Please talk to an attorney, he/she can advise you on yours and his rights.
Child support and alimony
l get paid over $110 per hour working from home. l never thought Iâd be able to do it but my buddy makes over $15810 a month doing this and she convinced me to try. The possibility with this is endless.
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Wish Iâd known that womenâs income traditionally go down and men;s go up! Left myself and children way too impoverished considering his income and our assets. Listen to your lawyer!
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Call a family lawyer. Donât ask random gossiping opinions that are bored. This is your life. Not a soap opera. So donât turn it into one or he will run you through the ringer and be in the right. Erase this post and call a lawyer.
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Get a lawyer instead of asking advice here.Every state has their own divorce laws.
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It takes two take the kids into account,if you donât need for them put in savings account when single things break and heâs gonna have another person lickety split and forget about his first family,my brother was a good man but when second wife came along his first four children were neglected,he did pay support just was never there for rhem
I see why men are so against getting married. Why are we like unable to make our own money or something?? Why do you have to take literally half of everything he has or earned? Maybe itâs just cause Iâm a single mom of ttwo and Iâve never received a penny of child support even though there is a case against my bd. He works under the table when he does work and never paid a cent. I would never get married with the intention to take half of everything if things didnât work out I wouldnât even get married unless I didnât think there would be an end to us at all! Not trying to disrespect op just saying all of societyâs ideology that women are ENtitled to half of everything is just ridiculous in my opinion. Iâve been making my own money since I was 16. I have worked as many as 2/3 jobs while being a single mom. I just donât understand where allll the expectation and entitlement comes from these days. All of you receiving child support. Good for you. But there are plenty of us that donât receive anything and we make sure our kids are taken care of. Just saying
Not here to argue probably wont even see your reaponse
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Do no contest divorce if you have already decided on everything. But have everything in writing.
Talk to an attorney.
If you make more money than he does, you will be paying alimony. Thatâs why I kept my mouth shut about it. Plus he can take half of your pension or visa versa. The children can still stay on his medical benefits.
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Plus you should file for custody of the kids before he does. Although the kids are old enough to decide who they want to live with.
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Man, the amount of blood sucking house wives in here is unsettling.
We donât even know the reason for the divorce.
get a good divorce attorney and they will help you with all your options, good luck!
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Well usually spousal support is for like a stay at home mother who depending on there husbands income to survive or so i thought
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And are used to a certain life style and by divorcing they wonât have the same
Some states no longer do alimony
If youâre a guy in a divorce youâll get SCREWED!!
Go live your life, you are full time , you keeping the home and as long as he helps take care of the kids and they are still on his health insurance plan thatâs all you need. No need for the headache and the mess
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Yes get what you can plus his retirement fund too.
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Definitely get a lawyer. Donât do this alone because he may later on not do whatâs court ordered Your entitled to half of his 401 k. Make him keep insurance and get child support. Not sure about alimony. That depends on your state laws. Keep house , car and belongings in the house. All this has to be written down a certain way thatâs why itâs important to have a lawyer involved
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You do you, what ever you can live with. Or without. Everyone has opinions but unless they know your situation they are all irrelevant đ¤ˇ
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Talk to an attorney some of these issues may vary by state.
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Your lawyer is in charge.
l get paid over $110 per hour working from home. l never thought Iâd be able to do it but my buddy makes over $14863 a month doing this and she convinced me to try. The possibility with this is endless.
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A lot depends on what state you live in alao
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Ask for kids to stay on his health care plan. Work out custody.ask lawyer what things you can ask for concerning your children. Shared expense like college ,etc? Its good to ask.
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50/50 my dear - and yes support & health insurance - it is your right
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You need a lawyer, not FB. Every state has itâs own laws and guidelines. Only ppl who know your state can be of counsel.
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You have your money he has his. If you know you have a place to live and your kids do as well, why spend either of your money on divorce lawyers or the battle with courts and fees and such, that is sooo much money. Why not come to an agreement with your kids about what their wishes are to live, visit, etc. And actually joint parent? Why should the way your parented in the home be different just because itâs 2 homes now⌠your morals, rules, expectations, etc should still be important and would highly benefit your kids to not drag them through a already rough time.
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These are questions for a lawyer, not Facebook.
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You need a lawyer and a court date, Facebook canât help you here you get what the court order says you get!
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See an attorney for the best advice
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l get paid over $110 per hour working from home. l never thought Iâd be able to do it but my buddy makes over $15463 a month doing this and she convinced me to try. The possibility with this is endless.
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Go half on everything!
It all depends on if heâs being negotiable or if itâs going to get messy, especially for that 401k. As far as spousal support idk if youâd qualify for it since youâve been working, again idk the whole process of how it works.
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Get as much as you can. Not because of greediness. Itâs for your kids. Kids are expensive and with inflation now, more. Plus, divorce doesnât take away the responsibility of being the father so heâs financially responsible for them until they are of age. I understand your nervousness. I was shitting bricks when I made my decision but it had to be done. I am a single mom and sole provider per say (do have child support). Get spousal support if you can. Otherwise, compromise no spousal support if something arises. In Texas, it is his responsibility to cover health insurance for the kids, but you gotta watch out. Some guys stop working and change jobs and drop insurance and your kids will be without health insurance until they get another or you get it. It happened to me. All situations are different. You should base it on how much you know him and can trust him. As long as you do all for your children from heart, thatâs all that matters.
Spousal support half of 401k plan alimony child support until kids finish college and medical for kids and keep the mobile home
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Since you work you wonât get spousal support. Do you own the moble home or does he own it? Was mobile home bought before you got married? Whomever owned it before marriage is who it will go to. If you bought it together and you want to keep it in most cases you may have to give him half of the cost of purchase price. If kids are under 18 depending on what state youâre in will depend on how much child support youâll get. Best thing to do is talk to a divorce attorney
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l get paid over $110 per hour working from home. l never thought Iâd be able to do it but my buddy makes over $17014 a month doing this and she convinced me to try. The possibility with this is endless.
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You are entitled to half his 401 k.
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You need to discuss this with your lawyer.
If the mutual decision was for you not to work or if he made considerably more Iâd ask for spousal support along with child support. Also ask for him to help pay for college, trade school or other training for your kids.
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Split all medical expenseâs till kids are 18, child support, keep the house.
I would see your attorney but you should be able to get a portion of his 401k and may be spousal support.
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I mean you could ask him if you can stay on the plan and maybe you just pay separately for your portion of the health insurance, but I donât know if thatâs allowed with the policy considering they would have to be a dependent essentially. So you would have to ask him the specifics. But as far as spousal support, I wouldnât. Since youâre already full-time employed, thatâs kind of unnecessary because a judge is going to look at it as if youâre working. Why should you be awarded spousal support and youâre going to keep the house So you could ask, but frankly I donât think a judge would give it to you. However, since youâve been married for a certain amount of time, you might be entitled to a portion of his 401k
Iâm sorry why would you stay on HIS insurance? Why would you get any of HIS 401k? Why would you need spouse support?
You freaking work correct? The only thing he should be required is child support, insurance for his kids, and help with his kids.
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34 years? Wow⌠marriage counseling not a go? Divorce means a clean break⌠if the kids are over 18 then he doesnât need to provide child care⌠but he should if he still caresâŚ
Talk to an attorney. Donât go cheap either. Get local recommendations for a local attorney
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How greedy do you want to be?
Dont ask facebook ask a lawyer
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You can do a legal separation and still stay on his plan.
People laughing at this post, Iâm shocked, 1 . You dont know if the marriage ended nicely, 2. You dont know if he cheated etc shes asking advice because she has spent her life with this man and has kids personally this man what ever has happened should make sure his kids and her are looked after properly especially if he has a massive income, 34 years is a long time in sorry your marriage came to an end
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Half the 401k is yours. Depending on who makes what he may be forced to pay alimony for ten years.
Get a good attorney.
Take your half of any money out of the bank before.
Give the record of it to your attorney.
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First, you need a lawyer, 2nd, if you make more then him you arenât getting alimony. 2nd,he make petition for the kids. Not as cut and dry as you think.
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You should try to maintain a civil friend ship with your soon be ex, to discuss matters related to the teens. All other matters should be discussed with your lawyer.
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This entire thing is ridiculous to me she fucking works full time and is keeping the house and kids does she not have a 401k or savings of her own. Iâll never understand why itâs ok for a women to just take everything a mans worked for and just fine fucking encouraged actually. I understand if she was a stay at home parent needing spousal support but a man shouldnt be fucking condemned and financially fucking raped for being a man. She worked full time too and sheâs getting the fucking house like men deserve to be able to survive financially after a divorce or shouldnât destroy his fucking life just because they fell out of love THEY being the key fucking word. She had just as much time to save money as he did and if she didnt thatâs on her for not using her voice and saying I want savings too.
Google what you need to do before or during a divorce. There are list that will help you. Also look up your laws for your state. What ever you do do not give up his social security, it may be more then yours , or anything can happen between now and then you may need his instead of yours.
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You should get your own plan unless heâs in agreement with the divorce
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Do you plan on 50/50 custody ? If so then why the child support ? You say you had invested 34 years in to the marriage like itâs a property but so has your husband ??? If he pays child suport wouldnât that mean you have to put health insurance for the kids ? It would be pretty out ragout of you to seek spousal support when you donât need it. If you want everything financially from a relationship but not the relationship you need therapy
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Make sure you have him at least pay for half of college costs depending on what happened if not all! You should get maintenance for at least 7 years! I worked too part time. Unless laws have changed?
Child support! You are entitled to his pension unless you waive your right? Donât! Youâll be okay! 
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Your entitled to his retirement. Make sure to get half. Same goes on yours. Go for all of it. Child support and spouse support. If you own a home sell it and split the money. If one wants to keep it then they can buy out the other. Get an appraisal. You wonât be able to stay on his insurance after your divorced. Get a good attorney. Moods always change during this.
Laws vary by state. Get an attorney.
Spouse support depends on what State you live in. If you live in a no-fault State, the divorce can occur for any reason and you canât get alimony. Also, itâs unusual to be allowed to remain on his insurance once you are divorced. The courts will usually order him to insure the children, but not you. The court will decide who gets the family home. You may get to keep it if he doesnât object. If he fights you for it, the judge may decide in your favor if you get custody of the kids. Or the judge could order it sold and the profit divided between you, depending on how much is still owed on the mobile home. As for his 401K, you can ask for part of it, but since you already have separate finances, I wouldnât count on getting it. Thatâs something to ask your lawyer. The amount of child support depends on how much each of you make. If he makes a lot more than you do, that will be reflected in the amount of child support. It depends on the State. Some States are pretty persnickety. They seem to soak men. Again, I wouldnât count your chickens before theyâre hatched. Your ex-husband-to-be may want custody of the kids. If theyâre teens, they may have some say-so in who they live with. He may get them, or you could each get one. Or you could get joint custody, depending on how far apart you end up living and where their school is in relation to where you both live. It may not be as easy as you think. Find out from the kids what they want as far as living arrangements. Then make your plans accordingly. I hope this has been helpful. In most States, an uncontested divorce where everything has been agreed upon are usually final 60 days from the date they are filed. Using a lawyer is expensive, but advisable because paperwork is a headache with forms and filing fees and so forth. Plus if he gets cute and wants to wiggle out of something he agreed to, you donât have to argue with him. Thatâs what you paid the lawyer for.
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1/2 his 401k. Child support through college. Plus 1/2 their expenses an spouse support unless you make more then him. Then he might could ask for it
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Half the 401k. Child support. Keep the kids on his plan. You carry on own. If your working full time SS probably wonât happen.
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Ask for
- to claim kids on taxes
- full custody
- to ask dad to provide health/medical/ eye vision ins until completed college
- to provide child support until graduated from college
- if in Tx you have the right to spousal support
- you can NOT be insured by him if divorced
- every 3 yrs you can ask for eval his income to raise child /spousal support.
34 years is a lot to start over from!
Get everything you can get from him and yes he pays child support and if they go to college make him pay .
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You can take half of it all but I would split everything fairly. His pension gets split with yours. Will spousal support really define helping make you survive on your own or you just want it because your âentitledâ to it. Not trying to be snarky but all these comments of make him pay this and that is crazy. Itâs a two way street. Do your best to help each other in the divorce. In the long run it may just help teach your kids something. Men get screwed over so much, even the good ones. And yes I have been divorced and didnât take everything. So speaking from some experience.
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Being a female a lot of u are Greedy u work why canât u support your self why take what he worked for sorry if it was your 401k and stuff would u give him half ? I just walked out after 22 years yes itâs hard to start over but why take him to the cleaners sorry not sorry thatâs whatâs wrong with woman today they just want money
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Ask for everything u want can get
You cannot stay on his insurance plan but you can ask the the children do. Alimony largely depends on the state you are in. I was told that I would not be able to seek alimony because with child support it brought our incomes to about even. Even though he makes almost triple what I do. You have to decide on a visitation schedule for holidays. And most of the time that looks like you have the for Easter in even years he has them for Easter in odd years. You have them Christmas Eve in even year and Christmas Day in odd years and he get them Christmas Day in even years and Christmas Eve in odd years. For primary custody depending on the age of the children the court may let the children decide who to live with. If you are now goi g to be the sole provider have it written into the divorce document that you retain the right to claim the children on your taxes. Also he pays half of all medical bills and extracurricular activities. If you have more than one vehicle then you should seek to keep one. Pretty much the lawyer will have you list out anything of value and you will have to disclose any and all income and debts. You should also get half of his retirement plan.
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You provided the time for that 34year old 401k I think your entitled to half since you also work.
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Take all youâre entitled to. Being a martyr does your children no favors. They deserve the same quality of life theyâre used to regardless of which parent theyâre living with
Go to a lawyer and ask him or her these questions!! Then make up your mind and Do It!
I started over after a 32 year marriage. Best thing I ever did and should have left way sooner. You can do it and ask for anything that an attorney says you are entitled to.
1-Alimony/maintenance
2-Child support until kids are out of college
3-Split all 401k/retirement accounts (QDRO)
4-college tuition for the kids or at least 1/2
5-medical, dental, vision for the kids until they are out of college
6-credit card debt if he ran up any and you can prove that it was HIS spending
If like me and you stayed way too long, you will be sooo much happier when he is gone, good luck!
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Get a lawyer to advise
You should get some of that 401k for the time you were with him!
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How about getting some legal advice, as opposed to getting opinions!!!
Iâm sry to hear this.but you need to.ask a lawyer not face book dear
Sounds like you just want his money.
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You want half of everything even his cpp if he made more then youâŚalso ask to stay o his benefitsâŚchild support, spousal support⌠part of his retirement ⌠an the list gose on your lawyer will help you with this
Youâre keeping the house and you still want half of everything? Jesus. No wonder they say women benefit from divorce more than men.
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