So I’m looking for some advice and experiences on having two children really close together… backstory is I just had my daughter on August 28th of this year, so she’s almost three months old. I just found out this week I am pregnant again! I am 5 weeks on Monday, and I would like to know if some of you had the same situation and how it turned out… I knew I wanted my kids close together but not this close! It’s kinda a huge surprise, and would also like some advice… we live in Canada in a two-bedroom condo and not the richest of people… we weighed out the pros and cons of having this baby, and I couldn’t handle the thought of taking away a younger sibling from my daughter out of convenience. I am glad we have this child but with this pandemic going on, my mental health is a bit rocky. I get a lot of anxiety lately, and I just need some advice/tips/experiences thank you!!!
Two bedroom is fine kids can share a room for now
I did that they came out to 11 in a half months apart. It was okay as the baby and the almost 1 year old napped a few times together. When the baby was born the older one was walking. There will be time they both need you but remember other stuff can wait. My kids that are irish twins the ones 11 in a half month apart will be 6 and 5 this month and next. Time flies. Double stroller was a life saver. They play together but they have moments they fight as well
Hey honey. I was In the exact same position as you. I have an 11 and 12 year old born exactly 13 months apart lol. Honestly it was wonderful and its kind of like having twins now. I had a boy then a girl and they shared the same room up until they were 4 then I got a house that they both had separate rooms but they still stuck into each other’s room until they were 6. I had major anxiety when I found out I was pregnant again and pregnancy hormones didn’t help lol just look for the positives and think about te precious life growing inside your body. You can do this and soon you will sit back and wonder what you were worried about in the first place. You got this. My inbox is always open if u need a chat
my two children are 13months apart and they are very close as they are growing up which now they are 2 and 3 and they are still close don’t get me wrong they fight like cat and dog but what siblings don’t. i’m pregnant with my third now aswell x
I have a 5, 4 & 3 year old my oldest and middle are 1 year and 2 weeks apart and my middle and youngest and 10 months apart. It’s definitely tough sometimes but you got this.
Mine are 15 months apart and his Birthday is August 27th! Busy but you just handle it and do it. Lots of people wonder how but trust me you just get it done 
… they are 3 months and 17 months on sat! They share a room (he is with me right now though)
I have 4 kiddos (7,6,4,1) the first 2 are 10 months apart. Honestly times can be draining but they are best of friends and do everything together they are just like twins. Kids are not materialistic we as adults make them this way. Hand me downs are great. Just think they’ll be in diapers together and out of diapers together. Each milestone they will achieve together.
If they are anything like my sister and I (less than a year apart) They will end up the best of friends. We shared a room as well . We didnt have alot of money. But that doesn’t matter to kids. Each other and love is all we need. You got this Momma . It will be tough sometimes. But don’t doubt yourself. You will do great.
Its not bad! Just get yourself into a routine and keep your kids on a schedule. It’s essential when u have 2 that close. While your newborn is sleeping, be sure to spend some quality time/playtime with your oldest. I thought the best part of having 2 so close in age was that our oldest still took naps! So when both kids are napping, u still get some time to either nap yourself or do anything that needs done, or just enjoy a little time to yourself.
Seems like your new baby will be born in the same month as your current child. I found out I got prego when my daughter was 3 months old both my kids were born in May 2012 and 2013 I was not happy at first but it turned out to be learning contest between the two they’re best friends have a lot in common short time of diaper training short time in bottles and all the sane friends because they are 11 months couple weeks apart. Best accident ever.
All mine are just over a year apart 2 are 11 months apart there girl boy so close as kids and even closer as teens xx
You will be fine! Mine are 13 months apart, they are now 3&4 and the very best of friends. The first 12 months were tough. You basically have a baby already and add another into the mix. I feel like I neglected my older one a little as was breastfeeding her brother and my husband was working away a lot and no family help but they are both kind, affectionate and loving kids and I think as a mum you will always question if you do enough.
Try not to panic, it will be a tough pregnancy and you’ll be more exhausted than normal but you will survive.
My youngest 2 kids are now 13 & 12 (almost 14 & 13) and are 11 months apart in age. To add stress to that, my exhusband kicked us out on the street when the baby was 8 months old. I was a single mom of a 6 year old, a 19 month old & 8 month old. Looking back on it today… I would do it all over again. I have some pretty awesome kiddos. They can be best friends and worst enemies simultaneously (one boy, one girl). They shared a bedroom until age 5 & 6. It took a bit longer to bottle break my daughter because of the new baby and the life changes but I was able to potty train my son super early because he wanted to be “big” like his sister.
Something I haven’t seen mentioned above but I feel is important: Your body is still healing from your most recent pregnancy. Keep an eye on your abdominal muscles. I had an umbilical hernia that was a result of back to back pregnancies. Also, start doing extra kegel exercises now. Bladder control can become an issue due to close pregnancies as well. Also, PM me if you feel alone. You’re not!
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Mine are 16 and 18 months apart we had 3 under 3 for a while. It was rough but is doable they 3 yr old and 2 yr old are inseparable they are boy 3 and girl 2 they share a room right now as we just moved our 10 month old daughter to the “girls” room. Soon as I feel comfortable leaving the 2 yr old alone with her they will share a room. My son will have his own and my 9 yr old daughter has her own. We make it work not the richest but we both work and have found a great daycare we trust with our 3 littles. I will admit im ALWAYS stressed either by the kids or worrying about paying bills but I wouldn’t change it for anything
I have 2 sets of kiddo close together. My oldest are a year 3 weeks apart, and my youngest two are a year and a day apart. When it was just us and the oldest 2 we lived in a two bedroom apartment with the kids sharing a bedroom. We lived like that until they were 3 and 4 and I got pregnant with our third. Only then dod we upgrade. I wouldn’t change having them close together for the world!
I lived in a 2 bdrm house with my mother and 4 other siblings …it’ll all work out .
Life is crazy! But you know what the beginning is the hardest… when your baby wants you and your other baby wants you and needs you! My girls are 13 months apart and they fight non stop but they love eachother!!
I’ve got a 2 year old and 1 year old best thing I ever did and now where are trying for number 3! Xxx
I had my daughter in may she is 6 months old and I am 20 weeks pregnant!! They will be 11 months apart! xxx
My boys ( grown now) are 13.5 months apart. The older one was pissed off when first brought his brother home. I started asking him he if wanted to do things for his new baby and let him show the baby to visitors, it helped a lot! I was also very motivated to potty train early. God doesn’t give us anything we can’t handle. You will do great.
My oldest two girls are 15 1/2 months apart. I got pregnant again when my oldest was 6 months old. Some days they are the best of friends but other times they aren’t lol. But they are 10 & 11 now. When they were little they had a built in little playmate once the youngest could sit up. I don’t regret having them close together at all. They are a grade apart in school which is nice also.
My mom had three kids in 29 months. My sister and I are 19 days short of being a year apart. Growing up my mom raised us by herself by the time we were 3, 4 and 5 as dad left so we didn’t have alot of money but we had alot of love. My sister and I shared one birthday party so mom saved on money there. My sister and I were close growing up and my brother was our protector. I dont have kids myself but thought I would relate to you my experience of growing up with siblings born close together.
Take a deep breath! It will be okay! We are all going to laugh about this done day! Good luck with your babies!!
Your anxiety is normal. I had 3 boys-the first 2 are 18 months apart and the last one is 5 years behind the second one. It is trying at times but manageable. It all turns out just fine. Mine are now 26, 25 and 20. They are good friends and get along
With each other like all adult families. Good luck and take care. Enjoy the pregnancy and the lives you have created.
My 2 eldest are 18 months apart. Theyve always been very close and now at 21 and 20, are closer than ever before. I find a closer age gap is far easier to manage than a longer one. The relationship with my 2 younger ones at 11 and 8 is far trickier to manage
A quote that someone once told me, that really made me stop and think. “ God will not give you more than what you can handle”. This has been tested many times in my life but it really ended up being true.
Mine are 13 months apart too! I got pregnant about when my 1st baby was 3 months. They are now 2 and 1! Its a whirlwind and they keep me on my toes thats for sure! Sometimes its challenging because it’s like having twins but they are at different stages . Eating wise…potty training…even with what they play with…they have days where they like each other and days where they just want to wrestle and not share. Somedays its alot…but I wouldn’t change it for anything 
I was in the same boat mama! It will be ok
Mine are a year and 3 weeks apart, my daughter was a premiee. It had its hard times, 2 in mostly everything at the same time. But I wouldn’t change it.
My husband and his brothers are like that. Pregnant 3 months after the first and a month after the second. We got pregnant with our 2nd one week after our first ones 1st bday. Yeah, not gonna lie. It’s tough to manage two (or more) little ones at the same time. The biggest thing that helped us is we knew we wanted them close so they WOULD be close. They’re 21 & 19 now and best friends.
Hi I had all three of mine close J was 10mo. When got pregnant wit A and he was only 6mo when I got pregnant with L. It was great. Yes they fought sometimes as kids usually do, but all and all I wouldn’t change a thing. They are grown and although they all went their separate ways they are close and best friends. They can count on each other. It’s truly amazing.
I have 5 back to back… I found out I was prego with my 2nd at my six week appointment…and it just followed… it truly is the best thing… they grow up so tight together…I remember when I was prwgo with number 4 and I was scared how was I going to have enough love for another baby!! He came and my heart couldn’t love him anymore…you will see how amazing it is!! They are still stuck to each other mostly older middle 2 then the baby!! They are 8,9,10,11,12…enjoy when they are babies and don’t rush simple stuff like potty training getting them to sleep in there own bed. Your gonn turn around and they all gonna be grown!! You can do it!!
I have 3 my oldest will be 11 my 2nd is 20 months my 3rd is 5months.Some days I wanna pull all my hair out.My middle child is very needy mommas boy when my youngest crys he crys.But I wouldn’t trade it for the world
Irish twins my momma called this. It will be difficult and different but it’s doable. You will do very well once you wrap you mind around it. It’s a very big and scary surprise. I am praying for you.
It’s easier I think your already in mom mode and they entertain each other and if you teach them to be best friends it will be ok
My children are 10 months and 3 weeks apart. Had no problems. It was like they were twins. They helped each other and kept each other company their whole life.
They will be about 22 months apart. Mine were 22 months apart because my daughter was 3 months early weighing 2 lbs 2 ounces. She was in the hospital for 3 months. While we had not quite 2 year old brother at home. You will do fine with them. Have faith in yourself.
My babies are 14 months apart. Yes its kinda shocking for it to happen so soon again but I wouldn’t change it for anything.
I know people thats had Irish Twins “12 months apart or less” and they wouldn’t of went back and changed a thing. You will be fine.
ky first and secind 2343 16 abd a half months my 2nf and 3rd were 16 abd a half mos apart and 3rd abd 4th were 1 and a half mos apart and 4th and 5th were 1 abd a half mos apart abd when my 5th was 8wks old I was 3 wks along and lost babt bery close all were
BTW congratulations
Don’t stress about it, enjoy your blessings no need to make it a bad pregnancy. Just stay healthy and rest when you need it that should be your focus. Eat fruits and vegetables for energy and stay grounded. Listen to Solfeggio 9 healing frequencies while you sleep or during the day. Watch this itll help also!!
Well years ago I was pregnant every other 9 months so my kids were 3 2 and newborn I was very busy and broke with buying diapers and buying baby food and formula but I managed we all had a good time together watching Disney movies and playing with toys it takes all of your time I managed not worrying about wash or a super clean house I did it mostly at night or when they took their afternoon nap they grew up close and when school started the oldest gave tips to her sister about schoolwork and helped with homework she felt useful their now 30 29 and 28 still helping out each other with advice money or anything they need and their still close! I definitely didn’t worry about the small things and learned how to make things easier on me they had each had a blanket we would put that on the floor they ate lunch and snacks on that if anything got spilt or dirty just threw it in the wash no stress in cleaning up but I have to say all of my attention went to them ! Good luck I miss those times!
I found out i was pregnant with my son when my daughter was 4 months old. People mistake them for twins all the time. They were each others best friends growing up, they didnt want to be separated at all. Now they’re a little older (4 &5) and have their own friends, but still dont like to be away from each other for too long. If one spends the night somewhere the other asks when we can go pick them up. It will be hard having two in diapers but potty training is a little easier since you’re almost doing both at the same time.
I had twins and constantly felt like they ganged up on me but, they are now 26 yo and I wouldn’t change anything. It’s so worth it! Congratulations!
You Bernadette are a great Mother and we all know it, and did a great job raising your children,you my sister should feel very proud of yourself and your children ,I know I do.
Having close together will be a little bit harder, but also beneficial to some degree. When one is ready to transition say out of the toddler bed, then the next transitions up at the same time. I have heard it can make potty training them together easier. The younger picks up from the older and vice versa sometimes. It will just take some adjustment, but will be a blessing!
My first 2 are 14 months apart and I found it way easier than when my oldest to youngest…4 years between them. The best part is they can share a room, the second one learns quickly from the first…earlier potty training, talking, reading. The farther apart siblings fought a lot more growing up.
I had my kids exactly the same age apart except it was boys. It isn’t easy but its not impossible , you will get through it ! My attitude was ehhh whats one more and if you have another girl you can use all the cute stuff again!
You will be just fine. I have a 2& 1/2 yr old and 1 yr old. Its exhausting but its also so wonderful to watch them idolize each other like nobody else could 
they say it gets easier after 5 years old 
My first two were 1 year apart, I’m not gonna lie it was hard two diaper changes, a new baby and a toddler, toddler constantly trying to hold baby yeah, nope I would never do that again and then destiny said oh yeah twin toddler and new baby there you go lol … but this time it’s not bad whether age has something to do with it or not, I’m so busy that covid has no time in my books for me.
My brother and sister are the same age for 5 days. My brother wasn’t even one when my sister was born. I was 2 1/2 and my older sister was 4. My mom was a saint. Dad was deployed off and on with the Navy most of those years. 
We are all a very close family even today. It can work if you do it right.
My two youngest are 13-months apart. When we brought her brother home…she thought he was a doll and wanted to immediately hold him. I did get to spend time with him because I was breast feeding him…the rest of the time - my daughter was right there to make sure he was okay. As toddlers - they stuck together like twins…even in Head Start.
Actually mine were great friends. My older actually gave up his binky and ba for the new baby. Easiest transition out of all mine.
Hi! My first two are 10 months apart and my next set is 7 months apart (we adopted and had a baby in one year)!! Your not alone! It has its hard moments but is worth it!
My boys where 2 weeks shy of exactly 2 years apart. They are now 29and 31 years old. I thought it was great during their toddlers years, they had someone to play work always. And in elementary and middle school years, was pretty good too. They shared a lot of the same friends. They seemed to be very different now in how each lives now. But as for me as a mom and how hard it was at times but always thankful they had each other.
My two oldest are 10 months and 12 days apart… they are 19 and 20 years old now… but I remember! During a pandemic does make it scary, so prayer and meditation would be my advice for that. Having two close together was hard and I was very tired and I had some bad days… but you will have many many many more great days! It’s an amazing experience! We were surprised as well, but I wouldn’t change it for anything! They are still best of friends and are living together while they are in college. They never knew life without each other and are so close, almost like twins. My mom says it’s Irish twins… or twins the hard way lol they will always have a friend and a playmate. You will be pushed further than you thought and you will have an amazing journey raising your babies close like that!! Congratulations mama!!!
My boys are 11.5 months apart, they shared their first Christmas together they are 14 & 15 now. It was a lot of work when they were young, but I had the support of my husband and family to help me out. I would definitely seek the help of a therapist to help you mentally along your journey. good luck mama, it’s worth it in the end
Yep! My kiddos are 14 months apart. It feels like a complete whirlwind but they are 7/8 now and once they were a bit older it was so fun!!! Definitely feels intimidating but it evens out for sure. They like the same shows and toys and can play together!!
Its not easy but its worth it!! My younger two are 11months and 21 days apart. For about a week they are the same age. My son is 8-17 and my daughter is 8-10. I love it
I have two that 10mths apart they are 13 n 12 then I have a 7 yr old 6 yr old n 5 yr old some days its nice n wonderful others days i want to pull my hair out bc they fight with each other all day but I wouldn’t trade any of it
I had one child in January of 1996, then had one in November of that year. It was hard when they were babies, but now they are really close as adults.
My girls are 1 year and 26 days apart. Both October babies. I honestly wouldn’t have it any other way! They play together and can wear each other’s cloths. It’s nice.
My sister and I are 16 months apart and we are best friends! I think it’s good because we had the same experiences around the same time, and since we’re close, we always have each other to talk to. Also my sister and I shared a room till I was a senior in high school, and we grew closer bc of that I think.
Mother of 6 here. My youngest two children were both born in 2007. My daughter was born in January 2007 and my son in December 2007. This wasn’t exactly planned either. Have faith that everything will turn out fine! Look at the bright side! Every baby is a blessing. It will be ok. You’ll already have a lot to get started from the first baby. You can do this.
Sometimes having siblings close together is a good thing the closet they are in age you can potty train both children
There’s 4 of us all from 10 months to 12 months apart. Its so fun
My middle two children are 10 months and 10 days apart. You got this mama! 
They’re now 14. Everyone thinks they’re twins and they hate it 
My boys are 16 months apart and have been mostly friends except when those teenage hormones kicked in but they grew up being best of friends they were in scouting from first grade til 12 th both are Eagle Scouts ofcourse as their mom there were days I thought I was going crazy but it was all worth it and I would do it again there is nothing as special as your boys dancing with you in the kitchen while helping you cook
Just know they grow up fast so enjoy the ride you will miss it one day I know I do
I’m not a mama of close age kids but me and my brother are exactly 13 months apart my mom’s says it wasn’t the hardest being we had schedules but I will say that my brother is my best friend and we grew so close being that close in age and we have an unbreakable bond. So you will have that to look forward to
My mom got pregnant with me right after she had my sister my sister was born August 20 1997and I was born a September 16th 1998
Me and my sister are close have always had each other’s backs and my mom wasn’t the richest but she had 4 children
I think it will be great you got this momma
A friend of my had a similar event. Now all these many years later , it appears it was the best thing that ever happened to her.
The girls are adults now and not only are they sisters , they are the best of friends!