I would ask the oldest what she wanted.
Get them each their own cake
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Make two small cakes
Maybe you’re overthinking this…?
I have 3 kids that have very close birthdays. 2 of them are days apart. We never make them share a birthday. That way the have their own special days. Now with it being the babies first you daughter may think it will be fun to share. Have a big party for both together. Just do different cakes.
We have two with close birthdays July 17th and July 28th we do one part in between both birthdays as my family lives 2 hours away so it easier to have them make the drive once. But we have them open presents from us on their actual birthdays and get them a special cupcake with a candle and maybe have a friend spend the night on their actual birthday also getting a cupcake, but having two parties isn’t ideal for us like I said my family is a ways away.
My husband and daughter are 2 days apart. We celebrate both on their actual day. Mine is 3 weeks before. We wait all year then pack my bday, Halloween, kid bday, hubby bday, 3 weeks later Thanksgiving, 4 weeks later Christmas. Ugh.
They’ll be fine. My brother and I are 9 years apart and out birthdays are the 11th and 14th of November. My friend ended up have both her kids on the very same day 9 years apart. Just dont have one cake with both names. That sucks.
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You throw a real bday party with friends and go all out for the 8 yr old . to reassure her place in family and heart. First bday is a family time …with lots of pictures.
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My son also turns 8 on October 15th!
My brother was born six days after I turned 3 and until I turned 13 we had combined birthday parties. I don’t remember being upset about it growing up. However, we always got to pick our own themes and we each had friends there for our parties. I was also born two days after my mom’s birthday and now we do a combined birthday for all three of us. LoL! My two youngest brothers are also only a day apart, so they had combined parties growing up too. Again they got to pick their own themes.
I think if you don’t treat this year any different. Like, if she has always had a themed party of her choice with friends and family, continue to let her pick her themes and invite friends to her party/parties. As the new siblings get older allow them to pick their own themes too. Even if it totally clashes, it’s ok. LoL!
I had the same issue with my 2 kids. Both in Sept. 1 in the beginning and 1 at the end. I asked my daughter who is the oldest what she wanted to do because she will remember it more than the baby right now. We ended up at chuckie cheese last year. Win win. Both were happy. But I would ask the oldest what they want then play around it for the baby.
I would separate the parties
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Not to be a jerk but your youngest is not gona remember shit. Obviously have a party for her and your oldest but the 8 yr old is def going to get more out of a party than your 1 yr old. I say have a party together, make them both feel special but overall all the baby is just gona love is sucking icing from her fingers🤷
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Talk to her see what she actually wants
Maybe ask your 8 year old if she would prefer a party or would rather you guys take her out to like a special dinner with just her or roller sksting or something to make her day special to just her
Chocolate pudding photographs really well for the 1 year old. Much better than cake. and video is better than still, but take some of each. Do not combine the parties. Keep them separate. Let the older child select the kind and color of cake. If you go to a real bakery, she can sample the different flavors. If the birthdays are near the end of the month, try a Halloween theme. Witch or Pumpkin or Monster face makeup
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My kids are a month apart. The are only 2 years apartment and are basically in the same circle. On the day of their birthday, they get to pick the meals for the day. Atleast dinner/dessert if they are in school still. The movie for the evening as well. I also let them pick out whatever they want to take to class and I harass them all day with kisses lol Even my just turned 11 year old. I also give them individual gifts on their birthday.
For their party we discuss a them together. For yours I let your oldest pick as your younger one doesn’t care at the moment.
Then I tell they can invite X amount of people. In a separate room they write their lists and I compare them to each other. Generally we have to add more people because half their lists the same. Then they split however many spots are left. Like this year they each ended up with 1 extra person and the other 8 were the same.
The party they just enjoy it together. Not sure how many more years I have left of that lol
The easiest way would be to have one party if you think your family and friends wouldn’t come to two separate parties a week apart and then celebrate each child on their actual birthday in your home.
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Make a special cake with your oldest daughter for her and for her younger sibling. My daughter and I have been making her birthday cakes every year due to financial setbacks but honestly it’s one of the best Traditions I found out there because it gets her excited it gives us time to bond and she enjoys everybody’s faces when everyone’s enjoying the cake that she makes. That baby ain’t going to remember nothing but really just have that party for your oldest because that’s where it really is going to count.
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Maybe I’m being naive here, but spend your energy on the 8 year old. She’ll remember her birthday. Your soon to be one year old won’t even know what’s going on. Worry about divvying up birthdays fairly in a couple years.
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I have 2 girl 20 yrs apart both November babies I just do each party in deference to their age I wouldnt change anything as far as the partys go.one is for an infant other for a older child way different just put the partys weeks apart if you start this sort of thing now you’ll be dealing with it forever because each child will catch on to it…make each feel special for their age…good luck Mama💜
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I have 4 kids born within a month. This year they will be 21, 18, 10, and 7. My youngest 2 are 3years and 3 days apart. Since they were born they get to chose dinner for their birthday, get a gift from mom and dad. Combined party in mid-August for all. Youngest 2 are early August older 2 are end of August and September. 2 girls 2 boys. They love having a combined party for all of them!
My mom and I share a birthday. We would do something together, and then I would do something separate. I’m sure at 8 she would realize that a 1st birthday is extra special, and she has 2 to help celebrate, but that she isn’t any less important. Involve her in the planning of the party, but make sure her birthday has something just for her.
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Not sure my grandson is turning 3 in a week he just had his brother born this morning and a sister about an hour ago. My husband shares a birthday with our oldest granddaughter. I always celebrated my birthday with my uncle and a cousin. Sharing a birthday has always been a big part of family tradition.
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If you are planning on doing all the kids birthday together plan on a day that doesn’t fall on any of their actual birthday. Rent a water slide for the bigger kids and have a smaller kiddie pool for the smaller kids.
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I would say a fun friends party for your 8 year old. And then a more traditional, family 1st bday party
I and my younger siblings share a birthday on the SAME DATE. I am exactly 3 years older. While growing up we always had a mutual party and I never felt slighted. Yes, they are twins.
My sons birthdays are 3 days apart always shared party they always got presents from each others friends as well they loved it
I have 2 daughters both born in June I had a joint party for them let them invite a certain number of friends had 2 cakes and made them both feel very special they loved it and so did the guests they are 18 days apart they have never forgotten that party
I’d say since it is the first birthday do them seperate, my brothers bday and mine were the same week(he is six years younger) we had joint birthdays with the exception of special birthdays. Like his first birthday, my 10th birthday, my 13th birthday, my 15,16, birthday. When I turned 18 and he turned 12/13 our parents took us to Jamaica. I our parents made our bdays special though. I had a a clown bday party that was very entertaining. I’ve also had bdays with just ice cream cake and presents and family. Im almost 30 now and Ive only celebrated my bday three times since I was 18…
Give the oldest a chance to have a special dinner with some friends saying that would be an option for her and ask her if she’s willing to do a joint birthday party with the younger sibling as well
As a child that shared ALL of her birthdays with her siblings in October (13th,15th, 20th, 24th, 25th) I would say DO NOT do a joint party! Seriously, I still hate my birthday. I know my parents did their best to make us each feel special but us kids felt differently about it.
My 2 youngest boys birthdays are 2 days apart, actually today and Friday lol. They are 11 and 7, and have always done a joint party but they each get to do something special on their actual birthday. They get to pick somewhere to go out to eat and they get to pick a movie to go see or choose something fun to go do that yhey don’t normally get to go do.
8 YEARS OLD IS a very sensitive age, the one year old may not understand yet. So I would give the 8 year old her own birthday and October is such a great month, Apple bobs,pumpkin paintings, bon fires with smores. If you can afford the jumpy houses that is cool too. Have fun ****
Maybe since they are both girls do like a pink party theme that way it’s not too childish for the older one or too old for the little one. Invite friends and family then let the oldest have a sleep over with some of her girl friends that weekend so she can have a little something extra for herself. You could do like separate gift tables and let them take turns opening their presents at the party. Sounds fun to me lol just a suggestion though. Good luck and I hope they both have fun!!!
I share my birthday week with two of my step siblings and I never felt slighted. We always did a big birthday bash for all 3 of us. (Our birthdays are January 2,4 &6)
My kids are 2 yrs apart but birthdays about 3 weeks apart. We pick the weekend between for their joint party…but… I still let them pick out their own cakes and table decorations. Any other decorations are neutral or decided together. ON their actual birthdays, they get to choose what we do that day and we go out for dinner wherever they chose to go.
I think it’s a good idea to still do a party for just her and make a deal of it. I wouldn’t do joint parties personally they deserve their own wee day 
u could do a themed day. Dress up or whatever. Depending on what she’s interested in. My wee boy will be turning 4 on the 24th October and all he wants is a Halloween party 
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Don’t do joint parties! They both have separate birthdays and should not have to celebrate them together. They aren’t twins!
Birthdays don’t have to be huge over the top parties. Especially for a 1 year old.
Have the oldest help you plan it… pick out cakes, decor etc… my middle and youngest are a week apart so we do joint and the older of the two really enjoyed helping plan everything …
Put the oldest childs name 1st on the birthday cake and make it more about her, because the 1 year old won’t remember this year but the 8 year old will !
Starting in 2nd grade I stopped whole class parties because by that age they actually had friends they hung out with. I let them bring 2 kids and do whatever they wanted. It cost the same as a party and they enjoyed it a lot more! What 7 year old girl wouldn’t like full access to build a bear? Lol
We were never ones to have big birthday parties for our boys. They were both born in September. Each had a family birthday dinner at home with close family members with a home cooked meal of their choice & homemade cake. They always looked forward to it & still do. They each had their own day, not a month! There were a couple of sleepovers but still had family party. They never minded even when their friends were going to event places. Start a tradition of your own & don’t try to “keep up with the Jones’. It will save you lots of $$ and headaches.
I have 3 kids all 2 weeks apart I make sure that the table is decorated for each of their interests on the day, they get to choose dinner and I make them a cake to their theme. they know that their day is about them but it’s only 1 day it’s not a birthday month. we haven’t had any issues
My daughters are 12 days apart in march. I let the oldest one plan it with a sleepover type party and then had on the Saturday between both. Got them both their own little cakes and then one big one for everyone else
I just had my third babe and her birthday is 5 days from her big sister, my oldest. I am going to do separate parties always.
I have 2 in February, we usually do a lil party with just us on their day and then the bigger party later. We have also did their parties separate within a couple weeks especially now that they are getting older.
Your 1 yr old doesnt need a party. Celebrate the 8 yr old instead.
Two g grands have the same birthday. Last year we had tables decorated for each one…party favors same theme as their individual tables. Cupcakes and ice cream frosted to match…great time. Both didn’t mind sharing day. Each was SUPER special!!!
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wow way to over think this Are you an idiot in my family we had 9 birthday in March we just celebrate each one We picked a date for the party some were a swimming party Some bowling Some skating it was the child choice and no one minded You need to get a life
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Her birthday is one day not the entire month’s and get the fuck over it you realize that she’s got two little baby brothers and sisters and they have birthdays too and happen to be in the same month teach your daughter not to be selfish little bitch and get the fuck over it