she still apart of my childs life. An just because we dont get along doesn’t mean i have a to take it away from my child knowing their own grandmother. I give my child a chance to know her an to decide for her self if she wants to continue. An if her grandmother is going to straighten up. But that me. But drama is no place at a child birthday so lay it out for em you be civil or you don’t come. You do what you tink is best.
Talk to the one that apologised and tell them they are getting a second and last chance. As for the other one don’t bother, if they aren’t going to apologise then they don’t see the error in their behaviour they will probably do it again.
You are actually thinking about inviting them again after the 1st time? You’re super nice but it doesn’t sound smart. I’m not sure why you’re worried about their feelings after all that
Did you talk to them after the first incident? If so did they admit wrongdoing or not? If it was addressed, and they apologized, you can make it clear that behavior won’t be tolerated in the future, then give them a second chance and invite them to the second birthday party. If they mess up at the 2nd birthday party, you’ll then know they can’t be trusted in the future, and you at least figured that out before the kid is old enough to remember their own parties. Personally I think situations like these should be addressed ASAP. Just like dealing with toddlers, if you wait too long they won’t know what they did wrong.
No, don’t invite them…keep the vibes positive on your babies bday.
CUT THE TOXIC OUT OF YOUR LIFE.
You know who they are.
People don’t change.
Walk away…never look back.
PROTECT yourself and your child.
Nope those people are toxic, it’s your sons special day and he doesn’t need to see all that drama, I wouldn’t invite them at all
First question is what we’re they trying to fight you about?
Seems pretty immature on the surface, but if you want real advice, we need more info.
Don’t include them in anything let alone a birthday party for a 2 year old
I wont, they are grown adults if this is how the act its not right period! Im not having any drama thats it
They didn’t care about your feelings when you had your child’s first birthday, so why are you caring about theirs?