My kids are August babies, two were born on the same date but two years apart. My first was born the day before. So I have 3 birthdays in a two day time frame. We just celebrated all three the same day rather than have 3 separate parties so close together.
I hated sharing my birthday with my sister. I turned 16 & she was 9. Never had my own party until I turned 50! My middle sister who is 14 months younger than me threw me a 50th birthday party!!! It was fun!!!
My sister and I were 3 years and 1 day apart. Growing up we always celebrated together! No one got cranky about it we just enjoyed it!
My oldest and youngest are a day apart. We started on the first birthday and continued to the next. I call them my bookends
You can do a joint birthday but let them each have their own favourite themed cake & blow their own candles.That way they will feel their individual preferences were considered.Kids find joy in simple things.
Maybe just get a cake for your one year old and invite some family and let your 8 yr old decide what she wants to do. The difference in age is to big to have them share a birthday. My 2 girls usually share a birthday but they are only a week apart but they have been asking if they can celebrate seperately since they are getting older
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Sounds like me all my kids bdays are in august. I tried doing shared parties it quite frankly never ended well. So I always celebrate each individual birthdays even if its hard on the wallet I make it work so my kids have one day all about them.
I am from 10-14. My oldest son is from 10-4 and the younger from 10-7. I have ALWAYS taught them to be responsible for their own actions; and, I gave them their own parties…
Oh no! Poor girl! But as long as you make it a point to separate her birthday from her siblings I’m sure she will be just fine. 
Me and three of my cousins all have birthdays at the beginning of June (all in succession within 6yrs) and I can’t even count how many joint parties we had. 
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My younger two girls birthdays are a week apart. I just celebrate their birthdays on two separate weekends.
I think with great age difference they should be separate. I too have three children in the month of October. We just celebrate 3xs.
All my kids have December birthdays.
My boys have similar tastes so getting a theme they both like is easy, and then my daughters birthday party is at the end of the month or some time in January. But we don’t have parties every year. We make their actual day special and fun, and they get their favorite meal and dessert and pick the activities for the day. At one my kids didn’t care what was going on as long as they got cake, lol.
Have separate parties in the backyard. One for the youngest and make it special bc of 1 at birthday. But then also do one that is themed the way ur oldest wants.
I have boys with birthdays a day apart and we always had joint parties on one day then on their actual birthdays, we did their own cakes and we did a “whatever you wanna do” day.
Maybe I’m out of the loop, but why do they need a whole month? It’s a birthDAY. Make that day special. You can’t really do a big party because of covid, and the baby is turning 1, so they won’t remember. Have a fun day, some cake and ice cream and favorite meal, some gifts and make it about them.
My SD13 & BS3 are 10 years, 3 days apart. They’re celebrations have always been separate. My sister & I are 4 days apart and always had joint celebrations. I didn’t want either of mine to feel less special, so we celebrate separately. Also, I’ll add they’re in December…17th & 20th. Bc December isn’t busy enough🤪 lol I don’t sleep much that month, but everyone is celebrated & Christmas is separate too!
Birthdays are just that…birthDAYS not birth MONTHS. Celebrate each separately but maybe have a single decor item ie banner that stays up for all of them. In my family, I am a twin so never had my own birthday. I have a sister born May 10, a sister born May 13 and a sister born May 25. My twin and I are born April 21. My parents had a banner that stayed up for the entire time LOL People who came over wondered why we were decorated for so long 
I had almost the sane situation my two are 9 years apart
We had a family celebration during the day celebrating both girls and allowed our nine year old a slumber party with her friends that night sounds like a lot of work but the girls really entertained themselves - a fun movie pizza and treat bags with 99 cent store favors, done
I have two October babies two years apart . We do one party . On their actual day I make sure to let it be special for that child at home . Parties are just too expensive these days to do two!
I know this isn’t the same but my mother’s best friend’s youngest child and me were 16 hours apart, different days. He obviously wasn’t my brother but we were up really close to his family’s. We always had to drink parties together with our families, and that was really fun. Then we had different parties too for our individual friends. I will say he has passed now, and I miss those days
My oldest is 10 yrs older then my middle. Their birthdays are 9 days apart. My oldest doesnt mind at all. We still do separate cakes and they get to pick their sep dinners on their birthday they get their gifts from us. But they always share a party. Never was a problem. They had their friends over and family and everyone had fun. 🤷 now they are about to be 8 and 18 in a week. They still love sharing a birthday! And when my middle baby is older they will love it then too… I also have a niece who is right in the middle, and 2 nephews days later and then a neice and a nephew just less then 2 weeks after that. Birthday sharing has always been a thing. And its awesome as we have done family camp outs for their birthday a few times and everyone loves it.
4 of my kids are July 14, 20, 28th and 30th. On their bdays they get the meals of their choice and one big party with all the family and a cake on their bday… so much cake!
So I’m in the EXACT same situation, my oldest will be 11 on 10/4, and my 4th will be 1 on 10/9!! So my daughter has agreed to skip the party, and do a small friend event (bowling, sleepover, movie, something like that if it’s allowed), and let the youngest ‘take over’ the party. But she knows the family will still give her cards/gifts and be there for her as well. But the party will be themed for baby boy.
We do joint birthdays…i have 5 kiddos and out of those 5, 3 kids in January. Daughter will be 21 the 10th, son will be 14 the 12th and other son will be 18 the 14th lmao…other kids are may and july…they each have their own choice of dinner and cake on their day and family comes over with presents
Do it together just give each their own cake and gifts of course. I did this for years and sometimes still do because my son’s bdays are around the holidays a couple weeks apart.
I would ask her what she would like and if she would be ok with sharing her birthday. As a big sister she already has to share so much of her life and things.
As my boys got older they asked for separate parties a couple of times. But then went back to together parties.
Your older child was here first … she’s had several birthdays now that she can remember …
That being said , she’ll be getting a brand new experience , what does she have in mind for her celebration? … including her thoughts for what she thinks the baby might want getting the conversation going may help …
All my kids are born within a 27 day period theres 3 there is no way I can afford 3 bdays in that time so they are all going to get a joint one each kid will pic a theme(minus the one that will be 1 next year) they will each get a cake of that theme. Next year they will be 1, 6, and 12 lol but on their actual bday I bake a cake Nd serve it
I have 6 kids with the oldest 3 being July, August, September. Then I have twins, and my youngest in November. For the twins, I always do two separate cakes with whatever they pick. We don’t do big parties. It’s just a small family get together, but they decide what foods we have. I decorate for both according to whatever they want. So basically we do it the same day, but separate. With my older kiddos, they usually pick a day to celebrate, but we do the same thing. Each child gets their own theme, cake, decor, food choices, and invites.
I’d personally do one big party if your having family over. Let the older pick the themes but you know get some “1” balloons and babies first birthday signs. And one cake, again let the oldest pic. I did a jello cake for when my son turned one. Cheap and easy to make and then I gave it to him to destroy while we ate a cake my sister brought. And then on their actual birthdays get some a special outfit, maybe desert for breakfast or let them pick a place for dinner. Again this benefits the oldest more this year but wouldn’t be a bad tradition to stick to
While they are sleeping blow up balloons and put them in the birthday kid’s room…if more than one kid shares a room kind of tape them around the bed so when they wake up they will have a balloon surprise (use the # of balloons for the kid’s age…8 yrs old gets 8 balloons, 1 year old gets one balloon. Have a birthday dinner plate that is only for the birthday person…we used a RED plate so each meal the birthday kid has at home on his birthday he gets the red plate. Finding out what the kid wants and make sure they get something they want and take lots of pictures. Put a big sign out in the back yard saying Happy Birthday with balloons tied to it. Just doing special things for the birthday kid. Happy Birthday everybody!
I would ask the oldest if she wouldn’t mind have a joint party. I did a combined party for my two one year and they had so much fun. We even got the Peppa Pig cake with both names Peppa and baby George…which is great because my daughter is oldest and son youngest. But on their individual bdays we also celebrated with the gifts and cake. That year I didn’t get them a gift at the party since they got so much from others. So we did it on their day.
NEVER HAVE A JOINT PARTIES we 5 aug b-days and 5 in oct we let the kids all pick what day they want to have ther special day on some times it works out on there actual birthday and some times its the day before or a couple days after
At our house we do something special (just immediate family) on their actual bday…things like whatever they want for dinner, if they want to go to chucky cheese, bowling or whatever they want, within reason. Then we have a party at an earlier/later date. I always decorate the night before their bday so they wake up to balloons & streamers and we sing happy bday at the exact time they were born.
You and your husband could take her for a special dinner, no other siblings aloud. Make it a little fancier than somewhere you would normally go. I had this same situation and my son felt so grown up to have a nice dinner with just mom and dad. We let him order whatever he wanted on the menu including a fancy drink and a dessert. Now it’s a tradition we do for all or our kids on their birthdays.
My oldest two are summer babies a month apart so we always do joint party. We also make sure their day is all about them where they want to eat and things like that.
I like DeAnna Ward idea. With this being your youngest 1st birthday which is special in itself. Maybe have 2 parties or if you can only do one, have the babies early ( before nap time) then flow into the oldest ones. (I would suggest a sleepover but with covid that would be hard. )
My 2nd born and youngest are 1 Day (although she gets it down to minutes he was 10:29pm and she was 1:04am) shy of 12 years apart. She (2nd born) is 10/28/06 youngest is 10/27/18… We did a joint party for them. She invited friends and they each had separate cakes. All my kids but one are super close in dates (sept, oct and nov… Then a feb) so I let the birthday kid choose supper, where they want to go or what they want me to make on their day and usually my parents come over that day too so it’s more special
We have 4 August birthdays. On the day of the kid picks dinner and has a cake or dessert and on one day we have a family birthday party.
How about a Halloween party for all the kids birthdays. You could still have a small birthday party on the day of their birthday and instead of cake each mini birthday could feature something other than cake like one birthday apple pie. One pumpkin or one cupcakes and then at the Halloween party you can have a huge cake for all of the birthday kids
My oldest (also turning eight) and my youngest (also turning one) share a birthday. Both born April 2nd. I just throw one party the weekend before their birthday and one party the weekend after and alternate who gets which weekend every year.
2 of mine are 5 days apart.
They get spoilt in their own days and yes we do joint parties. I live 2 1/2 he’s from family so 2 parties isnt doable.
Ones a boy, one a girl… So we divide the room into 2, straight down the middle.
One side decorated for her and one side for him (eg. Last year was unicorn and the flash).
They don’t have a problem with joint parties, never once have complained as long as they get their choice of theme
The 1 yr old doesnt care. Too early too worry about it. Make your 8 year.old special 1 yr old can have her own personal cake with candle and destroy.
We have 8 kids, 4 April birthdays. Have seperate parties or the 8yr old will be hurt. Its their individual special days
Does a 1yr old even care abut themes etc? I have 4vkids, i think 1st bday is whatever parents want…id have 2 separate cakes for sure…
While the little one is unaware, have that party a few weeks after or before. My sister does that all the time because she has 6 kids and some too close to holidays. My niece does too.
I have 2 boys that are 4 days shy of being 7 years apart. One will be 14 this year and the other 7. We always to a cake for there day and then one big party, but since its combined we are willing to spend a little more. So we usually go to a water park with family and a couple friends. This year they decided they want to rent a big water slide and they both can invite all the friends they want and family. I just asked my oldest who is very open, he says he has always been fine with it with a combined birthday.
You can do some kind of fall or Halloween theme. Maybe for the baby you can do “Our Lil Pumpkin is turning 1” and Halloween Party with costume contest for the oldest or you can do any number of themes of whatever they’re interested in. I have done SO many different themes for my kids over the years. We’ve done a western theme with pony rides and literally a million other things. What is the oldest into?
Well the one year old won’t care worry about the older one who.will
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I have a girl and boy born three years apart and that birthdays are one week from each other. I let them pick out their themes and make cupcakes for each theme and have decorations for each theme. This past year ot was a Ariel and spiderman mash up.
I think if these will be mainly family celebrations with a few friends, one party would be great… just make sure you get separate cakes
2 of my kids are 2 weeks and some years apart, I did a joint party one time, because of circumstances never again! They need their own day!
I’m telling me in the one-year-old is not going to care. they like playing with gift wrap, boxes, tissue paper, so the one-year-old will definitely enjoying a birthday party with what the toys are in sometimes they don’t even play with their toys the whole birthday party lol there so busy with all the other stuff. I would just have a girls girly day, nails, hair, a friend over, movies, board game, crafts whatever she wants to do. of course all of her favorite snacks and foods. baby sister what have fun watching everybody celebrate. but I would do each individual birthday cake on their own birthdays!! you can celebrate together but I would have their own cake and their own song on their own day.
My kids are 5 years apart. Always had a duel party. One year I had a Caterpillar of cupcakes and a butterfly cake for my oldest. All sorts of family can come rather than having two parties a few weeks apart.
We did a princess party for my daughter were all the girls dressed up in dresses.and she had a sleep over we did a princess cake.And all the girls had fun.
Depending on how this pandemic goes you can maybe do a spa day with her and let them both have a bday party on the same day but maybe also let her have a sleepover after the party
Can you have a combined party and then do something special with the older child alone? My kids are 9 days apart so that’s what I have always done. Even if it’s just a special meal or movie or something. It’s a lot harder now when you don’t have the option of going out anywhere, but the baby probably goes to sleep earlier so maybe a fun movie night or special dinner or breakfast just for her?
It’s going to be difficult but I think she really needs her own party. It’ll make her feel special.
You’ll probably be getting them both birthday outfits, right? Take your oldest daughter shopping with you so she can pick out her outfit and, as “big sister”, she can help you pick out the younger daugher’s outfit.
My daughter is 6 days before her nephew and we have two party’s one for each so they don’t feel left out they each have their own day
Do a princess party if they are both girls otherwise have dad do the boy stuff and you do the girl. Then have them both have a small cake with a big one for everyone else.
We had s son on the 30th and his first 2 were born on the 6th and the 11th. Carving or painting pumpkins is fun. Even your little one could help pull out the seeds to bake pumpkin seeds. We stuffed and made our own scarecrow. A bouquet of sunflowers would be a nice centerpiece. For my Grankids birthdays we tye dyed shirts. You can do old shirts or dollar store shirts in all sizes. My son tested a 2nd heart shirt for me. I wore out the old one.
I do joint birthdays for my girls 2-4 now ,always have cause there both in January lol.
Have a costume party that all can participate in and do separate cakes , u can have a hay jump get some hay bales, make a jump in middle,.omg I love Oct bdays, ask me i have lots of ideas, maybe even get someone to dress up as then4 year old fav characters
The 1 year old wont remember any of it so do a small cake for that one and do most of it for your 8 year old. We do bdays at our home anyways with dollar tree decorations lol but go all out on a few gifts and cake …kids love it every year
Have separate parties for each of them … there’s no other way the older one won’t feel left out if you have a joint party you can do a theme based on the older ones favorite colors or places & have a bbq birthday for the younger one
Looking into corona situation…go for a virtual birthday party theme of kids choice
No advice, all seven of mine are in different months but the fact that you care enough to worry about this at all says you are a terrific mom & stepmom.
My son birthday on 14th December and I am on 7rh December he loves it.then its 11 days till Christmas I do his birthday separate from Christmas.
Two small celebrations. I was born on Dec. 22 with a twin sister. I always felt insignificant. Just two nights. Let them each choose the meals, two little cakes, and a present. Joint celebrations make children feel less than special.
I’d say one celebration, on the closest weekend, but each gets to open a special gift on their actual day and choose what they want for dinner. 
This year with COVID-19, you probably won’t be able to have people over anyway. 
just remember, the 8 year olds going to remember a lot more than the one year old. Also I would just have to separate parties. Even if you don’t want to have a big party for the eight-year-old of maybe a small one with a couple of her friends to social distancing is relax by then. Kids are resilient, and the fact that you care goes a long way
Birthday party for both together. But maybe let her pick out a restaurant to go eat dinner or something on another day
when I started at OPD we had to work a relief shift … 2 dog watch…2 3rd watch and a day watch all in one week …
I agree let her help plan the party so she feels special maybe buy her her own cake don’t have to a large one
My brother and I were 2 days and two years apart we always had separate
My youngest son turns 10 on the 25th aug and my youngest daughter turns 9 on the 23rd august … Ive always done a joint on the 24th
Get the house to yourself for several hours, hide their presents in their room, fill the room with a ridiculous amount of balloons like 150 or more, cover the floor. Make it a race to find all the presents, record the chaos! The sheer absurdity of it will make it memorable, it’s cheap, and just for them. Bonus is they’ll even enjoy popping the balloons for you. Guaranteed success.
My oldest and youngest are 4 days apart I have one the weekend before and the other the weekend after that way they feel special and we aren’t eating cake real real close usually one wants a ice cream cake
Unicorn party…unicorn cakes-glitter-everything pink and blue. You could also just have your 1 year old party and tell your oldest to pick 4 friends. They can sleep over watch movies have pizza. It will make her feel big
Why not do like a fall carnival type party with games and bobbing for apple and apple cyder I think that would be awesome for both ages
Do just one thing make separate cakes for both , if u want some theme then make different tables with different colour themes . Add introduction board for 1-year and dream board for eight years ace them on their sides .
What about a joint party for all of them. Being Oct do like pumpkins and foods for fall w hot choc and cider. Some fall outside fun games like old fashioned ones. We did a Pioneer party for all our kids one fall w bdays combined. Make like a really fin out doors game then sere cup cakes and make so many in each childs fav color. Get small pumpkins and make a little pumpkin patch the kids can go pick their own pumpkin out and maybe let them paint them. We made an area we roped off and hid bags of choc coins in burlap bags the kids dig for gold. They could each only get one so every guest had a chance to find one. If you have wheel barrows you could do wheel barrow races.Foods you could serve chili corn bread, salads or veggie tray, chips , make some candy apples and give out a ticket for each child that won a game and particapted for a candy apple. We had a riding lawn mower and a trailor we put quilts down at the end and gave kids a rode. You could also let the kids come dressed up as what ever they want or a certian theme. Then the day of each childs actualy bday make them a special dinner of their choice and give them their gift from you. That way they can all enhoy together w family and friends and still their special day is just for them. Have fun!
Make it more about the older one take cute pics of the baby one bc that’s the only way they’ll remember it
Maybe ask her what kind of theme she would like…
Separate weekends and a small party for both! Or take the 8 yr old somewhere special if that is possible with covid…
1 year old is special. Have a party just for her. Then have a second party for the youngest. Two cakes
No ideas for you but both my boys are born October 19th one in 1993 the other 1994
My first three are 14 days apart 
The one year old wont know the difference make it one party ome theme
Have 1 big party and then a sleep over with the older 1 after
Have a make over party for you and your daughter and her friends.
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Same. My oldest is having his party on sat and Sunday is my youngest.
Princess and knights!!!
Still just give her a birthday party.
Pedicures with you and her momma😍 if safe in your area
Don’t know what you think of a manicure day. Just you and her
give them separate parties. otherwise it’ll be all about the youngest turning 1
The young one won’t remember what you do